Not long after I came to work, I was isolated by my old employees, what should I do?

It's normal for new employees to be isolated by old employees. Even if you're lucky enough not to be isolated, there's always a sense of being out of place. So it's not scary to be isolated, it's really lucky not to be isolated.

Although we do not approve of the behavior of isolating newcomers, we ourselves do not recognize that not doing so does not mean that others will not. It's like at a party full of acquaintances, and suddenly a stranger breaks in, and both parties are always a little uncomfortable. Strangers feel embarrassed, and on the other hand, they feel disturbed.

And in the workplace, it's the same, the employees already know each other, and they are not familiar with each other, maybe there are small groups between them, not to mention that you are a newcomer, everyone maintains a wait-and-see attitude.

Of course, there are indeed old employees who do have a distorted mentality, that is, they don't want you to live well. Or deliberately make things difficult for you to retreat, and I hope you can't do it and leave today. I remember that I used to enter a company, one of the old employees especially like to squeeze newcomers, work contact, ask as many times as you want, all are "don't know, don't know", "don't ask, it's annoying".

Then I pulled some colleagues to let me know, intentionally or unintentionally, that they didn't like me. But what's the matter, I'm here to work, not to make friends with her. I held a friendly attitude in exchange for her deliberate difficulty, who is ugly?

Later, I asked another colleague to deliberately throw her work to me, note, not to help, but to take care of it in the future. I made it clear that I wasn't done, so I refused. These are deliberate difficulties that come with isolation.

Later, the colleague was persuaded to quit because her work attitude offended many customers.

Therefore, those malicious isolation and runs, you don't need to take them to heart at all, because they are not your bosses, but just your colleagues at the same level. As long as you do the job at hand, the other party can't help you. Gradually, other colleagues feel that you are down-to-earth, and they will cooperate with you for reasons, and you will be able to stand firm.

Do your own thing, let other people say go, they will be like this for the rest of their lives, just waiting for retirement, do you want to be like them? You should ask for advice on work matters, who should do it, and the private party should not affect the progress of work, don't play corns with me. As long as you're strong and serious enough, it's too late for them to cling to you.

Do you feel uncomfortable that your salary is higher than theirs? This is jealousy, if you really have the ability, just prove to them that you have the ability to get such a high salary.

Whatever he does, do his own thing, let them have nothing to do, and finally do things for you.

I don't have much to say, the company is not a good bird, the company is not a nominal company, and it may be a black company, and everyone in the general unit is publicly paid, and the black company cannot be disclosed.

They're not the ones who pay you, and you care what they do.

As a newcomer to the workplace, I was excluded from the company as soon as I entered the company: one is that my personality is too weak and always drags other colleagues back; The second is that he is too tough and does not deal with other colleagues, so he is isolated.

Both of these conditions are caused by personality reasons. If you want to improve this situation, the best way to do it is to start by changing yourself. Those with weak personalities should start by learning to refuse; If you have a tough personality, you must learn to get along with others.

Show less of your superiority and try to leave it to your colleagues.

People who have superior resources are the most easy to be isolated, in fact, on a large level, if you show your superiority excessively, it becomes a show, you do this to everyone, then everyone doesn't want to pay attention to you.

The person who can really chat is that you say a little, I say a little, know how to let the other party talk a little more, let the other party show his superiority, and be a good listener, and give the other party the right to speak and superiority. People with high emotional intelligence will always care about the other person's feelings in communication, and do not damage the superiority of others as an independent individual.

Fight back at the right time. The problem is with a colleague. If the problem lies with you, you can still correct it, but if the problem is with your colleagues, it will be difficult to change.

Therefore, it has become necessary to fight back in a timely manner, and you can't let yourself be isolated by the other party all the time and suffer from "cold violence" in the workplace.

Blindly tolerating will only make things more and more serious, and counterattacking is to be able to tell the other party their own principles, which is equivalent to warning the other party that if this continues, they will also use corresponding measures, and there will be no more situations where they can't fight back and scold and don't fight back.

In the workplace, we may not be able to get the highest position like Mr. Huang Bo, but as long as you work hard and have a higher level, you will stay away from bad people. Slowly, your development will get better and better, your circle will become simpler and simpler, and your career path will become smoother and smoother.

01.Get your mindset right, and it's often not your fault that you're isolated.

Many people, after finding that they are isolated by other colleagues, their first reaction is that they feel that they have done something wrong and offended others, so they are isolated.

However, this is not the case, many times, a group of people isolate you, the most likely reason is that there is a misunderstanding, and secondly, it is not excluded that it is because of following the trend, or being forced to choose to take sides.

I joined a brand new company after I changed jobs, but before I joined the company, the boss of the company made me very bad.

This is hard for me, as soon as I arrived at the company, I was collectively excluded by my old colleagues, what do you say I did wrong? Originally, I came with the mentality of a "collaborator", but as soon as I got it, I suddenly became a "smashing field".

But if you think about it carefully, in fact, this is caused by a little crack or a small misunderstanding, otherwise how can there be someone who inexplicably excludes whom?

We often say that there must be a reason for something, and this reason, more often, is due to some small misunderstandings, after all, in the workplace environment, everyone is an adult, no one is a fool, and there are still people who don't understand the truth that more things are better than less things?

Therefore, if you find yourself isolated, don't rush to hit yourself, you must first think about whether it is because of some unresolved misunderstanding that has led to a distorted view in the hearts of other colleagues.

02.Don't be aggrieved and keep your own style.

The feeling of being isolated is very uncomfortable, and in order to be able to return to the crowd, he even does not hesitate to bow down three times.

Fourth, make fun of yourself, and let other colleagues take over Wu Na himself.

But is that really the case? To tell you the truth, this is really a big mistake!

