How can you build a good interpersonal relationship in college?

Based on my personal experience, I believe that building good relationships in college requires the following principles:

1. The principle of mutuality.

Relationships are based on mutual value and support. No individual will accept others for no reason. There is a premise for liking, reciprocity is the premise, and we like those who also like us.

Proximity and distancing, liking and disliking in interpersonal communication are mutual.

2. The principle of exchange.

Interpersonal communication is a social exchange process. The principle of exchange is that individuals expect interpersonal interactions to be valuable to them, that is, the gains in the process of communication outweigh the losses, or at least equal to the losses. Interpersonal communication is the result of choices made by both parties based on their own values.

3. The principle of self-protection.

Self-worth is an individual's awareness and evaluation of self-worth; Self-worth protection is a self-supporting tendency mental activity whose purpose is to prevent self-worth from being denied and devalued. Since self-worth is established through the evaluation of others, individuals are extremely sensitive to the evaluation of others. For others who affirm their self-worth, individuals identify and accept them, and turn back to affirm and support; and alienation of others who deny their self-worth; At this time, the individual's motivation to protect self-worth may be activated.

4. The principle of equality.

In interpersonal communication, there must always be a certain amount of effort or investment, and the needs of the two aspects of communication and the degree of satisfaction of this need must be equal, and equality is the premise of establishing interpersonal relationships. As a psychological communication between people, interpersonal communication is active, mutual, and interactive. Everyone has the need for friendship and respect, and they all want to be treated equally by others, and this need of people is the need of equality.

5. The principle of compatibility.

Compatibility refers to psychological compatibility in interpersonal communication, that is, the harmonious relationship between people, and the tolerance, tolerance, tolerance and tolerance when getting along with others. In order to achieve psychological compatibility, attention should be paid to increasing the frequency of communication; Find common ground; Modesty and tolerance. Be open-minded and lenient in dealing with others.

Be considerate of others, think more about others when encountering problems, and even if others make mistakes or offend yourself, don't be careful, so as not to hurt each other's feelings due to small losses. As long as you are engaged in business and united, it is worth making some concessions.

6. The principle of credit.

Credit means that a person is honest, does not cheat, and keeps his promises, so as to gain the trust of others. People are inseparable from communication, and communication is inseparable from credit. Be the one who says and don't make promises.

When interacting with others, we should be warm and friendly, treat each other with sincerity, not humble or arrogant, dignified but not too reserved, humble but not pretentious, and fully show our self-confidence. Only a person with self-confidence can gain the trust of others A person who is decisive, assertive, energetic, and confident is easy to stimulate the motivation of others. Gain the trust of others and create a charm that makes people happy to associate with you.

7. Understand the principles.

Understanding mainly refers to understanding the needs of others, understanding the motives and meanings of others' words and deeds, helping and contributing to the satisfaction of others' reasonable needs, and giving encouragement to the valuable parts of others' lives, words and deeds.

Building good interpersonal relationships is the foundation of a person's career success. It requires a tolerant heart, sincerity, initiative and positive communication, a good personal image, and a good use of various means of communication to overcome prejudices in social perception.

1) Create a good personal image and enhance personal charm.

2) Make good use of communication skills (1) 1. Improve psychological quality. The interaction between people is the overall role of thought, ability, knowledge and psychology, and the lack of any aspect will affect the quality of interpersonal relationships. Some students have social fear, timidity, shyness, low self-esteem, indifference, loneliness, isolation, suspicion, pride, jealousy and other bad psychology in interpersonal communication, which are not easy to establish good interpersonal relationships.

Therefore, college students should strengthen self-training, improve their psychological quality, and interact with each other with a positive attitude.

2. Improve your interpersonal charm. It should be said that each individual has its own inherent interpersonal charm, and interpersonal charm is the embodiment of a person's comprehensive quality in social life, which requires college students to enrich their inner world, from appearance to conversation, from image to knowledge, and improve themselves in many ways. Psychological research has shown that a good social image will leave a deep impression on the other person in the first relationship, and as the relationship deepens, knowledge becomes more dominant.

In particular, the personality cultivation of college students expands their own connotation.

2) 1. Empathy. This is important for building good relationships.

2. Make good use of praise and criticism. Psychologists believe that praise can release the energy in a person and mobilize people's enthusiasm.

