My parents don t want me to marry far away, should I break up for my parents?

It completely depends on your personal wishes, and then it depends on whether the person you love is worthy of your life, this is no standard answer, in the face of love and family affection, you have to weigh it yourself!

I can say for sure that as a parent, none of them want their daughter to marry far away, and now as a parent, I can understand this feeling more deeply, especially for daughters, marrying into a new family, parents really feel that far water can't save the near fire, and the bad for you is completely in a passive and helpless position.

I have also struggled with this question, at that time, I still can't understand my parents' minds, I also think that my parents don't want me to marry far away, just hope that there will be one more for them in the future, but I also said that we have many sisters, less than one of me, more than one of me, and I don't have much, and I also feel that this person is worthy of my life, so I chose to marry far away without hesitation.

In the days of distant marriage, there was really no friend or relatives around him, and there was only one him. Even when you come to a new city, you have colleagues, neighbors, etc., but these people can really instantly compare to those relatives and friends who have been with you for more than ten or twenty years? Do you dare to tell them about your troubles?

Obviously not.

At this time, my parents could only worry about their stomachs in their distant hometown, and once they heard that I was a little unhappy, they kept nagging, and when they heard that I was a little uncomfortable, they also wanted to buy a ticket and take a few hours to rush over. And I was the same, when I heard that my parents were sick with a cold, which was not a serious illness, I wanted to go back to my hometown to be with them and take care of them.

This is the daily routine of long-distance marriage, whether you should break up or not, you have to consider whether your aging parents still have siblings to take care of; You have to consider whether you are worth the gamble and whether he can grow old together; You have to think about whether you can accept the complete unfamiliar city, people, etc., and once you have the answers to these questions, then you should know very well how to make your choice.

You have to believe that your parents are always good for you, they don't want you to marry far away because they are afraid that they will not be able to see you often in the future, they are afraid that you have been wronged in a strange city and no one to comfort or support you, they have too many worries, all because they are not worried about you.

If you don't know your boyfriend well enough and believe that he loves you enough to always stand by your side in front of his parents and be your only support, don't disobey your parents' wishes, after all, it is always your parents who want you to be good the most. <>

My boyfriend and I are just because they are too far away and my parents don't want me to marry far away, and now we have broken up. He is two years older than me, he just graduated this year, and he went home to find a job as a substitute teacher, and he is going to study for a while to take the teacher editing exam, so he wants to buy a house at his house and get married. My parents didn't want me to go to his side, and I discussed with him that when I graduated, we would go to work in another city, but he didn't want to, he wanted me to go back to his house with him.

He didn't want to leave his parents, so he wanted me to leave his hometown and go with him, so selfishness really made me very disappointed in him.

Recently he texted me again to persuade me to reconcile with him, but he still did not want to give in, I really have never seen such a thick-skinned person, I have been disappointed in him many times, although I still have a trace of expectation of him, but I really can't afford to be deceived again.

Now I also understand that I am not so important in his heart, I am alone in a strange city, I have been wronged and no one has to help you say a word, how desperate and helpless you should be able to imagine, you can have a good talk with him, if he is not willing to go with you to a city not far from your home, just let go ruthlessly, there will be more suitable waiting for you.

It is indeed very difficult for parents to give birth to us and raise us, and it is said that people are particularly dependent on their children when they are old, so it is understandable that they do not want to marry far away.

Of course, you have to think about your happiness, and parents definitely want their children to be happy. They will also be happy if you are doing well.

See if this guy is really right for you. It needs to be based on his personal economic situation, whether he is self-motivated, whether he is filial to the elderly, and so on. If you don't have a self-motivated person, it's terrible, after all, you have to live together for a lifetime, and the elderly also need to be supported, if you don't have a motivated heart, even if you have enough ideas to go home and see your parents, but the situation at home really doesn't allow it, after marriage, your husband and children need to be taken care of, and the economic conditions may not allow it.

If you really encounter this situation, you just love it very much, but the man doesn't have a certain foundation to maintain the relationship between your parents and yourself, so that you can be filial piety, then break up decisively.

But if this man is really good and you love each other very much, you can try to convince your parents, in fact, if you are really filial, even if you are far away, you also want to accompany the old people at home, if you are not filial piety, what can you do?

I have seen a lot of people here in the village, they are old, they are still pitifully picking up rags, and their bodies are dirty, it's not that they don't have children, some of their children are right in front of them, but they don't think about what an old man pays, these things are very common, so in the final analysis, it depends on whether this man is really suitable for you. You can not break up, persuade your parents to accept, and promise that you can take your parents to live with you in the future. Relax your parents' minds so they don't have to worry.

To understand parents, everything should not be too extreme.

Although with the development of the times and the influence of various cultures, we have changed the previous view of taking the order of our parents as a holy order, and we will always consider our own situation first, but we still attach great importance to filial piety, and I think this is the contradiction of the problem. <>

Can I talk to you about a real-life case close to me:

Two years ago, Xiaoxue liked his boyfriend very much, and after getting along for a year, the two decided to meet their parents and enter the marriage hall. But as you think, Xiaoxue's parents strongly oppose the two being together, precisely because the man's hometown is too far away from Guangdong. Eventually, with the strong opposition of their parents, the couple began to quarrel and eventually broke up.

Today, two years later, Xiaoxue was introduced by relatives and started dating with fellow townsman Yinhu, and two months later, the two entered the marriage hall with the blessing of their parents.

