Marriage in today s society, do you choose to marry love, or choose to marry money?

Tell me a story.

Zheng Ming is an ordinary second-class university student, and his family is very ordinary, even a little mediocre.

Zheng Ming is more than one meter and eight, and his appearance is Zhouzheng. He entered this university, and he didn't feel any different from everyone else.

The same military training, the same classes, the same chasing girls. I also like small, soft and weak girls, like Cuicui.

Cuicui is a child in the mountains, delicate and cute, and they meet during a club activity.

Zheng Ming chased Cuicui, and they were naturally together.

Zheng Ming was very happy, this was the first time he wanted to be wholeheartedly good to a person since he was a child.

They were together, boys, very artistic, and wrote a lot of love poems to girls. They are on the circle of friends every day, making others think that this is a model couple.

They even discussed what they thought would be the future, and they thought that the other person was the only one for each other.

But slowly the contradiction appeared, everyone knows that two people, if they fall in love, they especially need the support of money. But both people's families were poor, and they planned to <>

Saving money together, they had a **, each person saved 500 yuan a month as a public expense. But I still can't make ends meet, because every time I go out to play, I need at least three hundred. Coupled with the usual variety of milk tea and some small things, the two of them had a very painful time.

The girl couldn't bear it first, saying that we all have a bright future. But I can't bear the hard life now, and now the expenses are so small, we can't bear it. I can't imagine our future.

Love is finally lost to bread.

After all, any love must return to the material, because people have to rely on material things to survive, and no one can survive with love for a lifetime.

It cannot be said that eternal love is only found in fairy tales, and there is also touching love in real life. It's just ** in life, and higher than life. It exaggerates the weight of love and reduces the weight of material things.

And isn't the love in ** also based on a material basis, which best actor doesn't fall in love with the heroine on a material basis? When the hero and heroine love to death and live on a material basis, and then return to reality, they will be knocked down by material deprivation, which becomes a tragedy. A typical example can refer to Mr. Lu Xun's "Death by Injury".

Therefore, the material is the foundation, and love is something higher than the spiritual level suspended on the material basis, and I believe that no one will always be hungry to fall in love.

I think the question you are talking about is just how thick this material foundation is with love. Some people can have love as long as they have a basic material foundation. And some people need to have a solid material foundation in order to talk about love.

As for the latter, I think this kind of love is already a "love" that is not pure and degenerate.

Many couples are on the verge of an emotional breakdown. The biggest problem is not that their feelings have faded or their needs have changed, but that they have stopped dating, fallen in love and sweetly spent time after marriage. The importance of dating after marriage is overlooked by many people, and this situation ruins a lot of marriages and families.

And the man goes on a date with his lover after getting married, which satisfies the man's emotional needs. A marriage certificate is a guarantee of the purity of love, which is the biggest misconception in the world because it is not romantic at all. Whether it is in a relationship or in a marriage, quarrels are an unavoidable thing, after all, even if your feelings are good, there will be times when there are conflicts, and once there is a conflict, then it is not far from quarrels.

But in fact, quarrels are not a big deal, it can be said that as long as they are handled properly, they will hardly have any impact on your relationship, but can sometimes deepen the bond with each other. Of course, it also depends on whether your handling is appropriate, and some people are really bad at handling it, which will have a great impact on their feelings. And sometimes you will find that your man seems to ignore you completely after a fight, which makes you feel very uneasy, and once thought that the other party was going to break up with you.

But it's very unlikely, and many times they do it for another reason. Generally speaking, a man completely ignores you after a quarrel, it's just because of these three reasons, don't fall for him!

Marriages that are in love at different stages of life and choose to choose will certainly be selectively different. If it is at the age of ignorance of first love. When you choose to get married after falling in love, most people will choose to believe in love.

The amount of money will be relatively small. If a person after a long period of social grinding. When choosing a marriage, there are many factors that will be taken into account in terms of life and work.

For example, food, clothing, housing and transportation, all aspects will be considered a lot, and these things will involve money. This is the time to choose marriage. In addition to love, money is certainly also an important aspect of choice.

Although it is said that poor couples are in decline. But if I had to choose, I would still be willing to marry love. Because marriage is inherently based on love, marriage without love is immoral.

What's more, if there is no money now, it does not mean that there will be no money in the future, and we can work together to create the future.

In today's society, choosing to marry money or choose to marry love is actually a choice that many people need to face, just like whether I live for love or live for material things is exactly the same. For some people, if his family is not short of money, he must need love, but if the family itself is not rich and needs money, then he must be willing to choose to marry money, so this specific situation needs to be treated specifically, and there is no standard answer.

If a girl who is short of money has a husband with a good income, she will marry him even if she doesn't love him much, but if the girl has money in the family and has the ability herself, she will choose the man she loves, and she will not settle for a relationship.

In fact, the problem of money and love in marriage is not absolute, and in the marriage of modern society, the phenomenon of absolutization and opposition between the two is becoming less and less. Therefore, it is actually a very ignorant question to talk about whether to choose to marry love or choose to marry money. Choosing to marry love does not mean that you can keep love for the rest of your life, and choosing to marry money does not mean that you will never have feelings.

Therefore, no matter what you choose, it is a realistic need, and to maintain the durability of the marriage, you must work hard to manage and maintain it.

I think it's better to marry money. Because feelings can be cultivated, if you are good to him, he may also be good to you. But love is a kind of fantasy thing, maybe he loves you today, and he won't love you tomorrow.

