How can true friendship between friends be maintained?

You don't have to deliberately maintain it, if you two are destined, no matter how far you go, he will be there. If you don't, even if you try hard to keep up, you will still be separated. I have an old friend of almost 15 years, and I have really played together since preschool, and we were originally in the same class in the middle, and we were in different classes after the third grade of elementary school, but the relationship is still very good.

The junior high school was different, the high school was even the same area, and I moved to another city and only went back once or twice a year. At that time, we were 700 kilometers apart. Now, we are in college, and the distance is even farther, more than 2,000 kilometers apart.

However, the distance did not shorten our relationship, and we were all nervous about studying in middle school before, and there was almost no communication. I also only see her once or twice a year. However, every time we meet, we hit it off at first sight, there is no sense of distance, she is still her, I am still me.

Look at what friends. Very good friends, if you work or study in one place, then you can be together more and help each other. If you don't often be together, chat occasionally, ** or something, you can also come to a small gift, anyway, whether friendship or love is mutual, you pay others can see, others pay you also in the eyes, two people can become good friends, it is not easy, cherish it, after all, it is not easy to have a good friend. ‍‍

A long time ago, I thought that good friends don't need to maintain a relationship with each other, and a look from someone who understands you is enough. After a long time of interacting with people, I feel that if there is something dissatisfied between good friends, it is not good for both parties to hold it in their hearts, but the gap will get bigger and bigger. A friendship is a matter for all parties, not one person's responsibility.

The most important thing between good friends is trust. Finally, share a movie line: "There is too much malice in the world, but if we support each other, those malice will naturally leave." ”‍

It's just a personal opinion, if the relationship between friends needs to be "maintained", it should not be considered a good friend. The way good friends get along with each other should be natural and comfortable, and there is no need to deliberately maintain them. If you want to maintain this relationship, it can only mean that the relationship is not good enough, so bad that you are worried that if you don't maintain it, the relationship will fade, this is not confidence in yourself, but also lack confidence in the other party, or you are very insecure, deliberate maintenance will only make this friendship slowly come to an end. ‍‍

Friendship, for me, I think it has to be maintained, it's not good to be too close, and it's not good to be too far away. And this degree is difficult to master. A good friend of mine, a college roommate, went to work in my current city after graduation, and she came half a year later.

Then I took good care of her all the time, and she was also very dependent on me. The reason must have started at that time: her ex-boyfriend from college came back to her, and I kept telling her not to, but she still reconciled with the boy behind my back.

In the end, because I said that her boyfriend was bad and blamed me, I stopped asking her, and she felt that I was estranged again. I don't know when I knew I was worried about her in the first place, but I was sure that our friendship was a memory by the time she understood. ‍‍

To tell everyone a heart-wrenching word, friends should also settle accounts. Whether it is a student or a society, I personally think that settling accounts between friends is still very conducive to a harmonious friendship. Of course, gifts to each other don't count.

You eat together, travel together, travel together, maybe for convenience, some money is paid by a certain person, then I think the other person should consciously take the initiative to ask, how much money was spent? Let's AA. Everyone's money, whether it is earned by their parents or themselves, is not easy to come by.

Ask how much you spend, and take the initiative to share it with others, which is a kind of respect for each other. ‍‍

Say hello during the New Year's holidays, go to school, take the initiative to ask friends out to play during the winter and summer vacations, tell your friends about your current situation and ask him about his recent situation. I didn't take the initiative to maintain the friendship with my two high school classmates, and now I feel a little late when I am about to graduate from my senior year, but unfortunately, I was a very good friend at the time, and I hope you don't want to be like me.

Maintaining a friendship requires mutual trust and appreciation.

Don't let friendship turn into a hidden one, compare who has the richest, have the best clothes or the coolest car, don't argue with friends, this practice will only turn friendship into a bad comparison, build a healthy, realistic self-image, vanity and low self-esteem will prevent you from making new friends, cultivate honesty, generosity, humility and make you a compassionate and respectable friend, avoid endless complaining, incessant complaining is tiresome and make friendship go away from you, Talk to your close friends about how to change the unpleasant parts of your life.

