Why should human shortcomings be pointed out? Can you find it yourself?

In ancient times, when Confucius was lecturing, there was a mistake during this period, a student put forward a completely different point of view from him, in which he refuted Confucius's teachings, Confucius was not angry, but said happily: "I am the wisest and happiest person in the world." ”

When others asked him what he asked, he simply said, "Everywhere in the world, everyone can point out my mistakes and shortcomings, criticize me, and warn me. ”

Therefore, we can say that people are not perfect, and that they all have shortcomings to a greater or lesser extent, and that we can not only find our own shortcomings and correct them through others, but also reflect on ourselves and recognize our faults.

Listen to the opinions or suggestions of others, it is good for yourself, don't be afraid of losing face, losing face is life.

As long as you have enough self-knowledge, you can.

Human eyes are born to only look outward, never see themselves, and this structure determines that people are inherently difficult to find their own problems, and it is difficult to introspect, but there are ways to introspect.

Self-reflection method: Look in the mirror more so that you can see yourself clearly Just as Emperor Tang Ming introspected with three lessons of self-reflection The deep meaning needs to be understood by yourself.

Disadvantages can only be judged if there is a reference. Usually moral and aesthetic standards are our frame of reference.

For example, the people of the Qing Dynasty called their masters slaves, which is not a disadvantage. But in another dynasty, even if you count back to the Tang and Song dynasties, such a person will be disgraced.

Some people can't find their shortcomings because they are confused and have no standards. There are also people whose moral and aesthetic concepts deviate from the public, and of course, such people may also be superior to the world.

When you have a clear standard, you can naturally clearly know whether you have done anything wrong and whether there are any shortcomings in your usual words and deeds.

Because people have self-protection and self-disguise.

The authorities are confused, and the bystanders are clear.

But if a person is self-aware, then he can also examine himself.

Zhongyun in the Analects: I am three times a day, and I am not loyal to others? Making friends and not believing them? Are you used to it?

Therefore, even Confucius believed that people can find their own shortcomings through self-examination.

However, Confucius also said: There must be a teacher in the threesome, choose the good ones and follow them, and change the bad ones.

In other words, Confucius also believed that people's shortcomings should be understood from others.

So you should combine introspection with asking others for advice.

Because your eyes can only see others, you can't see yourself, unless you stand in front of the mirror, but you can't stand in front of the mirror all day long! You can always see the shortcomings of others and ignore your own.

Because most of them are ordinary people. Ordinary people generally don't see their own shortcomings easily. Wise men often discover their shortcomings. As a result, the wise often become achievers, and the average person becomes envious and envious.

Humans are strange species.

The eyes grow on the head, not on the chest or abdomen, and even less on the back.

All the eye can see is other people, objects, and so on. Except for his hands, feet, and stomach, he can't see any other parts of himself.

Other people can see their whole body, front and back, left and right, as long as it is superficial. Including being a person and doing things, to feel, to experience. The words I say and the things I do, too many of them have not been felt or experienced.

Naturally, I said it, I made it, and I always thought it was right. Therefore, people are advised to learn to be self-aware. Don't let yourself be confused, others are sober.

It is precisely in this way that what others do, you can see clearly, and summarize a famous saying for the ages. Lookers-on see most of the game.

In my opinion, the virtues of a person are the characteristics that can influence others in a positive way, and some of the advantages are really common and not obvious, but they do exist in a person. There may be some habits or things that you don't think are desirable at all, but those should really be considered advantages.

To discover the merits of a person, we must first be aware of the existence of them. This is the case with many things in the world, "you can't have it both ways". For example, if a person does things slowly, I really feel anxious for them when I watch them do things, but if you take a closer look at the results they have made, you will find that there is still a certain basis for "slow work and careful work".

Therefore, some of the advantages of human beings do not simply exist on the surface. A person who appears to be kind on the surface does not necessarily mean that he is indeed a kind person; A person who speaks badly does not necessarily mean that he behaves in the same way.

Secondly, your attitude towards others must be rational. Don't look at others as the kind of heinous and unmeritorious villains because they have some contradictions with others, sometimes this kind of emotional emotion can easily cause deviations in their own understanding, and you can ignore some things that should not be ignored in others, such as advantages, specialties and so on.

Finally, be sure to have your own opinions and opinions. Don't always follow the crowd, what others say is not necessarily so objective, if you want to understand a person's strengths, you really need to understand others, and other people's opinions may not necessarily be correct. You have to experience everything to know how to do it. Who you have to know firsthand to know what they are really like.

