Choosing between a biological mother or an adoptive mother, which one should you choose?

Since my biological mother chose to abandon me at the beginning, then I will not go back and choose her, if my mother's love is missing, I can't find it back, and it is useful if I don't make up for it, and my adoptive mother accompanies me through every day of my life, giving my biological mother the care and love that my biological mother failed to give me, so the weight of my adoptive mother in my heart is relatively heavy.

Although my biological mother gave me life, she chose to leave me when I was very young and didn't understand anything, even when she had just given birth to me, no matter what the reason, there was such unspeakable suffering, but in the end I was still abandoned, wasn't it?

She has never shared so much happiness with me, and she has never shared it with me when she is so sad. I always hear my classmates and friends talk about what beautiful new clothes their mothers have bought them, and I always hear my roommates and girlfriends say how they miss the smell of their mothers at home. Every time I hear this, I feel very sad and wonder why my mother is so cruel to me.

Since you chose to leave me in the first place, I will not easily forgive you when you regret turning back, because I never knew what mother's love was like in my heart, I never had it, and now I don't need it.

Because I have my adoptive mother, no matter how good she is to me, I can't see her as a biological mother in my heart, and my love will never be defined as maternal love, because I can't get over the hurdles in my heart. But I know how good she is to me, I remember it in my heart, and I am very grateful, it is she who has given me that missing part of the love over the years, so that I can also go out and have a distant concern like them. When I am far away from home, you will take the initiative to call me ** and ask me if I am doing well and if I need anything; When she knew that I was sick, she would also be very anxious and always ask me if I was better if I had taken medicine.

The care she gave me and the love she gave me were no less than the love she gave to her own daughter.

Between my biological mother and my adoptive mother, I still chose the latter, I am grateful to my biological mother for giving me life and giving me the opportunity to come into this world, but my adoptive mother is the one who accompanies me when I am sad and unhappy, giving me care and love, even if I am a stone and no longer have feelings, I will be moved.

Adoptive mother, although your biological mother gave you life, do you know how difficult it is to raise a child in today's society? Compared to a person who gave you life but did not fulfill the responsibility of raising you, you can imagine which person is more important. Your birth mother, for whatever reason, did not fulfill her responsibility to raise you, and as a result, another person raised you.

In fact, it is more difficult to raise a child than to give birth to one, whether it is from the milk powder when a child is a child, or the education at an early age and the money and energy to be spent, etc., in such a complex situation, your adoptive mother, a person who has no blood relationship with you is willing to bear all this for you, is this not what we often call maternal love? Isn't mother's love a pure feeling that gives unconditionally and does not require anything? What's more, you are not her biological child, but she is still willing to pay for you unconditionally, just ask, what mother will care about the return when she pays for her child?

Isn't your adoptive mother such a great mother? We always say that we want to repay our mother's nurturing kindness, and everyone knows that nurturing is the hardest, and every mother who raises a child has to pay everything that we can't imagine and can't measure with money.

Therefore, although the adoptive mother does not give you life, but gives you the dignity and power that you should have as a human being, she gives you more than your biological mother gives, and it is more difficult than you think, and the responsibility on her body is also very heavy. Although the value of life is higher, but it is not your choice to come to this world, since your biological mother forced you to this world, you should not hand over the most important responsibility after bringing to this world to others, since you have handed over the responsibility, then at the same time, you will also hand over the right to enjoy your knees.

It's not a good question, like someone asks you, "Your mom and your partner fell into the water at the same time, who do you save first?" "Both have a lot to do with you as a child, the grace of birth can not be ignored, there is no biological mother, where did you come from, the grace of nurturing can not be forgotten, without an adoptive mother, what will you do now?

If reality allows, I will choose to coexist with the two, after all, for women, giving birth to a child is like going to hell, and the grace of birth can be imagined; However, if I had to choose one or the other, I would choose an adoptive mother, because the grace of nurturing is immeasurable, and the growth of every child requires a lot of energy from parents to take care of and guide. In my town, there used to be a popular saying: "Raising children is to provide for the elderly, invest a sum of money first, and collect money when you are old."

Although this sentence is a bit quick to achieve quick results, it doesn't mean that everything that goes into raising children will be a lot.

