What should I do if I can t get what I want, and I can t get away if I don t want to get it?

Everyone has a sense of possessiveness, and when they want to get something, as long as they make money through their own efforts, they can buy it quickly. People are different, everyone has their own thinking, you want to get others, but others don't necessarily want to be with you. So the problem is obvious, it's for people.

Men and women are different, and if a woman finds that a man is particularly good to her, after careful consideration, the woman will definitely agree to be with this man. And many women want to find a man who loves her to live, so most women don't care whether they love this person or not, so they live with him.

And men are different, men always want to get someone he loves. For example, a man wants to get a woman, and he thinks that this woman is very good. I just want to be with this woman.

However, this woman just doesn't like him and doesn't give him a chance at all, but the more this happens, the more noble he feels that this woman is, the more he wants to get it, and then he will try all kinds of ways, and even some people will have radical behaviors and use improper means to get this woman.

When a man doesn't like a girl, no matter how much the woman pays, he can't look down on it, and the more the woman pays, the more he feels that the woman is low. It's unfair to women. This is also the inferiority of men and the inferiority of women since ancient times, and discrimination against women.

Now that society is much better, both men and women can pursue the person they like, and there is no such thing as whoever takes the initiative is lowly.

Therefore, this kind of man must adjust his mentality. The thing you do want may not belong to you, and you should let it go. And the woman who is good to you, you must cherish it, and don't regret it if you miss it.

You must know that once a woman who is particularly good to you is sad, she will never pay attention to you again, and after you slowly accept her, you will find a lot of good things about her. She loves you so much, she will definitely be very attentive to you, take special care of you, and take care of you properly, is there anything wrong with that. Why waste your time with people you can't get?

I feel that these two issues should be looked at separately, so I want to look at them from two different perspectives. <>

The first problem: you can't get what you want. I think to solve this problem, you first have to figure out whether the thing you are asking for is within your ability or control.

If what you want is fanciful and unrealistic, I don't think you should force it. But if you find that you only need to put in a little effort or put in some effort on your own, I think there is only one reason why you can't get it, and that is that you haven't worked hard enough. Then I think you should find a way to get it at this point, and then add some effort of your own, I think it should be obtainable.

But there is a special case here, that is, the emotional aspect, in fact, this aspect is often forced to come, I think it is better to open up the mind a little, don't think so much, because feelings can not be forced, if it is not yours, you can not get it. So if it's emotional, I don't think you should force it, slowly find the right person for yourself, and don't keep worrying about yourself. <>

The second problem: I can't get rid of what I don't want to get. I think this question is going to be divided into situations again, and there is a type of person or thing that is really very unsuitable for you, and then you can't get rid of it.

I think you still have to make it clear to him in person that you really dislike him, or that you really don't want something, and you should get rid of it as soon as possible. I think that in this regard, we must not let it continue to plague us, and we must solve it in time. But there are other situations where you think you don't want it, but it may be the best for you in the future.

I think in this case, you shouldn't get rid of him, you should figure out whether you're disgusted by this or this thing, or if you don't dare to admit it, these things you feel you don't want to have, but you actually want to have. I think this kind of duplicity is a very contradictory problem that we also make all the time, and we must not wait until we really lose it to really regret it.

I think that if we look at these two issues together, whether we can't get what we want or can't get rid of what we don't want to get, it's actually a matter of mentality. If you figure out what you really want, then you have to analyze whether you can get it through your own efforts. If you really can't get it, I don't think you should force it.

But if you find that it is possible to get it through hard work, then get these things through your own efforts, or get rid of them. <>

People are like this, what you can't get is always the best, so people always deliberately pursue those things that can never be obtained, and often ignore the people around them who have been silently loving them. If you are in true love, then don't break up easily, and don't wait until you lose it to regret it. At that time, the pain was unforgettable, many people in the world only know how to cherish when they lose, they should cherish the people they have around them, and don't lose an opportunity or a lover because of others, so we will lose a lot.

Cherish the present contentment and happiness, I like to watch "Journey to the West", every time I hear the sentence of the Supreme Treasure "The most painful thing in the world is nothing more than this", I can't help but feel sad When I have it, I don't know how to cherish it, but I don't regret it until I lose it. What you have is not satisfied, what you get is not cherished, you are obsessed with greed, and you are just asking for happiness just because you are just asking for fishLiu Ruoying sang in the song:

Later, I finally learned how to love, but unfortunately you are long gone, disappeared into the sea of people, and then finally understood in tears that some people once they miss it will never come again. Come on, I hope you can find what you really want.

In fact, the two are the same, it's just a mental effect, what you want will often be thought about, because you cherish him, but what you don't want is because you don't cherish it, and sometimes you will regret it when you lose it. Isn't it?

You won't cherish what is easy to get, you won't feel that it's important to you if you can't get it, and if you get it with your persistence and hard work, you'll cherish it even more. If you can't get it, you have to get it, and that's it: because people always have vanity, maybe you have a strong desire to possess

There is a heart to plant flowers and flowers do not bloom, and there is no intention to plant willows and willows.

That's what life is all about.

No one could have predicted what would happen in the next moment.

This is a meaningful and interesting life.

The fate of man is arranged by God in the dark!

