I like to be angry and impulsive, but soft hearted

First of all, you are a girl with a strong personality, you pursue independence and freedom, and you are unwilling to let your life be arranged by others, and secondly, you must be a relatively strong person in life, and you don't want to completely control anyone's thoughts, but you subconsciously don't want you to act according to other people's ideas, and you always feel as if you are being led by others, which is very uncomfortable.

In fact, the solution is very simple, 1The best policy, understand others more, you have to understand that really smart women will not bother in these little things, bear with them a little more, in your quarrel with your boyfriend, as long as the woman gives in a little, it will make the man ashamed and embarrassed afterwards, this is, you will naturally have the initiative, this is to capture the old indulgence, to retreat as a way forward.

2.Make a decision, change a boyfriend, a man who can't fully understand your character is not worth your efforts for him, find a weaker character, easy to bully, but you must really love him, after all, a happy life is built on the basis of true love.

I don't think there's anything wrong with you doing this. When you are angry, you don't vent it, and when it accumulates to a certain extent, it is a quantitative change to a qualitative change. Instead, it will develop into irreconcilable contradictions.

You said that every time you quarrel, it seems that you have been together for a long time, and he must have learned a little about your personality and temper. You can tell him what is going on in your heart when you are happy with each other. I think he'll understand you.

Men can't stand women showing weakness, and it's easier for him to have a good impression of you if you're occasionally coquettish. Finally, you also need to restrain your emotions a little. There are some things that must not be said that must not be said.

When you feel like losing your temper, hold back for 3 seconds, preferably with a glass of water. Anger and impulsiveness are two completely different concepts.

Smart comes to be steady!! Restrain yourself as much as you can!!

After all, you still have to restrain yourself, once it can forgive you, but after a long time, it may not be easy to say.

You're overproducing androgens.

I also say, you should try to change your control and be more gentle with others, and others will be very good to you, so that you will not have the opportunity to get angry and angry.

When you are impulsive, you should calm down five to ten times first, and you must be accurate.

Be patient and relax. Read more magazines and watch more life talk shows, so that you can reflect on yourself and give yourself a short-term change goal. Keep at it and there will be improvements.

Besides, many things, what you think is different from what others think, and the difference in personality is a fact that cannot be changed, you can only accept and tolerate it. If it's really not good for other people's attitudes, then you can calmly correct it. If others don't want to change, it's none of your business.

Impulsiveness is the devil to control your temper 1Adjust your diet and don't eat too hot food, which will aggravate the "heart fire".

2.Reasonable work and rest time. When tired, people are more likely to be irritable.

3.Learn to be calm and patient. It was hard at first, but every time I told myself that I would endure a little longer this time than last time. I couldn't help it, so I left the scene and calmed down elsewhere.

4.Adjust your mindset. That's how to cure the root cause. Think from someone else's point of view. Learn to be tolerant of others.

5.No matter how big the temper is, sometimes the effect of giving it to people in front of people is useless, and learning to express the meaning of anger in words with a calm expression is even more shocking.

A typical knife-mouthed tofu heart, change it yourself.

First, it is normal for you to have aggressive thoughts when you are very angry, and this kind of thinking plays a role in emotional catharsis to a certain extent, so if you can vent your anger with aggressive thoughts, this is a way that is beneficial to both people and yourself, and it is beneficial to both yourself and things, neither hurting yourself nor others, and you will not break things and have to go. So, if you can use this method to solve your emotional problems, this is the best policy, if you can't do it for the time being, use the second step first.

Second, if you "will generally figure it out after 30 minutes", then the second way to solve the problem is to delay the anger reaction if you want to get angry or want to drop something, that is, you can swallow a mouthful of saliva and react; Or, react after a minute, or leave the place where you are angry immediately, etc. What if you could wait 30 minutes and then you get angry again? I'm afraid the anger has subsided a lot.

Slowly, you become rational.

Because you have a sense of responsibility, you will be like that.

I want to express myself.