How to regulate the irritability, confusion, and depression brought by interpersonal communication

In the process of communication, people will inevitably have irritability, confusion and depressed feelings, these are normal phenomena, so it needs to be solved in time, otherwise there will be a series of problems, causing greater impact. It is possible that these irritable, confused, and suppressed emotions are self-trouble, but they also need to be vented in time, otherwise they will have a bad impact on their body. <>

In interpersonal communication, there are many reasons why we bring irritability to ourselves, such as: tired of the previous mode of interacting with others, coincidentally encountering ourselves in a bad mood and causing ourselves to involve our emotions in interpersonal communication, feeling disgusted and bored with the person we want to interact, lack of patience and endurance, ......and so onTherefore, we must learn to regulate, adjust our mentality, do not bring irritable emotions to interpersonal communication, or try to avoid talking to others when we are irritable, respond with a smile, take a deep breath when we are irritable, and go to a place where there are no people or few people to relax our mood. <>

In interpersonal communication, there are many reasons why we confuse ourselves, such as: we are unfamiliar and familiar with the person we are interacting with, we don't know the person well, we don't know how to get along with others, and so ......onThe solution is: if the person you want to associate with is a more familiar person, you can take the initiative to greet you, and if you don't understand the problem, ask within the range that others can accept, so as to better understand.

Different ways of communication can be determined according to each person's different personalities, and we should pay attention to the ways and means and understand them carefully.

In interpersonal communication, there are many reasons why we bring depression to ourselves, such as: thinking about the bad of everything, putting too much pressure on ourselves, often trapping ourselves on the side, not communicating with others, not venting bad emotions in time, etc......The solution is to communicate with others more and resolve your bad emotions in time.

When you have free time, go out for a walk, and solve problems in a timely manner. <>

In life, there is a high possibility of bad emotions appearing, so learn to solve them in time. In fact, the best way is to communicate with friends, friends are the best antidote to bad mood, they can free us from bad mood in time. Bad moods are annoying, but they're also extremely emotional.

Learning to suppress our emotions shows that we have really grown up.

Irritability, confusion, depression, and so on, ......These emotions are the emotions that appear in our lives every day, but it is precisely because of these emotions that we can better appreciate how valuable and important good emotions are. Learning to be optimistic and positive is a must in our lives.

It's all your brain's thinking.

For the same thing, some people don't care, some people are worried, and some people are happy.

The only thing people fear is fear itself. It is the irrational way of thinking about events that leads to negative emotions.

Well, you already know that these are unnecessary, time-wasting thinking, just ignore it.

Living in the moment, slowly negative thoughts become clouds and drift away.

Relaxation Conditioning of Breathing: This regulation method advocates abdominal breathing, which is a method of using the abdomen as a respirator. First of all, find a suitable position to stand or sit well, the body is naturally relaxed, and then inhale slowly, feel the abdomen slowly bulge during the inhalation, and start to exhale when you reach the maximum, and feel the airflow through the nasal cavity when you exhale, until you feel the front and back of the abdomen together.

**Regulation method: This regulation method refers to the method of controlling the state of emotional congestion with the help of emotional color. When using the ** adjustment method, it should be different according to the person, the time, the place, and the mood. Suitable**, often good results can be obtained.

People's emotions are greatly affected by personality, so when there are bad emotions, they should be solved in time. Breaking down attention is the best way, we can find someone to chat and complain or do something else that we can focus on, and we can also recall the happy things in the past to fade the negative energy, which will help your life.

If we get something bothered by something in our lives, then we can properly regulate our emotions and then distract ourselves, and how to regulate our emotions, we can go to appropriate exercise, or find friends to go out and climb the mountains, and do some outdoor sports to distract us.

Three ways to adjust your emotions correctly.

First: Spend more time with positive and optimistic friends, and over time your emotions will be affected by them, so that you will become positive and optimistic.

Second: Seek the help of a psychologist to prescribe the right medicine and analyze your emotions**Third: Watch more comedies and positive movies and books to help your mood.

If you are emotionally disturbed, I suggest that you do not get caught up in the emotions at that time, and you can do something else, talk to friends, or go out for a walk, which will have a relieving effect on your emotional distress.

How to debug emotional distress? Because people will have all kinds of emotional distress in life, then at this time, it is necessary to empathize, or listen to songs, listen to **, and soothe emotions.

How to adjust to emotional distress? If it is serious, you can find a psychological counselor for counseling, if it is not very serious, you should pay attention to self-regulation, try to find something that makes you happy, or something that makes you happy.

The Five Principles in Relationships.

Clause. 1. The principle of inner strength of the self.

Caring too much about what others are saying. Very eager to be accepted and recognized by others. Fear of being denied and conflicting.

Accustomed to pleasing each other, such as Mr. Yes. Even if this kind of person is like this, he still can't gain the respect of others, and he has a lot of anger in his heart. This condition is that the inner strength is not enough, and the self is not good enough.

You need to accept external recognition and praise to prove yourself. This self-identity is not enough, it cannot be changed through the outside unless it is changed through internal strength. We have to be 100 percent responsible for ourselves, and others don't need to be responsible for me.

Transform external needs, judgments, recognitions, and affirmations into internal identity orientation. Let yourself become more and more powerful within yourself.

Clause. Second, the jungle principle.

Every creature in the jungle has its own survival strategy, and everyone in society has his or her own philosophy of doing things, which needs to be respected. There is no need to interfere. Allowing people we don't like to exist, allowing them to have a place on or on this social track.

