Adapt to what you can t change, and don t complain. Who said this

To adapt to everything that can't be changed, don't complain, who said this? I think that no matter who says this sentence is completely reasonable, no matter who says it, as long as every sentence is reasonable, I think it is correct, I think it is correct, I think there is all the truth for such a person to say such and such a thing, otherwise he would not say such a truth, because such a person's image is also very good, everything he does and every word he says is very correct, I think it should be like this.

Adapt to what can't be changed, don't complain, this sentence is a truth. Emotions are like a pool of water, and a grain of sand falling into the water will change the water level, even if it seems calm - the purest emotions also have their unfathomable side.

Everyone's attitude towards feelings will be different, each person has their own emotional principles, and they have their own bottom line to accept - you had better ask yourself what your principles and bottom line are, and how to make your inner self really happy.

You look at 18 to 25, children, there are a few who don't complain, they are blessed and don't enjoy, they are located in the attached middle school, the only child, born to bear ** now, they are so happy, find a way to suppress him, the resentment in their hearts.

The first time I was deeply impressed by the word complaining was when there was a classmate in the dormitory of the university, and every day before going to bed, when everyone chatted, she would count and complain in various ways, and the reasons and reasons shocked my jaw. Someone else accidentally bumped into her, someone else looks better than her, someone else is taller than her, someone is thinner than her, someone else is better than her, someone else is better than her, etc., can cause her dissatisfaction and resentment, at that time, I knew for the first time that there were so many reasons for complaining that I couldn't figure out, and I never knew that a person could have such a big negative emotion. Slowly, everyone paid careful attention, tried to avoid topics that could arouse her emotions, and even kept silent, for fear of saying something wrong that would ignite her emotions.

After graduating from college, I naturally cut off contact. I really want to tell her that if I don't change what I can change, just sit there and complain, the status quo will not get better because of this, except for increasing my own troubles and keeping the people around me away, it is not beneficial.

Friend's mother, strong and strong, likes to be domineering, rarely considers problems from the position of others, has been complaining about her ex-husband after the divorce, abandoning his wife and children, going to live with other women to raise other people's children and not raising his own own children, telling his son not to be like his father in the future, her son is slightly unhappy, she will split her head and face to blame and complain, she is not as good as raising her son as Tong stupid to raise a cat and dog, at least obedient, as if the whole world owes her. A friend said that when he got divorced, his father kowtowed to his mother three times, said thank you and let him go, and walked away without looking back. That image lingered in his mind.

He said that if he had a choice, he would not have grown up in such a family, he was too depressed, and he didn't know if he would go crazy one day. Mom is obviously a strong woman, but there are always things to complain about, he is the only loyal listener who can't leave, he must listen to it, otherwise the consequences are unimaginable, what he is most willing to do is to drink too much every day and go home, just sleep, because he will not be disturbed.

I would like to say to those who are accustomed to complaining instead of actively seeking solutions, if you really love yourself and the people around you, from now on, be a person who does not complain, at least do not take complaining as the norm of life, you don't know how much trouble and pressure your complaint will bring to the people around you. Instead of spending time complaining, take the time to calm yourself down, find ways to solve it, make changes, and maybe when you start making changes, you will be able to complain less and less, and you will become more positive as a result.

You only have one life, so why not experience as many good life experiences as possible, and spend precious time complaining? Life is never meant to be complained about, but needs to be changed. May we all face life more positively and optimistically, maybe inadvertently, life will give you a big surprise.

The meaning and help of complaining:

From the perspective of social psychology, emotion is a general term for a series of subjective cognitive experiences, and is a psychological and physiological state produced by the synthesis of multiple feelings, thoughts and behaviors. This means that emotions are not only subjective feelings, but also objective physiological reactions, and are purposeful behaviors.

It is not only a social expression, but also a pluralistic and complex comprehensive event. What's more, whether it is a positive emotion or a negative emotion, it is related to factors such as our mood, personality, temper, and the purpose of our behavior. Complaining about this also means that friends take scum:

All emotions are an expression of our hearts and provide us with useful information.

Clinical psychologist Arnold once proposed: "Emotions are the tendency to experience things that tend to be beneficial to perception and harmful to leave perception." This experiential tendency is accompanied by a corresponding pattern of physiological change of approach or avoidance.

So, it can be said that "complaining" actually has its own necessity for us, and it helps.

<> "Instead of complaining, it's better to change.

What is Raven's Law?

