When you fall in love, do you have to change for each other?

Updated on psychology 2024-04-14
44 answers
  1. Anonymous users2024-02-07

    I don't think it's necessary to do this, it's best to be yourself, why do you have to change, just love each other with your heart. The two of them should do what they should do together, and what they should say and say. I hope you can be happy, happy!

  2. Anonymous users2024-02-06

    Fate makes it not easy for two people with different personalities, different ways of thinking, and different behaviors to come together. After the run-in, the two came together. It's a rarity.

    If love, true love, wants him or her to be happy, must do things that have not been done before or are not willing to do. And these things are not just what you call change, but more importantly, the tolerance of love!!

    Therefore, love must be tolerant, and love must change!

  3. Anonymous users2024-02-05

    Not necessarily, as a result, sometimes it can be appropriately accommodating, but only sometimes. It doesn't have to be changed, if you love the policy, I believe it can tolerate you.

  4. Anonymous users2024-02-04

    Personally, I don't think it's necessary, because if that person loves you, he or she will definitely tolerate your shortcomings. Of course, if you love him or her, you will change for him. Hey, personal change.

  5. Anonymous users2024-02-03

    Not necessarily, I think it's better to leave it as it is. He may just like something about you, and there is no need to change himself for the sake of other people's opinions!

  6. Anonymous users2024-02-02

    Don't change the big style, otherwise he will think you are not assertive. There are small things that can be changed for him, such as his eating habits, but you still have to express your opinion on big things. Maybe what he loves is your character, and if you change everything he loves, he will slowly lose feelings for you.

  7. Anonymous users2024-02-01

    No way. I don't think so.

    I don't think anyone should change for whom.

    After all, you are yourself.

    No one is qualified to change you.

    Besides, if you change it for him.

    His desire to transform you into the perfect person in his heart is getting higher and higher.

    In the end, you won't be able to take it anymore.

    To know. Human beings have endless desires.

  8. Anonymous users2024-01-31

    Not necessarily, it depends on what kind of person you are and what kind of person you like!

  9. Anonymous users2024-01-30

    Whoever loves each other more will change, and if the person who loves each other more changes once, he will have to change for a lifetime, and any contradictions in the future will have to be changed. Ha. Q100 Well said.

  10. Anonymous users2024-01-29

    Almost, love is not about finding the right person, but how to be the right person.

  11. Anonymous users2024-01-28

    If you change it for him once, then you have to change it for him for a lifetime.

  12. Anonymous users2024-01-27

    Of course, bad habits must be changed.

  13. Anonymous users2024-01-26

    It's ..Because he wants you to be more perfect in his mind!

  14. Anonymous users2024-01-25

    I think I'll be upset if he keeps asking me to change.

  15. Anonymous users2024-01-24

    Strive to pursue your dreams.

  16. Anonymous users2024-01-23

    In the process of falling in love, you don't need to make changes for each other, I think it is most important to be yourself whenever you are, and when you lose yourself, then no one may be loved

  17. Anonymous users2024-01-22

    Of course it does. Because love is often about running in with each other and changing each other, only such a mentality can make the relationship more long-lasting.

  18. Anonymous users2024-01-21

    I think so, in the process of falling in love, both people should make changes, and they should be tolerant and understand each other, only in this way can the relationship between two people be better.

  19. Anonymous users2024-01-20

    Yes, this is because there are no two people in the world who are exactly matched, so in the process of dating, you must make compromises and concessions for each other.

  20. Anonymous users2024-01-19

    When you fall in love, you want to change the other person, which is a sign of possessiveness and selfishness.

    When falling in love, you always think that everything about the other party should belong to you and cannot be shared with others, which is possessiveness. Actually, in the world of love, there is nothing wrong with proper possessiveness. However, if you allow possessiveness to reach an extreme level and want to control everything about the other person, this is a personality twist that will eventually lead to harm to both parties.

    Why do you want to change each other in love? This is because the other party has a certain personality, words and deeds, which do not conform to their own fantasies. So, the question is, why don't you choose to tolerate each other and change yourself, and let the two people achieve harmony? So, changing the other person is a sign of selfishness.

    When falling in love, only mutual understanding and tolerance, and sincere communication, can achieve a successful outcome.

  21. Anonymous users2024-01-18

    This is just an idea of just falling in love, if you only want to change each other after a long time, you can't be together for a long time, and the lovers who can be together for a long time are changing each other for each other, no matter how much you change, two people are slowly becoming compatible after running-in.