Although we don't like them. They exist for a reason. I am also qualified to exist, I have my life strategy, please respect me too.

Clause. 3. The principle of boundaries.

People who lack self-boundaries and have no position. One is to be too regressive and tolerant, allowing others to excessively infringe on your sovereignty. One is excessive aggression and manipulation of others.

We can't satisfy everyone, and no one else can meet all our requirements. Don't please everyone, everyone has his own boundaries and is responsible for his own life. I don't have to bear it when he bears it himself, it has nothing to do with me.

If my actions disappoint you, that's what you should bear. I give you back your emotions, which are your emotions. I can't control you, please give me freedom.

Prisv. Fourth, the principle of demand.

We need to meet each other's needs to a certain extent, and we also need each other to meet us to a certain extent.

Clause. 5. The principle of effect.

It is more important to have an effect than to make sense. Be good at using emotions and use emotions as a tool. It's not about what is right, it's about how to do it more effectively.

Dear family, thank you, I love you and bless you [Rose] [Rose] [Rose].

Very practical method to make you feel at peace in an instant.

Emotional breakdown, no need for any reason, the arrival of troubles, always so sudden, I don't know if you feel upset and anxious recently, if so, you must learn to adjust your mentality, calm the inner waves.

1. Everything will pass.

Sad, sad, sad, although sad, will eventually pass.

Go forward bravely, everything will pass, if you stagnate, self-pity, will only be more sad!

1. Anxiety cannot change the status quo, and solving practical problems is the best way for us to end our troubles.

2. Regardless of gains and losses, there is naturally no trouble.

Of course, this is not to make us not motivated and striving, but when you are upset about gains and losses, you should be more bearish.

3. "If you have not experienced the troubles and sorrows of life, you will not be able to feel the beauty and happiness of life and the preciousness of life."

If you haven't tasted what tastes "bitter", then you can't compare what tastes like "sweet".

4. "Everything is the best arrangement".

Why do people feel troubled and depressed? It's nothing more than can't see through, can't be reluctant, can't afford to lose, can't let go.

And the reason why people are tired is because they are too serious and want too much.

There will always be some hardships in life, and those that can't kill you will eventually make you stronger.

5. Only by strengthening yourself can you not be invaded by all poisons, and working hard to become strong is your only way out.

6. You're just tired, just get some sleep.

Write at the end. I've heard a lot of people say, "I know everything, but it's hard to do." ”

In fact, when you have such a sentence in your heart, you are actually already troubled.

You're worried about wanting to do it, but you can't control your upset.

Therefore, to really put some life principles into practice, it is not something that can be done by reading articles and reading quotations.

We need to use the above 5 sentences as a standard for self-practice, and through deliberate training, we can develop the habit of being able to use these ways to regulate ourselves when we encounter troubles.

Cognitive psychology believes that it takes 500 hours for a person to form a habit. In other words, it's less than a month.

When we spend a month training ourselves to solve the upset way of thinking and form a habit, it will be used for a lifetime. I believe everyone can calculate this account.

So you don't have to lament that you "can't do it" every day, the key is whether you really did it?

First, you can know each other's bottom line and boundaries from it

On the whole, it is impossible to have a calm relationship between people, and everyone has different personalities, habits, customs, backgrounds, and cultures. In interpersonal interactions, contradictions and conflicts are inevitable, and sometimes contradictions and conflicts are not necessarily bad.

2. Re-examine contradictions and conflicts.

You can try to accept yourself, but also try to accept the different personalities of different people, and re-examine the contradictions and conflicts as opportunities for your own growth, and in a state of awareness, see each similar event as an opportunity to practice growth.

As human beings in social relationships, we will always have questions and troubles about various situations between individuals. Alfred Adler, the founder of individual psychology, once proposed the concept that all human troubles originate from interpersonal relationships.

So it's normal to have some interpersonal problems and problems at each stage, and it's great that you can be aware of the problems and explore the problems yourself. Because finding a problem is an important step in solving a problem, you're really great. Growth is an ongoing process, and it's okay, take your time.

3. Change the mentality of looking at problems.

Thinking about the current relationship with classmates, which parts you can't change, and which parts you can make better through adjustment, and then try to adjust, is also the best help for yourself.

In all the relationships, Yi Nai Annihilation must put himself in front first. Only when you have a full love for yourself will you nourish the relationship. Therefore, you need to learn to accept yourself well, be clear about your inner feelings and needs, and then take care of yourself, nourish and enrich your soul, grow yourself, and make your heart rich and powerful.

In this way, you can love yourself well and have the strength to nourish all kinds of relationships.

4. Allow yourself to be a little imperfect.

We will all have our own areas of expertise, and we will have our own shortcomings, so that we can form a unique self. These parts are the result of acquired efforts, and they are also inherited from nature. Therefore, according to your inner feelings and needs, you can do what you like and be responsible for yourself.

As for what others think, that's someone else's business, what does it have to do with yourself?

It's very normal to be introverted and slow to heat, and it's so introverted and slow to heat up like this, so what's wrong? If you want to do something, you should do it gently and firmly, and if you don't want to do it, you should do it according to your own feelings and needs, not reluctantly do not suffer from gains and losses, and clearly refuse it.

5. Be gentle with yourself.

Let us have a peaceful and serene mind, better self-growth, and the ability to think independently, and it will also teach us how to maintain kindness and reason in our relationships, and maintain gentleness towards ourselves.