My boyfriend is very sloppy, we always quarrel, what should I do

Updated on psychology 2024-04-18
37 answers
  1. Anonymous users2024-02-08

    The problem is this. You can only say urge and remind. Whether to change it or not depends on him...

    If there are no plans to get married. It's better not to live together for the time being. If it's the same. Let's just think about getting married. Otherwise, the hidden danger is too great...

    As for your boyfriend's sloppiness. He himself does not change. It's useless for you to say anything more. Either he's willing to change. Either you accept to continue to take care of him ...

    My boyfriend is also an only child. He can do almost anything. He sometimes washes my clothes. I think it's a matter of self-care. Looking for a wife is not looking for an old mother. Housework is to be shared by two people...

    Encourage me to take a look. Praise him for a job well done. Maybe it will be useful. But my friend said it didn't work for her boyfriend...

    In fact, I have always disapproved of women and men. Women will be too hard. If you're going to be together. Then it's just hard work. But it's all up to this age. It's time to think about getting married...

    If you don't want to break up. That can only go on ...

  2. Anonymous users2024-02-07

    Maybe he's not that old yet, but try to tell him how to be better in a negotiative, kind, respectful tone, don't be reproachful, be patient! Although men's bad habits are generally difficult to successfully change....Hey.

  3. Anonymous users2024-02-06

    Although I'm also a man, but at a glance, I know that this kind of man is not a good thing, so divide it, or teach him a lesson, and damn shame on our boys.

  4. Anonymous users2024-02-05

    It's very simple, just ignore him for a month, boys are afraid of this.

  5. Anonymous users2024-02-04

    Divorce, now that the law has been changed, as long as one party is willing to divorce, it can be handled immediately, and the second party says it doesn't count

  6. Anonymous users2024-02-03

    If the soft doesn't work, the hard one will come.

  7. Anonymous users2024-02-02

    It's hard to get married, so find a good man.

  8. Anonymous users2024-02-01

    Here's how:

    1. Do the opposite.

    When you go out with him, remember to make yourself sloppy and sloppy, and then go to meet his circle of friends. When he sees the strange eyes of so many buddies floating over, he will feel humiliated, and if you are asked to be clean in the future, you can make the same request to the other party.

    2. Learn to use strength.

    You can put aside your guts and ignore it and see who can't stand it first. For example, if the other party does not take the initiative to clean the floor at home, you can leave it uncleaned to see who can bear it in the end. Once he breaks his critical point, he may be willing to share the housework with you in the future, and he will become clean.

    This is the opposite of the extreme, you have to learn to use force to fight.

    Introduction:

    Sloppy, a Chinese word, pronounced lā ta, means untidy or careless.

    The first fold of Yuan Wangyi's "Strayed into the Peach Spring": "I can see that the road is far away, the shoes are sloppy, and how many ancient roads and westerly thin horses are reached." ”

    Ming Tu Long's "Epiphany: Learning from Teachers": "The two of us are sloppy and wandering, and we stop begging for food and clothing, how can we save people? ”

    Duanmu Yuliang's "Homesickness" 5: "Suddenly it was the sound of the landlord's sloppy shoes walking under the window. ”

  9. Anonymous users2024-01-31

    A person can not wear a famous brand, and he does not need to look very exquisite, but cleanliness is a must, which is a minimum of respect for himself and others. If your boyfriend is sloppy, maybe he doesn't understand the importance of neatness and your dislike.

    Boys don't like cleanliness, and maybe it has something to do with worldly ideas. Most people think that only girls need to dress up beautifully every day, and boys only need to be able to make money, as long as they can have a basic life, so why clean? There are even some who scoff at some boys who pay more attention to dressing up, thinking that this is a sign of their femininity, which is a completely wrong idea.

    However, growing up in such a concept will inevitably make the boy develop a habit of not liking cleanliness, and the habit will become natural, and slowly he will feel that this is normal.

    I think you still have to find a time to talk to your boyfriend about this topic, tell her about his habit of not liking cleanliness, and some of the most basic changes of clothes should be done frequently, which can not only give people a better impression, but also be good for your own health. You have to express your dissatisfaction, your boyfriend loves you, and he will change for your unhappiness. Of course, you still have to supervise well, after all, long-standing habits are not something that can be changed, it still takes time, and it also takes some willpower to overcome daily laziness.

