When I don t like someone, my friend is so close to her, how should I deal with her?

What does dislike mean? Not together, not talking?

I don't know what your friend thinks, but it doesn't feel like a matchmaker for you or something.

I don't know how old you are, but sometimes people are with people they don't like.

If you don't feel good, you can hire two people, right?

The enemies are all set up by themselves, and the people of Niu 13 will turn the enemy into friends.

Remember, friends don't say everything, they have to be compatible.

Even if you nod or say hello when you meet, it's better than hating someone.

Learn to be generous, not to be happy with things or to be sad about yourself, and to treat everyone like the sun, without any tilt poured into every inch of the earth.

It's her business, and she can't control who she wants to play with, so let go of it, I've had you like this before, but when I think about it, it's not a big deal.

Hello there! I'll give you a warm hug in the air. From your short description, you can feel your inner inferiority, lack of self-confidence, and lack of acceptance of yourself.

1. Build self-confidence.

When you have too much disacceptance and self-confidence in yourself because of your inner inferiority, and you are not well aware of this part, you will inadvertently project your inner non-acceptance emotions onto others, thinking that others will not accept such yourself.

In order to avoid being rejected, disliked, or denied because you are not good enough, you will inadvertently avoid taking the initiative to build relationships with others for some seemingly reasonable reason, such as "He likes you, but is superficial." Actually, this is also relieving the anxiety and anxiety that arises from not accepting your inner self.

2. Overcome fear.

Try to be with your inner fears, your insecurity, to experience, to feel, to be aware of your own fearful and uneasy emotional feelings, what is the hidden need? For example, the desire to be accepted, to be understood, to be loved, to be afraid of being denied, to be rejected, to be disliked, ......When you are able to perceive the hidden needs behind your fear and anxiety through your own fearful and uneasy emotional feelings, you will have more acceptance, understanding, and allowing yourself to have a certain amount of fear and anxiety, which is your desire to be accepted, welcomed, and loved, and hope that you will behave better in front of the opposite sex. If you are rejected, denied, or disliked, it doesn't mean that you are not good enough, it's just that you are not the type that the other party likes, or that the other party does not know you well enough.

You tell me? 3. Learn self-acceptance.

So, it's important for you to try to learn better self-acceptance and develop self-confidence. You can try to learn better self-acceptance by making a list of self-acceptance strengths, which can not only see your own shortcomings and shortcomings, but also see more of your own highlights and strengths. You can try to better cultivate self-confidence and enhance your sense of self-worth by keeping a gratitude journal.

You can also try to cultivate more interest and love for yourself in life and work, so that you can control more and more things. Of course, try to take the initiative to learn some social skills to improve your social skills, especially the ability to manage intimate relationships.

4. Rational thinking.

Like each other as long as you like a point, and life is to accept everything from the other person. Some aspects may be difficult for us to accept, which requires a period of running-in, and if the run-in is good, we can live for a long time; If the run-in is not good, it will naturally separate. This process requires both parties to be determined to be together, and to respect and tolerate each other.

There is also the bottom line of doing things can not be too different, the bottom line problem can be understood as the problem of three views, if the difference is too big, it is irreconcilable, if you give in to be together, it is the beginning of losing yourself.

The subject may wish to think about it, just want to talk about sweet love with each other, or live for a long time, if it is the latter, you need to understand it in all aspects, and you can't just rely on the heartbeat feeling to make a judgment.

If you like him, you must have the courage to talk to him, and you must have the courage to say your thoughts, everyone has the right to love and be loved, and it is very difficult to have someone you like, so you should cherish it.

You should calm your mentality, and if you like the other person, you should pursue it bravely, and don't leave regrets for yourself.

I think you should confess boldly, don't leave regrets for yourself, there's nothing wrong with liking someone, and don't take yourself lightly.

I think you should respect each other, sometimes some people don't like to be too close, but it may also be that she doesn't see you as a good friend, I think you should keep a little distance from her no matter what.

