Why do some parents want their children to get married early? What is their mentality?

A family definitely needs children, and women in their 30s who give birth to children are elderly mothers, which are not good for children and their own health, so they always want to get married early and have children as soon as possible. In Chinese society, parents' face is sometimes more important than the happiness of their children, and there are always various urges to marry, which invisibly brings great pressure to their children. As a woman gets older, her partner becomes much less selective.

There are worries that it will be difficult to get married when you are older. For parents, their task is to see their children get married as soon as possible, so that they can be considered to have fulfilled their mission. Many men are 30 years old and have not yet married, and their parents still can't relax, and they still need to continue to be busy.

Therefore, parents will arrange their children's blind dates earlier, so that there will be a lot less pressure. After the child gets married, the parents may not be in their 50s at this time, but at this time, they will take their grandchildren at home and enjoy the time after retirement. Even if I work outside, I don't have any burden, and every day is relatively easy.

Chinese parents are accustomed to "arranging", "arranging" and "controlling", and feel that it is their responsibility and obligation to "help" their children get married, and it is still their responsibility to "help" their children to take care of them in the future. Furthermore, if you don't get married early, you can't have children early (considering that having children out of wedlock is not accepted in the vast majority of families); If there is no third generation, you will not be at ease, and there will be no queen! In the final analysis, the family and clan system in our culture still lacks respect for the freedom of independent individuals.

When you are young, you are in charge of your parents, and when you are old, you are in charge of your children, rather than being independent, no matter from life to thought.

Parents who want their children to get married as soon as possible have some who want to keep their children by their side, and some who are old-fashioned and feel that they should get married when they are old. I belong to the kind of people who got married very early, and my parents were very anxious at that time as if I couldn't get married, but in fact, I regretted getting married early, and I didn't enjoy what youth is.

Because marriage involves buying a house, a car, a wedding, negotiating between the two parties, and a series of things that require money and life, unless you can completely handle it yourself, you don't need your parents to pay for it, otherwise your parents will always be unable to let go of this matter, so they don't dare to spend, dare not travel, dare not go to Hainan to spend the whole winter, they also want to help you take care of your children before you need someone to take care of them, unless you can promise that you will not throw your children to your grandparents.

When children get married and start a family, parents will have a sense that they have completed their mission in life, so they hope that their children will start a family as soon as possible, so it will be easy, and they can also feel good in front of relatives and friends, and they will not blame themselves for not fulfilling their responsibilities.

Many parents of the older generation have the concept that their children get married early and enjoy happiness as soon as possible. Because in the past, most families have already started to get married when their children are about 20 years old. In their opinion, children should find someone to start a family as soon as possible, so that after having a family, there will be pressure and they can grow up quickly.

In the future, when the children are older, they will be able to enjoy the blessings sooner.

Chinese have a saying since ancient times that they start a family and start a business, and now most parents also think that it is good to start a family first and then start a business, and they also want their children to get married early and have children early, even if their children can't become big things, they will have a descendant.

In fact, I think that from a psychological point of view, many parents are just dissatisfied with their marriage because they are subconsciously, and they are just satisfying their psychological needs through the activity of finding a partner for their children. As for whether the children are happy or not? The ghost cares about you, anyway, I don't know anything after I die, what kind of thing does it matter to me what happens to you?

Anyway, I'm satisfied, and I'm blind to death.

The instinct of life is to survive and reproduce, and now that survival is no longer a problem, subconsciously continuing life has become the first priority, and perhaps parents will subconsciously desire to see the life they have created get again