Parents often quarrel over trivial matters, what should they do!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Friends, the more you have to correct your mentality at this time, quarrels are inevitable between husband and wife. You can usually enlighten them from the side, but remember to treat them with indifference, which will only exacerbate the conflict. All in all, you can't worry about these things all day long, and end up overloading yourself with a miserable world.

Finally, I want to say one more thing, be happy, as the predecessors said: happiness is a day, unhappy is also a day, why should life be unbearable for yourself? You tell me?

Believe me, smile often, good things will come naturally!

You can rest assured that you won't get divorced.

The older generation of people, the way they show their love is a little strange.

Or in an argument that they can feel each other's presence.

You can be the wind in your ears, you don't have to be serious.

If you want to get a divorce, you'll be divorced early.

Parents' affairs, we are often unable to do anything about it. What you have to do is: don't be influenced by them, live happily every day, maybe sometimes they see their well-behaved son, and they will be more restrained when they quarrel.

The main thing is that you don't have a shadow in your heart that will affect your own married life in the future

In fact, your child can't control the feelings of adults, it's useless if two people don't love each other, or obediently let your parents worry, be a peacemaker in it, and say more good things.

You buy a gift for each of them, write each other's name (it must be their favorite) and give it to each other.

As a child, you should try to communicate with them. Instead of bothering about these things, there are many times when parents can't pull it off, so we have to do "The Third Party" to communicate with them.

Being separated for a period of time until we need each other, and if we don't wake up, then separating is also a relief for people who live in confusion.

I suggest that when they are done arguing, you persuade them one by one, tell them that you don't like this kind of life, and let them think more about the happy times in the past.

In general, it is best for children not to be directly involved in their parents' quarrels at the moment. As long as there is no matter of principle, the small friction will soon be resolved emotionally, and the participation of the children will only heat up the small friction of the parents. In addition, some parents will start to be more serious because of their face, and even make a big move.

Sometimes it's wise to reason with your parents after the fact.

What children should not do is to "help" from the perspective of one of their parents, so that the other parent will feel that their children are not oriented to them, feel isolated, and will feel lonely and jealous.

You think of a way to resolve it obediently. Once or twice may not work, but you have to be mentally prepared for the long term.

Generally, couples quarrel more when they are younger. As you get older and older, there will be more and more interdependence, attachment. The trivial housework that I quarreled about when I was young, and when I think about it when I get older, I think it's funny, and it's not something that I quarrel about.

Why are some couples still arguing when they are very old or even elderly? In fact, it is a sign that he has not grown up yet. Whether or not you have grown up or has matured is not determined by age.

Some people are very old and childish.

So how do you do it well, and it will have an effect? I think you can try to talk to them individually when they're calm. It doesn't have to be serious.

Like casual chatting, it doesn't go into a long story, talking about your own thoughts, your own wishes. 2. Tell them that they have grown up, and hope that they will all grow up. Housework is generally left and right, quarrels are meaningless, and white-headed old people need to be more tolerant and understanding.

3. When they quarrel, you can laugh and say, "Are you teaching me?" I've learned how to fight with my other half in the future!

In short, you improvise and try to resolve it. It should be noted that at such times, you must not loudly argue with them, you must face them with a gentle attitude, it is best to smile, let them see the juniors who have different personalities from them, and you should set an example for them at this time. Parents and children grow together in life by making up for each other and learning from each other.

Praise them appropriately when they do well. Your calmness and calmness are different from theirs, and they will gradually infect them, and the atmosphere at home will gradually become better.

If you can care about this matter, it shows that you are very caring and sensible. Calm down and strengthen your heart first. Then use your own calmness and strength to influence your parents. Look, how great you are!

1.This kind of quarrel is already serious and requires external forces, such as: persuasion from relatives and friends, preferably mother's parents and father's parents. After all, they are people who have come over, have experienced a lot, and understand the contradictions between husband and wife life and life;

2.As a child, you are also a bridge, but when they are persuasive, you try not to speak, but to attract the attention of parents, (for example, in the mediation process, you are nearby), so that parents can think about it and calm down;

3.What is the age of the parents, generally parents will be around 40 years old today's menopause, during this time will examine their past, become irritable, easy to lose their temper, and be happy in the past.

Every family has a scripture that is difficult to read, and everyone hopes to have a warm and happy family, and hopes that parents can respect and love each other. But there will always be all kinds of unsatisfactory in life, especially when parents always quarrel over all kinds of trivial things, which will have a lot of negative effects, and children are also very disgusted.

Faced with such a situation, I think we can alleviate this situation from the following aspects:

First: Express your inner thoughts directly to your parents.

In the face of frequent quarrels between parents, what you need is not to turn a blind eye, let alone to remain silent. What you need is the courage to stand up and express your inner thoughts and emotions. Every parent cares for and loves their children, and you can alert them to express your disgust and disgust to them, so that they realize that their behavior will have a very negative impact on you, and even cause you psychological shadows.

Therefore, in the face of parents who often quarrel, you have to be brave enough to convey your attitude to them.

Second: It can act as a bridge between parents.

A slap doesn't make a sound, and every time they quarrel over a trivial matter, it seems to have become a habit between them. You can talk to your parents separately to understand their real inner thoughts, grasp your parents' needs clearly, and then you can act as a bridge for them to communicate and find solutions that are acceptable to both parties. There is nothing that cannot be resolved negotiable, especially if it is a family.

Third: mobilize relatives and friends to mediate amicably.

