I haven t been in love for too long and don t want to be in love anymore, and I feel that it s so tr

Updated on psychology 2024-04-06
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  1. Anonymous users2024-02-07

    How many times have I wondered how many times <> I will die alone. Later, when I thought about it, it was completely possible, the circle is getting smaller and smaller, I am too familiar with my friends, I don't know how to fall in love with someone I just met, and I don't know about it, and I don't have any channels to meet new people, so I seem to be stuck in a dead loop, and I can't help but feel that I was once lonely and old enough to think about it, but now I think about it carefully, it's too possible.

    So, I changed from playing with my phone happily to nervously playing with my phone. In fact, there is nothing wrong with being single when you are young, is it that the mobile phone is not fun, or the wine is not delicious, can you eat this kind of thing? Recently, I heard that the group is going to assign objects to single young people, so I just want to say please hurry up.

    In fact, it's not that I don't want to fall in love, but I don't want to talk about a love I don't like, maybe it's that I've been hurt and I don't have the heart to love someone with all my might. This kind of thing is actually quite common, generally speaking, the first love will be more unforgettable, and the feelings of getting along are too hot, always thinking about being with each other, always thinking about binding each other, and then starting to all kinds of suspicions, suspicions, and getting angry from time to time.

    In this way, there is no such thing as being at all, and we seem to forget that no one likes a psychopath, and then the other party turns away. This kind of thing is still very common, which is also a common problem in love, once we fall in love, we will become another look, begin to suffer from gains and losses, and live not like ourselves at all, but the other party likes each other because of the original self. Speaking of this, I can't help but feel a little sad and realistic.

    In fact, it's not troublesome to fall in love at all, it's just that you make this troublesome, and there are still things that haven't met the right person, in fact, it's really hard to meet the right person. In my opinion, love should be easy, not shackles and bondage. Once there are shackles and restraints, both of them will be out of breath.

    Mathematically, we are talking about two parallel lines, which will always be parallel. After the intersection of the lines, although there is a focal point, it will be farther away, or even farther and farther away. In fact, this is the principle in love, maintaining a parallel distance, we just keep moving forward, so that both parties will feel very relaxed.

    Nowadays, I also know better what kind of person I want to spend my life with, not that I don't want to be in love, but I want to fall in love more and more, but I am also more cautious, it is precisely because love is so beautiful that I should treat it carefully, rather than start casually.

    This sentence is given to myself and to those who see it: The rest of my life is long, I will always wait for you, see you or leave.

  2. Anonymous users2024-02-06

    I've been single for too long, and I suddenly found out that it's actually good to be single. In love, it's so troublesome, I don't want to fall in love anymore.

    This is obviously a very realistic and normal idea. I don't know why I want to change? What to do?

    Why do you think so? It's nice to have a status quo that you like. There's no need to force yourself to be like everyone else, what's wrong with being yourself?

    I also think it's troublesome to fall in love.

    The longer you are single, the more you will taste the taste of being single, which is wonderful. Love is precious, but freedom is more expensive. So, there is a great deal of freedom in being single.

    You don't have to worry about what another person will say, how to do it, what kind of impact it will have on you, you will toss and turn because of his words, puzzled, want to ask, but lose face, don't ask yourself, your heart is as difficult to solve as a cat scratching, more and more suspicious, more and more entangled.

    Don't rely on it anymore, don't lean on someone else's arms anymore, lean on someone else's arms, it's really warm, it's very safe. But thinking that this person is another person after all, even if his mind is clear, you can't fully understand, will his warm embrace one day finally leave?

    Who can give you eternity? All kinds of gods and Buddhas, who can give a contract for love. Before the time is full, there shall be no letting go, and there will always be only joy and no sorrow.

    Some people may say, how can a world with only joy be complete? Tragedy is what is shocking, immortal like a poppy. But I'm an ordinary mortal, I go with the flow, I don't want those vigorous ones, I just want to eat sweet sugar, I don't want to drink bitter coffee.

    The degree of love is different, and the love is not equal, so what? The person who loves deeply is always passive, when love is tested, there is a person who is tired, and it is always the person who loves deeply who is hurt, which is an obvious but never-ending paradox.

    To sum up, love is really troublesome, there are too many unknowns and too many instability, I am used to the usual stable days now, and I don't want too many twists and turns.

    So I'm afraid that such a cringe-like character is destined to be a person, but so what?

    I still believe in fate with a girl's heart, and now I just need to be myself, let my wings be full, let myself have enough ability to deal with risks, make my heart more rational, and let myself step into a higher platform, stand tall and see far.

    Maybe one day when fate and love come to me, I will not hesitate to catch it, this is not known, life is an adventure, I have exhausted my bad luck, good luck, is coming.

  3. Anonymous users2024-02-05

    I think that if you have been single for too long, you will indeed not want to be in love, because I find that I will indeed live more freely and freely after being single.

    When you fall in love, you will definitely experience a lot of sweetness, but there will also be many unhappy places, such as possessiveness of the other half, making yourself a hypocritical person who suffers from gains and losses, or always quarreling, having contradictions, arguing so tired that your heart is very tired, or sticking with your other half all day long, without your own personal space and social activities, etc.

    Like when I fell in love before, I myself was a girl who was cool and could be in love every day, but when I talked about love, I would become sensitive and suspicious, a glass-hearted girl, sometimes I really hate myself like this, if my boyfriend says a few more words to other girls, I will also be super cautious and angry, jealous of others, and then sometimes I will suffer from gains and losses, send that kind of very hypocritical text, etc., anyway, the whole person is very bad, when I fell in love, I get tired of being with my boyfriend all day long, and I have less communication with my friends. Later, after the breakup, although I still like him very much and can't get out of his shadow, I find myself much cooler than before, at least I am no longer a very cautious girl in front of him, and without him, I have more space and more time to develop my social network.