I ask: When you are sick, is it your biological mother or your adoptive mother who is by your side? The answer is obvious, your adoptive mother will be by your side, take you to the doctor, and take care of you until you **.

When you encounter setbacks, your adoptive mother will be with you to face them, you are happy and you are sad because she is also standing by your side. When you go to school, she will support you silently behind the scenes, so that you can study with peace of mind, and she can give up all ...... for your futureIn fact, these things can be done by mothers all over the world, but it is not easy to do so for a non-biological child. Therefore, the grace of nurturing is even more incompensable.

As mentioned earlier, whether biological or not, a mother's love is selfless, and she will dedicate everything she has to her children and even her life, so the biological mother and adoptive mother have to repay it.

The difference between the legal relationship between the biological mother and the adoptive mother: the biological mother is the child's blood and biological mother, and the adoptive mother is the mother-child Li Zhenzhi relationship because of the legal relationship; The adoptive mother and the adoptive child are not related by blood, and the legal relationship between the adoptive mother and the adoptive child must be established through the legal procedures; The parents and children of the biological mother and the child naturally exist from the time the child is born.

Article 1111 of the Civil Code of the People's Republic of China: From the date on which the adoptive relationship is established, the provisions of this Law on the relationship between parents and children shall apply to the relationship of rights and obligations between adoptive parents and adoptive children; The relationship of rights and obligations between the adoptive child and the close relatives of the adoptive parents shall be governed by the provisions of this Law on the dissolution of the relationship between the close relatives of the child and the parents. The relationship of rights and obligations between the adopted child and his or her biological parents and other close relatives shall be extinguished by the establishment of the adoption relationship.

When the adoptive parents did not find the biological parents, they were actually similar to the biological ones, after all, they were raised since childhood, and if the parents did not tell him, the child may not know that there is no blood relationship between him and the adoptive parents, so the adoptive parents have paid too much for the childIt is really very very difficult to raise such a child from an early age, and it is definitely not a simple blood relationship to be able to get this child back.

Of course, I chose my biological parents, because after all, they are blood related people, and blood is thicker than water.

It is best to choose an adoptive mother, because the adoptive mother has worked hard to raise herself for so long, and the biological parents can easily obtain the fruits of the adoptive mother's labor, which is a very immoral thing.

Of course, it is time to choose an adoptive mother, because biological parents may not have fulfilled their parental obligations for a day, and they want to let their children support themselves when they are old, which is a very irresponsible behavior.

I think they all choose, without biological parents there is no life of their own, without adoptive mother, there is no future after life, the grace of childbirth and the grace of nurturing are equally important.

I would choose my adoptive mother, because she is, after all, the person who accompanied me in my weakest years, and the closest person to me in my daily life, and this intimacy is often beyond blood relations.

After finding out that they are adopted, many people will want to go to their biological parents, to be honest, this is understandable, human nature, but if you say that you abandon your adoptive father and adoptive mother in order to find your biological parents, I dare not agree with this point of view, and I think that people who have this point of view, there is a bit of a problem with the three views, is there any contradiction between taking care of the adoptive father and adoptive mother and looking for the biological parents? No, there will never be people who travel around the world without a purpose to find their biological parents, right? Finding your biological parents also requires an opportunity, and it is not something you can find if you want to.

2. Have you ever abandoned your adoptive parents and gone to your biological parents?

This kind of person can't say no, there must be, but it must be a minority, I have seen such a case, a couple because one of them lacks fertility, so they chose to adopt a child, after the child is adopted, they have no prejudice, completely as their own to raise, to pet, but as the child grows up, after all, will know the truth, after knowing the truth, the child can not accept the fact that he is not born to his parents, after a period of consideration and persuasion, The child recovered, but he made a decision that no one could have imagined, that is, to abandon his adoptive parents and find his biological parents.

How do you evaluate this kind of person? I think this kind of person is unreasonable, and even now I can't understand what their motivation is for abandoning their adoptive parents and going to their biological parents.

Summary: If you find out that you are adopted, you can find your biological parents if you go, but you are willing to abandon your adoptive parents and go directly to your biological parents, I think this part of the people can be called "scum".