Why do some parents like to instill in their children the idea that our family is poor ?

Because parents are also human beings, the living environment in which they grew up will also cause them to have mental illness, such as low self-esteem, etc., but people don't know it, so they will unconsciously instill this kind of thinking into your thoughts.

Because we ignorantly understand poverty and abundance as material things. In the end, the rich became the princess's disease, and the poor only wanted to obtain higher material comforts.

This kind of parents just choose a tool to make you obedient, as for the consequences, they don't think about it, maybe they can't think of it, because they don't treat the child as an independent individual at all, and they don't think about the child's feelings.

Excuse the deficiencies that parents have done, for example, the family is very poor, so the toys you want cannot be bought for you, the family is very poor, so mom and dad want to go out to earn money and can't accompany you.

The family is well-off, and it is indeed not easy for my parents to make money, but I have been instilled with the idea that my family is very poor since I was a child, and this idea has followed me for many years.

For children's education, there is nothing wrong with taking diligence and thrift as the starting point. But when children need money, parents can definitely give their children up to the top and give their children absolute support.

I don't like it, my parents like it, and it's not deliberately indoctrinated. It's that when I buy something, I always ask**, say it's expensive, and so on. Let my child save a little every day, don't waste it, don't buy it if it's too expensive, hang it up, I don't like him like this.

There are many purposes, some make you accept your fate, some make you work hard (my parents belong to the latter), and I am not a professional who can't say the specifics.

Since childhood, children who have been instilled by their parents to be very poor may have low self-esteem when they grow up, and they are not willing to communicate well with other people. These children have always been concerned by their parents when they are young, and their families are very poor, so the children are reluctant to buy some particularly expensive things at a very young age, and they also feel that they cannot afford to buy these things. In addition, children like to keep their distance from other classmates at a very young age, because children feel that they are inferior to them.

Children don't dare to accept gifts from others, because children are afraid that they won't be able to repay them after receiving them, so they say that they don't like the gift. This kind of behavior may hurt your child's friends, and over time, it may lead to corresponding problems in your child's popularity. And children will become more and more closed to themselves, unwilling to let themselves communicate with other classmates, and over time, children's personalities will really have corresponding problems.

If Mom and Dad always tell me that the child's family is very poor when educating the child, then the child may feel very inferior, and even feel that he will never be able to compare with other people, and over time the child will be very maverick. Children are reluctant to participate in group activities, and children do not participate in some activities in the class that require money, which may make their children become very lonely, and children will become very lonely.

In this process, the child will close himself little by little, and gradually feel that he is very bad, and even the child may have some unpromising phenomena, in short, the child will become a particularly inferior character. These have a very bad impact on children, so when parents educate their children, don't always instill in their children the idea that the family is very poor. If the economic conditions in the family are really bad, then work with the children to make the situation in the family better.

Children who have been instilled by their parents since childhood to be very poor often have these influences on the growth of children:

1.Not confident, don't like others to notice you;

2.I don't dare to take the initiative to play with my classmates, I am afraid of being ridiculed, and I am passive and withdrawn;

3.I will study hard, because I want to change the poor state of my family when I grow up.

Children will be very inferior in their hearts, children will always suffer from gains and losses, children will feel particularly unconfident, children are submissive in front of their parents, always feel inferior to others, and will please others when getting along with others, the inner pressure is very great, especially prone to depression.

When the child grows up, he will have a very low self-esteem, and the child will also have a certain psychological shadow, and will be very cowardly and cautious in the process of growing up, and the child will also have a lot of problems, and even lead to the child's psychological distortion.

It has a very bad impact on the growth of children, which will lead to children's lack of self-confidence, will lead to children's low self-esteem, will also cause children to become cowardly, will also cause children to be timid, and will also make children have some negative psychology.

In the process of family education, parents should not blindly instill the concept of poor children, which will make children become inferior and timid. Parents should teach their children the right view of money.

3. The ignorant education of most parents leads to the fact that children are tied to the ideological baggage of poverty, and it is difficult for them to get rid of the shackles of the family in their future growth. In fact, for us, the education of some parents has a lifelong impact on children, because of this, the wrong values education of parents is not conducive to the development of children's self-esteem, and it is extremely devastating to children's self-esteem, and it will also make children feel inferior and introverted from an early age, and they are not good at expressing themselves will also cause the illusion in the definition, and most of the children who grow up in such an environment are fragile and dare not express themselves.

In fact, we have found that many parents tell their children that their families are poor, but this kind of education will hinder their children's lives, and even make children more inferior, and will also produce a sense of depression, which is not conducive to the development of children's life, and even has endless troubles for children

I think this kind of thinking is incorrect, and we should not always reveal such a phenomenon to children, and we should encourage children to learn more.

Personally, I think this kind of thinking is wrong, telling children that the conditions at home are not good, and children will have special inferiority complex after a long time.

Because parents want their children to save. But this kind of thinking is not right, because when children default to the fact that the family is poor, they are reluctant to spend money, and they will become very picky.

I think this kind of thinking is wrong, parents tell their children that their families are poor, nothing more than they want their children to study hard, not to live this kind of life of their parents in the future, and to change the status quo.

I think this kind of thinking is right, so that children can know that they can't spend money casually, every penny is not easy for parents to earn, and the conditions at home do not allow them to spend money like this.

Of course, this kind of thinking is wrong, because it will make children feel inferior and have no courage to pursue their own ideals.

I think this kind of thinking is wrong, it will lead to children's psychological inferiority, and they will always think that they are inferior to others when they get along with other children outside.

Telling the child that the poor child in the family may be frugal and will not spend lavishly, this kind of thinking must be correct, after all, it is based on the actual situation of the family.

