The more you love, the more afraid you are of losing, how to find a sense of security in love?

Enjoy the process, don't chase the result. <>

Falling in love should be a very beautiful thing, and you should find a sense of happiness in love, rather than losing the sense of security you should have in love.

In love, two people should be very happy and sweet, you feel happy when you are with him, and it happens that he also feels this way, then two people can be together, and this kind of love is also the happiest. You don't have to worry about whether the other party is in a relationship with another spare tire every day, and you don't have to worry about whether the other party is lying to you or something, because those are not important, the important thing is that you feel happy and happy when you are with him. You don't have to worry about how long you can stay together, and what you will do if you don't have together.

These are not what you should worry about in love, so what about the earth? What to do if the universe disappears? You just need to live every day, cherish this relationship, and manage this relationship with your heart.

It's not about doing something with a purpose, but about doing the process of doing it with your heart, and you'll definitely get better than you imagined. <>

It's like me and my boyfriend, when I first got together with him, I didn't care about the result, and now as long as we're happy together, (he must be chasing me) At that time I thought he was still thinking about his ex-girlfriend, but I didn't care, because I didn't think it mattered, it was impossible for him to completely forget about his ex-girlfriend, but as long as he was with me, he felt happy and happy, and I felt this way, and even if he told me one day, I won't be angry or blame him if he wants to get back together with his ex-girlfriend, because I know that emotional things are barely coming, and he can leave if he wants to, just bless him.

In love, the most feared thing is to suffer from gains and losses, don't worry, it's yours after all, it's not your robbery and you can't grab it, and the twisted melon is not sweet, so in love, you still love with your heart, just do what you should do, don't worry so much, it will come naturally. <>

Love is a very wonderful feeling", and this feeling is also something that I experienced after I met my boyfriend, magical and wonderful. At the beginning of love, two people are always tired of being together, and they can't wait to stay by each other's side 24 hours a day. Later, the relationship gradually escalated, we cared more and more about each other from the bottom of our hearts, and the feeling of caring about a person was only available at that moment, and even cared to a certain extent that they felt that the other party would be snatched away by others when they chatted with each other and had a meal.

This is a manifestation of a special care for each other, the more you care, the more afraid you will be robbed, so is this a kind of insecurity in love, or is it a very strong possessiveness? I think there are two reasons. On the one hand, because you care about each other and love each other very much, you will have a kind of gain and loss, and you are afraid of losing; On the other hand, it may be that you subconsciously think that the other party is yours, and you don't allow others to get close to it, and you don't allow others to touch it, which may be said to be a kind of possessiveness, but the premise is that the other party cares about you too much to have this feeling and consciousness.

So, how should we find security in love when the more we love, the more we fear of losing? I think safety is given to each other, first of all, every day, each other must be in touch with each other, care about each other, maybe boys take the initiative, because girls are more sensitive, very concerned about their boyfriends can take the initiative every day, very careful care of themselves, for girls, boyfriend's active companionship, careful care and care is the greatest happiness; For boys, the care and gentleness of their girlfriends is their greatest happiness.

The more you love, the more afraid you are of losing it. This sentence is indeed correct, when you first talked about it, you didn't know much about it, so your plans for the future are not very clear, but when you get to know each other more and more, the warmth of companionship and the charm of each other's personality will give you more and more desires, longing to be with him for a long time, hoping to accompany him when he is eighty years old, accompany him to experience birth, old age, sickness and death, and see the rights and wrongs of the world. Of course, changes in feelings are often unexpected, in order to prevent these accidents, how can we grasp them and find a sense of security?

First of all, you have to realize the most important point. The sense of security is given to oneself, not to anyone else, and even if it can, it is only a small part. So, you need to keep improving and improving yourself.

If there are spots on the face, learn to paint beautiful makeup, if the figure is not good enough, go to run every day, if your grades are not good enough, go to learn from the big guy, in short, you have to learn to improve a little bit every time, and then you can find self-confidence, you are excellent, you can have confidence in front of the person you love, in order to have the confidence to talk about the future in the other party's family, otherwise you can't vouch for your feelings without self-confidence, guarantee that it will not depreciate, and guarantee that it has a future. Therefore, you must make a little progress every day in order to have your own sense of security.

The other is to learn to love each other. Only when you let the other party feel your sincere love will you keep the other person's true heart, because people are mutual. To learn to love each other, you have to learn a few things.

First of all, give him the necessary space. Boys are sometimes expensive and very clingy to you, but sometimes they also need free and independent time to think about some things in their hearts, if you are clamoring to let him take you to play at this time, regardless of his feelings, it is not good. There is another one like this, to give each other trust, boys are more interested in this, if you always chatter, it will make him feel that in your eyes I am the kind of person who should not do all kinds of things, and over time it will be annoying to you, so trust is essential, and whether the relationship between two people can last for a long time is also based on mutual trust.

Zhang Xiaoxian said: "When you fall in love with someone, you will always be a little scared, afraid of getting him; I'm afraid of losing him." Indeed, many people are now in deep love, "the more they love, the more afraid of losing", why don't we look for a sense of security in love.

When we are in love, I think we should learn to not care about gains and losses, enjoy the process of love, and trust the person you love. Clause.

