What does it feel like to force yourself not to like others?

In fact, when I saw this question, my first reaction was distress. Because I think only people who have really been hurt will make themselves stop liking others.

Whether it is for friendship, or for love or family affection, we may not get anything in return while giving, but will be hurt by the other party, at this time we may not have the courage to use the same feelings, like the next person.

It's like when I was hurt by my first love, I told myself that I would never fall in love again, but maybe it was because of the budding of puberty, hormones kept shouting, and then I fell in love with someone again.

I know that I really like this person, but I really don't dare to give to him like I did for my first love, because I am afraid of being hurt in the same way, and I am afraid that my contribution will be particularly superfluous in his opinion.

So when dealing with this relationship, I felt that I was very cautious, and I never dared to take the initiative to give, and I forced myself not to like him very much.

That's why I feel very sorry for you right now. You must know that the pain that everyone gives you is to teach you a lesson and make you not be stupid in the future, but not all people will not know how to cherish you like the person before you.

We can't beat everyone to death with a stick, if we blindly run away and blindly force ourselves not to like someone, then the person who has been sincerely paying for us will feel hurt, and they will feel that their efforts are not rewarded, but are a burden in the eyes of others.

So like it once with your heart, don't deliberately control your own feelings, if you want to like him, then like it, sooner or later you will meet the right person.

It must have been a very uncomfortable feeling. If you don't talk about love first, you can't let him know that you love him, and that feeling must be even more helpless and painful.

I still remember that I had a very good girlfriend next to me, and she liked a guy very much, from the first sight. She didn't dare to show her heart, because she knew that this boy had someone she liked. They have been together for a long time, so she can only bless.

Seeing him and the girl she liked laughing happily, she would be happy but more uncomfortable, and she told me that she wished she was the one standing next to him. If the boy quarrels with the girl she likes and is sad and sad, she will be even more heartbroken, but she is not qualified to share his pain without status. She could only watch silently, silently distressed, but I felt that he was really stupid and stupid, obviously the other party would not notice her at all, but she still kept paying attention to all his dynamics.

I can understand her pain, in fact, I like someone, jealousy is not terrible, jealousy is not terrible. Quarrels aren't scary, and breakups aren't scary. Because at least qualified to be together, at least once together, but there are some people who are destined to have no fate from the beginning, and it is actually even more sad that they are not even qualified to love.

I can only watch from afar, and miss from afar. Never get it.

Of course, you can't like others, in addition to the other party already has a beloved, there must be some other reasons. For example, you feel that you are not worthy of each other or that you are married, and at the same time you love your lover and like someone else at the same time. Life is really the root of all people, first come first come, first come, first come, the person we like is a type of person rather than a single person.

But the first person becomes your lover, and the later person can only be regarded as a meeting even if you like it. Because you have to be loyal, because you have to respect yourself and the feelings of others, and you have to be responsible for yourself and others. Even if you will be very painful sometimes, you must refrain from it, because a lifetime is too long, you don't know how many people you will meet, do you have to like it and be together?

This is unrealistic and not allowed.

So even if it's painful, even if it's sad, even if it's helpless, even if you have more feelings and more thoughts, you must see the facts clearly and take life seriously.

It's like you're hungry to the extreme, and you have a full feast in front of you, but you can't eat because you're waiting for someone. You value a piece of clothing so much that you want to buy it, but you don't have enough money in your pocket. Obviously he has someone he likes, but he has a girlfriend, it's impossible to be with you, what do you think it's like?

Some people may have been hurt once or twice, and then they don't dare to fall in love again, she is afraid that others will hurt her and lie to her. As a result, I obviously met someone I liked, but because of the timidity in my heart and my lack of psychological confidence, I was afraid of being hurt by others again! And tell yourself not to like this person!

Everyone knows that if you let yourself give up what you like very much, you will be extremely resistant in your heart. <>

My boyfriend and I met him first, and at the beginning, he treated me badly, not at all as good as other boyfriends did to their girlfriends! I later separated from him and asked him why? He said that it was because of the last girlfriend who abandoned him, and then caused her psychological damage, which led to it, he didn't believe that I would like him so much, after all, love at first sight is also very fragile, he was afraid that he would be abandoned again, so he has been unwilling to pay my sincerity to me, and has been unwilling to admit that he likes me, until he later separated, he found out that he liked this person, but he had missed it.

There are many people who have experienced similar things and know that it is impossible. So I forced myself not to be interested in something or someone from the beginning, or to show that I liked it. But in the end, it's yourself who is embarrassed, and never do things that you regret and regret!

People come to live in this world, if they can't be with the people they like, and can't do what they like, what a regret and failure. That frustration that emanates from the depths of the heart is incomparable to anything! Besides, forcing yourself not to like others will also be tormented in your heart, wandering between love and non-love, many things are destined, and it is also fate, why force yourself!

Since you are alive, you do what you like and like the people you like. This is a beautiful life!

Generally speaking, Gao Xiqing said that it is a very bad and uncomfortable mood to be forced by people who like relatives. Normally, being forced by someone you like is often more uncomfortable than being forced by someone you don't like.

Summary. Forcing others to do things that others don't want to do, I personally think it's a kind of psychology of control, strong desire to control, hoping that the other party will do it according to their own standards, and disobeying their own ideas will cause emotional fluctuations, which is not a good result for both the individual and the other party, and it is counterproductive. In addition to violent beatings like the one you described in your description, there are other psychological disorders in addition to people who are extremely controlling.

Friction can only be reduced if everyone's survival rules are met.

Forcing others to do things that others don't want to do, I personally think it's a kind of psychology of control, strong desire to control, hoping that the other party will do it according to their own standards, and disobeying their own ideas will cause emotional fluctuations, which is not a good result for both the individual and the other party, and it is counterproductive. In addition to violent beatings like the one you described in your description, there are other psychological disorders in addition to people who are extremely controlling. Friction can only be reduced if everyone's survival rules are met.

Hope it helps.