Should we choose what you like, or choose what we like you?

In our lives, we will meet people who like us, and we will meet people we like, if we meet both, how should we choose? I think you should choose someone who likes you, because sometimes we like someone may be wrong and will hurt ourselves, but others like us are generally very good to us, and the relationship between two people can also be cultivated, so let's explain it to you in detail. <>

1.There are times when someone we like can hurt us.

When I was in college, I had a very good friend, this girl had a guy she liked, but this girl was not happy, because for this girl, the girl's boyfriend had other girlfriends, and the girlfriend who praised him in front of my friend was very good, so it was a great hurt for my good friend, and in addition, he often asked my friend to buy him things, so sometimes the person we like may hurt us. <>

2.People who like us in general are very nice to us.

When I was in college, I also encountered these two choices, I chose someone who liked me, a boy was not very good, but he chased me for a long time, during the period of pursuing me, he brought me breakfast every morning, and he would accompany me when I needed it, his academic performance was very good, so he also helped me make up for my classes, for me, a person who likes me is very good to me, of course I will choose someone who likes me, and sometimes the person we like will hurt us, These are two contrasts. <>

3.The relationship between two people can be cultivated.

When I was in college, I met a person who liked me, I chose him, and in the process of getting along later, I found a lot of advantages of this boy, for example, this boy is very caring, this boy is also very smart, and his academic performance is very good, and then I began to like this boy, so we both like each other in the end, and the two of them are very affectionate and very happy. So feelings can also be cultivated.

All in all, I think if we meet someone who likes you and someone you like, you should also choose someone who likes you, because in real life, many people we like are hurting us, and people who like us are very good to us, this comparison, we know who we should like, in addition, feelings can be cultivated, in the process of getting along with two people, people who like themselves, they will slowly like him.

We should choose to like you. Because such a person will take care of you all his life, take care of you, love you wholeheartedly, and is worth staying with for a lifetime.

Of course, I choose to like you, because I like you to do things that will be considered for you everywhere, and I will love you very much in my later life, so I will be very happy with the people who love you.

Of course, it is to choose what you like, if you choose the person who likes you, although life will be better, but this kind of life is not what we want.

If I have to choose between the person I like and the person who likes me, I will choose the one who is most worthy of my contribution between the two. The reason is simple, if the person you like doesn't like me or even cares about me, we won't be happy together. In the same way, people who like themselves are not people they like.

Then she and I are only suitable to be friends, not lifelong partners, which will only delay myself and the other party.

So how do you judge who you like and who likes you, who is more worthy of your choice? I will look at the two of them from three perspectives, which one is more worthy. The first point of view is who has a better understanding between me and them.

If the most important thing during a relationship is love, then for a lifetime marriage, the most important thing is to know and understand each other. This kind of mutual understanding can also be understood as a tacit understanding of life. Between the two, who I have a tacit understanding with in life, then she is more worthy of my choice of her.

The second point of view, is the other person willing to try to be with me? People who like themselves are naturally 100,000 willing. But the person I like, would you like to try to be with me?

If she herself is very reluctant, why bother to force and humble her efforts? It's better to give up early and just be an ordinary friend or someone who passes by on the road. On the contrary, if the person I like is also willing to be with me, then I will continue to weigh the last perspective.

One last perspective, can we foresee happiness? In fact, as far as marriage is concerned, love is not absolute. The real happiness of Chi Fangyin is that they believe that they will be happy after being together.

If the person I like also believes that we will be happy together, I will choose her decisively, even if her love for me is not dead or alive, I still choose her. Because we will work together for a happy future that we all believe in. On the contrary, if the person I like is wandering and hesitating, I will smile and give her a hug, turn around and lead the person I like to leave.

Whether you choose "like you" or "you like" depends on the degree of spiritual needs of your own personality, so you can't generalize.