One day, when the crow was ready to leave the forest, he said goodbye to the pigeon. The pigeon asked the crow: Why did you move away?

The crow said, "I don't want to move either, but the neighbors here are not kind to me, they think my cry is too ugly, they don't welcome me, and I can't stay any longer." The pigeon pondered for a long time, and said this to the crow:

Friend, if you don't change your voice, no matter how you fly to**, no one will welcome you.

The sign of maturity is to constantly reflect on oneself, face shortcomings and shortcomings, and learn to change oneself.

How to get rid of the law of the crow?

l.Don't blame when things happen.

Blame yourself with the heart of others, and forgive others with the heart of forgiveness.

Something has already happened, and blaming others will not help, it will only add to the troubles. Everyone is not a sage, and it is possible to make mistakes, and blindly blaming will only make things worse.

Learn to empathize, compare your heart with your heart, and learn to be tolerant, and the road of life will be wider and wider.

How to get rid of Raven's Law?

2.Bad things don't get entangled.

After fighting with the dragon for too long, he became a dragon himself. Stare into the abyss for too long, and the abyss will stare back. Code Nian Wheel".

From Nietzsche in The Other Side of Good and Evil.

People will encounter a lot of bad things in their lives, everything has to be considered right and wrong, and in the end, what is tired is that they are not entangled and not cowardly, but let go. We can't change the existence of rotten people, and we can't stop rotten things from happening.

But we can change our mindset.

How to get rid of Raven's Law?

3.How high and bent to read when you have time.

Your main problem is that you read too little and think too much. ”

From Mr. Yang Jiang's quotes.

Reading is the best medicine for everything, and the books you read will be integrated into your blood and become a part of your temperament.

The questions and doubts that you can't solve in life can be answered and comforted in the book.

How to get rid of Raven's Law?

Don't blame when you encounter problems, find problems from yourself; Don't dwell on bad things, learn to let yourself go; If you have time to read more, find the meaning of life, be strict with yourself, and be lenient with others; Excellent people will attribution inward, constantly improve themselves, and achieve self-transcendence through self-reflection and thinking.

<> "Instead of complaining, it's better to change.

Crow's Law"In the forest, a crow says goodbye to its friend White Dove, saying that he is moving. The white pigeon was puzzled: "Why do you have to move away?"

The crow replied: The people here are too bad for me, they think I scream badly, and when we meet, they cover their ears, I really can't stay anymore, the white pigeon asked, "But have you ever thought about Qingtong?"

If you don't change your voice, you won't be welcomed wherever you move. When the crow heard this, he was speechless.

1. The biggest stupidity of people is: complaining about the sky. There is a mentality in psychology called "victim mode", and people with this mentality will unconsciously regard themselves as a victim at any time, in front of anyone, or anything.

Always complaining is an evasion of one's own responsibilities, and it is also an early abandonment of inaction. If you don't change some of your shortcomings, but blindly choose to escape, then the problem will not be solved, and you will be troubled by more problems. The sign of a person's maturity is to be able to reflect on oneself from time to time, face one's shortcomings and shortcomings calmly, and strive to change.

2. Attribute things inward, don't run away from having to take responsibility The crow in the story encountered difficulties, and what I thought of was just to escape, instead of carrying the burden, facing the difficulties, solving the problem, and making changes. The problem is that the weak complain as an excuse, but it is the cultivation ground of the strong; A truly mature person is often able to face his own mistakes, recognize his own situation, learn lessons from failures, and turn his shortcomings into advantages. Our life has feelings and responsibilities, so that our dignity will not be lost.

3. Instead of complaining, change. The crow in the story does not blame himself for others, he just wants to change the environment to get comfort, excellent people always have high requirements for themselves, they will often self-reflect, and achieve self-transcendence in thinking. Don't worry about bad people and bad things, because all these are the past, don't be cowardly to escape when encountering difficulties and challenges, take on the due responsibility, and only with the palm down can life grow towards the sun, the sign of a person's maturity is to be able to reflect on themselves from time to time, calmly face their shortcomings and shortcomings, and strive to change.

Dressing up. Not blaming in case of trouble not only reflects a person's cultivation, but also allows things to be handled better. Not dwelling on bad things is not only an attitude, but also a kind of wisdom. (Not to dwell on is not cowardice, but to let go; We can't change the existence of rotten people, we can't change the development of rotten things, so learn to change our mentality) The success or failure of life is determined by ourselves, instead of complaining, it is better to change, so that we can make ourselves better and better.