Have you ever experienced moral bondage before?

I have experienced moral kidnapping before, I remember when I was in elementary school, in a donation activity, I donated relatively little, and my classmates said that he usually spends a lot of money, why did he only donate so little?

One time when I was on the bus, I wasn't very comfortable. So I didn't give up my seat to the elderly, and as a result, I was scolded by the old lady in the car.

When I was a child, every time I gave something good to my brother, as long as he wanted it to get into my hands, it would be snatched away, and every time my brother cried, he deliberately said that I made him cry and his parents were good to me.

I met an old lady on the road, patted me in the car, I just rolled the window and pushed the watermelon in my face, buy a very cheap one, I said what do I buy watermelon for? , she began to cry, saying that I am so pitiful, you buy one, the child still has to go to school, I don't know if it's true or not, I didn't buy it, and the people next to me are scolding me.

I have experienced moral kidnapping, because in life, everyone has a different personality, which leads to some people who are very egoistic, standing on the shoulders of giants, and don't thank me for assigning me to do things.

In the eyes of the elders, as long as the child cries, it can only be your fault, just because you are an older brother or sister, it cannot be the child's fault.

Moral kidnapping is the application of some kind of pressure to get people to do something morally related. For example, when a college student stands at the door of the cafeteria to raise money for the disaster area, and when he sees the teacher coming to eat, he steps forward and says, "Teacher, please donate some money too!" ”

All of them are there, and once that monk asked for gloves in our **. , we gave it the first time and didn't give it the second time.

I have experienced moral kidnapping before, I remember when I was in elementary school, in a donation event, I donated relatively little, and my classmates said that he usually spends a lot of money, why did he only donate so little?

Personally, I feel that there is, especially when I am not comfortable on the bus and I have to give up my seat to others, it feels very uncomfortable.

Let me say yes, especially when I am not feeling well on the bus and I have to give up my seat to others, it feels very uncomfortable.

I feel that this kind of thing usually happens on the bus, and many times you are forced to give up your seat to the elderly, and it doesn't matter if you get motion sickness or not.

Let me tell you two stories.

When I first went to college, I didn't know what moral kidnapping was, but I still remember the story told by our speaking teacher: once he went to take a boat, he encountered something unfair, and he found someone to theorize. In the process, someone recognized him and said that Mr. Zhou forgot it, but it was a trivial matter, not a big loss, pull it down!

Shanghainese dialect can't be translated, and it's made into Northeast dialect, forgive me. Seeing this, the other party immediately shouted: Yo Yo Yo, it's still the teacher, wow, the quarrel is fierce!

Our teacher is really angry, Chinese teacher, the rhetoric is rich and gorgeous, I don't know what the final result is.

Another story is mine.

When I was just working, the conditions were difficult, the school moved to a new campus, and it was already half past ten in the evening self-study, and the school asked ** to open an additional bus to the city. The bus company has been privatized and is unwilling to take on the responsibility and has to obey the leadership of the transportation bureau, but the drivers who come are different. Originally, people could go to bed early or go out to drink, but in the middle of the night, they asked their families to pick up the teachers and go home, which was very unhappy, and often complained and lost their temper.

One day, I got to the pick-up point first and asked them which car would go first? Nobody paid any attention to me.

I asked again, but still no one answered. I've been young too, so I used to say buddy, what do you mean? Why don't you squeak?

There's a response over there: What's the matter? Your teacher, Niubei? I have to deal with you if I ask? I wondered if there was nowhere to sprinkle it, so it came to me. I'll just say what kind of cows, how good you are, you are real cows!

When they heard it, they felt that something was wrong, and they were about to come over to fight, and then the students came, a lot of people. They shouted that the teachers in your school are too good, and they want to fight, come and see, the quality of the teachers is really high, what good students can be taught!

Someone advised me not to be like them, and I thought at the time, I would have to follow them if the teacher quit. What kind of teacher is not of high quality, we are all old men outside, I am not affected by this nest!

When a teacher is angry, he must be of high quality; When the salary is low, he is required to be willing to be poor, is this considered moral kidnapping?

