How strange is the family you married into?

When I was still living with my mother-in-law! I used to run a clothing store by myself, and the mall ended at half past six in the evening, and when I got home, I helped with housework around 7 o'clock. Later, I didn't do it again, so I went to help my friend do clothing wholesale, got up at 5:30 in the morning, went out at 6 o'clock, got off work at 2 o'clock in the afternoon, and arrived home at about 3 o'clock.

It's always been like this at this point in time, it's normal to have a good business one day, and it's been busy until more than 5 o'clock in the afternoon, and my friend said to go back after dinner! I also called ** back to say that I was working overtime, and my friend called me to eat, so I thought there was nothing wrong with it, and I called ** back to tell my mother-in-law to eat and go back.

My wife joined my family, and I didn't think there were so many expectations, everyone was very happy and got along well.

Personally, I don't like photography, but my mother-in-law loves photography very much, and she thinks that photography is very beautiful. She likes to pull me to take pictures together, but the problem is that the problem is that there are different people in different positions in the same place, and she can shoot for half an hour. And I don't know what young people are like nowadays, I can't accept such pompous poses.

I don't want her to say, do you think you're ugly? I don't have much more to say.

Oh my mother-in-law! My husband's family has three brothers, the three brothers all have jobs, my husband is the second, my mother-in-law has lived with us for more than ten years (about fourteen or fifteen years) The other two brothers can't pay a penny, my mother-in-law still thinks I'm not good, the third daughter-in-law only hit a few ** back, she still thinks the third daughter-in-law is better. My mother-in-law got up at six o'clock in the morning and went out for a walk, she didn't even help me sweep the ground, she wouldn't buy vegetables, and she never cooked (although she was seventy-two, because she had been with me for more than ten years, she looked like she was only sixty-two) and came back from a walk to get her own breakfast, and after eating, she went out to play cards, and came back to eat noon again.

My mother-in-law fights every morning, and she wants to fight in the afternoon (if she doesn't live with us at night, if someone calls her to fight at twelve o'clock at night, she will get up and fight) every day, often loses, usually loses seventy or eighty a game, she doesn't blink her eyes, my detergent, or laundry detergent, soap is gone, she is never willing to buy. My mother-in-law doesn't do our own things to do, but is quite enthusiastic about helping others, yesterday morning when I came home from work, my mother-in-law was helping others choose beans again, and my land has not been swept yet. Alas!

I was speechless when I met such a mother-in-law. I couldn't finish talking about my wonderful mother-in-law for three days and three nights.

My mother-in-law is not wonderful, she is very good to me, she has eaten with her for several years, there will always be my favorite dishes on the table, good dishes are reluctant to eat for us to eat, I am a little used to my son, but most of the time I can still listen to opinions, the most important thing is that she really treats me as her own family, if I have any physical problems, she is more anxious than myself, very moved! Financially, she also subsidizes our majority, if she goes out, I miss her more than her own children, worry about her, no matter what we have, although sometimes a little verbose, but the old people are like this, she is not bad-hearted, but thrifty us, young people are used to some habits, she is not used to it. I'm older and I've been worrying about my children.,I belong to the kind of person who doesn't care about himself at all.,Only think about your children.。

What I want to say is that my mother-in-law is not strange, her children, granddaughters, and granddaughters should hurt, and it is normal for me, an outsider who is not related by blood, not to hurt. I don't expect anything, usually delicious and thirsty are left to them, I asked the child to cook noodles and add an egg to me at the parent-teacher meeting, she is not allowed, this is not strange, normal, because she was not born, can be saved. I think that in the future, when she is old and unable to move, she will probably not need to be taken care of by me as an outsider.

One: The family style is not good.

The family style of a family can shape the child's personality, cultivate the child's character, and also have a subtle impact on his life. Children are more or less carrying the living habits and principles of their parents, and few people can really get rid of the influence of their original family.

Therefore, it is difficult for a family with a bad family style to educate children who are kind, upright, and responsible. In marriage, it is actually easy to see the family style of a family. Because when talking about marriage, it is inevitable to discuss the bride price and dowry, and it will inevitably involve conflicts of interest.

When it comes to money, it is best to see the true face of a family.

Two: Disrespect for women.

A family that blindly asks women to make sacrifices for the family and dictates whether or not women have children and when they give birth is a family that does not respect women. Marrying into such a family is also difficult to be respected in marriage, and marriage is bound to be unhappy.

Three: poor character.

The character of a family is reflected in all aspects of life. For example, whether to keep promises and whether to be honest are all the characters of a family. It's nothing more than being greedy for cheapness, having no integrity, not thinking about his son's marriage at all, just thinking that it would be good to be able to give a little less.

On the issue of bride price and dowry, if the family is in financial difficulty, it is completely possible to negotiate with each other and understand each other. But the boyfriend's family is obviously not a person who can't even get a 100,000 dowry, and it is clear that he doesn't want to give it. The most important thing is that the other party has not yet been honest, and what he promised can be reversed casually.

So what security can there be in the future married life?

Four: low quality.

When the two families meet for the first time, it stands to reason that they should be polite. Even if we talk about real issues such as bride price and RV, we should still have the most basic respect. However, the boyfriend's parents did not show the politeness that they should have in the world, but exposed their low quality everywhere.

For example, in the process of eating, the chopsticks were hurriedly moved as soon as a dish was served, and there was no polite scene; For example, in the process of communication, the language is vulgar, and once there is something dissatisfied, he begins to scold and scold, without leaving any affection.