There is an ancient Chinese saying that "those who respect themselves will always respect them", which means that people who know how to respect themselves and love themselves will be respected all the time.

If you are isolated, you will become inferior.

Fourth, become suddenly weak, which will only make others feel:

Oh, it turns out that your previous self-esteem was all faked, and if you were bullied, you were immediately weak. ”

With such thoughts, do you think they will pity you, or will they accept you again? No, they will just stay away from you, even taunt you.

Therefore, the more unprincipled you are, the harder it is to reintegrate, and the right thing to do is to keep your own style, how you usually are, and how you are now, as if it didn't happen.

In this way, the people who isolate you will not be able to see your jokes, and you yourself will be able to work with peace of mind and not be disturbed by such things.

Everyone was chatting together, and you just walked over and stood there dumbfounded.

In this case, they are deliberately avoiding you, moving away from you, isolating you.

And then show a situation where the leader arranges things and there will be some important words that they don't want you to know.

You have to understand that this thing they isolate you as a manifestation.

Clause. Second, team activities are without you.

Hold team activities within the company, such as dinners, singing, and traveling.

Everyone else knows about it, and they have already participated in these events.

You overhear this while they're chatting.

This means that they don't see that you are part of the team, which means that they are explicitly bullying you.

Clause. 3. Limit your work resources.

In the middle of work, some work resources are not available.

Most of the people are in the hands of the leader, but in the scope of work, the required resources are controlled within the team.

They deliberately don't give you these resources, and they take care to make your job cumbersome.

So, when you feel like support is controlled by your teammates.

You know, it's a sign that they're bullying you.

Fourth, poor information communication.

The things and tasks assigned by the leaders, the information they convey to you is wrong, and recruiting people is not as good as Senqing driving people away, using headhunting, which is even more annoying, and they unite to give you a wrong message.

When you encounter this situation, you must tell yourself in your heart that this is a manifestation of your own arrogance, and you must overcome your thoughts.

Clause. Fifth, the leader deliberately does not tell you what he explains.

In the process of going to work, some important things that the leader should let you know are that they are deliberate, deliberate, and your teammates deliberately do not tell you.

This illustrates the phenomenon that they are deliberately bullying you! You know, they did it on purpose.

In a society like ours, having a good interpersonal relationship is extremely helpful for one's work and life. What should young employees do because they lack experience and are often isolated by older employees because they haven't been on the job for a long time?

1.Control yourself.

In the workplace, you should always be careful about which department you work in, because the same company team is in a relationship of economic interest and competition, not in school. When working in the company, don't easily disclose your privacy, don't, feel free to ask, the privacy of colleagues, you know, it doesn't make much sense, and it often arouses the disgust of old employees. I wish myself not to be casual and test other people's privacy.

2.Prove yourself.

In this society, performance is often used to judge whether a person is excellent. The company and society often look at their own performance, what value have you contributed to the company? What performance have you made, and what are your abilities reflected in?

Don't worry about a little thing, try to help the old employees solve some problems. I think it's a good idea.

3.Be kind to people.

In such a big family as the company, it is a technical job for many old employees to get along with each other, and to be kind to people, so that colleagues can rest assured that they are close to you. Don't be scheming in dealing with people, so that colleagues can feel your kindness, and colleagues, you can feel your inner world. In the old employees to have a proactive attitude, intentions will definitely let many old employees slowly accept you, will no longer isolate you.

Not long after I went to work, I was isolated by the company's old employees, don't worry, don't you say?

The landlord, the landlord, at first glance, is a newcomer, how can you easily tell others how much the salary is? Not to mention his own colleagues. When you signed the contract to negotiate the salary, didn't your HR tell you that the salary should be kept confidential and you can't talk nonsense?

Alas, I really pinched a cold sweat for you, you said that if HR knew about this, what would he think of you?

Things have already happened, so you have to learn a lesson, but you have just started working, and it is good to make some mistakes, and change them when you know them, so that you can progress faster.

Now, I, a veteran driver who has been stationed in a foreign company for many years, come to tell you that I will give you support, but because of this, I have been isolated by the old employees, what should you do next?

Keep your mouth shut

After this time, you should always remind yourself to control your own mouth.

In the workplace, in the company, not in school, it is a vanity fair, there is competition between departments, teams, and colleagues, and there is a sensitive topic of salary, remember, don't ask about other people's salaries in the future, and don't ask about other people's salaries.

Of course, there are some other problems, such as the allocation of project resources, without the permission of your boss, don't go around talking nonsense, anyway, remember that things that are not beneficial to yourself, you must think more and keep your mouth shut.

Prove yourself with ability and achievements

What you have to do now is to prove yourself with your own abilities, and to act and achieve results, such as getting praise from leaders, etc., instead of trying to prove yourself with yourself, which is completely unnecessary.

What's wrong with your salary being higher than others, or higher than that of old employees, recruiting new people to come to the company and having a higher salary, it's normal, okay!

In the company, everyone looks at your performance, what value you have contributed to the company and the group, what results you have made, and your ability is reflected in the best of the best, which can prove yourself, prove that you are worth the price, and prove that the company did not hire you in vain.

Look up to your leaders

Isolated by a lot of old employees, remember, this is only temporary, you don't have to flatter them, what you have to do is to be on par with your leader, you are working for your leader! As long as your boss appreciates you and shows him his achievements, he is your umbrella, and the temporary isolation of other old employees at the same level is not a problem at all.

Take a long time, work hard, reach a good relationship with the boss, slowly take the initiative to communicate with the old employees, ask them questions, I believe that the relationship between you and the old employees will slowly get better, and then also get along with them.

Therefore, in the workplace, you must see the situation clearly, distinguish priorities, know who is your most important stakeholders, and constantly improve yourself and perform, so that your career can develop steadily.