3. Take the initiative to communicate. Every college student in the prime of life needs to have a rich world of interpersonal relationships, and in this world to help and be helped, sympathize and be sympathized, love and be loved, and share joy and pain.

Clause. 1. Make a good first impression. Interpersonal relationships are created in the interaction of people.

First of all, pay attention to the beauty of the appearance. People's appearance, including filial piety, appearance, dress, manners, demeanor, etc., are all factors that affect interpersonal communication. People tend to find attractive people to be more lively and pleasant, and more friendly and gregarious.

Dressed neatly and generously, and demeanor will naturally give people a sense of closeness, on the contrary, excessive grooming, oily hair, and thick clothing will give people an inappropriate impression.

Then, treat people with sincerity and warmth. In general, both parties always accept the speaker first, and then accept what the other person has to say. Therefore, when speaking to people, the attitude should be sincere, and it is necessary to avoid oily tone, high-minded talk, grandstanding, and monopolizing the topic, otherwise it will make people feel unpleasant.

Seeking truth from facts, enthusiastic attitude, often gives people a sense of trust, penetrating Zen closeness, which is conducive to the continued deepening of exchanges; On the contrary, if you don't speak sincerely, turn around and talk coldly, it will give people a false and cold feeling, and it will be difficult to deepen the relationship.

Finally, be a loyal listener. Everyone needs to have the opportunity to express themselves. While it's important to express yourself effectively in your first relationship, it's also important to be a patient listener and encourage others to talk more about themselves.

First of all, you should pay attention to your external image, be clean and tidy, and don't be sloppy; Secondly, we should take the initiative to communicate, be kind as flowing, and optimize our personal social image.

The methods for college students to build good interpersonal relationships are as follows:

1. Accept yourself and overcome your inferiority complex

If you want to coordinate your relationships and make others accept and like you, you must first accept yourself. A person's low self-esteem and lack of self-confidence are often closely related to the failure to form a correct understanding and evaluation of themselves.

When we make social comparisons with others, we should pay attention to the standard of comparison, and we should not compare the shortcomings of others with the advantages of others, which will inevitably lead to errors in comparison. Second, we must pay attention to objectivity when comparing, and we must not think that we are inferior to others in one aspect.

2. Take the initiative to communicate

In real life, there are many people who, despite their strong desire to socialize with others, still have to endure the torment of loneliness from time to time, with few or no friends, because they always adopt a passive and passive withdrawal method in social interactions, always waiting for others to accept them first.

Therefore, although they are also in a bustling world, they still can't get rid of the loneliness of their hearts. You know, people don't get interested in us for no reason. Therefore, if we want to win others, establish good interpersonal relationships with others, and establish a rich world of interpersonal relationships, we must be the initiators of communication and be in an active position.

3. Treat people sincerely

In order to treat others with sincerity in the process of understanding and communicating, college students need to clarify some misunderstandings and distinguish the relationship between sincerity, integrity, straightforwardness, and righteousness. Sincerity refers to a person's attitude towards others, and a person's concern and respect for others from the heart rather than hypocrisy. Integrity refers to a person's character.

It is the judgment and evaluation of a person's stable and consistent qualities. When communicating with people, we should pay attention to ways and means, especially when expressing dissatisfaction, we should take into account the acceptance of the intermediary, so that the work can optimize interpersonal relationships and reduce unnecessary conflicts and frictions between people.

4. Insist on sincerity and trustworthiness

College students must be enthusiastic and caring, genuinely help others without expecting anything in return, and be honest in criticizing their friends' shortcomings and shortcomings. Seek truth from facts about people and things, be able to express one's own opinions directly instead of duplicity, neither flatter people to their faces, nor slander people behind their backs, and be honest, sincere, and open-minded.

In short, for college students, it is necessary to exercise themselves from all aspects, overcome psychological problems in all aspects, improve interpersonal relationships, and enable themselves to adapt to college life.

5. Actively participate in the activities of collective organizations

Group activities require participants to be open and honest with each other with less constraints, and to actively cooperate with each other on the basis of effective communication. This is a normal process in itself, and in group activities, positive feedback in communication acts as a mutual social reinforcement, while the likeliness of misunderstandings and conflicts is reduced due to increased opportunities for communication and exchange.