  22. Anonymous users2024-01-17

    Because it loves you, it wants to change you, and if it doesn't love you, it doesn't bother to care about your ......

  23. Anonymous users2024-01-16

    It's very simple, just like our own life and work, in interpersonal relationships, do we all want all this, it is best to follow our own wishes, so that we are satisfied, rather than making ourselves uncomfortable and becoming very tired.

  24. Anonymous users2024-01-15

    People are self-centered, so they will have the so-called desire to control. After all, self-reflection and empathy are not something that everyone can do.

  25. Anonymous users2024-01-14

    This is human nature, and many people have a desire to control others.

  26. Anonymous users2024-01-13

    Because everyone is for each other to be the best in the way they want.

  27. Anonymous users2024-01-12

    The process is to tolerate each other.

  28. Anonymous users2024-01-11

    When you are in a relationship, you always feel that one party wants to change the otherBecause I want to create my ideal lover.

    Just as there are no two leaves in this world that are exactly the same, in fact, it is difficult to find a person in this world who is 100% the same as your ideal lover. When you fall in love, you may initially be attracted by the other party's appearance or personality. But after a long time, I hope that the other party can fit with me in all aspects.

    People who want to change the other side are usually selfish. When they are in a relationship, they always want to be the one who benefits, whether it is to make the other person what they want to be or to make the other person take better care of themselves, etc. This is all a manifestation of their selfishness, a vivid demonstration that he does not love each other enough.

    Falling in love is about making each other a better version of themselves, not being a better version of themselves in each other's minds. For example, before some people fall in love, they have a perfect lover in their minds. In real life, he couldn't find such a person at all, so he could only settle for the next best thing and find someone with a score of 80 or 90.

    But when he had a lover, he wanted to get his lover. can only make this lover who is not a perfect score into his ideal perfect lover. Use your love resources to fulfill your love desires.

    The one who is changed is usually changed because he loves the other person too much or is too weak. It's the so-called run-in period.

  29. Anonymous users2024-01-10

    People are selfish, they think about everything, and I do it myself, so I want to ask others to do the same as you.

    You think you just want to change the other person in love, but in fact, you will find that in daily life, you see that what others do is not what you want, and you also want him to become what you think, but the relationship may not be close, you will not say it, you will only complain in private, or complain a sentence or two.

    But you forget that before he was your partner, he was also an independent individual with his own habits. If it's a bad habit, of course you have to change it, no matter who you get along with.

    You only think about changing the other person, but you haven't empathized, he wants you to change, change you into what he likes, what do you think, and are you willing to follow his thoughts all the time. Needless to say, you certainly won't.

    In other words, when you want to change a person, at this time you are already dissatisfied with the other person in your heart, and then he will not change according to your ideas, you will only be more dissatisfied with him, and over time, the conflict will intensify and never come together again.

    Since you all know that you can't change the other party, and what he does is something you don't like, why are you still obsessed with changing him, just look for it according to your own heart from the beginning?

    People always have blind confidence in themselves, thinking that the other party will definitely change for themselves, if not, it is not enough love, but obviously you yourself are not willing to make changes, and don't force others.

    If you are together, you will gather, and if you are not together, you will be scattered. Don't force it, after all, others don't live for you, you don't live for others, and you both have a good life before you meet each other.

    So why you want to change each other when you fall in love, it's because you have selfishness, you have a desire to control, and you always want to change the other person into what you want.

  30. Anonymous users2024-01-09

    Because they want each other to enter their lives, they can only go further together by changing him into what they want.

    In fact, no matter what kind of relationship we are in, it is difficult for us to change others, so if you want to change the other person, the best way is to change yourself and become what you want, and the other person will gradually become what you want.

  31. Anonymous users2024-01-08

    This may be because they have not been together for a long time, and the desire for control and possessiveness is at work, and they want you to change for him or her.

  32. Anonymous users2024-01-07

    I think I want the other person to be better with me.

  33. Anonymous users2024-01-06

    There are many people who change themselves for the sake of each other when they are in love, and this change is sometimes good, but sometimes they lose themselves. If you make a change when you are in a relationship to make yourself better and better match the other person, it is a two-way street, and it will also have a good impact, this change is very good. But if you receive a PUA from the other party when you are in love, you think that you are not worthy of the other party, and you have a great inferiority complex, and then you change yourself inexplicably, there is something wrong with such a change.

