How to distinguish between living up to yourself and being selfish ?

"Living up to oneself" is to get what oneself wants through one's own efforts, and "selfishness" is to achieve one's own goals by harming the interests of others.

Liu Tong wrote such a passage in "Your Loneliness, Although You Are Defeated" - you don't want to lose people, you are biased against many people. Therefore, you can only live up to others if you do your best to give everything you can and live up to yourself. When I first saw this sentence, it was fashionable and I didn't understand it until I had a similar experience, and I felt that it seemed to resonate.

"Living up to oneself" has always involved harming the interests of others, just to give an explanation for one's own efforts, not only for one's own years of hard work, but also for those who love themselves.

And "selfishness" is usually based on harming the interests of others, and they will never see that others are better than them, even if only a little. Even if others put in tens of millions of times more effort than them, they can't see it, but when others achieve something through their own efforts, they begin to complain about "why the same job, but the pay gap is so big". <>

People who live up to themselves are usually worthy of the respect of others, but "selfish" people are never worthy of our respect, maybe even if you are polite to him today, but when you touch his interests, he doesn't even remember who you are.

Be a person who knows how to work hard and enjoy life, even if life is tortuous and difficult, he will chase all the way forward to give himself an explanation, live up to himself and his relatives and friends who love him, no matter how unkind life is to himself, always adhere to the correct outlook on life, values and worldview to live, advocate using his own efforts to achieve success, not selfish to harm the interests of others in exchange for his own success, and not to build his own happiness on the pain of others.

Even if you can't be the savior of this world, you will never be the executioner of the slaughterhouse.

I think the easiest way to tell the difference between the two is to see if what you do in the name of "living up to yourself" hurts other people. When a person does something, if he works very hard to do it, maybe sometimes his way seems to outsiders to be too positive and too aggressive, but in the process, as long as he does not hurt others, but only achieves his own goals through his own efforts, I think this is called living up to himself.

But there really will be such a kind of person around us, they do things by unscrupulous means, as long as they achieve their own goals, regardless of the life or death of others, this is obviously selfish behavior. No matter how much such people disguise themselves, people will inevitably see their ugly side.

I had a friend who once complained to me about a very selfish person around her, this girl has always pretended to be a very approachable and caring person, but what she is doing behind the scenes is really disgusting.

This girl told my friend that she might be really uncomfortable and wanted to complain to my friend. Then she said that she might have to grab her best friend's head of the student work department to do it, she said that she is a very planned person and wants to be the leader of this student organization in the future, but her current minister does not want the position of minister to pass on to her, so she can only grab the position of head of another department after thinking about it, but the original head of that department is her best friend. She felt very sorry for her friend, but she still did something to steal someone's position.

I think this kind of selfishness is obvious, regardless of other people's efforts, you can betray your good friends for the sake of yourself. She thinks she's doing this to live up to herself, but I can only see the selfishness of Ming Huang.

In my opinion, living up to yourself is only in terms of feelings. And selfishness is in all aspects of life. Live up to yourself and don't hurt the interests of others. Of course, there is no right or wrong in terms of feelings, and selfish words are to destroy the interests of others for their own benefit.

In short, it is forced to refuse to live up to oneself, and selfishness is the first thing to think of oneself in everything, if it is not good for oneself. It won't be done lightly, but there are some people who hurt their interests. Selfish people will definitely double it back.

So it's still a matter of character.

It is often said that peers are enemies, but what if the company belongs to the same boss! Some people I have met are selfish to grab the resources of other subsidiaries for their own performance. <>

From an emotional point of view. Don't let yourself down, if you don't like it, you will reject it directly. Because I don't want to go against my heart.

Although I don't want to hurt others. When you don't want things to get worse, get worse. Because they know how to cut through the mess quickly, it is difficult to feel at ease to accept the good of others.

I don't want to live up to the expectations of others, but I don't want to wronged myself, so I can only say goodbye early?

Selfish people are, I don't like you and I don't refuse you, because after I reject you, you won't be good to me, and there will be one less person around me who is good to me, and I won't be able to enjoy your good before I meet the right person. Wait until I meet someone better and someone I like more. Then I will say goodbye to you.

And will only accept the good of others with peace of mind, but is unwilling to give. That's a problem with character. How can you not pay on the one hand, and accept the good of others with peace of mind!

In fact, the distinction between living up to oneself and selfishness is to be considered from many aspects. But in the end, it is the question of character that distinguishes between the two.

Living up to oneself refers to the reward that one's efforts and struggles should receive, and selfishness is relative to others, for a thing compared with the two or oneself does not pay a lot but on the contrary, others pay more in the same thing, on the contrary but get less, this is selfishness.

I used to tell myself that it is good to have to pay for the effort and energy I have made, and if I work hard in vain, it will be bad if I waste my energy, and then I will fail my own efforts and the efforts of others. Thinking about how many days and nights I have spent in the third year of high school, I have always felt that the results of the college entrance examination have failed my efforts. I don't want to talk about the hard work of the whole three years, but I must say that I am really sorry for the effort of the third year of high school.

How many times did I get up in the early morning to read, how many nights I still stayed up under the covers, and how many times did I secretly shed tears alone. I was expecting a perfect answer to the college entrance examination, but I didn't. I failed myself.