1. Trust between people is very important, everyone wants the person you love to trust you, so when you are afraid of losing and insecure, give yourself confidence, give trust to the person you love, talk to him about your heart, and solve the problem together. This will make you feel secure in your love and have a greater sense of trust in each other;

Clause. Second, it is very important for girls to have an independent economy**, because the establishment of love has a certain material basis, when you have your own job, you will not be cranky, you will have a deeper understanding of your other half's work, and he will know how to feel sorry for you. There is some truth to the saying that "people at work are the most attractive".

Clause. 3. Enjoy the process of love, not afraid of gains and losses; Love is a very simple thing, don't add too many external factors to it, don't care about your pay, because when you care about your pay, it is easy for you to ignore the silent contribution of the person who loves you, so you will become less and less confident, and naturally you will lose your sense of security. On the contrary, when you have the process of enjoying love, you will feel happy and feel that the other person is what you want in your heart. Clause.

4. Don't rely too much on each other and leave personal space between each other. When both parties have private space, it will give you a sense of beauty.

The ** of a sense of security is still to self-regulate and give yourself more confidence.

It has been said that security can be given to oneself.

First of all, be confident. An insecure person always feels that he is not good enough, and always feels that the other party will be snatched away, so he overly monitors the other party, for fear that the other party will be robbed of a word to the opposite sex, and then slowly becomes inferior.

Trust each other. The premise of love is trust, whether it will be for a lifetime or not, but at least know that the other party is in love with him at this moment. If you don't trust your significant other, your relationship is about to break down, and you will naturally not be able to go on.

Give space to both sides. Everyone needs space. You'll be glued in the beginning, but then you'll both need space, and if you don't tie each other too close, they'll be out of breath. It would be better if you could keep a certain distance.

Elevate yourself. If you are good, you may be better at owning something. If you are lazy, ugly, and can't align with the other person, the other person will dislike you and find a better one.

Don't give too much. Once you pay too much in love, you will lose, sometimes people are cruel and strange, the more you give, the more the other party does not appreciate it, and the easier it is to let you down. As a human being, you must love yourself well and be willing to yourself.

Enjoy the process. Don't think about whether it's worth it, and don't think about whether he loves me or not, if you ask someone if they love you every day, everyone will be annoyed. People who really have love don't have to ask. No matter what happens later, we take care of ourselves, love bravely, and enjoy the process.

Therefore, the sense of security in love is given to you by yourself, and don't expect too much.

First of all, you have to be confident in yourself, and then your lover should also give you a sense of security.

An Cong chain in love completely depends on the attitude of the two people, if the two people are very dedicated to love, very devoted, then they will trust each other more, read Zheng Shen Zai respect, but if his actions have a lot of deception, love will lack trust, let alone a sense of security.

In love, if the other party always tells all the things about his travel photography to you, he will never hide it, and he will give the other party more security, and if the other party loves you very much, he can also feel the sense of security that Hong sleeps to your love, which will be more profound.

In love, you need to look at the other party's fighting attitude under the chain, so that you can find your own sense of security, and you need to interpret yourself to accompany you, and many times you give it to yourself.

I think that if you want to find security in love, you can ask your partner to give you security, or you can give yourself security through your own efforts.

The first thing is to give yourself a sense of security, and then you should have a special and stable capital spine, you should also have a job and social circle, and you should not put all the weight and balance on each other.

In life, two people can be considerate of each other and tolerate each other. Or when the other party encounters some difficulties or needs their own help, they should help the laughing and smiling to help the other party to raise the bend.

Constantly improve your strength, make yourself better and better, don't be too impulsive when you encounter things, and communicate with them.

The sense of security in love is based on the foundation of Jiansheng's knowledge, and if we want to have a sense of security in love, we must let ourselves take the initiative in emotion. This is something that needs to be decided.

Psychological Analysis: Subject, hello I think I can often understand your feelings, when you are insecure, you are always prone to become suspicious, involuntarily worried and afraid, and because of your own situation, it will affect each other's feelings. Regarding the matter of posting on Moments, I think everyone has their own ideas, there are many people who are willing to share everything they have in the Moments, and some people are not willing to share the Pai Lao in the Moments.

I guess the subject's boyfriend is someone who doesn't want to share. The lack of security may be due to various reasons, and it is difficult for us to ** the previous reasons. But what we need to do now is be able to mitigate the damage it causes.

Insecurity has always been associated with low self-esteem and self-confidence. We feel insecure because we have low self-esteem and because we don't have self-confidence, so we can start from that. A sense of security can come from two aspects, on the one hand, from the other person, if the other party knows that you are insecure, he tries to give you enough security and does not give you a chance to think cranky, which is of course very good.

Obviously, your boyfriend gives you a lot of encouragement and security. On the other hand, it is very dangerous to blindly need the other party to give you a sense of security, and over time, the other party will feel very annoyed and bored. So we need to boost our self-confidence, being confident and strong enough, naturally the greatest sense of security.

For this aspect, I suggest that the subject can: 1Learn to dress up yourself, not to please others, but to please yourself to make yourself happy and confident, a beautiful appearance will indeed get more convenience in life, which is a very realistic thing.

2.If the subject has the conditions, he can go to some courses such as dancing and painting, and it is very attractive for a person to have enough knowledge and talent. Best wishes