I had a fight with my boyfriend because of the marital room, what should I do, compromise?

Friends, grasp the key point: having a house does not necessarily have a home, and having a home will definitely have a house. Therefore, in order to live happily in the future, it is necessary to communicate the need for compromise to regress and be tolerant. I hope you are happy!

Discuss it with your boyfriend again, after all, marriage is a matter of two people, and it involves two families, your family's considerations are not unreasonable, you may rent a house at the beginning of your marriage has little impact, what if you have children in the future, children are a big expense.

It seems like you've spent a lot of money to buy a house right now, but if you calculate how much money you're going to pay your landlord if you rent until you buy a house, that money will never be returned, and the house won't be yours no matter how many years you pay rent. Why not use the money to buy a house and make a fortune when the value of the house increases.

If you don't have enough money to buy a house, you should borrow money to buy it, I think the final payment is still more than the value of the house itself, if you borrow money, if you are an acquaintance or relative, they will not ask you for interest, or they will not ask for a high interest. I have friends who borrowed money from two relatives to buy a house, and the parents of both sides contributed a part, and the relatives did not ask them for interest, and they would repay part of the relatives when they had a certain amount of money every month, and their lives were not very tense, and their houses are much more comfortable than before.

It's better to discuss it with your boyfriend, if he thinks it's not good to ask his parents for money, it's better to borrow it from his parents, and pay it back to his parents when he has money, so that the burden is lighter than the loan. Don't be too burdened psychologically, because we already owe money to our parents since we were born, and if you are too righteous to borrow your parents' money now, you are just causing problems for your own children.

That's why so many people end up ... So, calm down and think about the original intention of being together, after all, both of them have reached this time, if you have any regrets because of this matter, then your love is too much to stand the test? Both of them are calm and calm, just like a friend said above, the house is not a home, but there will definitely be a house if there is a home!

Give each other some confidence and communicate well! I wish you all eternal happiness!!

It is still necessary to communicate, talk about the problem, and solve it together.

Communication after a quarrel is the most important thing, and whether to compromise or not depends on the outcome of the communication.

What is the specific reason? Don't have a marital room? Ask the landlord for further explanation.

You must not compromise, do you live on the street without a house?

When love meets reality, there will always be various entanglements. There is a difference between falling in love and getting married, falling in love is only a matter of two people, but marriage is a matter of two families, and it involves the issue of gift money and house. In the face of these more realistic problems, two people who love each other will always have a lot of helplessness.

Through your description, you can see that you and your boyfriend are facing these problems now, and even the relationship is slowly being worn out. Do I have to buy a wedding house when I get married? If you really love each other deeply, then these questions are actually both willing to compromise for each other, but you are not willing to compromise for each other, and you have been at a stalemate.

In fact, you can work together on your own ability to buy the house you want. If you don't want to, then you can choose to give up the relationship.

If you are planning to get married, it means that the relationship between you is already very deep, and you know each other deeply. Both parents have also agreed that you will be together, and it would be a pity if the relationship ended because you couldn't buy a house. I've known my girlfriend for a few years, and now I'm planning to get married, because the environment at home on both sides is not very good, so there is no way to rely on the family, my plan is to discuss with him to save some money first, and then work hard to do business, and then continue to buy a house after saving some money.

If you are planning to break up now because of the house, then in the end both of you will regret it, because the house is not necessarily needed, a good marriage is run by two people, if the relationship is not good, then with a house, in the end this marriage will also become a tragedy. If the wages of both parties are not able to support the mortgage renovation, then buying a house, this will become a burden on you, the house is not necessary, and the relationship between the two parties is real.

Buying a house is not a trivial matter, choosing to buy a house or not to buy a house is not just a choice, but also a choice of life. Sometimes, love needs a roof. Love without a house will encounter more wind and rain, and a house without love is just a beautiful shell.

But the house and love will never contradict each other, it does not mean that there will be love if you have a house, nor does it mean that there must be a house if you have love. On the contrary, the love between two people, which has nothing to do with house prices, but with feelings. It's a bit human.

Love is you, you're at home. "Impacting the world with love to make life better.

should not break up, should communicate well with their boyfriend in time, to understand his thoughts, and to express some of their own views and opinions, the two can choose to work hard together after marriage, to work hard for some of their own property.

There should be no breakup. Because two people already have an emotional foundation, they must cherish it at this time, and don't quarrel over these small things, which will lead to regret it.

There should be no breakup. Because any couple buying a house, when it comes to money, they will generally quarrel, just say what they think.

Because of disagreement with her boyfriend, she always quarrels about marriage, and when a girl wants to communicate with her boyfriend, she should understand some things that her boyfriend will want to do to get married. In fact, when every girl gets married, she will hope that she can marry into each other's family in a beautiful way. But the so-called scenery, most of them need to spend a certain amount of money, if the boyfriend's family economic conditions are not Li Jing is particularly good, the girl should consider it.

When many couples in life are faced with the problem of discussing marriage, most of them are prone to quarrels, and most of the reasons for the quarrels are bride price.