Judging from the situation you mentioned, this family is more troublesome: judging from the attitude of your boyfriend and his family towards you, either the family conditions are very poor, and it is only 200 yuan to send a red envelope during the New Year, which is not enough! This premise is still that the conditions of his family are very poor, if the family conditions are okay, then it is even more unreasonable, it can only show that his family does not regard you as an important person, and looks at it very lightly!

Generally speaking, girls go to the man's house, they are all distinguished guests, don't tell me that you are unmarried and pregnant, and then go to his house, some traditional families look down on such women! Be careful. I hope it can help you, if you still have questions, you can add or send a private message, a psychological counselor in the middle of the study.

It's better not to marry in such a family, and you have to look at their faces when you marry like this, and I don't think there is any need to suffer such grievances, of course, if your husband loves you more, you can try to communicate with him.

Your kind of family is too powerful, they don't have a good face for you, and if you marry now, it will be even worse. Therefore, this family must not be married.

The relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law has been difficult to solve since ancient times, since the mother-in-law does not like herself and does not pay attention to herself, it depends on whether you know whether to help you speak, stand on your side, look at this, he only cares about his family, you can consider changing people to get married, after all, it is just a relationship, if you marry in the past, you may have to suffer.

Hello! Please describe the problem in detail!

There are three types of families that cannot be married the most: families in which parents are in charge; a family that stirs up trouble; Families who are calculating.

1. Families where parents are in charge:

In today's society, parents occupy a dominant position in many families, and no matter what, parents are smart to participate, which will only interfere with their children's marriage and happiness. Because no matter what you do, you have to do it according to their wishes, and if you marry a man from this kind of family, you will lose yourself and make compromises in your marriage. We need to know that choosing a happy marriage is up to us, not by the support and guidance of our parents.

2. Families that stir up right and wrong:

There is a kind of family of parents who always like to stir up feelings between you and her son in their marital relationship. Because they want their son to stand in the united front with him, in the face of this kind of family, we can say that they are very selfish and will do whatever it takes to destroy their son's happiness for their own benefit. After marrying this kind of man, if the man does not take responsibility to recognize the reality, the woman will definitely be very aggrieved.

3. Families who are calculating:

If family members are all scheming with each other, it will affect the child's personality. It can even lead to the fate of the child in the future. If parents are constantly arguing with each other, there is no tolerance and love for each other, which can also affect the fortune of a family.

Husband and wife are happy when they accompany each other, and marrying into those families who are scheming often does not even have harmony. Therefore, before getting married, you must look at the other party's family and parents' relationship patterns.

Best for families getting married:

1. A family with harmonious members: A family with harmonious members must have a unique charm, and the chosen person will definitely bring a happy life to their children, so that they will not be full of various contradictions after marriage.

2. There is no doting family: The paternal love and maternal love in a family often form a contradictory relationship with doting, although they are all a kind of wordless love, the impact on children is completely different.

3. Accept and appreciate your family: If you can marry into a family that accepts and appreciates you, and the other party cherishes this relationship very much, you can naturally reap a happiness. Marriage is not only a matter of two people, but also a matter of two families, and mutual acceptance and appreciation are the foundation of marital happiness.

The three types of families that are least able to marry are: violent families, families that do not respect family values, and families that lack communication and trust.

1. Violent family: This refers to the family where there is domestic violence. This family environment can lead to physical and psychological harm, negatively affecting personal and family relationships.

2. A family that does not respect family values: The family should be a place where values are shared and respected. If a family member does not respect the values and beliefs of other members of the family, it can lead to long-term friction and conflict.

3. Families that lack communication and trust: Healthy family relationships are built on the foundation of communication and trust. If a family lacks good communication and mutual trust, relationships between family members can become distant and unstable.

Family Disadvantages of Lack of Communication and Trust:

1. Not understanding each other: In such a family, family members may not be willing or have the opportunity to communicate with each other and understand each other's needs, feelings and ideas. This leads to a sense of strangeness and estrangement from each other.

2. Difficulty in decision-making: Due to the lack of effective communication channels and a foundation of trust, it is difficult for family members to agree on important decisions. This can lead to unclear, delayed or controversial decision-making, negatively impacting family and individual development.

3. Contradictions and conflicts: Lack of communication and trust can easily lead to the accumulation of contradictions and conflicts. Unable to express and solve problems effectively, problems can accumulate and escalate and eventually damage family relationships.

After carefully reading your details, I think that the two of you are not in the right household, and I will break up! Here's why:

1. The man's parents don't treat you as a family with them! Because when you quarreled with your boyfriend, he wasn't on your side!

10,000 yuan gift money is not much in today's society, if you really want the two of you to get married, it shouldn't be difficult to borrow this money! The question of good faith.

3. Your boyfriend doesn't love you deep enough! If he loves you deeply, then seeing how his parents behave, he should come out and say a few words!

4. Your distance problem, a family like this, you have married, and if there is a problem in the future, it will be difficult to go back to your parents' home!

5. On your terms, it's not difficult to find a better one! Believe in yourself and stand up bravely!

Love needs two people to create together, and at the same time, it is inseparable from the approval of both parents.

I feel that you are not suitable, even if you are suitable, his parents are like that, and you will not be happy when you marry.

I also suggest that you think carefully, the marriage of two people is not a matter of two people, but a matter of two families, obviously in your boyfriend's heart, his parents' home is greater than your wife's home, now the in-laws have nothing, he only thinks about his family, in the future, there are many such men in society, and in the end, they are all married, women have children, women pay a lot of attention to children, and then they no longer think about their husband's badness, that is, a compromise of life, so if you can't let go of your feelings, I also understand that there may be such a thing in the future, you can accept it, and it will be fine! Otherwise, if you have your own personality and ideas, don't force yourself to get married.