Although it is said that the ugliness of the family is not publicized, it has reached the level of inexorability, and when you have no choice, you can ask relatives and friends for help.

Avoiding the problem can't solve the problem, and in the face of the situation of parental quarrels, you can always do your best to create a good family atmosphere.

As long as the parents of normal ordinary people are like this, you should not be disgusted, and focus on adaptation. Quarrels between adults are often something that most children who do not have a family can never understand, if they do it, if they can't do it, they will do it in another way or simply don't do it, they have to do it, but they also have to quarrel non-stop, and they can't understand what the necessity and significance of these quarrels are.

But if you become a family, you will slowly understand these quarrels, sometimes from the husband and wife for many years can not be tacitly resented, some are a kind of emotional release after fatigue, they are out and everyone is harmonious, but those bad temper and negative emotions buried in the heart, just sit and wait for the person at home who can be relied on to come back, and then because of some very small things and lead to a big basket of nonsense and quarrels, these are some harmless contradictions, so you don't have to care at all, sometimes look red-faced, But isn't it like normal when you wake up, and nothing happens? This is a test of the relationship between husband and wife, in fact, it is likely to have nothing to do with you, so you can listen to it when you want to listen to it, help them be a judge, and go out for a walk if you don't want to listen.

If you really want to change your family habits, then you can also negotiate with them, what rules are set, if anyone takes the initiative to quarrel because of some trivial things, they will be given a certain punishment, the punishment can be in the form of cash, or housework, or some specific affairs, we can discuss and discuss, but whether it can be implemented, it depends on your persuasion and mobilization strength, if you can really restrain well, maybe you can also change it is not known.

It is impossible for people to be completely two smooth bodies between people, and there will always be friction and quarrels. Even the most loving husband and wife will have quarrels, and how to communicate and resolve conflicts is the key.

And what our kids can do is create great opportunities for them to talk. Some time ago, I listened to a book called Critical Dialogue, and I think its storyteller said it very well, and couples do have the skills of critical dialogue to avoid unnecessary quarrels. When you want to discuss something with the other person, or when you want to have a conversation, you need to understand what your purpose is, and you must also know that you need to stay calm and clear when talking.

And we often find that many quarrels between husband and wife are just because of a little thing, and as a result, the matter gets bigger and bigger, and the previous story of Chen Sesame and Rotten Grain is also turned out. And arguing is the most unsolved way to solve things, it will only get more and more messy and make each other more angry.

For this reason, we, as children, are caught in the middle, which often makes it difficult for us to do it. And what we can do is get them to stop arguing. You can yell at your parents when they are arguing and tell them to stop, and you can talk about your own parents appropriately.

Parents are afraid of affecting their children, and they will stop arguing immediately for a large extent. After they have calmed down, you can talk to your parents slowly and individually to understand why they are arguing and why they are angry, and to get things right.

When you encounter a problem, it is a good way to solve it, not to blindly run away. And as their children, nature can use their love and trust in us to act as their mediator.

Be out of sight and out of mind, they have nothing to do with you when they quarrel, stay away from them.

1 It's hard to say how to persuade parents to quarrel. Some persuasions are good, and some persuasions become more and more vigorous. I don't know which one your parents are.

I've seen a girl who fights like this. Her parents are always quarrelling, and she can't persuade her. That time her parents quarreled again, and she stood in the middle.

If she quarrels, she will beat herself in the mouth, and she will beat herself in the mouth. At first, her parents scolded her to get out, but then she saw that beating herself was ineffective, so she went to the kitchen and brought a kitchen knife in to say; If you don't feel distressed, if you quarrel with me again, I'll chop off my hands to see if you feel distressed. After saying that, he really wanted to chop his hands, and his parents were so frightened that they came to grab the knife together.

Because of grabbing the knife, her father's arm slipped wide. Since then, the two have not quarreled when she was at home.

Clause. 1. You should first establish your own status in the family and be mature in dealing with people, so that your parents will not always treat you as a child, and let him know that you have grown up. That's the premise.

Clause. Second, you should first analyze who is right and who is wrong, or whether both are wrong, etc. Then you have to comfort the right party first, and calm him down, let him feel that you understand him (her) very well, let him get psychological comfort, so that no matter whether he "wins" or "loses" when he is arguing, he will easily calm down and listen to you.

Clause. 3. Afterwards, you should convince the wrong party and let him know that he was wrong. Of course, you have to convince people with reason, otherwise it will also add fuel to the fire, you should also stand in their position, empathize, and both sides of the quarrel are at fault, it's just a matter of how much.

My parents used to quarrel at home, but they would listen to me, but now I have some big and small things at home, and they will come to me to discuss. Of course, each family background is different, and the individual is also different, so you should think more and come up with your own method that works. Good luck!

I have some suggestions for dealing with family relationships:

1. Be humble, don't be a needle to each other about everything, give each other more opportunities to talk, think more about each other, avoid unnecessary conflicts, and family affection is priceless.

2. A surprise creates a dramatic effect, and often many contradictions are lost in jokes.

3. Divide responsibilities, assume your own responsibilities and obligations, do more for the family, and think less for yourself.

4. Dualized communication, many conflicts are due to the lack of communication between family members, which exacerbates the conflicts.

5. Be open-minded, life is short, we should create a harmonious society and a harmonious family, think about everything, don't worry about everything, don't intrigue, don't be greedy, be open-minded, and be grateful to live a relaxed and happy life.