For the doubts and fears of marriage, I hope that people who have come before will be inspired

Updated on educate 2024-04-09
18 answers
  1. Anonymous users2024-02-07

    Friends, look away, young love is short-lived, but when it matures, you will find that love has its beautiful side. I have also experienced a short period of love, and what is even more ridiculous is that there was a girl who had been good with me for many years and suddenly offered to break up with me without 2 million. I've been decadent, I've been lost, and I've lost faith in marriage.

    But that's all in the past, it's not marriage, it's just ignorance when you were young. No matter what you have had, let go of the past and have a positive attitude towards the future, happiness is actually not far away. As for the man-making movement, hehe, you are still young, that is not something you should think about right now.

    You just have to believe that there will always be sunshine after the storm. I hope these words of mine are helpful to you. If you still feel stressed now, it is recommended that you find a professional psychologist for counseling.

  2. Anonymous users2024-02-06

    What should come will always come, and the real and ordinary life is the state that ordinary people need.

    1. Love is a beautiful emotional journey in life, worthy of yearning and memories, without fear or sighing like red dust;

    Second, the plain marriage does not mean how far it can go, husband and wife get along with each other is actually a special form of getting along with people, due to the difference of time and space, so it is more necessary to understand each other, trust each other, communicate with each other, which is the basic method to maintain the sustainable development of marriage, but also an important way to extend the shelf life of love;

    3. Your so-called man-making movement problem, this is the normal physiological needs of normal people, and it is also a natural phenomenon and natural law, which does not need to be deliberately emphasized, let alone make some psychological hints to yourself, if you understand this, you will get better. If you still can't get rid of this hint, perhaps your previous relevant experiences have caused some kind of damage to your heart, and have seriously interfered with or even distorted your outlook on love and life, and it is recommended that you carry out necessary psychological counseling in time.

    Have fun!

  3. Anonymous users2024-02-05

    Perhaps too many failed marriages and the current social neglect of marriage have affected you. In addition, there are many problems to face from getting used to living alone to entering marriage, which is also one of the reasons for confusion. In any case, marriage is a necessary stage of life.

    For example, durian has many people who like to eat it, and there are many people who don't like its taste. It's the same with marriage, everyone will run their own marriage. To be afraid, you just have to remember that there is no such thing as a perfect or failed marriage, only a plain life of mutual understanding and respect.

    Understand how far tolerance goes, and you can go as far as you can.

  4. Anonymous users2024-02-04

    Your thoughts are normal and you don't need to see a psychiatrist.

    Marriage is indeed the grave of love, and after marriage, everything is transformed into responsibility.

    Therefore, it is recommended that if you can't bear the responsibilities brought by marriage, you can't get married if you can, and don't have children even if you get married.

    Aren't many people like this now? The higher the level of literacy, the more so.

    The person who came over sincerely proposed.

  5. Anonymous users2024-02-03

    Understand, it's good to be a single aristocrat, you can also find a person who is really willing to live quietly, don't look for those ambitious girls, I think there are still some people who are willing to live a peaceful life, there will never be everyone who is the weak, your thoughts are indeed very common in modern society, the key is in personal choices, what you need is a stable emotional life, everyone has such thoughts, first go through a period of your own, maybe you will meet someone who has the same idea as you.

  6. Anonymous users2024-02-02

    Sympathy. I'm also very confused about love now, and I don't know if the person I choose now can grow old with me, after all, a life is not short, but it's better to let it be! Do what you should do at this age, you don't need to worry about the future, the most important thing is to be full and happy every day!

  7. Anonymous users2024-02-01

    2. There is no fixed period of shelf life of love, it must be maintained by 2 people, it must be maintained by 2 people together, and the better the maintenance, the longer the time.

    3. Life is plain, the key depends on what you pursue together.

  8. Anonymous users2024-01-31

    In fact, you don't need to see a psychiatrist, mainly to see your mood state, you have to have confidence in yourself, you have to face difficulties unyieldingly, and you have to persevere.

  9. Anonymous users2024-01-30

    Instead of asking about this and that here, find someone who understands your heart. Male or female parents or each other. Talk about the heart.

    What you're missing is practice.

  10. Anonymous users2024-01-29

    When you are ready to think about it, the most important thing for you now is to make yourself obsessed with someone or something.

    Light the light in your heart!!