The amount is somewhat disputed. The girl thinks that it is most reasonable for the boy to give a bride price of 200,000 yuan, but the man's family cannot take out 200,000 yuan at all due to economic difficulties, so there will be quarrels over the bride price in short. Girls should understand that if the other party's family is a son itself, there is no need to ask the other party for a sky-high bride price.

When a girl communicates with her boyfriend, she must first think from her boyfriend's point of view, and don't make her boyfriend feel too embarrassed. If a boy really shows sincerity to marry a girl, even if there is no bride price, the girl will choose to be with the other party, after all, the relationship with the other party is the most important thing. Any couple only values each other's character when considering marriage, and does not always want to quarrel with each other because of economic problems.

If a boy really loves such a girl from the bottom of his heart, he will also want to give each other the most beautiful wedding in his life, which makes everyone envious. But boys will also consider according to the economic conditions of the family, if the boy's family conditions themselves are better, but they are not willing to give the girl a romantic and luxurious wedding. Then it can prove that the boy doesn't care about such a girl at all, and there is no need for the girl to consider marrying the other party.

At this time, you should communicate calmly, so that the other party can understand your own thoughts, understand the needs of the other party, and determine whether the marriage can continue.

You should directly talk to your boyfriend about your inner teasing thoughts, or you can go to your husband and talk about your thoughts about the grinding when you get married, and then the opinions of the two people can be combined.

This kind of problem is generally unavoidable, and if you quarrel over this kind of problem, it is usually caused by disagreement.

Have you ever had a disagreement with your partner over the bride price? How did you solve it in the end? Carefully read all your words.

I've found that you and your boyfriend don't just have different ideas about the bride price.

It's that there is no such thing as the same concept at all.

And for these different ideas, you think about how to solve the problem, and even be willing to compromise on it.

But he doesn't want to do anything, and he makes up his mind that you will compromise and bear everything.

You see, about the bride price, your mother asked for 200,000 bride price, and he said that he couldn't take it out, and he didn't compromise a step, but he was willing to give the bride price to the blind date.

You can't help it, convince your mother to no avail, so you compromise and promise to work together to save this bride price, and even Wang Wuzhi plans to treat the bride price as a family ** in the future, and then use it together, but he doesn't accept it.

For work, you compromised for him, refused a good position, and came to the city where he worked, but he was afraid of taking responsibility, and finally wanted to give up and go back to Shenyang, and even arranged a job for you, not caring about what you like at all.

Family matters, he said that his family is very traditional, and he is an only child, and the New Year must be spent in his house, and there is no place for compromise. He's an only son, aren't you?

You see, when he encounters anything, he never thinks about solving the problem, he just refuses, and you not only make all kinds of compromises, but even come to Zhihu to seek a solution.

Is such a man really worth it?

Maybe in your opinion, with your compromise, you can maintain this relationship.

When the time comes, you will continue to compromise?

Even if you are willing now, when the day comes, this compromise does not get the result you want, it will become a disaster, and your resentment and grievances alone will destroy everything you have maintained for so many years.

When a man is unwilling to take responsibility and risk for a woman, it actually means that the man does not love the woman so much.

So when you are considering the issue of bride price, you might as well think about whether this suspicious tomb is reliable for a man?

is about to get married, which means that you still love each other, and there is no problem that cannot be solved.

You have to say this contradiction so that we can give you a better idea.

Marriage is a matter for both families, and it can be very painful if there are irreconcilable conflicts in the family. Every family has its own habits and concepts, which cannot be easily changed, so the friction and reconciliation between the two families must be an uncomfortable process. In this process, it is inevitable to make compromises and concessions, and how not to lose the bottom line is something we have to consider.

First of all, you must admit that you are not "biological" in their family, so don't expect the other party to think about you everywhere and tolerate you in everything. Only after understanding this can we calmly accept "unfairness" and friction in various matters.

And if you are married, you are also obliged to pay for many things. And it is Hu Yuqing's dedication that can be seen. Only by being seen can their family recognize you more, and your relationship will get closer and closer.

Find some topics that will be of interest to each other's parents, communicate with each other, and get acquainted with each other. Not only does it make it pleasant to get along, but it also breaks the initial awkwardness. You can also share some of the housework to increase the affection of the other parent.

Sometimes, it may be just a small gesture that can improve an annoying impasse. And you, as a junior, bowing your head is not a face-saving thing.

In addition, it is very important to learn to use wisdom to communicate. After all, each family has its own affairs, and after Coco tells her difficulties, I believe my sister-in-law will understand. It's really not good, so the couple set up their own doors and moved to a farther place to live, so that there is less chance of disputes.

The last thing is to grasp your bottom line, and never let your bottom line be crossed. For example, in the case of hitting someone, don't just put up with it. In fact, between people, there is a need for fate.

Not only you and your boyfriend need it, but you and his family, too. Perhaps, you are knowledgeable and diligent and self-denying, but they just don't like you. Whatever you say or do is wrong.

Then, there is no need to blame yourself, you can only say that there is no fate between each other.