Yinhu, who developed in Shenzhen, was willing to come to Foshan for Xiaoxue and start his career again, which touched Xiaoxue's parents. Now, although Xiaoxue and her husband still quarrel a little, they are still happy.

So back to the question just now, to solve this contradiction, you need to ask yourself a few questions:

1.Is long-distance marriage really the essential reason for parents' opposition? Or someone who doesn't like ta?

2.After marrying far away, can you adapt to the local customs, and do you like the city?

3.In the case of a distant marriage, how can your spouse promise that you will not be harmed when your parents are unable to take care of you all the time?

4.Is there a negotiated approach? Go to each other's cities.

5.When faced with this problem, did you discuss it with them?

Your parents don't want to marry far away, should you break up for your parents? I think you should face up to the relationship between the two, if the relationship between the two people is very deep, there is no need to choose to break up for the sake of your parents, after all, it is the two of you who will live together in the future.

In fact, many girls have this problem, they don't want their parents to be sad, and they don't want to break up with their boyfriends, in fact, the best way at this time is for you to discuss with your boyfriend to get married and buy a set of places close to your home and close to his home, and it is a good way to compromise it.

Yes, the grace of parents is greater than heaven, or should you listen to your parents' advice!

Personally, I don't think you can break up because your boyfriend is out of town or far away.

The original price girl will really be very painful one day, you have to listen to your parents, don't just see the so-called love in front of you.

If you're the only one in the family, I think you might as well consider your parents' opinions.

From this point of view, it is mainly the result of your poor economic conditions.

In the current form, buying a house with a mortgage and repaying the loan every month is really difficult, which reduces the quality of life of both parties.

Then separate completely. Because after getting married, the woman is pregnant, and she has to go to the hospital frequently for a long time, which you can't afford, you can turn your face and ignore it, but she can't retreat, she can only enter.

A lot of expenses that you can't think of. And this alone dragged down her parents in the end. She must have seen that someone was in the middle of it, so she chose to break up, so you let her go.

My girlfriend's parents did not approve of her marrying far away. And now he has chosen to break up with you himself. It's simple.

His parents didn't disapprove of him marrying you, right? He just didn't agree with her marrying far away. Then you can go over.

It is an old tradition for men to marry women. You can also go to the woman's family and go to your hometown! There is a huge flow of talent right now.

Change places. It can still be developed. What do you think?

Are your parents willing? Let's talk to your parents!

If you can't make a lot of money right away, the solution is very simple, break up decisively, goodbye to the rivers and lakes, long pain is better than short pain, and strong twisted melons are not sweet. No matter what the reason, your girlfriend is going to break up with you, since it is a condition that you can't meet in the short term, and the result you can't change, why do you want so much? One is parted and two are well, and each is fine, which may be a good outcome for both parties.

My girlfriend's parents don't agree with her marrying far away, and he now chooses to break up with you, I think he should be very filial to his parents, a woman like this, I think you should cherish it, in short, I think two people are together, no matter where they live or are developing? In fact, the common goal is for everyone, for the happiness of both parties, so someone must make a contribution, if the two of you really love each other, I think you should think about it, how to make both of you happy?

Sometimes leaving is the best option. There are no absolute feelings in this world, if you don't agree, don't get entangled, it's the most decent to leave at this time, don't wait until the end of the trouble to leave.

Since she is so determined to break up with you, what can she do! The heart is no longer with you, and you have to fulfill her, so that you may still be friends in the future.

This is the idea of the vast majority of parents not to let their daughters marry far away, and the girlfriend chooses to break up, which means that she can also give up the relationship between you.

I understand his parents' thoughts. There's a workaround, you can go to them. Of course, you don't necessarily want to, and your parents don't necessarily agree.

She chooses to break up and won't look back, after she meets a man who is better than you, she doesn't have you in her heart, and strives to make herself better and find a girlfriend who suits her.

The twisted melon is not sweet is yours after all, and the material foundation is also the basis of feelings. There will still be a lot of problems after being reluctantly together.

I will not choose to break up, I will try to convince my parents to marry far away, although it is very hard, but this is my own choice, I should have to pay a little price for my own choice, I hope my parents can understand me.

I would choose to break up because I don't want to marry far away myself, and one of my cousins is married far away, which is really hard.

This generally won't, your parents' opinions can be referred to but there is no need to implement it, and in the end it is your other half who lives with you, not your parents, you can communicate well with your parents, now that the transportation is developed, marrying outside is not a problem.

I would choose to break up because I think it's important to respect my parents' opinions, and personally, I wouldn't choose to marry far away.

I will, because when my parents get older, we can't take care of them, and I think it's a pity that this is also a pity, so I will follow their advice.

As someone who has come from the past, I don't think I will marry far away. It's really hard to marry far away, unless you can guarantee that your future husband will be 100% good to you.

I will choose to break up, I think my parents are both from the past, and they are unlikely to make wrong judgments, so it should be right to listen to my parents.

If my parents don't let me marry far away. If the other party is true to me, and I love him deeply, I will not choose to break up.

A parent is really thinking about your children, after all, marrying far away from their old people, it is inconvenient to take care of the elderly, I personally feel that as long as you marry the right person, there is no problem, after all, now that science and technology are developed, you can communicate every day.

As long as you live better than anything else, discuss it with your parents, after all, parents don't want their children to stay away from them, so let your girlfriend communicate with your parents well.

Actually, I would have chosen to break up, because I didn't want to be too far away from my parents.

I will definitely choose my parents' side, because my parents are getting older, and I have to stay with my parents to take good care of them, so it's good.