Love without bread does not last. If there is only love and no money, the relationship between you will not be maintained.

According to the concept of marriage in today's society, the average girl, she will choose to marry money, because love can't be eaten, no money, nothing can be done, marrying money, she can satisfy a lot of desires, any pursuit can be satisfied, you can suffer less and enjoy more, this is the current people's view of marriage.

Money, can you guarantee that you can marry love for the rest of your life, the rest is not such an ordinary day, it is better to let yourself live better, no matter which kind of love or money you choose, don't regret it, because that was your own choice at the beginning.

Everyone's outlook on life and values are different, so the choices are also different.

If it were my choice, I would choose love, because a marriage without love is unhappy, and money can be earned by two people working together.

If you marry money, although you will live a rich life, you will not feel the happiness of life.

Choose life. For marriage, there will be no happiness without love, but love will fade, so neither of these can be relied upon. Life is a process of understanding and even appreciating each other.

And there are a lot of things to do in life, try to be reasonable and understanding, such a life is long-lasting.

In today's society, I don't choose to marry love, because love will gradually cool down. They will not choose to marry money, because the edifice of money is easy to collapse. If I had the choice, I would rather look for a marriage to marry a living life.

If it were me, I would choose love, because with the person I love, even if the economic conditions are poor, I will feel very happy, and two people can work together, and if I marry money, I will feel very lonely, because money can satisfy material things.

But it doesn't give spiritual satisfaction.

In today's society, I still choose to marry love, because a marriage without love will not be happy, of course, a certain economic foundation should be there. But I don't get into marriage for money, first of all, two people have to have feelings.

Needless to say, I must choose love, if there is no love, then there is no practical point in adding money to win that kind of marriage. Be sure to choose marriage. Don't choose to get married for money.

With the change of the times, everyone's views on marriage are becoming more and more sober, and there has always been a popular saying that those women who choose to marry money are all money worshippers, and only those who do not look at each other's family environment and marry women who marry love are the best. In fact, these two situations are very rare in daily life, and many people are looking for a family with the right economic situation and getting married on a par with their own family. <>

It is very rare to marry love, or marry money, let alone both, as people say. Many people think that when discussing marriage, they are not talking about marriage, but doing business, because everyone has a very strong purpose, for example, when you care about blind dates, the other party will ask you about your family situation, financial problems and whether you have a car and a house at home, and it seems that these problems make people feel very helpless. But it profoundly reflects that people's attitude towards marriage is particularly sober, in fact, most women do not marry money in daily life, nor do they marry love, they marry an ordinary, pursuit of a stable husband, and often contradictions occur in life, the main contradictions are economic problems and ways of getting along.

That's why people later said: I thought I was married to love, but in the end, love didn't make him full. In fact, in real life, this situation is particularly realistic and cruel, for ordinary girls, because of their own conditions and family background, they simply cannot know rich people in life, let alone men with excellent moral character in all aspects.

There will not even be a chance to marry love, girls who like to watch Korean dramas will definitely be very familiar with the routines in Korean dramas, the rich and handsome with a black belly and a lot of gold just like an ordinary girl, and are willing to give up everything for him, in our eyes, this may be love, but this situation will not happen at all in real life, but it must be a minority, because for the different levels of the two classes, they have no chance to see each other, let alone know each other, In love.

I will choose to marry love, because I think a marriage without love will not last long, love is the foundation of marriage, if there is no love, it is boring to quarrel in marriage, and money two people can fight together.

I would choose to marry love. If you marry money, then the rest of the life will be very painful. Marriage without any affection is very difficult to maintain.

I would choose to marry money. Because love without physics is a plate of loose sand, love and money will be more reliable than money.

Will there be an accurate answer to this kind of thing? BiIn fact, everyone's actual situation is different, some people may choose to get married because of love, but some people may choose to get married because of money. It can only be said that everyone's pursuit is different, everyone just needs to respect their inner choice, don't care about other people's eyes, as long as you can get the marriage you want, it is perfect.

Some people will feel that they should find a person they love to marry, only then will their married life be happy, after all, for the rest of their lives, if they live with someone they don't love, this kind of life is really too unfortunate; But some people will feel that the economic conditions should be more important when getting marriedAfter all, marriage is not about falling in love, it's not just about falling in love, it's about two people who need to live togetherAnd living a life is nothing more than firewood, rice, oil, salt, sauce, vinegar and tea, all kinds of things in life need to be considered, and most of these things can be solved with money, so they will feel that marriage money is more important than love. <>

Anyway, in my opinion, I have no way to judge this matter, because I am not in a position to blame other peopleAfter all, these are the lives that everyone wants, and we can't force our own ideas on other people. Besides, there is no right or wrong in this kind of thing, you feel that your choice is right, but others will not think so, so don't stand on the moral high ground to blame others, as long as the life you choose is what you want, and you won't regret it in retrospect. <>

There was once such a sentence that caused controversy among everyone: I would rather cry in a BMW than laugh on a bicycle. At that time, many people thought that the girl who said this was too realistic, in fact, I couldn't understand why this girl made such a decision at the time, but as I got older, I seemed to understand her.

Some marriages are together because of love at the beginning, but with the loss of time, the original love has long been worn out by life, and in the end, there is no way to continue the marriage. So there's really no way to say which option is better, after all, none of us know what will happen in the future, but I think we just need to be honest.