Why do you hate it the more you grow up?

It's good to be kind, but now it's strange that sometimes kind people are easy to be bullied, I don't know if it's in response to the old saying: people are good and are bullied. Therefore, at the right time, you still have to have a temper, blindly forbearance will only make some people gain an inch, we must grasp the degree, don't lose our temper, but also have our own bottom line and principles.

This couldn't be more normal. We're all going to change, and you're actually saying bad or bad and saying good or bad. There is actually nothing to change around the age of 20, everyone will follow their own path, and if you become more and more like your true self, it is a good thing.

At one event, the coach told us, "Maybe one day you will be smoothed out by society, and I hope that you are just wrapped in thick dirt on the edges and corners." In front of the good brothers, he took off the dirt and faced everyone with real edges and corners. ”

One day, I saw a message in a ***: "In fact, these kindergarten children are very cute and sensible, as long as the teachers say they will keep in mind and try to do a good job, I personally think they are sometimes better than junior high school students." ”

This news quickly sparked heated discussions and resonance, and many parents thought that their children were well-behaved and cute when they were young, and the more they grew up, the more annoying they became.

Do you have children? Has your child grown up? How do you feel about this view?

Why do children get more and more annoying as they grow up? Is it really the child who has changed?

Personally, I think that parents have the feeling that their children get more and more annoying as they grow up, which may be directly related to parents' desires for their children and their own mentality.

It's not that the child gets more and more annoying, but the parents' desires and expectations make the child unable to keep up with the rhythm.

The younger the child, the less parents want for their children, and I often hear the sincere and warm words of the new parents around me: "I don't want him to be rich and rich in the future, as long as I can grow up healthy and happy, I will be satisfied......."Therefore, a little bit of growth and change in children can bring surprise, satisfaction and pride to parents. "He'll laugh" "Did you hear that?"

He's called Mom! "Look at how straight this line he draws! "There is no desire, what I see in my eyes are the good things and advantages of the child, so the more I look at it, the more I love it, and it is very cute.

As children grow up, parents have more and more expectations for the calendar. I once heard a mother say something like this: "When I was first pregnant, I thought, it doesn't matter if he is a man or a woman, he is good-looking and ugly, as long as he is healthy; When I was born and found that I was healthy, I wanted to look good; When you are older and go to school, you want to study better again......This passage vividly illustrates the increasing desires and expectations of parents for their children.

With desires and expectations, there are standards, standards in the hearts of parents themselves. If you look at the child with a standard, you will see the gap, the insufficiency, and dissatisfaction.

It's not that the child gets more and more annoying, but that the child's growth challenges the authority of the parents.

The younger the child, the more attached to the parents, the parents are great and sacred in the eyes of the children, the parents' words are the standard, the truth, and the children are the easiest to use "This is what my father (mother) said" to persuade others. This makes parents feel greatly that they can brighten their strength, and their hearts are greatly satisfied. So the more I look at my child, the more I love it.

As children grow up and have their own opinions and opinions, parents are no longer sacred in their eyes, and their authority is challenged. Parents often sigh: What to say and listen to when I was a child, but now I don't dare to say it if I don't think about it, and if I can't do it well, I will let my child have nothing to say.

The huge psychological gap between children before and after they grow up often makes parents always feel that it is not pleasing to see their "grown-up" children.

In a general sense, children have been in the process of growth and change, and this growth and change is developmental, so the more children grow up, the better they are. It's just that I feel that the more the child grows up, the more annoying it becomes, it's just that the parents' evaluation standards have changed and their mentality has changed.

Nature is magical, and society is also magical......Transform you into the impossible to be.

Under the pressure of social survival, people have to do something they don't like to do, and they may change slowly unintentionally, as a last resort, so if you really realize something you hate, remember to try to change slowly. I believe that something will change, and you will not end up being the most hated person.

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People are very simple when they are young, they don't know the sinister world, they just feel that some people are so annoying, and they won't become that kind of person, but when they grow up, they will change with the environment, and sometimes things have to be done that way, it's not your fault, it's forced to survive.

In order to survive, in order to survive in this society, you can only be like everyone else, and the alien is always excluded.

When I was young, I was carefree and innocent, my heart was very simple, my eyes were transparent and clear like water, I was full of beauty about everything in the world, and I believed that everything was beautiful, as people grew up, you grew up and some of the ugliness in the world was seen by you, life is like a big dye vat, and we are the white cloth that is thrown into the dye vat, whether you want to or not, you have to become colorful, because in this way you can conform to this society, this is survival, That's how everything has two sides, you can't be perfect, so look back and look at yourself now, it feels different from before, what you hate is not yourself, but you are infected by society, now you, you don't need to hate yourself, you should find your own growth, these experiences are beautiful.

That's because you've grown up. The original intention is the most rare, knowing that he is now the most hated person at the beginning, which means that he has not forgotten the original intention, which is rare and rare, and it is already very good.