Because of this, I feel that I have failed myself, because what I have paid is not proportional to what I get, because I have paid more and I feel that it is really bad in my heart, and I have not achieved what I should have done, so I have failed myself. Living up to oneself means that one's own efforts are proportional to one's gains, giving what should be paid and getting what is due, I think so.

Selfishness is often what we do for other people, for example, in a team, we want to do the same thing together, but we pay very little, many things are done by others, and we don't spend energy and time on the team, but you also have to ask for the same return and harvest, such people are selfish. He who cares about himself and does not care about others is also selfish. Selfish people tend to see only their own interests.

Even to harm the interests of others for their own interests. I've seen selfish people who really don't care about other people's feelings, and they don't feel sorry for how much others give, they only take care of their own interests and how much they get.

Living up to oneself is that you really put in the corresponding efforts, and selfishness is not putting in the effort you should have in one thing, but you still expect to have the same reward. It seems to me that this is how the two are distinguished.

It depends on whether you are doing things to the detriment of others. If you simply "live up to yourself", then you must be a person who pursues a win-win situation, that is to say, you will not harm the interests of others while chasing the interests you deserve, and even bring gains to others; But if you are a selfish person, then you will do whatever it takes to move forward, even if it hurts others.

We will meet all kinds of partners on the way forward, and they all have the same idea as you at the beginning, and they all want to create a world for themselves through hard work. But in the process of moving forward, some of them slowly forget their true intentions. In the end, people who can truly achieve "being poor and being good alone, and being good at the same time as helping the world" are often the real gold left by the big waves and sands.

These people tend to be enthusiastic, proactive, and have a good heart. And you'll find that their careers are as vibrant and energetic as their hearts, so the more these people end up with fame and fortune.

But some people are different, they throw away their original vows, only know to focus on their own interests, and in the process of chasing interests, they continue to hurt others, so that their hearts gradually become indifferent, cruel, and unreasonable. Such people are sometimes in the majority, but their approach is really undesirable to us. Because even if they do get a moment of glory, this aura will not shine on their heads forever.

As the saying goes, good and evil will be rewarded in the end, and those who gain fame and fortune through unclean means will eventually fall back into the quagmire.

So in my opinion, "living up to others" and "selfishness" are still very different, we just need to see if a person is hurting the innocent. As the saying goes, "the road knows the horsepower, and the people see the hearts of the people over time", people with open fire in their hearts have a clear conscience after all. Therefore, on the way forward, we must work hard and not go astray.

In my understanding, there is a clear difference between "living up to oneself" and "being selfish".

For example, if I want to live up to myself, then I will work hard for what I want, and this thing is definitely a goal that I can't achieve for the time being, but in order to achieve this goal, I will definitely sacrifice something to achieve success.

To give you a very simple example, swimming was compulsory in our school at that time, and if you couldn't pass the swimming test, you wouldn't be able to get a graduation certificate, so I put a lot of effort into learning to swim at that time.

I think when I first went to the pool, I didn't even dare to go into the water, I clung to the shore and didn't dare to let go, this is my boyfriend who has been with me all the time, and I still don't feel at ease, and finally choked on the water and began to squat outside and cry, because I felt that I was too useless.

Then I made up my mind that in order to learn to swim, I must make a little sacrifice, even if I was choked by the water many times, it didn't matter, and it was the scorching summer, in order to swim, my whole back was sunburned, but I didn't flinch at all, maybe I learned more slowly, but I think it was still relatively solid, and in the end, when I took the swimming test, I still passed with a good score, which can be regarded as living up to myself.

But the difference between selfishness is that no matter what you do, you only think about yourself, completely ignore the feelings of others, and insist on doing it as long as you think it is right, and you don't care how many people will be hurt by doing that thing.

For example, if you are in a team, you don't have a team job, but because you are not very good at it or do not want to do it, you don't want to take on that part of the responsibility and leave everything to someone else, which is a sign of selfishness.

To live up to oneself is to try to make oneself better, but selfishness is completely for one's own interests, and it is not good for oneself at all.

This topic can be talked to you for a lifetime, and you can't learn it!

A manifestation of selfishness.

In all things, you are the master of yourself.

Others must not disobey the faction.

If the relatives don't follow themselves at all.

Just all kinds of unhappiness.

Never consider other people's feelings.

Never wronged yourself Those you don't want to love don't love, you don't see people you don't want to see People and things that make me unhappy can be ignored Especially life outside of work What I need is freedom to live with my own wishes and will Not for my parents, not for my family, not for anyone, because those are at most just fetters or excuses, only for myself This is by no means selfish

Living up to oneself is not the same as doing a lack of morality, what is it to live up to oneself, that is, to maximize one's own interests, but, how to maximize one's own interests is completely different, robbing a bank seems to be the maximization of interests, however, a death sentence is lost, that is called minimization, relying on selfishness to plunder other people's wealth seems to be the maximization of interests, but, in the end, being despised, not only can not get interest, but become stinky shit, this kind of person completely fails himself, if a person thinks about others everywhere, Everything takes into account the feelings of others, is willing to be a ladder for others, and is smart and studious, then, it won't be long before he is the leader of everyone, everyone is willing to follow his lead, he will get the wealth he deserves, be a man, and he will live up to his choice of way to maintain more people. So, you are doomed to fail yourself in this way.