In fact, it is a situation of whether you give way to the elderly on the bus. First of all, I think it's normal to give way to the elderly, but I think there are times when I'm not feeling well, or I'm very irritable.

It must have been that I was very tired from taking the bus after work every day, and then a middle-aged woman in her 40s had to ask me to give up my seat.

When I got on the bus, I was asked by the old man to give up my seat, and I was very tired from work at this time, and I just wanted a simple break.

Because the university is a medical school, there are regular volunteer hours every week from the beginning of the freshman year. Although the school is under the sign of volunteers in exchange for credits.

But as soon as I entered the school, I rejected this so-called "volunteer time", first, because I felt that it was too fake, and every time I went to the place, it was hung with the reputation of "pitiful, miserable"; The second is that the school's move is to stand at the highest point of morality and squeeze the use value.

Towards the end of the second semester of my sophomore year, I was forced to volunteer at a nursing home one weekend by my counselor, citing insufficient credits.

On the bus, the surrounding classmates were already very familiar with chatting, only I was lying on the window sullenly, just because the volunteer classmates who had been in the same dormitory many times explained to me before I left the dormitory: "When you arrive at the nursing home, talk less, what do the old people want you to do, don't bring your emotions, just do the right thing." ”

Because of this sentence, my mood changed from the original apprehension to rejection, but no matter how I rejected, the car still arrived at the nursing home as always.

When I got out of the car, the first thing that caught my eye was not the faces of amiable old men, but a row of cold cameras. On the wall of the nursing home, every move inside is recorded in a comprehensive position.

I turned my head uncomfortably and quietly looked at the classmates around me, who had already poured in unsurprisingly. I had to suppress my doubts and follow them as naturally as I could.

As soon as I entered, there were old people sitting in the courtyard drinking tea and playing cards. When they heard the sound of us coming in, they all turned their heads to look at us kindly.

Then the accompanying teacher stepped forward to assign us to serve the elderly, and after receiving the assignment, I cautiously walked to a table of elderly people who were playing cards.

As soon as I stood still, before I could speak, the old man in front of me said as a matter of course: "Help me beat my shoulders." I frowned a little awkwardly, but said nothing, put my hands stiffly on the old man's shoulders, and began to massage her.

After half an hour of pressing Liangyou, I was about to go inside to get a glass of water and take a break. As soon as I stopped, before I could speak, the old man turned his head with a smile and yelled at me in a gentle tone: "You haven't eaten, your strength is not as big as a child, how did you learn in school, where did you listen to class!"

I was really stunned this time, because I couldn't believe that the old man was smiling and saying such mean words, I moved my mouth, and was about to speak, when a few big brothers with cameras came over.

Our team leader was holding a microphone in front of them, and just walked up to my side, he handed the microphone over: "Classmate, do you like to volunteer here?" ”

I looked at the machine in front of me and couldn't say anything against my heart, but the old man next to me grabbed the microphone: "Oh, how can they not like it, we get along happily, we old people are lonely, so pitiful, who wouldn't like it, right?" ”

I looked at my classmates and teachers around me and nodded politely, and I secretly vowed in my heart that I would never say goodbye again.

Preface: In our lives, we will inevitably experience some things that make us in a dilemma, the most uncomfortable is moral kidnapping, what is moral kidnapping? There are some people who stand on the moral high ground and use some beautiful words to kidnap you, but they don't know that these behaviors can also be described as a manifestation of lack of morality.

Why? Because it's like on a bus, do you have to give up your seat to the elderly? It's true that at the most basic level of morality, some elderly people need to be given their leg problems, and they need to give them their seats and let them rest, but there are some elderly people who feel that this is the right thing to do.

Relying on the old and selling the old, but I don't know that giving up my seat is love, and not giving up my seat is my duty. This seat was my first to arrive, and morally speaking, first come, first served. It's normal to do this in order.

I gave you a seat just because I felt you needed me to help you out of humanitarianism, but some people kidnap this morality. There are even elderly people who rely on the old and sell the old, because some young people are not allowed to sit and beat them. However, these are inconvenient to walk, and the elderly need to give up their seats when they sit in the car.

