How can you lead others to pour out their sorrow to you?

Different people have different personalities and temperaments, so the way of guidance should also be formulated according to the actual situation. I once did a psychological counseling for psychological reasons, on the side of the sand table, he first asked me to draw a picture on the sand table according to what I wanted in my heart, and then analyzed my heart according to this, which was like a kind of psychological hypnosis, so I couldn't help but say what was in my heart, and after saying it, I felt that my heart was much less gloomy, and it was a lot easier.

After all, we are not professionals, so naturally we can't be so professional. But I think that to guide others to express their inner grief should first be to understand the other party's card nature, if you don't understand the other party's card nature just guide in vain, the effect is very small,,It may even aggravate the grief in the other person's heart. If you want to guide him to say his own sadness, you must first give him more companionship to make him feel warm and cordial, and then slowly go deep into his heart to guide him to express his inner sadness.

Then there is the need to give him proper understanding and respect, everyone needs to be respected and understood by others, some people may not be sad because of a big thing, maybe he thinks that sad things are just trivial things in your opinion. Therefore, if you want to guide others to express your inner sorrow to yourself, you should give them appropriate respect and understandingOnly when he feels understood and respected will he be able to tell you his inner sorrow. In my opinion, if you want to help others solve problems, the first thing to do is to understand and respect others, understanding and respect can not only make happy people get more happiness from person to person, but also make sad people relieve their inner sadness.

Although we are not professional psychologists, we can give more to the grieving person. Guiding others to express their inner sorrow is a very long process that requires a long period of patience. In this process, you should always try to give up as much as possible for what he wants, because you may bring more harm to some people who are already fragile in their hearts.

How to lead others to confide in themselvesFirst of allYou have to make others trust you, give others the impression that you are a trustworthy person, will not chew on the root of the tongue behind others' backs, talk about other people's rights and wrongs, and can help others keep secrets. Otherwise, if someone tells you something sad and sad about your heart, you will immediately tell the other person casually, so that the other person will immediately think that you are an untrustworthy person. If you want others to confide in you, you must at least give others a minimum of trust, and this is only the first step.

SecondlyIf your external image is relatively gentle, not aggressive and harmless, it can make people let go of other people's wariness of you; At least it doesn't give people the impression that it is very fierce and difficult to speak, and it has already succeeded more than half of it. Because people are visual creatures, you appear harmless and non-aggressive on the outside, which can greatly increase the trust of others, let down their guard against you, and make it easier to confide their inner sorrow to you. <>

FinallyIf you have already made the impression of others, and you have a good external image. What you should do at this time is:Listen carefully。When you start chatting, suppress your desire to talk and interject and express your thoughts.

Because they don't like to be interrupted by others when they are talking, let alone talking about their sad things, they don't need other people's opinions and ideas, they just want to pour out their inner feelings at this time, so all we have to do is to listen carefully, and when listening, give others some body language movements, implying that they are listening to you seriously and listening to you express your inner thoughts. At this point, you are already a qualified listener. <>

If you want to lead others to pour out their inner sorrow to you, listening is the most important step. Be a good listener so that others want to confide their grief in you.

Pay attention to what others are saying, put forward your opinions from time to time, guide others to tell their inner sadness, and when he really says it, his heart will be much more comfortable.

First of all, you can tell him about your sadness, so that it will resonate with him, and he will be willing to share it with you.

I think it is important to have a friendly exchange with the other party first, and then build trust between the two parties, so that we can guide him to say his sadness step by step.

Gain the trust of the other party first, and at the same time treat the other party as a friend, and then guide it out little by little, and you can't be in a hurry.

First of all, you should make the other party feel that you are trustworthy, you can tell the other party some of your true thoughts and vulnerabilities, so that the other party can put down their hearts and prevent them from confiding in their hearts.

I think it's to tell them not to hold things in their hearts, so that they will become more and more uncomfortable, and they must learn to confide in others.

Find your own bosom friend, or a professional psychological counselor, regardless of how you express it, if the other party is a good listener, you will let your emotions out, and you will naturally tell everything in your heart, so that your emotions will be released, or you will be guided back to a normal emotional state.

If I'm in a bad mood, just hug my cute bear, talk to it, and say it in my heart, but he's not alive, and if you want someone to talk to, then I can help you. You can talk to me, because I'm generally idle (o)zz