How to appropriately refuse someone else s request 5

Learn to say no.

You must be assertive and don't follow the crowd, this is called having personality.

The first time you have to be resolute and decisive, your attitude must be tough, you don't have to worry about him being a classmate or friend, if he forces you to do something you don't like, it is his fault in itself, if he often comes to harass you, you will be tougher, such a friend can't do it.

Hello do it yourself!

Good luck!!

You have no ego like this, if you still have a little bit of self-consideration, when you encounter their unreasonable requests, you must be brave to refuse! ~

There is a saying that is true: if people do not do it for themselves, the heavens and the earth will be destroyed.

Think about it!

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I want to show him the blessings everyone has given us at Christmas! Thank you.

You say you don't want to call. Something like that.

Hey, if you don't want to, you should learn to make excuses.

It's not that you're stupid, it's that you're kind! It's not your fault that you're kind, it's just that you don't know how to protect yourself!

You can make friends who are worth making, and don't make friends who are not worth it!

Otherwise you'll regret it.

Yes, learn to say no at the right time, this is a very important factor, and I dare not judge whether your feelings are too rich.

Affirmative followed by negative rejection].

A person's request, some are unreasonable, some are reasonable but cannot be realized due to various objective reasons or are difficult to agree, at this time the rejection can choose to affirm first and then negative rejection, which will make the other party get some spiritual satisfaction, so as to alleviate the unhappiness and resistance caused by the rejection.

Fuzzy rejection].

In the process of interpersonal communication, especially when you are not very close to the relationship and do not know each other very well, you cannot express your thoughts truthfully for the other party to hear, and when you have to refuse, you need to use vague language to reject the other party.

Not against the way of rejection].

Doing things and not people is a verbal term used when people reject others, and they generally say, "The reason why I reject you is not because of you, but because this thing really can't be done, I only do things and not people." "It's really a clever way of rejecting people.

Rejection].

The so-called rejection of others is not to directly reject the other party's opinions, ideas or work results, but to put forward another idea, opinion and suggestion from one's own or from the other party's or even from the perspective of the public, so as to indirectly reject the other party.

Hopeful rejection].

Hopeful rejection is to give hope to the other person, but not to give the other person illusions. So what exactly is the hope here? The hope here is not empty words, big words, but after rejecting others, they will do some aftermath work themselves, so that the other party will feel that although their requests are not met, they are still meaningful.

Refusal through the mouth of others].

Expressing the rejection of a person's request with the help of other people's words can avoid hurting the other person's self-esteem, embarrassment or resistance to the other person. For example, if the other party proposes to hand over one of his own jobs to you temporarily, you can say that so-and-so leader said that your work must be completed by yourself, and the responsibility must be borne by yourself.

Postpone Time Rejection].

Sometimes it is not appropriate to reject others directly, nor should it be used to reject others through the mouth of others, so how to deal with such a situation so as not to hurt each other's feelings or embarrass each other and then produce resistance? At this time, you can politely reject others by postponing time.

Deflect topical rejection].

We have no choice but to reject the requests of certain people whom we are embarrassed by. At this time, you can temporarily shift the focus of the other party's topic by changing the topic, answering the wrong question, finding excuses, etc., so as to achieve the purpose of rejecting the other party.

Sometimes it is difficult for relatives and friends to make requests to themselves, and it is embarrassing to refuse directly. This requires tactfully finding some reason to refuse the request of others.

1. Remember, it's your right to say no.

If in the face of other people's unreasonable requirements, you know that you can't do it but you agree against your will, such a result can only cause trouble to the other party, and lose the trust of others in you, so there is nothing that you can't open your mouth to say no, as long as you can stand up and benefit yourself, please be brave enough to say no to others.

2. When someone makes an invitation or other request to you, you always want to be accepted.

Once the words are spoken, if you refuse directly, the other party will misunderstand that you do not give face, and thus become dissatisfied with you. In the face of this situation, taking defense as an offense and preemptively striking is the best strategy to reject others.

When the other person has guessed what the other person means before he opens his mouth, you first express that you are inconvenient in this regard, so as to block the other person's mouth. Because the other party does not state his wishes, this refusal will not embarrass or embarrass both parties.

3. Borrow someone else's meaning to subtly say no.

Xiao Zhao, a salesman at a paper mill, went to a university to sell paper, and Xiao Zhao approached the general affairs director of the university he was familiar with and begged him to place an order. The director of general affairs said politely: "I'm really sorry, our school has signed a long-term purchase contract through the national paper factory, and the school stipulates that it will no longer buy paper from any other unit, and I should also do it in accordance with the regulations."