If you don't bow down to the evil forces, why do people grab eggs in the supermarket, dance square dances on the street every time, occupy the basketball court in the community, and drive these teenagers out of the community, but they are more energetic than one another? The so-called moral kidnapping is nothing more than a way for them to remember morality and use it as a tool to seek something beneficial to themselves. When we experience moral kidnapping, we must boldly say that we must not bow to the evil forces.

The more embarrassed you are, the more you feel that the other person is standing on the moral high ground to condemn you.

If there is nothing wrong with saying no, the more you should rebel against them and shout to them that you don't tell them, don't kidnap me morally, I have my own rules for what I do, I know what I should do, I will be responsible for my actions, what our parents taught me, I don't need you to teach me in that way again. Be bold and say no to moral kidnapping, so that our lives will be better.

When I experience moral kidnapping, I will take a tooth for a tooth, an eye for an eye, and kidnap the same morality on the other person. Because what happened to me is something that no one else can relate to.

I will not accept such moral kidnapping, doing good deeds comes from the heart, not being coerced, and people who use morality to kidnap others are not worthy of people doing good deeds.

I feel decisive to go back and not accept any moral kidnapping, because I think this way is very responsive and unacceptable.

Moral kidnapping is originally doing a good thing, but in the eyes of others, it is something that should be done, and if you don't do it, you will even be considered immoral.

In my eyes, I have been suffering from moral kidnapping since I graduated from elementary school, which has caused me great trouble.

My nephew was born in the summer vacation when I graduated from elementary school, and since then, it has been my job to take him with everyone. One of the things my mom said to me most often was that if you don't have kids, then you go to work and earn money. If you don't have children, then you do laundry and cooking at home.

If you don't have children, then you ......

I've heard a lot of these words, and you, as an aunt, should take him with you. So since my nephew came to this world, I basically don't have my own personal time in the afternoon, I go to play with my classmates, I have to take him with me, I basically have to take him with me wherever I go. Because he's smaller, I basically can't go out and play because it's not safe.

I've been like this for a few years, and my nephews are full of winter and summer vacations and weekends.

Not only that, but my family often scolded me for not bringing my nephew well. If he falls and knocks, I'll wait to go back and be scolded. If he gets sick and eats something that gets hot, I'm basically going to be criticized.

So most of the time I feel tired from the process of bringing my nephew.

Although I like my nephew very much, and I am willing to play with him and take care of him, I don't feel that it is my obligation. My family never thanked me, including my nephew's parents. Now that I'm away from my family, I don't have to be kidnapped anymore.

I've seen and encountered a few different types of things about "moral kidnapping". I'll tell you a story about what happened to me on the train.

When I was in college, every time I went home during the holidays, I bought a hard sleeper train ticket with my classmates to go home. It is a direct train that takes 50 hours.

Normally, we both try to grab the bottom bunk with one person. Because the 50-hour drive is still a bit long. If we have a lower bunk, we can sit on the lower bunk together during the day and don't have to lie on it all the time.

You know, lying flat for so long is also quite uncomfortable. And the aisle of the train is relatively narrow, and there is not much space to walk back and forth, so I have survived these 50 hours by watching TV series and reading books together in the lower bunk.

Once, one of us bought the top bunk and the other the lower bunk. Not long after getting on the bus, a grandmother got into the car with her grandson, who was about 7 years old, and she was in the middle bunk of our row. Grandma saw us sitting on the lower bunk, and when she came up, she asked directly

I'm going to change it with you, it's not convenient for me to sleep in the bunk with my children. I'll sleep in your lower bunk, you go and sleep in my middle bunk, okay? Then the two of us explained to my grandmother that we didn't get off until the terminal, and there were a lot of things, which was not very convenient.

Ask grandma to ask the flight attendant to see if there is a free lower berth to help change it.

Then, grandma was not happy. While shouting to the flight attendant, he said loudly that young people are like this now, can't they be considerate of children. The person next to him said that grandma, you are a moral kidnapping, and grandma is even more unhappy.

I know it's good to be helpful. However, moral kidnapping is shameful. Moreover, the tone of grandma asking us to help change shops is also justified.

Since then, if I take the long-distance train by myself, I have tried to buy a mid-berth.