My best friend is very good, I admire her, but why am I jealous of her?

You may be jealous of your excellent girlfriend for three reasons:

1. You are very similar to your best friend. Whether it's the upbringing, family background or social class, otherwise you won't become best friends. You won't be jealous of someone who is very different from you, for example, you will be jealous of your beautiful girlfriend, but you will not be jealous of a beautiful ballerina.

Unless you're also trained in ballet and love to dance ballet.

2. Her excellent places are very close to you, even what you have been longing for. For example, in terms of academic performance, your best friend is better than you, and while you admire her, you will have self-doubt about your learning ability and hurt your self-confidence, so you will be jealous of your best friend.

Because you care, you pay attention and your emotions are easily swayed by it, so it is easy to develop feelings of jealousy. If it's an area you don't care about at all, such as the level of football, even if your girlfriend is good enough to be in the national team, you won't feel jealous.

3. Feelings of psychological unfairness. Maybe you and your girlfriend are also going to sign up for the school to be the broadcast host. Although you and your girlfriend have the same level of pronunciation and recitation in Mandarin, or even a little better than her, your girlfriend's voice is sweeter, so she chose and you didn't.

You will feel very unfair, you will feel that you are unlucky, and your girlfriend is just a little more lucky, so you will feel jealous of her.

If your girlfriend's broadcast level catches up with the CCTV host, you will only be amazed and admired, but you will not be jealous at all.

Jealousy can not only cause psychological torture to yourself, but it can also be converted into upward motivation, especially if you feel that the gap between you and your girlfriend is not too big.

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It is normal for this kind of psychology to breed, especially among women, it is very easy to have this kind of jealousy, but we must grasp the proportions and do not let the jealousy overflow to the point that it is uncontrollable.

Jealousy is a negative emotion that arises from people at the same level as you who surpass themselves in some aspects, surpass themselves or are luckier than themselves, which may be resentment, may be unbalanced, and a kind of hostility towards the other party. This kind of emotion is more present between girls, when the other party is better than you, better than you, it will produce that kind of annoyance, anxiety or disgust. Although you recognize your best friend's excellence, you will inevitably be jealous of her.

It could be that he has what you want to have, it could be that you think he's too lucky, and you deserve what she has now. Maybe you feel that you are not worse than him, but you are not as good as him. <>

In fact, jealousy is a common emotion in people, but sometimes it can be an upward motivation when handled properly. Because reasonable jealousy may force you to want to progress. However, if this negative emotion is allowed to develop, it may cause a more bad psychology, develop into a kind of malice towards the other party, want to slander the other party, want to create some damage, this is absolutely not allowed.

This heightened jealousy can cause a kind of psychological torture to yourself, and you will discredit your girlfriend as an imaginary enemy. This will ruin your friendship.

I also used to be jealous of my girlfriend because she was not beautiful but she was very popular and popular. Even the teacher took special care of him, so I was jealous of her. I slowly adjusted my mentality, talked about this bad emotion and suppressed it, and then to understand why she was so popular, and slowly learned to appreciate him.

I slowly turned this jealousy into an appreciation. Sometimes jealousy can be a potential motivator, and I've learned a lot from him. Jealousy is common, but you must know how to treat it objectively.

This is normal, good people tend to be jealous, even if they are their best friends. Don't blame yourself too much, it's normal, as long as you don't make that jealousy even bigger, that's fine. What I'm afraid of is that some people are often unable to handle this emotion well, and will turn their jealousy of their girlfriends into hatred, which is very wrong.

When a good friend is excellent, we should bless her more than be jealous, although this is our normal reaction, but we must refrain from it, you can learn from her excellence, and make yourself more and more excellent, so that there will be other girls who admire you and appreciate you, isn't it very good.

In the human world, it is often difficult for an excellent person to exist, and the excellent person is always treated with admiration but very jealous psychology to spend every day, we often see good friends get rewards, praise, we will involuntarily think of ourselves, so that it will invisibly form a contrast, appear to be more failures, jealousy will arise spontaneously. <>

There is no person who is sacred, we are human beings, there will be all kinds of psychology: sadness, jealousy, happiness, hatred, etc., the saint can keep his state of mind like a mirror, and we can't do it, we should tolerate our own shortcomings, tolerate our own various psychology, but we can't indulge our negative psychology at will, we must learn to restrain and learn to suppress these negative psychology, so that we can become better and better. Excellent people have no jealousy of others in their eyes, no worries, and only their own work in their hearts.

Only when we can let go of distractions and not be bothered by external objects will our work efficiency become higher and higher, and our lives will become happier and happier.

It's not just you or yours who have such problems. Your friend is good enough, then you will definitely admire her, but it does not only mean, you will only admire her, occasionally with a little jealousy or envy, these are normal phenomena, people are always envious of the successful person at the same time, occasionally fantasizing about what would happen if he went bankrupt? If I were her, I wouldn't have been more successful than him.

Comparing with successful people, it is a behavior that normal people will have, this behavior, you don't need to mind, you can change the way of thinking, I am jealous of my best friend, because she is good enough, and it will not seem that she is very small. <>

And for this situation, the best way is to make yourself better, you can be with your girlfriend enough without feeling embarrassed, turn this pressure into motivation for work, you will feel motivated every day, because with a goal, it is easy to catch up, and set your girlfriend as your short-term goal.

The best state of a friendship is that two people, or even several people can progress together, one person is always lonely on the road of struggle, and if a group of people go hand in hand, then it will be much better. You won't feel lonely anymore and you won't be held back because a person is unwilling to work and doesn't work hard.

