Am I doing the right thing about refusing to meet my boyfriend s parents alone?

It's not a pure question of right or wrong.

Your method is correct, you need someone to help you get to know each other's family members in a relaxed way, because you are not familiar with each other, you will be cold when chatting, and this is actually very embarrassing, so there is nothing wrong with your approach.

The second point is that it is actually a temporary situation, if you want to say that you can go alone, it is nothing more than to be polite to others, in fact, you can solve this problem as an interview, and it is right to say that you are embarrassed to go alone, don't worry.

Just do the following. Hehe.

First of all, it's not right for you to pick up something and go to your boyfriend alone, and the reason doesn't need to be said; Secondly, even if you are together, his parents will not have a bad impression of you because of this incident. In the end, there is no right or wrong thing ...

Indeed, it is difficult to make a good impression, at least you are not confident, and you are not close to the elderly. There is no responsibility, too dependent. Give points, otherwise you won't give blessings.

Then your boyfriend is really not good, how can you see your mother's parents ask you to go alone for the first time. No, I'll understand like them.

It depends on the situation, the two of you, do his parents agree, and if so, why refuse?

I think you're going to be embarrassed and can't find something to say, so uneasy

After you tell him to go to your house by himself.

That's how they see their parents. Either go together, or you don't go at all.

You're doing it right, you can only say that your boyfriend is not sensible.

First of all, it is necessary to take communication as the principle. Confide in each other what you think, you say that you are sincere to him, and now you want to marry him, and you want to meet his parents, and then discuss marriage. As for him, Tuan Fang also said why he didn't want to take you to meet your parents.

Express ideas and communicate with each other, so that each other can know their attitudes and opinions about meeting their parents and getting married.

Second, get the communication results at the end. There are several results of communication, one is that he is willing to take you to meet your parents, that is a good thing, and you will follow the trend. The other is that he is not willing to take you to meet your parents now, but he is willing to marry you and love you, but he feels that the current relationship is not yet the time to meet his parents to talk about marriage, at this time, you can give him a time limit, such as half a year, a year, etc., after this time to meet his parents to talk about marriage, if he agrees, a year later to meet his parents to talk about marriage, if he does not agree, you will calm down for a period of time, see if you still need to go on, you don't need to go down, just break up, after all, you have been talking for four years, it is a long time, you girl can't afford to drag the ribbon.

Third, I have been talking about it for three years, what kind of love is almost mature, and marriage is also a logical thing, those who are married are under great pressure, the family burden is heavy, and children are needed, etc., most of these are excuses, they have been talking for four years, understanding, knowing, trusting, identifying, running-in, before and after marriage, there is pressure and burden, and responsibility, if you are afraid of taking responsibility and pressure, then this person is worth considering for life.

Therefore, you need to be clear about your boyfriend's attitude, when to marry you, breaking up is painful, but it is not good for anyone to drag it out, the long pain is better than the short pain, you are still young, you can find a good family to marry. If your boyfriend still wants to play, you can't afford to accompany him, you are older than him, and women will age very quickly after they reach the age of thirty, and men are just mature and stable at thirty, and there is no guarantee that he will not like other girls at that time.

Maybe he is not very satisfied with you, so he doesn't want to meet your parents, you can ask him why?

This is just the idea of just wanting to fall in love, and not wanting to get married. Then you should think about how you will go from here.

With my years of experience, I suggest you change your boyfriend.

When a girl has been with her boyfriend for a long time, or even has been living together for a while, it seems natural to take the initiative to meet the woman's parents. However, there are often many boys who are not happy to meet the woman's parents, and will find many reasons to refuse or delay meeting the woman's parents. Why is that?

How should we interpret the psychology of boys? What should girls do?

In fact, concern is a state of mind that is afraid of not being good for oneself, others, or things, and is afraid to make up one's mind, or to act according to one's intention. Concerns are common in people's daily lives, so it's normal for your boyfriend to be reluctant to meet your parents. But on a deeper level, I think there are several reasons:

First, the time has not yet come

Your boyfriend may feel that you haven't been dating for a long time, and the two parties don't know each other well enough, and he feels that the time has not yet come, and he wants to continue to investigate whether you are the woman he will eventually accompany for a lifetime, so put off the time to see your parents and wait for the time to meet again. If so, it's time for you to behave yourself!

Second, under pressure, lack of confidence in themselves

Maybe your boyfriend's work, family life, and his own conditions are not very superior, and he doesn't dare to face your parents, for fear that your parents will object, so he can drag it out if he wants, or keep working hard in secret, and then proudly go to see your parents after he wants to become famous. If this is the case, you should encourage your boyfriend more, and advise your parents to get vaccinated first, and communicate with your parents in advance.

3. It's just a joke for you

Maybe from the moment I met you, you were just your boyfriend's spare tire or plaything, the other party never wanted to be with you for a long time, and he was just playing with you at all, and he didn't want to go with you to meet his parents in his heart, let alone let too many people know about your existence, and his feelings for you were just for fun from beginning to end. If this is the case, you can just shake your head and leave, and quit in time to avoid more damage.

Fourth, you may have some problems yourself

Maybe your boyfriend really likes you, wants to grow old with you, and wants to meet your parents and settle the marriage, but you have some problems in yourself that make him hesitate, make him distrust your future, and can't see a better future, so he doesn't dare to make up his mind. If so, it's time for you to reflect on yourself!