    In fact, I think it depends on the personal mentality and personal processing, some people can integrate love into life, the distribution is just right, and they will become better people because of good love, but some people feel that if love does not make themselves a better person, love is very troublesome, if you don't want to fall in love, you don't have to force yourself, after all, we all have to live our lives in our favorite way.

  4. Anonymous users2024-02-04

    It's normal to want to be in love.

    Love is originally a human being, a very noble and beautiful feeling. Hopefully each of us will be able to have it.

    First of all, do a good job of yourself, do your job well, take care of your life, and take care of your family. Have a positive attitude towards life. Please believe that if you bloom, butterflies will come.

    Second, you can go out and socialize more. Make more friends. Among colleagues, classmates, and friends, choose the people you like to have more contact. It is possible to find your significant other.

    Finally, you can go to some blind date events organized by the local area. If you meet someone of the opposite sex who has a good feeling, you can add them as friends to communicate and understand.

  5. Anonymous users2024-02-03

    Whether you're single or not in love, it's not a big deal, so there's no need to be afraid. Because there are many people who have never been in love in their twenties, they will eventually meet their own love and gain a happy experience. Falling in love is a skill, and it's just a needle for those prodigal sons who are mixed with flowers and plants.

    The love of ordinary people is just a series of chemical reactions that occur after two simple people meet, which comes naturally, without a teacher, and you don't need to worry about it at all, as long as the person you meet is right, you like and like you, it's enough.

    Make the most of your single time to enjoy life and enrich yourself. While waiting to meet that person, you can do a lot of things that can only be enjoyed by one person, such as reading a book alone and raising a pot of flowers. Let yourself calm down, sink the impetuous atmosphere, feel the silence for a moment, and improve your temperament and calmness.

    Some people say that they won't fall in love, but they haven't had a good relationship, either because they haven't met the right person, or they haven't found the right person. To carve yourself during the window period and make yourself a piece of beautiful jade will naturally attract people like you who are like jade, and it may be a fate that you have been waiting for a long time.

  6. Anonymous users2024-02-02

    Does the starting point of a relationship have to be driven by a man? Not necessarily, but women believe that relationships in which men take the initiative are more likely to bear fruit.

    Shen Mengchen once said that she took the initiative to pursue Du Haitao, so you see, the two have been together for eight years, and Shen Mengchen has been urging marriage, but Du Haitao is reluctant to enter into marriage with her.

    Therefore, girls like you very much and want to fall in love with you, and they will not take the initiative to confess to you, but will have the following 5 hints.

    Pay special attention to your own image in front of you.

    Girls who want to be with you will be shy when they see you, and they will even have the embarrassment of not knowing what to do. In order to make a good impression on you, she will pay special attention to how she looks in your eyes.

    Therefore, you will find that she who usually doesn't pay much attention to dressing up suddenly gives you a refreshing feeling. When you compliment her on her good looks, your eyes are full of joy.

    In life, not every girl will go for a refined life. For example, not every girl has the perseverance to get up early to put on makeup.

    The so-called women are pleasing to themselves, because they like someone and give girls the motivation to dress themselves, so they are willing to spend time and time to dress themselves.

    will test you if you care about her.

    When a girl says the following words to you, she is probably testing you.

    There's a guy chasing me, what do you think of that guy? ”

    Let me introduce you to a girlfriend, what do you like? ”

    Why don't you find a girlfriend? ”

    When a girl wants to be with you, first of all, she will confirm that you are sincere to her. So, she will use various ways to test whether you like her or not.

    For example, when a girl tells you that another guy is pursuing her, her expected reaction is that you will be jealous and you will say bad things about that guy instead of hearing you say "Congratulations." ”

    So, if a girl tells you that a guy is pursuing her, don't think that the girl is showing off to you and showing her charm, but understand that she is testing your attitude towards her.

    Take the initiative to date you alone.

    If the girl just treats you as an ordinary friend, no matter how good the relationship between the two people is, the girl will try not to be alone with the two of you in order to avoid suspicion.

    On the contrary, if the girl wants the relationship between two people to go further than just friends, the girl will try her best to fight for the opportunity to be alone with you.

    Although the girl will not take the initiative to confess to you, the girl will take the initiative to ask you out, such as eating in an ordinary way.

    Feelings are chattered, and eating is a rare time of the day for a person to relax. So, if a girl often asks you out to dinner alone, understand that she may not just want to be your friend, but your girlfriend.

  7. Anonymous users2024-02-01

    First, the most direct and old-fashioned way is to go on a blind date, seeing that their own things can not be solved, and their parents are also anxious, so they always do everything possible to ask someone to introduce you to the object, regardless of success or failure, always try to create opportunities for you. Although many young people don't like this way, but the parents' orders, the matchmaker's words. I still saw it again and again.

    Second, participate in various blind date programs. This is indeed a good way, many blind date programs are still more reliable, in order to solve their lifelong events, many people do not hesitate to show up and participate in various blind date programs, which is also a more direct and effective way.

    Third, through the introduction of my friends. There are not a few older single young people around you, but after all, everyone's network resources are limited, and the one around you is not necessarily the standard in your heart.

    Fourth, attend as many meetings as possible. Such as a friend's birthday party, some company dinners, etc., which can increase the chance of contact with other members of the opposite sex, only when the opportunity is big, can you find your other half, don't always get off work and stay at home alone, such a chance is very slim.

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