The refusal here does not appear to be the intention of the Director of General Affairs. Because he has put all the blame on the school, and no one can resist the school's rules.

It's as simple as that, to say no to someone else's will. This approach may seem like a shirk of responsibility, but it is easy to understand. Since there is nothing to help, it is inconvenient to be reluctant.

Another example: Xiao Zhang works in an electrical appliance store, and on this day, a friend of his came to buy a TV, but the friend looked at all the samples in the store and couldn't find a model that satisfied him. In the end, his friend asked Zhengyang to take him to the warehouse to look for it, but of course Xiao Zhang couldn't say no in the face of his friend, and he couldn't say anything about it.

So he smiled and said to his friend: "It's really unfortunate, close to the end of the year, the warehouse management is very strict, a few days ago our manager just announced, except for the warehouse management personnel, no one else is allowed to enter the warehouse, including us salesmen." My friend was too embarrassed to say anything more.

It is important to note that you should also pay attention to the way you use it to refuse. It's best that the other party doesn't know the person you are talking about, and the person you borrowed has a close relationship with you, so that you can do a good job of rejection.

Therefore, when refusing to borrow someone else's meaning, it is best to reject a stranger or someone who is not very familiar with it.

1. If you encounter someone else's request, you can refuse him through various excuses, and I believe that the other party will understand you better, such as: playing **, saying that you are very busy, etc.

2. You can also use some gestures to reject the other party tactfully, which is also a very good method.

3. You need to learn to change the topic.

When rejecting others, you must have a good attitude. Don't flatly refuse when someone asks for it, and don't be quick to retort or look unhappy at someone's request.

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We can think of all verbal communication as a kind of persuasion, and praise is to persuade the other party to rush to the oak letter that they themselves are excellent; Criticism is convincing the other person that they are not doing well enough; Refusal is to convince the other person that we really don't have the ability to fulfill his request. So, what are the techniques for rejecting others?

1. Delay and give both sides a little time. When someone asks you for something, if you feel like you shouldn't say yes, but you can't think of a specific reason for refusing. At this time, the best way is to find an excuse to procrastinate, use the tactic of delaying the army, the other party can't afford to delay, and will naturally understand your refusal, and then find another way.

2. Show weakness and express your difficulties. If someone asks you to do more than you can do, showing weakness is a good refusal technique. Of course, even if you have the ability to do it, you can refuse it by subtly showing weakness.

3. Win-win, looking for a third party to judge the case. When we feel that it is unbearable to reject others, and we are afraid that it will affect our relationship, we can try to find a solution to the problem for the other person, and help them verbally while refusing.

Fourth, be firm and polite to refuse. Sometimes the best way to do this is to take a firm stance and say no, and the more resolute the attitude, the more effective the rejection will be.

1. Give the other party a reasonable reason for refusal.

Indicate that your current job is more important than the other person's. Tell the other party that the leader attaches great importance to the work at hand, cannot make mistakes, and is already too busy, so he has no energy to do other things. When the other party sees that your current work is more important and more consuming than his, your goal has been achieved.

Showing that he happened to have other arrangements, and he really didn't have time to tremble. This is one of the most common and popular reasons to use, and if you can, show them your time itinerary to add credibility.

Indicate that you are not familiar with the work that is not within the scope of your responsibilities, and you have more than enough energy to do it. Tell the other person that you're likely to be unhelpful. If you can, learn from or give a similar example.

Indicate that you want to ask your own leaders, and ask the leaders to decide. This is called tai chi, pushing the decision to a third party, and when other people are involved, maybe they will go home in a huff.

2. Provide a suggestion to solve the other party's problem.

Giving the other person a suggestion, or offering a solution, is a middle-of-the-road approach. Of course, it's not up to you to decide whether this suggestion or this solution works. It's easier than doing it yourself, and it's more humane than if you just refuse.

3, Zao Fan defeated to express a sincere and apologetic attitude.

Even if you already want to excuse yourself, don't refuse as soon as you come up, at least listen to others patiently, know the cause and effect of the matter, and then express your powerlessness and sincere apologies.

Many people have difficulty refusing, so with reason, advice, attitude, these three aspects of clever cooperation, flexible use, you can beautifully push off the work that is not within the scope of your responsibility! You yourself are less embarrassed and troublesome, and what about the other party? It can also show understanding and not blame.

Both sides are happy in the big car, so that in the same workplace, everyone will see each other in the future.