Therefore, when you offer to ask your boyfriend to go home with you to see your parents, and your boyfriend obviously refuses or procrastinates, and refuses to see your parents, it is recommended that you do not get angry in a hurry, let alone repeatedly force, I believe that boys more or less have their own concerns, and your smartest thing to do is to first find a way to communicate well with your boyfriend, and understand the real reason why the other party does not see your parents, and then deal with it flexibly according to the specific situation.

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<> the man's parents do not agree with you to bring your boyfriend to meet your parents, you can ask the reason, usually if the parents do not agree with the boyfriend, there must be a certain reason.

The man's parents did not agree to me taking my boyfriend to meet his parents.

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<> the man's parents do not agree with you to bring your boyfriend to meet your parents, you can ask the reason, usually if the parents do not agree with the boyfriend, there must be a reason for the state clear that the bookkeeper told him before.

If the boyfriend is not in a hurry at all and is also retreating, he will feel that it doesn't matter, it means that he doesn't care about you at all, and he doesn't care what your parents think. If you want your boyfriend to know that your parents don't like him, but he is sad, and he has been anxious to solve this problem with you, it means that he is really serious and wants to get a kind of approval from your parents. Knowing the reason why your parents don't like your boyfriend, and you really decide to live together, then you can also go to your parents together to discuss it.

If it's for economic reasons, it's about trying to make money, and if it's for distance, then the boy has to make concessions.

It was the woman's parents who asked to see the boy, and then the boy's parents disagreed.

Dear, what is the attitude of the boys?

I didn't have an attitude, and after calling his mother, his mother said she didn't agree, and then comforted me for a while and stopped talking.

Dear, how long have you been together?

A year and a half. Dear, the attitude of your boyfriend who has been together for a year and a half is very important.

His parents disagreed, and this was the time to test his determination.

Summary. Ask the reason Generally speaking, parents do not agree to meet your parents, and there must be a certain reason. Maybe he thinks that you haven't come to meet your parents yet, or maybe his parents are not satisfied with you in some aspects, and want you to continue to talk about it, and see your parents again in the future, so you must ask your parents what is the reason for not liking, so that you can find the right medicine and find a solution.

Test your boyfriend's reaction When the girl's parents object, the girl should also observe her boyfriend's reaction, if the boyfriend is not in a hurry at all and also retreats, it will feel that it doesn't matter, it means that he doesn't care about you at all, and he doesn't care what your parents think.

Ask the reason Generally speaking, parents do not agree to meet your parents, and there must be a certain reason. Maybe he thinks that you haven't come to see your parents yet, or maybe his parents are dissatisfied with you in some aspects, and want you to continue to talk about it, and see your parents again in the future, so you must ask your parents what is the reason why they don't like to balance and ignore the joy, so that they can prescribe medicine for the focus and find a solution. Test your boyfriend's reaction When the girl's parents object, the girl should also observe her boyfriend's reaction, if the boyfriend is not in a hurry at all and also retreats, it will feel that it doesn't matter, it means that he doesn't care about you at all, and he doesn't care what your parents think.

Hello, the man's parents don't agree with me to take my boyfriend to meet the parents, you can also ask the boy to ask his parents why they don't agree, only by finding the place where the question is can the world be completely solved. At this time, you can also inquire about the cause of Yuan's limb from his relatives, friends and friends.

Hello, do you have any other doubts, you can raise them, I've always been there.

If the boyfriend is reluctant to meet his parents, is there no need to continue to develop?

If this answer is yes, why should it be developed, and how can it be developed and carried out?

First of all, we have to figure out one thing: why is he reluctant to meet his parents, it is your parents who make him unable to climb high? Makes him feel strongly uneasy and inferior? Or is it your parents who make him disgusted, and he doesn't want or want to see them again.

So here's the problem. What are you going to do if things go on. Or just say what do you do?

How do you want to deal with this emotion? Is he so rich that you have to abandon your family of origin and start all over again? It's still handsome, so you don't know what your heartbeat is like all day long.

In addition to these two reasons, you can't have a third excuse, because money is not everyone can give you that much, and it can also allow you to live the life you want without working hard. Handsome is born, handsome people are hard to find, not to mention that handsome people can still take a fancy to you and let you be his boyfriend. This kind of feeling can really make you abandon your parents.

Continue to develop into a family and have children.

In addition, if you say that he is really good to me, it will make me so moved. After saying that, you may not even believe you. Is he good to you? Will you not consider your feelings and not see your parents? Afraid of what? There's a ghost in the psyche.

If you don't make a decision, what else do you want to do? Let his ghost see him? Will you cross his soul in your own flesh?

If you feel that it is not suitable to refuse, I think it is normal for you to have concerns, and he should also respect your ideas, after all, lifelong events need time to consider, and the person who has been with him all his life should also need time to understand, if he is angry or even breaks up with you because of this, then you should think about it. If he really loves you, then he will respect your opinion, and he won't force you to go if you don't want to.

It's also possible that his parents want to see you or that he often mentions you at home, so he wants to have a meal with you, a meal with your parents, and talk about their thoughts. But I think this is also a hint of marriage, and you don't want to do that, so you can ask him if his parents said that. If it is you can ask him to find a way to shirk or give a ** condolences, there is no need to meet.

If not, that's the best, you tell him to see the parents a little longer, and I think he'll agree.

You can tell your boyfriend that your love is not stable now, and when the two of you get better, it's not too late to see your parents again.

Let's just say that parents don't want to fall in love for the time being, so you can't let your parents know about your relationship, and dispel your boyfriend's idea of seeing your parents.

You say that your parents think it's better for you not to fall in love now, and that you'd better focus on your career now and introduce him to them when the time comes.

You can say that it's too early for you to meet your parents, and you will definitely bring him home after a while.