Because when we are young, our parents will help us solve all the troubles, and we don't need to worry about much, just think about how to get high grades and go to a good university. However, when we grow up, it's different, when we grow up, everyone has to go through things like finding a job, getting married, having children, etc., and at this time, our parents can help us very little (except for those who are particularly rich in the family), and we need to worry about it ourselves at any time, and there will naturally be more troubles.

1. Find a job.

Of course, it is very easy for some people to find a job, after all, high-achieving students are needed in any unit. However, for most people, it is still very difficult to find a satisfactory job, otherwise it is the intrigue of colleagues in the company, the inconsiderate boss, and the welfare is not good, so many people are not satisfied with their work, and natural troubles come.

2. Get married. Marriage is also a top priority in life, but it is also a particularly expensive thing. Boys may be particularly stressed about getting married, because now when you get married, many mothers-in-law will ask you to have a car, a house and a deposit, if you don't have it, then others may not easily marry your daughter to you.

In addition, the bride price is also very brain-consuming, after all, now that the living conditions are better, the bride price must not be as small as before. Many couples are separated when they have already talked about marriage, which is really regrettable.

3. Have children.

Giving birth to a child is also very troublesome, after giving birth to a child, just the milk powder costs a lot more, and when you grow up, you have to send it to kindergarten, elementary school, middle school, and university, so it can be said that after giving birth to a child, you even go to travel is a luxury. And taking care of children is also very hard, especially when children are small, they will cry in the middle of the night and drink milk, if the husband does not know how to understand his wife at this time, it can be said that it is very chilling.

The more we grow up, the more troublesome we are, most of them because our parents have too high expectations for us, which causes us too much pressure and makes us breathless. I also thought about it, but I didn't dare. I didn't dare to mention it to my parents because I was afraid that they would be sad, and I was afraid that they would be angry, but if they were really angry, it would be terrible.

Again, my grades dropped again, and my parents criticized me harshly, and the way they got angry really made me afraid to look at it. That time, I cried at school, and I thought that my parents must be very sad to see me crying, and I must work hard to study and make them happy. Again, I was playing with my classmates at school, I accidentally fell, my hand was scratched, and I lost a lot of blood, I wanted to cry, but I couldn't cry, I wanted to be strong, I endured the pain, slowly got up, I wanted them to know that I was not a weak girl, I could.

Once, I had a high fever, and my parents were very anxious, so they quickly took me to the hospital, injections, and medicines, and under the careful care of my parents, my illness quickly recovered. I know that they love me a lot, but in a different way. I think if I could understand them, they wouldn't be angry.

I must study hard to repay them.

Because when you grow up, you have a great responsibility, and you don't have adults to protect you like when you were a child!

Everyone has walked through their childhood and left more or less good memories! It's not just you, it's all us, and we call it nostalgia! But we have grown up, the past cannot be repeated, we can no longer enjoy the joy of childhood, we can only take it as a memory, but a stage has a stage of joy, and we should also have the happiness of our own age.

Childhood playmates have grown up in different environments, and their personalities have changed greatly, and a temporary disagreement cannot be a reason for you to hate others! There is a big difference in concept, he wants to fly an airplane, and he wants to drive a ship, but you can imagine that the path taken is different, and the words are not speculative. It doesn't make it a reason for you to hate people!

Some people have high hearts, but you are more arrogant, so you will never be able to sit with him and remember the things of your childhood Maybe your childhood playmate is also wondering, how have you changed so much? The years will pass, so let the joy follow!

It should be the mythical Gao Yao, the guy who crossed with Yi Xiaochuan and later wanted to be Zhao Gao. How much I liked Yi Xiaochuan when I was a child, how much I hated Gao Yao. But thinking about it later, what Gao Yao did was just a normal reaction of an ordinary person.

At the beginning of the plot, Gao Yao and Yi Xiaochuan wore to Daqin at the same time, but he didn't know anything but cooking, and he didn't know history, so he didn't even dare to say much, and he was regarded as a madman as soon as he opened his mouth. Later, I easily met Xiaochuan and Liu Bang, thinking about hugging Han Gaozu's thigh, but in a blink of an eye, he was sold by Liu Bang, an old bachelor, and Gao Yao was sent to be an official slave and was bullied. didn't expect to become a eunuch directly, and he was bullied.

When I was a child, I didn't know much about Huang Bo, and I felt that he had neither good looks nor enough humor, why was he able to mix well in the entertainment industry, but when he grew up, he found that Huang Bo was a powerful person, and he completely changed his previous opinion of him.

Of course it's a gray wolf! When I was a child, I always liked to stand on the side of justice, I always liked the pleasant goat, the beautiful goat, the warm goat, and even the lazy lazy goat, I felt cute! I just hate the gray wolf, I think he's very bad and hateful!

But now that I look back, I feel that the gray wolf has many advantages, and he is obedient to the red wolf, and he is not only a good husband but also a good father!