    Don't lose yourself Actually, you can change appropriately when you are in love, but don't lose yourself because of the other party, because you are sometimes very good, and there is no need to doubt yourself all the time because of other people's words. If the other person really loves himself, he can't always blame himself, and he can't always bring up his bad points. A relationship needs to rely on each other, if you are often blamed or belittled by the other party, you should recognize as soon as possible what kind of relationship this relationship is.

    If you feel that you are not doing well in some areas and want to improve yourself, this is actually a very meaningful change, because such a change will make you better. A relationship is supposed to be mutually fulfilling, and both people can become better people for each other. This is a two-way rush, and at the same time, it can also make yourself more perfect, and over time, two people are making progress together, which is a very positive guidance.

    Of course, the true self must not change yourself casually because of a relationship, so that everything in your life becomes related to the other person. Because no matter when, no matter how much you like each other, you should maintain a true self, and you should not completely lose everything about yourself because of the other person. Therefore, when you are in love, you should still keep your sanity accordingly, and never do something that you will regret in the end because of impulse.

  34. Anonymous users2024-01-05

    Absolutely. Because the process of falling in love is the process of two people running into each other, I will change myself for each other and make myself better.

  35. Anonymous users2024-01-04

    Yes, because two people live together, as long as two people love each other, there will definitely be some friction and will definitely change for each other.

  36. Anonymous users2024-01-03

    When you are in love, if you want to get the other person's heart, you want him to sincerely pay for you. Then you will also change yourself because of the other person. If you have it, you will give it. It can't just be a one-sided pursuit, others change for you. In this way, love loses its meaning.

  37. Anonymous users2024-01-02

    I think that when two people fall in love together, they will definitely make some changes, because in many aspects, if two people can't be completely unified, there will be a lot of problems, so they will make appropriate changes because they love someone.

  38. Anonymous users2024-01-01

    Since two people are in love together, it definitely takes the dedication of two people to maintain the relationship. Sometimes you must change yourself for the sake of the person you like, change yourself for the person you like, and you must be willing to change.

  39. Anonymous users2023-12-31

    When you are in love, you can change yourself for each other. If in the process of falling in love, you think that you are inappropriate, you can change it for the sake of the other party.

  40. Anonymous users2023-12-30

    When you're in love. If you really care about the other person. Then you will change yourself for the other person. Especially some lifestyle habits. This is a very normal thing.

  41. Anonymous users2023-12-29

    When I'm in a relationship, I don't change myself because of the other person, because I feel like I am who I am, and I'm a very unique person.

  42. Anonymous users2023-12-28

    When I was in a relationship, I felt that if I had some disagreements with the other person, and I had problems, I would change myself for the other person.

  43. Anonymous users2023-12-27

    Yes, this is a subtle thing, and there will definitely be some changes when two people get along together.

  44. Anonymous users2023-12-26

    This sentence is right, falling in love can make people grow, after a fiber relationship will become more and more mature, harvest love, harvest happiness, I think in love is to take the initiative to express their love, noisy brother loves him to take the initiative to express, often talk to him, talk to a person who understands you, is a kind of stress relief, talking to a person who likes you, is a kind of happiness, talking to a person you don't like, is a kind of torture, take the initiative to have a feeling of happiness for both people.

    It's not important to meet, it's important to be reliable; Rich and poor are not important, but each other is the most important.

    In cars, it doesn't matter how fast or slow, but safety.

    It doesn't matter if you see each other every day, it's important to have you in your heart.

    It doesn't matter if you have money or not, it's important to be willing to spend it for you!

    People are afraid of being sad, and trees are afraid of hurting their roots. There's a feeling called Understood! I don't agree with this statement!

    Three poor and three rich have passed to old age, who knows the rise and fall in ten years!

    What is true and what is false, I cherish those who like me, and I abandon those who dislike me.

    Maybe you're good, but I don't think I can look up to you; Maybe you're nothing, but I won't dislike you!

    As a friend: If you pay for me, I will never let you down. You are more real, you fake me and turn around!

    It's not a fault that people are stupid, as long as they are not false; Human essence is not a problem, as long as it is not bad;

    It's okay to be good at using people, just don't unload the mill and kill the donkey;

    It is not a problem for people to be poor and rich, just know how to pay;

    It doesn't matter what others think of me, as long as I have a clear conscience!

    Whoever doesn't talk about people behind his back is said behind his back, and there is no one who is not judged, and there is nothing that is not discussed.

    If one day you find that I have a distance from you and have less contact, it must be that you are too good and I am too stupid to play together!

    Short-term relationships look at face, long-term relationships look at temper, lifelong interactions look at character, and death does not look at sincerity.

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