Why do introverts live so tired and miserable lives?

My personality can be said to be extroverted, but I also have a lot of introverted friends, of course, including you, in fact, the difference between introverts and extroverts is not very big, but it depends on how you look at it, for example: if the girl you like is the same as you, she is also an introvert, maybe you are really together one day, and you may not be happy, because you are not good at communicating with her, you can't understand her, so it is difficult for you to understand each other. On the contrary, if the person you are with is a cheerful girl in terms of personality and other aspects, maybe one day you will be taken away from the introverted world by her to experience the life of extroverts, because if he and she really love you, they will not let you wander in the lonely world, because she will be uncomfortable and does not want to look at you like this, you can try to communicate with outsiders and believe in yourself. Oh.

For a long time, in the eyes of most elders, introversion is a bad character flaw, a character trait that should not belong to a child.

When I was a child, my mother often said: Mom doesn't think you are bad, but I just hope that you can be cheerful and talk more, so that you can have a good future in the future.

Since I was a child, I often felt invisible pressure because of this inexplicable concern.

At the family party, my grandparents would say to my cousin, "Didn't you just learn a new ancient poem last time?" I'll give you a bit of a back. So everyone quietly enjoyed my cousin's performance, while I sat on the sidelines and worried: don't call me, don't call me...

A lot of times, it's not that I don't say it, it's just that I have to spend a little more time than normal people when I integrate.

Focusing too deliberately on me, imposing the kindness of compulsive intentions, will make me gradually lose the desire to speak.

I often hear adults say: Why don't you speak, why is this child so quiet, this is not good, you have to go out to see the world.

I think every introverted and non-talkative child has had moments of annoyance with himself.

When I was called to the podium to read aloud, I was always blushing and heartbeating, and I should have been able to read sentences fluently, but I made myself very unnatural.

When you meet acquaintances on the road, you will always give yourself a question that is not a problem in your heart: do you want to say hello, do you want to stop to say hello? Could he not have seen me? What if I don't say hello and people think I'm rude? Always complicating yourself.

There are many moments when I envy people who are outgoing and cheerful. But after that moment, I still like this true self.

I am often said by others: boring, good-tempered, laughing, and alone.

However, only I know that it is not me, and that is what I try to show, even though I really don't like it.

I often doubt the phrase practice makes perfect, because no matter how many times I try to toast an elder, talk to someone I don't know, get called out in public, and so on, I get nervous.

Trying to change yourself is not because you "change when you know your mistakes".

It's just the fear that you're losing your chance in the same circumstances as everyone else.

But, it's just my character.

My understanding is that there are quite a few introverts, probably half of them. Don't think too much, natural life, introverts are introverts, there is nothing wrong with them, introverts have to pretend to be extroverted before they are tired.

"Wow! You're right, first, relax! Second, how long can it last. Thirdly, only this time and so on.

I'm introverted, don't I live a good life!

And I also plan to start a software company when the real estate certificate comes down.

People with low self-esteem and introverts live very tired because they are always concerned about what others think and are worried that others will hate them; They are also denying themselves all the time, feeling that they are bad and have no merit; In addition, they will become afraid to try various things because they care too much about what others think, and let themselves rest on their laurels. Although people with low self-esteem and introverts have various shortcomings, they should not be discriminated against, and I hope that more people can help people with low self-esteem and introverts, so that they can become cheerful and confident, and their lives will become easier.

1. Always care about other people's thoughtsInferiorIntroverts will always have all kinds of thoughts in their heads, especially they care very much about other people's thoughts, which will interfere with their emotions and behaviors and make them very tired. For example, an introvert with low self-esteem will always think "will others think my speech is terrible", "what if I make a mistake in my speech", "will they think I am stupid" and so on, and then he will become very nervous and anxious, and he may even skip the speech in serious cases.

2. People who are always denying their inferiority complex and introverts always feel that they do not deserve to have anything good: they do not deserve to have the praise of others, they do not deserve to have all kinds of honors, and they do not deserve to have a better life. They deny themselves all the time, even if others praise him, he has to say, "How can I be so good, in fact, I am very bad".

They have habitually denied themselves, so when they decide to do something, they need to spend a lot of time to do psychological construction for themselves, and constantly cheer themselves up in their hearts, "You are not so bad, you can", but it always has little effect, and many times the ending is "forget it, I won't win a prize if I participate", and then give up.

3. Introverts who don't dare to try to have low self-esteem are too concerned about other people's opinions and worry that others will talk about them, so they don't dare to come forward, and would rather be a transparent person, so that they feel safe. But at the same time, they also lost a lot of opportunities to try, and eventually reduced themselves to a mediocre person.

I have to say that such a person is very tired of living, and feeling inferior in his heart will add a lot of troubles to himself, and his life will become very painful, so he is particularly tired.

People with low self-esteem live very tired because they will be careful to care about what others think and want to be the best for themselves.

Because of low self-esteem and introversion, many things often look at other people's faces, they can't express themselves and are not used to fighting, they often lose the initiative, and they blame themselves for their incompetence.

People with low self-esteem and introverts live very tired lives. They are not good at expressing themselves, they feel that they have no special skills, they have no advantages, they don't know how to communicate with people, and they want to go out but can't find a way.

People with low self-esteem and introversion are indeed very tired to live, they will feel that everyone is targeting them, and even a casual look from others can make them frightened all day, whether they are working or studying, this kind of psychological problems caused by inferiority complex and introversion will always exist.

Very tired, introverts they are not good at expressing themselves, they are very depressed, and there is no one to talk to.

I am very tired, I think a lot, I am easy to get into the horns, I am afraid that others will look down on me, I try to do everything, but I feel that I am not good enough, and I always make myself very tired.

It is indeed very tiring to live, because they are very concerned about what others think of them, and they do not dare to express their thoughts.

They live a very humble life. They always don't cherish themselves, feeling that they are not good enough to be liked by others.

People with social phobia are more introverted about communicating with others, and may not dare to speak to others, and many times their emotions are held in their hearts.

My family has always caused me anxiety, so let's change my parenting style in the future.

Introverts think too much, and the courage and determination to do one thing are not big enough, in fact, many things do not know if they can do it themselves! So there can be concerns, just like you can't forget that there are risks, but nothing is possible if you don't do it!

"Why do you always have to put a lot of obstacles on yourself? ”

yes, why embarrass yourself?

Change the last question mark to a full stop, and you're good to go.

Why can't you think about nothing like extroverts? ”

So why do you continue to "torture" yourself when you know your problem?

You know yourself very well and you know the "benefits" of being an extrovert, so slowly adjust yourself and make yourself cheerful!

Wishing you happiness!