Parents want their children to be frugal, and this kind of thinking is not correct. It will make children have low self-esteem.

Maybe you want your child to be independent as soon as possible and not rely on the family. This kind of thinking is wrong and may make the child feel particularly inferior.

I don't think so. In today's society where interests are paramount, if you tell your child that your family is poor, your child will have no confidence in his heart. Your family will bring you enough capital, why do many children of the rich go out and be generous, while many children of the poor always have difficulty opening their mouths?

I think parents with that kind of thinking must reflect on it.

Wrong. In this way, it can only make children feel inferior, and they should correctly cultivate their three views.

I don't think it's right, so children will feel very inferior, and they will take money very seriously.

In my personal opinion, such thinking is not right, regardless of the family situation? Parents should tell their children about the real situation at home so that they can truly understand their home environment.

We all know that the educational environment of the family is very important, and the influence of some parents' behavior habits on children is also very important. If parents keep instilling in their children the idea that there is no money at home, this will have a certain impact on their children's growth.

First, feeling inferior.

If parents always instill in their children at home the idea that there is no money at home, then such children will feel very inferior in their own hearts. Parents instill such thoughts, so that children feel that their growth environment is insecure, because parents keep saying that they have no money at home, and what parents bring him is a feeling of insecurity. Over time, the child will have an inferiority complex, and he will feel that he is looking up in front of others.

Secondly, parents are incompetent.

If parents keep instilling in their children the idea that the family has no money, in fact, from another level, it can be said that the child may feel that the parents are incompetent. If the parents instill in the child the idea that there is no money in the family, then the child may become disrespectful to the parents, and over time, he may rebel, because the parents always say that the family has no money, and the child will think that it is the parents' inaction, and they will think that the parents are not strong people.

Again, to combat morale.

Even if there is no money in the family, parents should show their children a positive and sunny attitude towards life. If parents always say that there is no money at home, this atmosphere will make the child feel that he is in an incapable family living environment, which will be great. Damaging the child's fighting spirit, he will feel that the environment created for him by his parents is not rich, and of course he will feel that he is powerless to change the status quo.

Therefore, as parents, whether they have money in their own family or not, we must give our children a positive attitude towards life, so that children can feel that their parents are positive, hard-working, and strong. If you always say that you don't have money in your family, it can only make your child feel that her parents are incompetent and send a negative energy to your child.

Parents keep emphasizing to their children that they have no money, which will make them slowly lose their self-confidence, and then develop a strong sense of inferiority.

It will bring a kind of psychological pressure to the child, and then he will feel that his family is very poor, and naturally the child's heart will become particularly inferior.

It will make the child become very inferior, and when he is outside with other children, he will feel inferior to others in all aspects, and he will not be able to hold his head up.

If you keep instilling this idea in your child, it will make your child feel a little inferior.

I think this will actually have a great counter-effect, which will make the child feel very inferior to a large extent, and will make the child afraid to do anything.

It may make children feel that their family is very poor, and it will make them feel inferior and have no self-confidence.

It will make the child feel a little inferior, and he will cherish money very much and dare not spend it.

When we were children, we often heard our parents tell us that our family has no money, so you must study hard and don't cause trouble. It is not a bad thing to truthfully inform your child about the family situation and persuade your child to study hard, but it is easy for your child to have these four sad manifestations when he grows up. Let's see if you've been hit?

1.Even if you have the ability to make money, you will subconsciously avoid high-end places when you see them.

In fact, not all luxuriously decorated places have high consumption, but some children who have been told that their families are very poor since they were young will subconsciously feel that luxuriously decorated places must be places they can't afford. Even if they grow up and have the ability to make a lot of money, they will still subconsciously avoid luxurious places, because they always feel in their hearts that such places should not be places they can afford, and this kind of avoidance will always accompany these children to grow up.

2.No matter how good you are, you can't restrain your inferiority complex.

Everyone has vanity and wants to be envied in a certain aspect, and children are no exception. But some parents, regardless of whether they have money at home or not, always like to say in front of their children that our family conditions are not good, there is no money to buy you beautiful stationery, and there is no money to buy you clothes, you must study hard and make money to buy for your family in the future. Regardless of the psychology of parents who say this, they should not always say such things to their children.

It is true that children should not have excessive comparison psychology, but moderately satisfying children's vanity will be more beneficial to children's growth. On the contrary, if parents have always emphasized the fact that the child is very poor, then the seeds of inferiority complex will be planted in the child's heart, and even if the child grows up excellently in the future, he will still be inferior and cowardly in his heart.

3.When you meet someone who is better off than your own family, you can't help but feel a sense of distance.

Many children who have been instilled with a very poor family will involuntarily define themselves as poor people who must work hard, and they will subconsciously think that they are not all the way to those who have a good family, no matter how pleasant the initial relationship is, they will have a sense of distance in the following interactions. In fact, whether the two parties can become friends or not is not directly related to each other's family conditions, but the impact of this kind of original family makes them unable to see themselves correctly in front of people with good family backgrounds, especially some girls, who will define their relationship with people with good family backgrounds by the six chain scum words that are not the right household.

4.When doing things, you lack the courage to move forward, and you often want to do it but don't dare to do it.

If you want to keep improving, then you must challenge yourself in the next journey of life to do more things that you have never challenged. Of course, it takes a certain amount of courage to step out of your current comfort zone and challenge something new that you have never been exposed to, but most of the children who are overly poor lack this courage. When they struggle to a certain extent, it is difficult to convince themselves to make changes, and even if they want to challenge, they will only fantasize about the challenge in their hearts, and they are rarely brave enough to do what they want to do.