Why are we always so anxious?

Dream of Red Mansions character painting - Wang Xifeng.

"Anxiety" has always been a pain point for countless people, especially in the economic society"High house prices"、"Inflation"、"Heavy workload"and so on, so that a generation of young people is overwhelmed. Where does your anxiety come from? It seems that everyone rarely thinks about our anxiety ** in**?

Let's talk about my anxiety, I am a post-80s generation, now I am in the old and young, I have a fixed monthly repayment of more than 10,000 mortgages, my job is in the sales industry, my income is not very stable, my children go to expensive private schools, high tuition fees, my husband is a civil servant but has a fixed income, and the whole family has no special income**, because I still owe credit cards when I buy a house, other bank loans, and I have a fixed monthly repayment, all of which are pressed on my breath, 30 days a month, 20 days are not repayment days, It is on the way to repay, I can't sleep every night, I finally fall asleep and have nightmares, every day I wake up and think about which card should be repaid today, this pain and anxiety of no money is something that others can't understand at all, and I am trying to adjust myself every day, I believe that as long as I work hard, I will definitely change everything and change our current situation!

Oh, yes! The society is developing faster and faster, and there are more and more excellent people, which always makes you feel that you are nothing, and naturally produces anxiety that belongs to us. So don't be discouraged, adjust yourself and work hard!

Anxiety is a type of mental and psychological disorder with the main manifestation.

Presents with persistent nervousness, anxiety, or episodic panic with autonomic dysfunction.

Pharmacological** and psychological** are available, and good results are generally obtained.

The prognosis is generally good after being active and effective**.

Anxiety disorders are one of the most common mental disorders, with about 34 out of every 100 people suffering from an anxiety disorder in their lifetime.

According to the data of the 2013 Guidelines for the Prevention and Treatment of Anxiety Disorders, the prevalence of anxiety disorders in China is about 6 out of every 100 people in China.

Except for the equal proportion of men and women who prevalence social anxiety disorder, women are more affected than men in other types of anxiety disorders.

Regarding the main ** of anxiety, I personally feel that there are the following points.

The first point is uncertainty about the future

Whether it is in work or life, we can only try to do our best, but we don't know whether we are the best we do, whether it is the best that others think is the best, whether it is the best at work.

Whether it is work or life, it will give us a certain amount of pressure, and this pressure comes from our uncertainty about the future, because we are uncertain about the future, so it will make us feel a certain sense of anxiety.

The second point is that there is nothing that can be done.

Maybe we know that something is wrong to do, or we know that something is better, but there is nothing we can do to change it.

Because our abilities are here, all of our own crypto-type abilities are limited, and what we can do in these limited abilities is also very limited, and many things we know but are powerless to change, and this sense of powerlessness makes us feel very anxious.

The third point is the pressure from life.

To put it bluntly, it comes from the family and the surrounding living environment, and everyone has different requirements for life and different expectations for the future.

When there is a big difference between what we get and what we expect, life will put a lot of pressure on us, and this pressure will make us feel anxious.

The fourth point comes from the people around you.

We already feel that we are working hard, but the people around us are still constantly putting pressure on us, and they are constantly hinting to us that we can't do many things, and we can't do anything about it, and this long-term mental pressure will make us feel very anxious.

But in fact, no matter what it is, we must learn to tolerate, understand and let go of ourselves.

First of all, we must reconcile with ourselves, know that many things are within our means, and also know what kind of life we have to face, try to accept this kind of life, slowly change little by little, don't put too much mental pressure on yourself, let yourself live in a stable and peaceful life, and slowly stay away from this anxiety.

<> biggest problem for people who are deeply anxious about involution is that their way of thinking is very simple and binary: learning is to lie flat in addition to rolling, life is to have fun in addition to learning, and life is to become an elite or a loser. Therefore, under this single competitive thinking, hard work or not effort is equated with involution or being involuted, so that there is a "you oppose the volume is the volume does not win" or "do not want to roll does not mean that the volume does not win" and other words, in short, it is the volume or not the volume, win or not win.

They are led by the nose by countless staged interests, entangled in various competitive activities, and anxious about long-term tasks that are short-sighted enough. But they have never realized what true happiness is, because their happiness needs to be supported by the evaluation of this external system that constructs involution, and without this evaluation system, they will have nothing. This external system of construction and involution is the competitive education and professional title system shaped by the urban bourgeoisie from primary school to university to work.

As long as your mind is swirling in the evaluation system, you will always be confused: why is my hard work called involution, and I am responsible for my life? No, you're responsible for the evaluation system.

Society is a complex enough system, and there is no unified evaluation standard for life, and even if you change the environment, you will see different landscapes. Just as people who go abroad early cannot empathize with the "involution" environment of high-intensity competition in China, people who go to school in Beijing, Shanghai and other places cannot empathize with the more difficult college entrance examination selection mechanism in other provinces. If you are obsessed with the internal or comparative aspects of various external evaluation systems, you will never see the end and you will never be able to truly empathize with others.

At this time, all you can do is think about how to break through your own environment, and breaking through it requires you to meet the evaluation criteria for breaking through it, so you can only roll in. Moreover, in different environments, there are involutions with different energy targets, as long as you have been influenced by the environment, you will be involuted straight at a young age.

However, if I spend my life like this, if elementary school is for junior high school, junior high school for high school, high school for college, college for PHD, PhD for finding a job and making money, making money for getting married, and getting married for procreation, then it seems to me that this is really a boring life.

And if I can do it, even if I am in an unideal environment, I will never change my purest love for the things I am engaged in because of its evaluation system, understand the hard-won resources around me, and hope to live up to the tilt of these resources through my small contributions to human society, and maintain the simplest friendship and working relationship with my classmates and peers, then even if such a life is not "successful", if I insist on giving an evaluation, it is not meaningful enough. From such a perspective, what involution is there?

Anxiety is a natural emotional response that is often triggered by a variety of causes. Here are some common causes of anxiety:

1.Genetic factors: Anxiety can be related to genetic factors. If you have a family member who suffers from anxiety or other psychological disorders, you may be more susceptible to anxiety.

2.Life stress: Various stresses in life, such as work, school, relationships, and family problems, can lead to anxiety.

3.Traumatic experiences: Experiencing traumatic events, such as abuse, violence, accidents, or natural disasters, can lead to persistent feelings of anxiety.

4.Physical health problems: Some physical health problems, such as chronic pain, heart disease, breathing problems, or hormonal imbalances, can cause or add to anxiety.

5.Drugs and alcohol: Some drugs and alcohol may cause or worsen anxiety symptoms.

6.Psychological factors: Mental factors such as fear of failure, fear of uncertainty, fear of negative evaluations, etc., can lead to anxiety.

7.Lack of coping skills: Lack of effective ways to cope with stress and anxiety can lead to heightened feelings of anxiety.

8.Social pressure: Social expectations for success, physical appearance, and other aspects can make you feel stressed and anxious.

Please note that the causes and manifestations of anxiety may be different for each person. Figuring out the specific cause of your anxiety may require a deep understanding of your personal experiences and life circumstances. If your anxiety persists or interferes with your daily life, seek help from a professional counsellor or psychologist.

They can provide you with targeted advice and solutions.