Because if a person has a high "spiritual need", he needs a very suitable spiritual resonance and tacit understanding, he needs a soul mate, and he needs a person who makes him like and fascinated. In this case, if he finds someone he doesn't like, but only likes himself, it may be difficult for him to be truly happy, and he may even be miserable, because his core need, the need for spiritual fit, cannot be satisfied. Casual partner loves him very much, but he may also find it difficult to be truly happy.

For example, in my counseling, it is common to be similar, for example, the boyfriend is actually very good to herself, but the girl still feels dissatisfied, always dislikes the boyfriend, and finds faults, which may be caused by her own lack of liking.

On the contrary, if you are a person who does not have high requirements for "spiritual needs", such as feeling that everyone you are with, or who does not feel that you like much, you will feel very happy if you have a partner who can be good to you, take care of yourself, and have a good temper. In this case, you may actually be suitable to find someone who likes you more.

It's like, a female friend of mine, she chose a man she didn't like much to be her husband, but that man liked her very much. At first, I was worried that she would not be happy after marriage with such a choice, but she has been married for a few years, and I chatted with her, and she is very satisfied with her current marriage, in her words, "I think it is almost the same as marrying anyone, I still like someone who likes me to take care of me and spoil me".

2. What kind of future life do you want?

Try to paint and imagine what your ideal future life looks like.

Then compare your current choices to see if the virtual hall is consistent with the life you want, which is also a goal-oriented answer.

For example, if you imagine a gentle object who takes care of you every day, and what you need is this kind of life, then maybe you are more suitable for someone who likes you more.

For example, if you imagine a future life with someone you like and have a romantic and heart-warming feeling, you may be more suitable for someone you like more.

In short, whether you choose to like yourself or what you like, there are a thousand Hamlets for a thousand readers, and for your own life, I suggest that you listen to your own inner voice more, and don't disturb your reputation and be disturbed by others.

In the consultation, it was found that in fact, many unfortunate feelings may be inseparable from listening to the words of so-called friends and girlfriends.

For example, a girl obviously loves her boyfriend very much, and her boyfriend also has many advantages, but her girlfriend always tells the girl that the boy is not good, and slowly the girl will be influenced to break up, and regret it after the breakup. There are also people who listen to their parents hastily and think that they should find a partner, but when they are really together, they find that they are not happy at all.

What you like doesn't necessarily mean you like you. But the premise is that you must be accepted, otherwise it is not suitable. If you choose one that likes you and you don't, this is an irresponsible attitude, because sooner or later you will give birth to wings that change your heart.

If he likes you, he will treat you as a treasure, your every move is so important in his eyes, your inadvertent look, he can ponder for a long time, always focus on you, what you like, he will like it more. So the Annihilation Brigade, if there are two such choices, it must be the one who likes you. In this way, your life will be very good, and life is always a matter of multiple choices.

Choose one you like, and the result may not be as good as you think, and the other party may be hot and cold to you.

It will be very practical to choose one that likes you, but you may also be a little unwilling, so why not pursue the one you like the most. The world is so big, there must be people who like you, and you happen to like them too. Don't always think about it once and for all.

Right now, even if you find someone who likes you, you like it, but only for now. Everything is changing, as if you find out that the original girlfriend is not the one you like. Life is a journey of discovery, and in each discovery, we are constantly recognizing ourselves and clarifying our needs.

At the same time, it was the same for that girl.

It may seem like you're choosing them, but they're actually choosing you, and you're someone else's choice. You marry someone who likes you, and she will be willing to give everything for you. Then, she doesn't care about your economic conditions, she will work with you to create a better tomorrow.

In life, she will think about you everywhere, and everything will depend on you. The girl proposed to find a person I love to be romantic, and to find someone who loves me to live. How clever they are, you can see the mystery of this.

I think if you want to be romantic, choose what you like, and if you want to really live life and grow old, you can find Ai's handstool and my person. As long as it's not particularly annoying to that person. Click.