How should my marriage continue?

Let's break down the problems one by one.

1. From the perspective of 30,000 yuan in gifts, you and he do not belong to economically developed areas. It's not easy for everyone to raise some money, which rural children are not hard-working money, even if it is borrowed, it is normal for you to pay it, after all, borrowing money is also for you to urgently need when you get married. His parents are old, and it is not easy for them to earn another 30,000 yuan.

Please understand your parents;

Second, I didn't come to see you. The cost of a trip can be several thousand, and it is quite tense for a family with a difficulty of 30,000. If they don't pay attention to you, firstly, they will not come to your house to talk about the gift money, and secondly, they will not give you a banquet.

Think about it, when you hold a banquet, the children are all old, and a long time has passed; On the other hand, they were still in debt at that time, and it should be quite touching to be able to worry about hosting a banquet for you, even if it is simple, what do you say?

3. Men don't talk much because of pressure.

Fourth, as for the work problem, I have been in Shanghai for a long time and know that it is normal to take the bus to work every day. If you can, you should find a job in a small county, the traffic pressure is low, the salary is acceptable, the cost of living is low, and it is easy to generate savings.

Fifth, the problem of your business: a few times you have been fooled means that you do not have much experience, and it is easier to do things impulsively. At that time, it can be said that the store used your family funds to operate this time, so you need to be particularly cautious, but you didn't; When you change jobs several times due to transportation reasons, it means that you don't understand it thoroughly, because this issue should be considered when you apply for the job at that time;

I don't think your current problem is a marriage problem, but a question of your plans for the future;

Suggestion: Judging from your description, my mother's family should be okay, and the 30,000 yuan should be returned;

Who doesn't work hard to make money, if you can overcome it, if you can't do it, you can change places to work, and you don't necessarily have to develop in Shanghai;

Plan your future for both of you, your plans for your children, and move towards this goal.

Finally, talk about your husband, this man is still good.

I wish you happiness, and the happiness of enduring hardships together can be remembered for a long time.

You think your man is terrible, I think you are terrible as a woman.

You know why? From the very beginning, you blamed all your problems with him on him, and it seems that all problems should be solved by him, may I ask, what do you do with him? Today's era is no longer about the male protagonist and the female protagonist, and married life should be undertaken by two people to work together.

You are not satisfied with a man who is willing to take responsibility, have you ever thought that it is you who cheated on the marriage, why is your husband willing to marry you after being separated from you for so long? It's just because he wants to be responsible that he didn't break up with you, if it was someone else, maybe you would have asked why this man had a relationship with you but didn't want you anymore.

There is no place for your husband in your heart at all. You think about your family, your sister, and yourself, but you never think about how much pressure and pain your husband is carrying. If you continue to be so self-righteous, no matter how responsible a man is, he will want to run away from you.

I don't deny the hard work of women, because I'm also a woman. But you have done something wrong, and even the most exaggerated thing is that you don't think you are responsible. It's horrible. Your husband is so pitiful.

If you find real life really difficult to accept, it is recommended that you and your husband separate for a period of time and try to see what great things you can achieve on your own, and whether you can live a better life than you are now? If you can face it with your husband, I believe that it doesn't matter if there are days of love, because in the end, the bitterness will come to an end.

It is the fault of all of you that you, and he, and your family, have not done their part in this matter at all. The whole thing looks at at it and everyone is not paying attention to your marriage, and it is more about money.

That's right, being poor requires money, and now you don't have money, I don't know if you still have love. If not. Then let it go. It's just that the poor child is too innocent.

If you are going to give up this marriage, then you want to pay attention to your next marriage, marriage is not something you treat so casually. You are too irresponsible for yourself and your children.

The most feared thing about marriage is economic disputes, so both men and women must insist on economic independence, which is the premise of happiness, otherwise, "poor couples mourn everything", everything is nonsense.

In the case of economic equality, we should be considerate and tolerant of each other, although marriage is not only the union of two individuals, but also the union of two families, but it is the two of you who live your life, when considering whether to continue, put aside the family of twin hair for the time being, for the sake of yourself and your children, and see if it is necessary.

The first choice is the best, and the future is not necessarily more satisfactory than the current one.

Please be cautious.

30,000 yuan is not too much for the current society, as long as the two of them work hard, it shouldn't take long. But the bride price should not be used to pay the bill. (The man is a little bad, but he can go on).

It's so complicated that you're starting to really have feelings.

Husband and wife together

The most important thing is to trust and drink loyalty

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