In short, careful observation and objective observation are the most important for us to discover the good of a person, and do not judge the good or bad of a person only through appearances.

In this way, you can discover the good in others.

It depends on your vision, a friend of mine is a person who is very good at finding the good in others. I think you should look at the strengths of the people around you, and then learn a little more, observe the strengths of others, and then you will find that in fact, everyone has advantages. You can look at the strengths of others, and then you can learn more, so that you will find that others also have a lot of strengths.

You should look at the good in others, so that you can find their good and you can learn a little more.

1.Self-centeredness: People tend to focus on their strengths and strengths and ignore their weaknesses and shortcomings. This self-centered attitude can lead to people being less willing to admit their shortcomings and less concerned about their shortcomings.

2.Difficulty seeing your inadequacies: When people feel too good about themselves, they may have difficulty seeing their inadequacies. In this case, they may think that they have no shortcomings, or that their shortcomings are not important.

3.Ease of seeing the shortcomings of others: In contrast, it is easier for people to see the shortcomings of others because these shortcomings can be more obvious.

Additionally, people may be more inclined to focus on the shortcomings of others in order to keep themselves feeling good and to show that they are better than others.

4.Lack of self-reflection: Some people may be reluctant to self-reflect, they may think that they have no shortcomings, or that their shortcomings are not important. This attitude can lead to their inability to recognize their shortcomings and improve their behavior.

Therefore, to recognize one's own shortcomings and improve them, one needs to have a certain degree of self-reflection and an attitude of treating oneself with hospitality. People can improve their shortcomings by listening to others, reflecting on their own behavior, and actively seeking help and guidance.

Because people's eyes are only fixed on the faults of others, but they cannot see their own faults. Self-criticism is a human virtue and a method of self-improvement. Only through continuous self-criticism can people discover their own shortcomings, so that they can constantly correct their own shortcomings and constantly improve themselves.

If people only focus on the mistakes of others, only see the shortcomings of others, and do not see their own shortcomings, then it is impossible for them to correct their own shortcomings, and they will not be able to constantly improve themselves and improve themselves. Self-criticism is an effective way for people to understand themselves and improve themselves. This method not only has a positive effect on people's self-improvement and development, but also has a positive effect on people's other laws and external laws.

Therefore, we should learn to be self-critical and constantly improve ourselves.

If you often see the shortcomings of others, it is nothing, everyone is like this, but when we see their shortcomings, we should go and discover their strengths, otherwise we can easily make ourselves arrogant, so when we see the shortcomings of others, we should think: am I better than him in this regard!

Look at people's strengths, help people's difficulties, and remember people's benefits;

You need to adjust your personal mentality, correct your thinking, think of the good in everything, be kind to others, and live in harmony.

Too egoistic, always comparing their own strengths with others' shortcomings.

It's normal, people are like this, they don't want others to be better than themselves, they will be jealous.

Because bad memories tend to be more profound.

This is because what we know about others often comes from the surface of others, and we know very little about ourselves. Therefore, when we get along with others, it is easier for us to find the shortcomings of others, but we pay little attention to the strengths of others. It's human nature, and it's a human weakness.

1] Discovering the shortcomings of others is to make yourself stronger; Discovering one's shortcomings is one that makes oneself wiser. [1] We need to learn to find our own shortcomings in the shortcomings of others, so as to correct our own shortcomings. [1] Discovering the good in others can make us more humble and thus constantly improve ourselves; And discovering our own shortcomings can make us more self-aware, so that we can become stronger.

1] We must learn to discover our own shortcomings on the basis of discovering the strengths of others, and constantly correct our own shortcomings.

This does not mean that there are more shortcomings than advantages in others, in fact, most people must have more advantages than shortcomings, otherwise how would they start a family and settle down? Imagine if there really was a person who was full of shortcomings, he would definitely hit a wall everywhere and would not be able to gain a foothold in this society. Obviously, there are "very few" people around us who do this.

The problem must be with us. We are accustomed to "turning a blind eye" to the good in others – who wants others to be better than themselves? And being as sensitive to the shortcomings of others as a fly is to a fishy smell.

People are imperfect, and it is easy to find the shortcomings in others.

The pursuit of perfection and continuous transcendence is a very hard thing, and it is easy to prove the imperfections of others. A fat man who attempted to make a mistake pointed at the crowd and said, look, that one is fatter than me! In other words, why work so hard, let's be comfortable and be your current self.