Psychology of Marriage and Love, Psychology of Marriage

Introduction"Marriage Psychology" world-renowned gender relationship counseling expert, helping thousands of troubled families out of marital difficulties This is a classic marriage book for both sexes, which has been selling for 50 years, revealing the corners and corners of marriage. This book teaches you that marriage is not the final destination, but a happy marriage is the real goal. How can we love clearly, live easily, and grasp lifelong happiness.

Marriage is not about choosing the right person, but about making the other person the right person. Whether you have been married for many years or are about to enter the palace of marriage, this book will help you better improve your wisdom and ability to manage your marriage. is the most down-to-earth'A treasure book of marriage and love, a bible of sexual emotions that has swept the world.

Born in Hamburg, Germany, Karen is a major representative of the contemporary neo-psychoanalytic school in the West, along with Adler, Jung, Ranke, Fromm, etc. In 1912, Honey received her M.D. from the University of Berlin and studied with Freud's friend Karl Abraham. He immigrated to the United States in 1932 and founded the American Association for the Advancement of Psychoanalysis in 1941, and established the American Institute of Psychoanalysis as its director.

Her ** did not receive the attention she deserved because she was far ahead of her time, but since the republication of Psychology of Women in 1967, Karen has been recognized as the first great psychoanalytic feminist.

Author : Flåm.

Publisher: China Overseas Chinese Publishing House.

Original title: Flåm.

Translator : Xu Shuzhen.

Published: August 1, 2013

Pages: 224

Price: 32 ;

How to overcome. 1. Get along honestly Love is a kind of force that makes people work hard, and the husband and wife are first of all a kind of harmony between the thoughts and feelings of both parties, and a kind of mutual compensation in psychological activities, so that both parties can produce a warm and coordinated healthy psychology. Therefore, it is more pleasing for husbands and wives to be honest with each other, to respect and love each other, and to take care of each other than to give gifts.

2. Communicate frequently Husbands and wives should often sit down to exchange opinions, communicate ideas, and pour out the joys and hardships in their hearts. Especially in times of adversity, what you need most is the comfort of your loved ones. A word of sympathy and an encouraging look will reduce the psychological pressure of the other party, enhance the confidence and strength to overcome difficulties, and truly see the truth in the midst of adversity.

3. Respect each other's personality traits A couple, even if they are childhood sweethearts, still have their own personality traits. Some husbands are active and have been wandering outside for many years, and they can't stay at home. And the wife is quiet and has a narrow social surface, and hopes that her husband will be at home with her all day long.

Every time the husband returns, the wife is unhappy, and sometimes she is a little petty, and if the husband can't stand it, there may be a quarrel. An empathetic wife or husband should respect the personality of the other person, do not impose her will on the other person, and reserve a certain amount of freedom for the other person to allow the other person to have their own social circle. In this way, marriage is not a kind of confinement, but not only to give full play to their individual characteristics, but also to be a warm home for mutual attachment.

4. Learn to be patient Husbands and wives must learn to be patient, Chekov said: "The most important thing in married life is patience." "When the other person loses his temper or sends a provocative signal, it is best to take a patient and avoid way, or put yourself in the position of understanding the cause to help relief, rather than being influenced by the other person's emotions and putting yourself in a bad emotional state.

5. Take the initiative to undertake housework After getting married, there are major matters that need to be negotiated together, but more often are the daily chores of firewood, rice, oil and salt. The equal interaction between husband and wife is manifested in the joint sharing of housework, and taking the initiative to undertake a part of the housework is a concrete manifestation of the husband's love for his wife and the wife's consideration for her husband. If you need the other person's help, it's best to replace the commanding "you do it" with a friendly "help".

6. Influence the other party Use your own warmth to make the other party get probation. For example, on a rainy day, the husband takes the initiative to take an umbrella to meet his wife at the station; The husband reads or writes at night under the lamp, and the wife quietly brings a cup of hot tea and hot milk. This kind of practice of enhancing feelings often makes the other party resentful.