Care about your friends and learn about their living conditions. Don't always talk about your own problems, if you are only keen on your own ideas, friendship will not last long, don't idealize friends, there are no two identical leaves in the world, although friends and you have similar temperament, similar interests, and similar sex, but friends are a living person after all, there will always be some differences with you, there will always be such and such shortcomings, there will always be secrets that you don't want others to know, so, socialize with friends, don't idealize friends too much, don't take all the words and deeds of friends as a reference to me.

We all wish we could have lifelong friends, but we miss out on a lot of friendships in the process.

In my own experience, I have been deeply impressed by the following regretful friendships: breaking a friendship because of the separation of spring potatoes, giving up a friendship because of misunderstandings, and losing a friendship because of missing out.

1. A hand-object friendship was interrupted because of separation.

It was very nice to have a playmate as a child. But at that time, I was still young and didn't know what friendship was. If the two of us can be together, we will definitely make a beautiful friendship when we grow up.

But because we were separated from each other and no longer in touch, our friendship was broken, which left me with a lot of regrets.

2. Gave up a friendship because of a misunderstanding.

I had a good relationship with a good friend. However, because of a misunderstanding, a conflict arose between us. ......Neither of us handled it properly, so we parted, and a friendship that should have been made was abandoned.

In retrospect, I felt very sorry. If we had tried to keep it a little longer, we would have been able to continue to be good friends......

3. Lost a friendship because of a miss.

When I was in school, I admired a classmate in my neighboring class very much, and I often wanted to make friends with him, and we had established a certain relationship with each other.

If we continue like this, we should be able to build friendships. ......However, due to graduation and further education, we missed each other and never kept in touch again, and our friendship was lost because of this.

The above lost friendships have left me with very deep regrets. From this, I also deeply realized that it is difficult to find a confidant and cherish it when I meet a confidant.

It is the way to maintain friendship between friends, which is to call each other from time to time, and to maintain communication, this is the most important way, after all, friendship over there will slowly disappear and fade if you don't contact each other.

TrustIt is the foundation between friends.

For our friends around us.

I am too busy at work to have time to meet, I don't have the energy to visit specifically when I travel too far, and I can't afford to help under financial pressure.

This is my own experience, and it probably speaks to the hearts of the vast majority of people, so how can we maintain the friendship between good friends, let's take a look

TrustAs the foundation, lay a good foundation for friendship.

Sometimes you are teased, and a friend's unintentional words and actions may make you uncomfortable. But we have to believe in Him, there is no malice, and He will be on your side when it matters.

Emotional intelligenceBe a bridge that connects you, me and him.

The triangle is the most stable, the relationship between the three people is the most stable, there are contradictions, you can help each other talk, open up the channel. Then we have to open up our network, don't be one-on-one friends, try to go to his world to find a connection point, and can help you explain when it is critical.

Of course, emotional intelligence should also be mentioned in other places, for example, some rare days to send a text message, learn about each other's recent situation, and pay attention to the world.

Finally, to put itColleaguewithFriends Zen stalls sellThe difference is that colleagues have interests and superiors and subordinates, so many colleagues cannot be called friends. My advice to you for this category of so-called "friends" is:

Leave space for each other

Don't try to get too close to their lives, don't ask, don't listen, don't pass on privacy, you can do these three things well to maintain most of your colleague relationships.

2.Give full respect

Putting aside the relationship of interests and subordinates, why does the other party treat you well? Respect,Mutual understanding and respect are our second key points. This is a society that takes favors to do things, if you have no bottom line and don't know the rules, then what is the value of your favors?

Respecting others is about creating a good image for you and can increase your value.

The above is my suggestion, welcome, like and follow.