  11. Anonymous users2024-01-28

    Marriage phobia is currently through psychology and drugs, psychology needs to be carried out by a professional doctor, drugs can be taken diazepam, flurazepam, etc., must be used according to the doctor's instructions.

    Marriage phobia is a common disease of people in today's society, especially when I hear a lot of friends who are married around me talk about their helplessness after marriage, they are particularly afraid of marriage, which brings a certain fear to the psychology.

    It is generally due to fear caused by high psychological pressure, not wanting to take responsibility, dissatisfaction with the marriage partner, and failure to change roles. Marital phobia is mainly manifested as anxiety, fear, irritability, irritability or depression, and in severe cases, suicidal behavior, this situation occurs in time to call 120 for medical attention.

    Foods rich in protein and vitamins, such as milk, eggs, fish, fruits and vegetables, should be consumed in a regular diet. Daily Gacha late exercise, according to the physical condition to choose the appropriate exercise intensity, you can go out to travel, relax the mood, reduce stress.

    In fact, the support of the family is the most important, you should communicate more with the family, marriage is a matter of two people, so both parties also leave some space for each other, communicate in time when encountering things, and don't bear too much alone.

  12. Anonymous users2024-01-27

    Contemporary young people have their own ideals and ambitions, many people look at the problem of marriage very lightly, the family urges, relatives and friends urge, give them a lot of pressure, but also make them have more fear of marriage, so how to overcome the fear of marriage? 1.Write down your worries.

    In fact, a lot of worries are superfluous, and they will be resolved if you think about it, but some worries can not be digested by yourself, so you can write them down, talk to your family and friends, communicate with them, and open your heart knots, in fact, life is not so difficult, loneliness is the most terrible, so you must learn to communicate before marriage and learn to face difficulties. 2.Relax.

    Fear is sometimes excessive tension, a person is used to life, suddenly there is one more person, always feel too nervous, in fact, you can relax yourself, go out on a trip, change, and enhance each other's feelings.

    3.Find the cause of the fear.

    There must be a reason for the fear of marriage, find the problem before getting married, pave the way for marriage, and solve the problem You can ask people who have come before, ask people with life experience. 4.Don't get cranky.

    In fact, a lot of worries are imagined by themselves, listening to others, they are cranky, in fact, marriage is not so terrible, what is terrible is that we do not have a serious attitude to deal with.

    5.Preferably pre-wedding preparations.

    Before getting married, do the work that should be done, make a list, and write down the things that should be handled, and it is a happy enjoyment to be tired and busy.

  13. Anonymous users2024-01-26

    The previous marriage was unhappy. The experience of marriage is full of painful memories. The ex-husband only cares about eating, drinking and having fun outside, and is irresponsible to the family; or often outside with flowers and grass; or there are acts of violence, including "cold violence"; Or they don't earn money or earn very little, making life poor or even unsustainable.

    Nowadays, people are here to raise the awareness of neighborhood unity, and it is really good to be good. In addition to strictly respecting the laws and regulations of the state and the principles and systems of social morality that followed, the people who get along with each other should do a good job of unity. Don't dig into the sky to find other people's gossip, and don't exaggerate and insult others.

    Alas, before talking about people, people are short, and if you have that leisure to talk about other people's empty words, it is better to concentrate on uniting your neighbors.

    In the fear of gain and loss, the face is easy to age. Entering the lifestyle of old age, you need a partner. Even a person who hands a glass of water in the midst of a sick person can warm his heart for a long time, and under this strong sense of dependence, he needs to find a partner, and he is afraid to return to his original marital state.

    may have invested too much enthusiasm and expectation in the last marriage, and even blocked your whole life into it, but what you got was far from what you expected. The heart is full of grief, pain, sadness, despair, and so on. Her heart is still in that kind of pain, so she is especially afraid of getting married again.

    Because you have had a failed marriage, you are insecure, you have a lot of concerns, and you are worried that the next marriage will be like the last failed marriage, so you will have a fear of marriage. There are many divorced women who have given noble love in marriage and have not received anything in return, some have exchanged their youth for unrecognized scolding and even rumors and slander, when they have worked hard to raise their children, they have also bowed their heads and been willing to be their children, and when they accept that they have married the wrong person, they have passed the time and become old and frail.