And it's going to be a good story, and I think you want your friends to be excellent, so that you can feel like you're shining when you introduce yourself to your family and classmates. And you don't feel like your friends can't handle it.

This may be the right way to open a friendship, no one who has a successful career is alone, he will definitely have a strong support team, a group of friends to walk hand in hand, full of energy.

In our friendships, we all like to make friends with people who are better than ourselves. Therefore, among our friends, there will be many people who are better than us, whether it is in terms of conduct in the world, or in terms of professional ability, even academics and even appearance, people who are better than us.

As friends, especially close friends, we tend to feel envious, and sometimes even "jealous".

For many people who are far away from our lives, those who seem to be good and successful, we tend not to be jealous, because we know that those people are too far away from us, and it is difficult for us to reach them.

On the contrary, for some people around us, it is easy to envy or envy when we see our close friends.

I myself had this experience, when I was in middle school, I had a good friend who was inseparable all day, this friend was tall and white, although not thin, but she was also very healthy, and in that student era, she was like a shining child. She was also the president of our class, the teacher liked it, the classmates liked to play with her, and she invited me to celebrate one birthday, and her parents looked very young and beautiful, and I was very envious of her at that time, even a little jealous of her. How can there be such a perfect person?

But the more we get along, the more I know that she actually loves to eat, but in order to maintain a healthy body, she will go for a run every day, and her classmates like her because she is always enthusiastic to help her classmates, and the teacher likes her because she will always help the teacher share some things when we are resting.

When we graduated, she told me that his parents were divorced, and at that moment, as an outsider, I felt sorry for her.

This is a normal psychological reaction, people's talents are high and low, and don't be discouraged because you are lower. Generally speaking, you have a wider range of mates than her. So you don't have to be jealous of her at all.

You can say to your girlfriend that it's not right for you to do this, because you have to believe that you are the best, we don't envy others casually, we can just be ourselves, if you want to achieve this goal, then you must work hard at work, and you must dare to challenge your own limits, I believe you can do it.

First of all, you should let your girlfriend correct her thinking and attitude, relax her mind, let him be good at discovering and observing his own advantages, and can carry out some effective communication, after all, communication is the root of the solution.

Girlfriends are our closest friends, when we are happy to share together, when we are sad, we rely on each other, when we are in difficulty, we should be happy about each other, but the relationship is so delicate, sometimes girlfriends are too good, we will even be secretly jealous. In fact, it is normal for friends to have such negative emotions sometimes. As long as we know how to take measure, it will not cause the relationship between friends to break down.

So how exactly do you deal with this situation? My opinion is as follows:

First of all, the reason why you are jealous of the other person is that you are not confident, so you have to build self-confidence. Everyone has their own unique advantages, girlfriends are more beautiful than you, but maybe you are smarter, don't just see the advantages of others, but also discover your own advantages. There is a saying that we tend to only see the good in others and ignore our own good points, and I think it's quite right.

Therefore, you should not compare your own shortcomings with the advantages of the other party too much, but work hard to tap your own strengths and cultivate them into your own advantages, and you must have confidence in yourself.

Secondly, you have to work hard to improve yourself. Maybe you are not as good as the other party on the outside, but the appearance is not something we can choose, we can only strive to improve our inside, read more, study more, increase our knowledge, broaden our horizons, arm our minds with rich knowledge, make ourselves better and stronger inside. If you are a thoughtful and insightful person, then as soon as you speak, you will naturally attract the attention of others, and then your appearance will no longer matter.

The other thing is that you have to adjust your mindset and manage your emotions. There are people outside the people, there are mountains outside the mountains, there are too many people in the world who are better than us, what can you do if you are jealous? Nothing changes the facts.

Therefore, you must learn to adjust your mentality, face the people and things around you with a normal heart, don't envy others, but be down-to-earth, strive to live your own life, and don't let negative emotions crush you.

At this time, you must adjust your mentality, make yourself a particularly confident person, and attend more parties, so that you can cope well.

You should comfort yourself, but you should also change your mind, because everyone has their own way of living.

You should change your mentality, don't be too jealous of your girlfriends, you should make yourself very beautiful, and you can also change your appearance through some dressing, so that you won't be jealous of your girlfriends.

Your best friend is jealous of you and can't see that you are better than her, which means that she is not your real best friend, one because of a good best friend, she hopes that your life can be better and better. If you have already discovered his true colors, then I think you should cut off contact with them as soon as possible, or say that you should not treat him as a good friend of your own, but just associate with him as an ordinary friend, after all, such a person may do something to you in the future.

Therefore, when making friends, you must improve your ability to distinguish between right and wrong, and you can't immediately identify him as your good friend because you just have the same interests and hobbies, because the definition of a good friend is very narrow, a good friend, he is selflessly helping you when you need it, he is happy for you when he sees you doing well, and he is sad with you when he sees you sad, only such a person can be counted as a real good friend. Those friends who seem to be nice to you on the surface, but secretly don't know what to think of you inside, so try not to associate with them.

So in the process of making friends in the future, don't easily hand over your sincerity, because you are sincere to your friend, but he may not treat you sincerely, such a friend, he may only be by your side for some kind of benefit. If, in the future, you find that you have a friend who will look unhappy when he sees that you are doing well, or that he often stirs up trouble between you and other people in your ear, then such a friend is not worth associating.

In fact, the best way to deal with such people is to ignore them, you don't believe what they say, after all, the more you pay attention to them, the more proud they will be, and it is a very bad thing to treat you like a fool. After all, the original intention of our family friends is to expand their interpersonal communication, that is, to be able to have more security when you go out of society in the future, or to have someone by your side when you are sad and sad.