    In short, both of you need to work on it.

    Love clean is also the embodiment of an attitude towards life, people who pay attention to life must love clean, love such cleanliness to give people the enjoyment of the soul, so it can be seen that you are a person who has a more pursuit of life, but your boyfriend is a more casual person for life. Casualness is a better character, and it will not be calculated, but some such casualness must be casualness that will not bring confusion to others.

  10. Anonymous users2024-01-30

    I really don't like those who are more sloppy, I think such people, on the one hand, they don't know how to respect themselves, on the other hand, they don't pay attention to hygiene, so in this world, I feel that if they don't change, because they are said to hate their own life, they will not have much future, I feel that they should break up.

  11. Anonymous users2024-01-29

    Correct him face to face this problem, otherwise she will develop bad habits, often like this, It must be handed over to you to wash, if you don't pay attention to it, he will rely on you, so please make it clear to your friends, one yard to one yard, don't go too far. Otherwise, break up, otherwise it won't be good to go on like this.

  12. Anonymous users2024-01-28

    First of all, you are already boyfriend and girlfriend, you can make it clear to him, saying that you are too sloppy and unhygienic, and you feel very awkward in your heart, and I hope it can change this behavior. Secondly, force him to cut his nails and do the laundry, otherwise you will not hang out with him and be with him. Of course, this can't be changed all at once, but it has to be done slowly.

  13. Anonymous users2024-01-27

    I also don't like such people very much, because I think such people are because they don't know how to love themselves, first, you can try to make him change first, let him pay attention to hygiene, pay attention to this image of yourself, if you don't do it after your guidance and criticism, then I think you still have to say goodbye to such a person, after all, he is unwilling to change himself, then this life is basically like this.

  14. Anonymous users2024-01-26

    You can help him fix this bad habit, I think you can do it.

    He has long nails, you can cut them for him, and in the summer help her put the change of clothes at hand and wash the clothes that have been taken off. These are all things you can do as a girlfriend, and they are all great ways to cultivate relationships.

    You can tell him about the problem, but if you don't do anything and rely purely on his consciousness to change, I think the contradictions between you will only get bigger.

  15. Anonymous users2024-01-25

    Communication, the most important thing in the relationship between men and women is communication, keeping all your thoughts in your heart is the most important, you can find a time to talk to him, the tone is tactful, but you have to clearly tell him that you mind his behavior very much, I hope he can make changes, if he loves you, I believe he will try to change for you, if he doesn't listen at all, then I think he may not be suitable for you, you deserve a better person.

  16. Anonymous users2024-01-24

    You stop him in person, tell him directly to let him wash his clothes and cut his nails, and let him take a shower frequently, these are all things that can be said and fine. If he doesn't obey, you break up with him, see how he reacts, if it really doesn't work, you really break up, but then I believe he will listen to you. So, don't put up with so many little problems for the sake of momentary helplessness.

  17. Anonymous users2024-01-23

    For such a person, I think it does make people feel a special headache, because he doesn't pay attention to hygiene, then it will definitely make the house dirty, or let the two of you live together in the future There will be a lot of awkwardness, so see if your friends are willing to change?

    If it really doesn't work, I advise you to leave, because the two of you have different lifestyles, and there will be a lot of contradictions at that time.

  18. Anonymous users2024-01-22

    Force him to do it! At this time, you should show your girlfriend's identity, or be coquettish or angry, and let him obey your arrangement.

    Generally, boys don't really care about what they should wear, so as a girlfriend, you can arrange when he changes his clothes, as for nails, be coquettish, hold his hand, and cut it off for him regularly, after a long time, he will also feel clean and comfortable, and he will know that he will do it.

  19. Anonymous users2024-01-21

    It's really a bad thing to live with someone who is very sloppy. Probably most of the boys don't have much awareness of hygiene, that is, they are too lazy to do it. In that case, you can offer to help him change.

    When the time comes, you can urge him to pick it up. Hair is curd, nails are cut. After a long time, it was also used to it.

  20. Anonymous users2024-01-20

    1. Speak directly. The simplest and most direct way is to go straight to your high-speed boyfriend, you don't like his current situation, and I hope you can love it cleanly.

