Why can t you find what you re looking for?

Actually, what you want is not what you need, you have to find your needs from the details, such as the lover, what is the lover you need, what does the lover you need, cares about you, loves you, understands you, indulges you, gives you freedom, or gentle, when these are six people, who will you choose, love you, he doesn't give you freedom, understand you, he is not gentle, care about you, very indulgent you, will you still choose, you don't need it very much, so you will stay in want, when you need, You don't care if he's what you want or not, because there's always a side to him that isn't what you want.

In fact, in addition to looking at fate, people also have to go through running-in, it is easy to find someone who can love, it is not difficult to find someone who loves each other, it is indeed difficult to find someone who knows and loves each other for a lifetime.

Do you really understand what kind of partner you want?

It's not that if you feel good, you will definitely be your lifelong partner, and getting along doesn't mean true love!

When you are worried about a person, happy and happy, you will slowly fall in love with him (her), at this time you will pay for the other party, accept some small shortcomings of the other party, etc.; And when the other party also pays for you, then congratulations, you will be happy!

But love doesn't mean losing yourself! Love can change a person, but some principled issues should still be insisted on! Being assertive is a partner to rely on when you are confused!

Do you know what you want.

You should find someone who is worthy of your love, and you should not find someone who loves yourself, maybe someone who loves you, and you don't love him.

Hehe! It was meant to be! The kind of love you want is almost none, buddy, recognize the essence! If you want others to love you, you must first love her sincerely, but it is generally useless, and there are too many things mixed with love now.

Life is like this, when you find it, you feel that it is not suitable, in exchange for it, and in the end, it may or may not be suitable for you to be with yourself, it depends on what the person concerned does, and you will fall in love over time.

Don't miss the opportunity.

I've found that in a certain area, it's better to think about what you don't want than to go straight to what you want.

The scope here, such as, what kind of life you want, what kind of person you want to be, what kind of person you want to travel.

Because within a certain range, what you desire and want in your heart is only a small part, and most of us can't get into what we want to do for the first time.

And the things you don't want, or those things that you don't want but don't have much interest in, are certainly much more than you want.

And if you keep discovering what you don't want, then the original range will continue to shrink because of your constant exclusion. Then, in disguise, this actually makes you slowly get closer to what you want.

Therefore, it is really, very necessary to keep exploring and learning, and it doesn't matter if you find something new, even if it's not what you like, just eliminate it and then explore it.

And even if you find something you like, you shouldn't give up exploring and learning. Society is subject to change, and we must keep up with the times.

You must keep learning.

This situation has been encountered by many people in life, and I am too, and sometimes I remember it clearly.

Zhi got something in that dao, but he couldn't find it inside, so he had to give up. After a while, it suddenly appears in front of your eyes. I will also mutter: I have obviously looked for this place before!?

I've heard of ghosts and stuff, and some people say they've seen them, but I haven't. I don't believe this.

I think this situation is just confused by the phenomenon: maybe you were so focused or even a little nervous that you grabbed the dishcloth in your hand and looked for it everywhere? Or was it blocked by something at the time that didn't notice?

These are all possible. I'm not there, I can't explain the strange things that happened to you, I'm just expressing my opinion: it's normal to take bends, life is a lot of secrets, and sometimes we can't grasp our environment in every way.

The eye is a video camera, the information is transmitted to the cerebral cortex, and then the nerve conduction is formed to indicate the next action, which is very complicated and boring, and occasionally errors may occur, and the computer still has a crash.

On the other hand, life experiences make us less sensitive and numb a lot of times, such as wearing shoes every day, so that our feet have adapted to the shoes, and the brain is not always aware of the shoes on our feet. So sometimes it's normal for something not to notice.

Habit problems, just like some people have the habit of squatting and pooping, sitting and pooping, and they can't pull it out.

You're used to it, so the places you look for are the places where things usually stay, and if you get rid of your habits and look elsewhere, you can find them.

Don't think about it so much, there's no way there can be anything like that... So a lot of things aren't as bad as you think... It's normal to have a cat or mouse at home

Man lives. In order to experience joys and sorrows, birth, old age, sickness and death, in order to understand what people live for?

In order to realize their own ideals, pursuits, goals, desires and values.

It's very tiring and hard to live because society is very unfair, it's very helpless to live, sad and sad to cry, and if you find something to do, it's not boring.

Because, life is like this:

No one's life is smooth sailing, so as long as you work hard, it will be wonderful!

Be optimistic about anything and keep a normal heart.

Life will inevitably fall and wait, you must be brave to look up, the sun is always after the wind and rain!