    Once bitten by a snake, ten years afraid of grass rope. Most divorced women have been hurt unspeakably. This kind of spiritual pain will often accompany her for the rest of her life.

  14. Anonymous users2024-01-25

    I think those who are afraid of marriage are probably because their parents are not very good, and arguing all day long is not harmonious at all, so they can't see the slightest love, so they will have a fear of marriage.

  15. Anonymous users2024-01-24

    It is very likely that the family atmosphere of these people was not particularly harmonious before, and their parents often quarreled, and it may also be because they were injured in their previous love life.

  16. Anonymous users2024-01-23

    It may be because I am afraid that after getting married, there will be all kinds of trivial things that will affect the relationship between husband and wife, and I am also afraid that my life after marriage will not be as good as before.

  17. Anonymous users2024-01-22

    Nowadays, more and more young people choose to be single or in a fixed couple, but they just don't get married. Whenever parents mention getting married, they feel very stressed and don't know how to live after marriage. Some young people feel that they are very good when they are single, and getting married is a troublesome thing to find constraints on themselves.

    In fact, these are people's fears of marriage, if the children's fear of marriage can be alleviated?

    1. Marital phobia.

    1. Neither fear nor longing for marriage, we must face up to marriage, and of course we must have a rigorous attitude towards marriage, because marriage is not child's play. After all, there must be a gap between the ideal marriage and the actual marriage, and what we can do is, of course, to face up to this gap and strive to do a good job and manage our marriage.

    2. Many people think that marriage and love are different, why is it different, that is, although love is together, what they have is separate, and marriage is that all will become common, except for your private space. But in my opinion, marriage is the continuation of love, you must believe this, after all, agreeing to marry must be a good feeling between the two people, and trust is even more needed at this time.

    3. If the above methods still can't alleviate your fear of marriage, then I think you need to seek help from a professional psychological counselor. Find a psychological counseling clinic that you are familiar with or have a good reputation, explain your fears and feelings about marriage, and let the psychological counselor give you dredging and counseling.

    2. Fear of marriage.

    1. Rebellious psychology.

    Many people will be restless on the eve of marriage, feeling that their freedom after marriage will be restricted, so they will subconsciously resist marriage.

    2. Comparison. Some people will compare their other half with other people's other half, and they will feel that their other half is not as good as other people's other half, so they will resist their marriage.

    3. Fear. Some people are inexplicably scared and afraid when they think of getting married, they will think that the current marriage is to get married for the sake of marriage, in fact, this is because he himself is not ready to get married, such a small partner I suggest that you don't get married first, and so on to adjust your mentality, make sure that you can get married, and make sure that the other party is the person you need to be together for the rest of your life, before choosing to get married.

  18. Anonymous users2024-01-21

    It is essential to face one's emotions in order to improve the fear of marriage, and when there is constant doubt and fear about marriage, to be open-minded and able to communicate with each other and eliminate the fear.

    Clause. First, the sense of responsibility is not strong.

    People who are afraid of marriage often have a weak sense of responsibility and responsibility, and they even have the characteristics of immature mental development, not independent enough, and their self-care ability is not very strong, especially afraid of taking on the responsibilities needed in marriage, so they are afraid of getting married and dare not get married.

    Clause. 2. Insecurity about marriage.

    Often in the process of growing up or in the family environment, they are affected by some factors, such as the marriage of their parents and the failure of their friends' marriage, etc., resulting in a shadow of marriage, no sense of security and trust in marriage, and this situation is also afraid of marriage.

    Clause. 3. Refuse to grow.

    Afraid of being bound, many people think that after marriage, they will be bound, they will lose themselves, and they will have no freedom, so they are very repulsive to marriage, and it is better in the love stage, and once they enter the stage of talking about marriage, they will soon dare not enter the palace of marriage due to excessive fear.

    Clause. Fourth, there is no interest in many things.

    Married people are not interested in many things, in their daily life and work, they often feel that many things are boring, and they are even unwilling to interact with people, and their feelings become very indifferent, their attention is not easy to concentrate, their memory declines, their brains become relatively dull, and the whole person looks unenergetic.

    In fact, there are many symptoms of fear of marriage, some people will become very difficult when facing some small things, and they will have a suspicious attitude towards themselves and others, etc., which become especially obvious before marriage, even if they are married, the later marriage will be easy to fail.

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