    2. Tell him why you love cleanliness so much. Maybe your boyfriend doesn't understand why you are so clean, you can educate him, for example, a dirty room will produce bacteria, you will not be able to sleep when you see the room so messy, anyway, you have to let him know that he is so sloppy, which makes you very uncomfortable.

    3. Action hints. Sloppy is often because of some unhygienic habits, we can directly prove with actions that you are a bit of a clean girl. My boyfriend's clothes and shoes were dirty, and he was asked to wash them immediately.

    4. Communication and understanding. Two people should not talk about the place in secret, they should sit down and communicate and understand. Why this is happening, is it because there is not enough time, or because you don't pay attention to it at all.

    5. Organize small objects. We can prepare small objects such as dirty laundry baskets, paper towels, alcohol pads and other small objects that are easy to clean and organize at home, which will make the home look tidier.

    6. Do housework together. Doing housework is not a girl's business alone, we can let our boyfriends do housework together, experience the hard work of labor, and slowly develop a good habit of hygiene.

    7. Formulate some regulations. It's best to specify some rules with him, such as taking off your shoes when you enter the room, where to put your change of clothes, and not throwing them around, etc., otherwise it will be very troublesome to clean up.

    8. Be coquettish in front of him. Men can't stand the delicate girls and see the messy room he made, so he ordered him to clean up by himself, and didn't agree? If you don't agree, lean into his arms and see what he can do with us.

    9. Tell his family. Sometimes you find that what you say doesn't work, you might as well tell his parents, let his parents-in-law and friends around him educate him, I believe he will change a lot under such pressure.

    All in all, it is indeed not easy for two people to be together, and it is a beautiful marriage to tolerate and change each other.

  21. Anonymous users2024-01-19

    Tell your boyfriend that you hate him for being sloppy and force him to get rid of his sloppyness every day.

  22. Anonymous users2024-01-18

    Tell him that being too sloppy will cause a lot of diseases, which will have a great impact on the lives of the two of them in the future.

  23. Anonymous users2024-01-17

    Educate him, tell him that you don't like him to be too sloppy, ask him to be hygienic and clean, and let him correct it.

  24. Anonymous users2024-01-16

    Then you educate him, ask him to love cleanliness and hygiene, and set an example yourself, tell him that if he can't change, you will break up.

  25. Anonymous users2024-01-15

    I think you should find a suitable time and place to ask your boyfriend out to talk about the disadvantages of being sloppy.

  26. Anonymous users2024-01-14

    Then force him to love cleanliness and tell him that if he is so sloppy, you will not meet him again, and if he is not willing to let you change.

  27. Anonymous users2024-01-13

    I think you should first get rid of his sloppy appearance, and then let him find a job and enrich himself.

  28. Anonymous users2024-01-12

    You can tell your boyfriend that you can't stand him sloppy and that you like clean boys.

  29. Anonymous users2024-01-11

    You can help him with more messing up and telling him that you want a clean boyfriend.

  30. Anonymous users2024-01-10

    Just say it, ask him to correct it, and tell him that you can't stand such behavior.

  31. Anonymous users2024-01-09

    It's so sloppy that it's really unbearable. You have to give him advice directly and let him improve, if he still doesn't change, then you can only break up.

  32. Anonymous users2024-01-08

    If your boyfriend is too sloppy, you won't be able to stand it, so it's better to break up directly, because a man's nature can't be changed.

  33. Anonymous users2024-01-07

    This will give full play to your maximum use, you have to supervise him in daily life, remind him, and then pay attention to daily hygiene, let him develop good living habits, and you will be very relaxed after you get married.

  34. Anonymous users2024-01-06

    Let's separate, a sloppy person, the attitude towards life will not be positive, it is difficult for such a person to achieve success, it is better to break up early.

  35. Anonymous users2024-01-05

    Talk to your boyfriend about this carefully, and it will generally be corrected. Or start to help him correct it yourself, and it will get better over time.

  36. Anonymous users2024-01-04

    A person who is too sloppy proves that this person is lazy and has a poor quality of life, try to change him, and if he can't change it, break up immediately.

  37. Anonymous users2024-01-03

    He said very much, let him change, it's too sloppy and not conducive to the quality of life, if you don't change, break up.

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