Don't force it, the melon that is twisted is not sweet, know how to cherish it, don't lose it, and regret it.

What is yours is yours, and don't force it if it's not yours. That.

First, the subjective feeling of reaching this conclusion (the more you think about something, the less you can get it) is different from the actual situation.

Rationale:1What sticks in my memory are the events that are quite different from the expectations (one is that the expectations are met too much; One is that too little expectation is met).

2.For what you want to get, if you get it, the reality is not much different from the expectation; If you don't get it, the reality is quite different from your expectations, so you are impressed.

For goals with a mediocre or low level of motivation, there is a greater chance that expectations will be met too much; If you are not satisfied, there is not much difference, and you will not be able to leave a deep impression.

In short, it is easy to store such events in memory if you want to get it but you don't get it.

That. Second, a desire to get something means that the level of motivation is very high. And a high level of motivation generally motivates a higher level of behavior. If the subject does not belong to the type where there are always more correct behaviors than wrong behaviors, a higher level of behavior may lead to an increase in the number and degree of overall errors.

It is more likely to backfire.

I can't help it. People don't all say that you can't run away with your things. It's not something you can't grab if you force it.!!

is the so-called unintentional planting of willows and willows into yin, I forgot what to say in the following sentence. Haha, or just go straight to it...One cried, two troubled, and three hanged.

Don't give? If you don't give it to me, I'll die for you. ~~

We live in this world, and many things are like feelings that we learn to understand only after we have experienced them, and only after we have experienced them can we learn how to protect ourselves.

After being stupid, I learned how to persevere and give up.

And in the process of losing and gaining.

We are only seeing ourselves more clearly little by little.

Only then did I realize that sometimes life does not need so many so-called jujube oak attachments to learn to give up, maybe we live more easily and happily.

Learn to give up, turn around and leave the moment the tears fall, leaving a simple figure.

Learn to give up, bury the pain in your heart, and leave the best memories that once belonged to each other.

The joys and sorrows along the way, to the present, now turn around and leave, saying goodbye to each other.

I once said I loved you, and I still love you.

It's just that... I love you, but I can't be with you.

Thank you very much, this way with you!

Love is beautiful next to every stool and sedan chair, and every love is intoxicating.

The regret we can't have makes us more nostalgic.

The constant longing makes us more nostalgic.

There is no right or wrong in feelings, just like a questionnaire that never has an answer.

Maybe that little regret, a little bit of longing, will make this answer sheet longer.

Give up what should be given up, cherish what should be cherished...

Human nature, even if you get it, it doesn't make any sense

Because that's something that doesn't belong to you.

Human instincts, you can control, but you can't fundamentally change.

Maybe it's the rebellious mentality

You don't have to have someone to love, but you have to love someone well!

When you have experienced loving and being loved, and learned to love, you will know what you need, and you will find the most suitable person for you and be able to get along for a lifetime.

But sadly, in real life, people who truly love each other for various reasons may not be able to be together;

The one you love the most often doesn't choose you;

What loves you the most is often not what you love the most;

And the longest-lasting, it's not what you love the most, and it's not the one you love the most.

Only the person who appears at the most suitable time will really be with you forever!

No one deliberately wants to change his mind, he really loves you when he loves you, but he really doesn't love you when he doesn't love you, and there is no way to pretend not to love you when he loves you;

In the same way, there is no way for him to pretend to love you when he doesn't love you.

When a person doesn't love you and wants to leave you, you have to ask yourself if you still love him (her), if you don't love him (her) either, don't refuse to leave for the sake of poor self-esteem;

If you still love him (her), you should want him (her) to live happily, hope that he (she) is with the person you really love, and will never stop him/her, if you prevent him (her) from getting real happiness, it means that you have served and no longer love him (her), and if you don't love him (her), what right do you have to accuse him (her) of changing his (or her mind)?

Love is not possession!

You love the stars, and it's impossible to take them down and put them in the basin, but the light of the stars can still shine into your room.

In other words, if you love someone, you can also have it in another way, so that the lover becomes an eternal memory in your life, and if you really love someone, you have to love him as he is, love his good, and love his bad:

Love his strengths and his shortcomings, and never want him to become what he wants because he loves him, and if he can't change, he won't love him.

You can't tell the reason for really loving someone, you just know that no matter when and where, good or bad, you want this person to be with you;

The real relationship is that the two can stay together in the most difficult situation, that is, without the slightest requirement.

After all, feelings must be given, not just wanted to be gained;

Separation is an inevitable test, and if your relationship is not stable enough and you have to admit defeat, true love will not turn into resentment.

When the two are in love, they like to make each other swear and make promises, why do we swear to each other, because we don't believe in each other, we don't believe in lovers at all, and these mountain alliances and sea vows are very unrealistic.

The sea is dry and the earth is barren, but it can't change my love for you!

knowing that the sea will not wither, the stones will not rot, the earth will not grow, and the sky will not be barren;

Even if he could, he wouldn't live until then.

When making a promise, be careful, don't make promises that can be fulfilled, it is better to promise what you can't do, anyway, it doesn't matter if you can't do it, remember that "impossible promises are the most moving".

In love, one thing is said and another is done;

The speaker does not believe it, and the listener does not believe ......

Who have you met in the vast sea of people? Who met you again.