Why is it that the more you can t get love, the more you want it?

This is true of many things, not just love.

The more you want to get it, the more you won't get it, and the more you can't get it, the more you want it. You can easily get her words, and at that time, you may not feel that she is precious and do not know how to cherish it.

Persistence is valuable, but sometimes giving up is also a beauty.

Grab a handful of sand with your hands, and the more you grab, the less you go. Loosen the more, get more.

Now you think so, and in the future, you may be glad that you met someone who loves you and loves you and makes you happy because you didn't get her.

That's a sign that you can't get her, and you don't feel good when you get her.

Because what you can't get is always the best, and what you get doesn't know how to cherish it, which may be the common denominator of human beings

Driven by desire. The more you can't get it, the more you want it.

If you get it, you don't know how to cherish it.

Don't hold it. The sun in a foreign country is rounder than in China.

The attitude to face love.

The gains outweigh the losses.

In the end, you may be left alone.

Well, then go boldly chase it friends!

Bless you, buddy!

That's why you want to get her because you like it! I don't think about it because I can't get it.

Is there motivation when there is a challenge, and can you win if you love to fight?

Because the more we want to get it, the more we will care, and the more we care, the more nervous we will be, which will lead to the more panicked things we will do, but in the end we often can't do it well.

To figure out the causal relationship, in fact, it is precisely because you can't get the other party that you will do everything possible to want to be with the other party. If you do get it, maybe you don't want it anymore.

Sometimes, when you "love" someone with all your heart, you may not be in love with the real her, but with the illusion you create in your mind – you project your own illusion of the perfect couple onto the other person. In fact, many times you know in your heart that the person who can't get it is better than the person who can't get it, because she gives you room for imagination. In your fantasies, she is perfect, and you will be happier together than in any idol drama; Reality is not always as good as it seems.

If you do live together, she may have a lot of bad habits that you can't stand anymore. This is also why, sometimes the best she in our minds is always the one who has been missed - the first love that was missed in those years, the ignorant crush, the one who separated at the best time. Sometimes I know that others are interesting to me, but I can't help but hesitate, because I can't be sure whether I really like her, or because the other party likes me first and treats me well, so I am interesting to her.

There is a concept in psychology called "repetitive compulsion", which was proposed by Sigmund Freud. This means that the individual constantly repeats certain types of traumatic events and repeatedly puts themselves in situations where certain types of events may occur. You can't leave people who hurt and abuse themselves, it's very common.

Long-term use of substance abuse (e.g., alcoholism) to process or vent negative emotions;Always chasing after those who can't get it.

In an intimate relationship, the occurrence of compulsive repetition may cause us to unconsciously and repeatedly interact with a certain type of person, causing you a lot of harm, but you will feel that this situation is predestined and inevitable, and "I should fall in love with such a person" is beyond your control. The reason for compulsive repetition can be because of frustrations and shortcomings as a child. Because it's safe to keep your distance, you choose to love her all the time;Because there is no future, so safe, so you can choose the impossible her;

Because it is safe to get along with familiar patterns, you will always meet her like her. It always takes courage and risk to face your inner feelings and get true love. It's not safe, but it gives you real joy.

Breaking out of your comfort zone will make you feel stressed for a short period of time, you may be anxious and miserable, but in the end you will find that you deserve to be respected, worthy to be loved, and you don't need others to prove your worth.

It may be because people have an obsession with what they can't get, the more they can't get it, the more they want it, and this state of mind will make you feel that you like this person more, but it's not, it's just because of an obsession that you can't get, if you figure it out, it's actually good.

It's because you don't get it, you know how to cherish what you don't get, and if you don't cherish it, you won't love it, this is human nature, so you must know how to protect yourself.

This is actually a kind of thinking or emotional misunderstanding of people. I always think that what I can't get is a good thing. Not really.

A lot of things that can't be obtained, maybe he is also a very bad thing. So for example, if we fall out of love, we should be able to afford to let it go. There is no grass at the end of the world.

Maybe there's something better.

This is because they have a particularly strong possessiveness in their hearts, and with this possessiveness, they will feel that if the other party is not with them, they will feel very uncomfortable, and even feel that they are not valued by others, so they will feel more loved if they can't get it.

What you can't get is always in turmoil, you don't have a thing, but you will feel that that thing is very good, it suits you very well, you will beautify that thing, the more you don't have, the more you want to get it.

People are a kind of cheap animals, what you can't get is the best, you won't cherish it if you get it, and you won't forget it if you don't get it.

Because people have the desire to conquer, this is the common disease of people, what they can't get often wants to cherish more, people have a desire to conquer, and what they can't get is always in turmoil.

Because people are very curious about what they can't get, they will work harder and love more when they can't get it.

Because everyone has a greater desire to conquer the love they can't get, and it is also very in line with everyone's characteristics, so they like it more and more.

Because this is the characteristic of human beings, it is precious to cherish it when it is gained and lost if it is lost.