I'll give you advice, can you see it?

1.Look at the world with another eye, not everyone in this world is very smooth, just look at how you solve it, for example, you were hit by someone when you were walking, and others apologized to you, sometimes you still feel very angry, but you didn't expect that the person who hit you was actually more uncomfortable than you, or think about that:

It's a day to be happy, it's a day to be unhappy, so why not be happy every day."

2.If you think that you are in a bad mood, you will be in a bad mood, then you don't need to think about it, if you still want to, then keep yourself busy, let yourself have no time to think about it, let yourself live every minute to the fullest, and then don't fall in love with the bed after waking up in the morning, get up when you wake up, get busy, open the window, breathe in the fresh morning air, relax your whole body, and let yourself imagine a happy little angel ......

3.Choose a place with fresh air, quiet surroundings, soft light, undisturbed and free movement, and take a position that you feel comfortable in, standing, sitting or lying down.

4.Move some large joints and muscles of the body, the speed should be even and slow when doing it, and the action does not need to have a certain format, as long as you feel the joints let go and the muscles relax.

5.Take a deep breath, inhale slowly and exhale slowly, saying "relax" in your mind whenever you exhale.

6.Focus your attention on some everyday objects. For example, look at a flower, a little candlelight, or anything soft and beautiful, and look closely at its subtleties. Light some spices and inhale the aroma of it.

7.Close your eyes and try to imagine some tranquil and beautiful scenes, such as blue waters, golden sandy beaches, white clouds, mountains and water.

8.Do activities that you enjoy that have nothing to do with the specific things at hand.

For example, swimming, taking a hot bath, shopping, listening, watching TV, etc.

9.Life is easy, life is easy, life is not easy.

Don't worry, there are a lot of people in this society who are almost like you, but they are all living happily, not everyone can succeed, as long as you work hard to treat everything, take life seriously, as long as you take every day seriously, no matter how your life is, I believe it is wonderful. Come on, friend!

I sincerely wish you happiness and joy every day! ~

It's you who are suspicious all day long.,It's just that you're illusory.,Although I don't know how you live in reality.,But I feel like you don't believe in yourself.。。。 Let's do it. I'm sure you can laugh and roar ...

It's you who put too much pressure on yourself, you have too high requirements for casualness, in fact, you just have to do your own thing, don't mind others too much, at least take care of yourself.

Do a good job of career orientation.

Positioning is the unity of self-positioning and social positioning, and only on the basis of understanding oneself and one's career can we accurately position oneself.

Examine your personal traits (1) Desires and the ability to do things) What do you really want at this stage of life? (2) Ability What are you good at? (General Techniques and Special Techniques) (3) Personality Traits (Temperament, Nature) (Temperament, Nature) What type of person are you?

Under what circumstances is there the best performance? (4) Assets (tangible and intangible) What do you have an advantage over others?

Each group of people needs to be positioned, and the purpose is to ensure that they continue to develop. But the focus of each group's positioning is different: the focus of positioning is to clarify what you have.

Overestimating or underestimating oneself, attaching too much importance to one's diploma or one's own achievements, and underestimating one's potential too much, so it is necessary to analyze oneself carefully and understand more about social needs in order to position accurately. In most cases, the right way to think is to do what you should do, not what you love.

Finding a job, like doing anything else, has methods and skills. Many people can't find a job not because they don't have the ability to do things, but because they don't use the right methods and certain skills in the job search process. The so-called skills mainly include three aspects:

Know yourself, including your knowledge, skills, personality, hobbies, and physical condition. Before looking for a job, you must have a comprehensive understanding of yourself, and you must know what kind of work you can do and what kind of work you are not suitable for. If you want to do a job that you don't have the ability to do, you will definitely be turned away.

Learn about your chosen career and industry. Understand the work content, nature of work and the requirements for the quality of practitioners. You can ask people who have done the relevant work from friends and family, or you can ask others who are engaged in this work, they have rich experience, deep experience, can provide you with instructive information, their failures in the process of work, you can play a preventive role, and their successful experience is something you can learn from.

Self-referrals. On the basis of knowing yourself and your job, you start looking for a job. Job hunting is the process of finding and getting a job, which usually includes obtaining information about employment, obtaining interviews, talking, signing contracts, etc.

Finding a job is like selling a product, to get customers to buy your product, you have to tell the other party how high the quality of your product is, how fair it is, in order to attract people to buy this kind of product. Similarly, when looking for a job, it is important to focus on "I am truly capable of doing this job, and my requirements are very reasonable". Be sure to learn to market yourself so that others will recognize and hire you.

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