I'm just a person who is not used to being intimate with people, not to say that I hate it, but I think it will be very awkward, especially when others hug me, I feel very uncomfortable, and I also have a lot of small problems, such as I have a habit of cleanliness, if someone touches me with dirty hands, I feel like I have to wipe it clean, this is not for one person but for everyone, it is possible that your friend is such a person, so you should give her some space, after all, not everyone expresses their feelings in a way that is intimate, I think you can take a step back, Discuss it with her, so that it would be better if both of them made concessions.

But it may also be that the other party does not regard you as her good friend, sometimes although I don't want to admit it, but sometimes you don't treat the other party as a friend, the other party must treat you as a friend, in this case, I think you should be able to feel it, look at her reaction, whether it is disgusted or uncomfortable, uncomfortable words are generally the first kind, disgusted, you have to ask her what she thinks, if the other party does not regard you as her good friend, I don't think you need to post it like this, Friendship is also about fate, don't force it.

Anyway, you have to keep your distance from each other first. This can be regarded as a kind of respect for her, after all, you can't force people to accept your intimate behavior towards her, so you can only make concessions, and it's good to have a little space between friends, so it's not easy to have conflicts, I think those who are closer to each other, the more likely they are to have disputes.

She's the kind of character who doesn't like to be close to others, and no matter how close you are to her, it's useless, it will only cause her disgust. All you can feel from her performance is a sense of distance. Not everyone will be able to accept your closeness, and not everyone will be able to accept the way you express your feelings.

You have to know that since she doesn't like your way of intimacy, then don't get too close to her next time, everyone has their own habits of getting along with others, and you have to learn to respect your friends.

The reason why I understand your friend this way is because I am a person who does not like to be close to friends. I think even friends have to have a certain safe distance from each other. I think this is also a weakness in the character, that is, I feel that everyone in life is different from myself, no matter how good the relationship is, we must keep a certain distance, and if I get too close, there will be a lot of contradictions, and I prefer to keep a little distance from others.

Some of my friends don't understand me, saying why I always seem so cold, it's not that I'm not unenthusiastic, but I just think that there are many ways to express emotions, and it doesn't have to be through intimate physical contact. Isn't it also a kind of gathering and chatting together, and being on call when you have difficulties? So don't get deeply entangled in this issue, as long as your friends are interesting enough to you, it doesn't matter if they are not close to you.

Everyone has their own habit of receiving people and things, as long as there is no conflict of interests between friends, then it is good to reverberate respect, not everyone has a strong desire to show the feelings between friends.

Although it is said that there may be a problem of jealousy between boyfriends and girlfriends. But I think there is also a problem of jealousy among friends of the same sex. Sometimes we feel that if our best friend is particularly close to another person, we will have a good relationship.

Then he will sometimes ignore us, and then he may leave himself to play with others and have a special time.

A person who can deal with problems will know how to balance the relationship and distance between himself and all his friends. I will not let myself become estranged from these good friends, and maintain a relationship with each other. I won't let my good friends have a certain gap between each other.

Or sometimes you can avoid it. When you have a very good relationship with a good friend, you can keep it from other friends. When you're particularly close to them.

However, if the other friend is not with you, you can rest assured and bold to do whatever you want with him.

Another way is that friends of friends can also be friends with each other. You can introduce them to each other as well.

I thought that everyone was free to make friends, and you could be nice to this friend when you were good with that friend, but I was wrong, for a while, I had a good time with a very good friend, so we would do some intimate actions, and then take pictures and put them on the circle of friends, such as face to face, holding hands. Then I will find that my other friend seems to be jealous, every time I post an intimate ** space or circle of friends with others, she likes to reply to me, saying that I don't love her anymore, I like the new and hate the old, and I get along with others. Then she would ignore me during that time, and she would ask me to take the initiative to talk to her every time before I could come back.

So from that time when I knew that other friends didn't like me to be too close to other friends, I would consider their feelings, and even if I really wanted to post a close ** with other friends in the future, I would choose not to let other friends watch it. It's this circle of friends that blocks them, and out of sight is clean. In this way, every time I post my intimate ** with a friend, I block other friends, so they think that they are the ones who often post in my circle of friends, hehe