I m two months away from getting married, but I suddenly want to break up?

Really this question is a more difficult thing to do, maybe it depends more on your personal heart, how you think about this matter, simply put, you really want to break up with him, and really find that the two of you are not suitable for continuing to live together. Or do you have the so-called marriage phobia or that kind of premarital anxiety disorder, some people may really have this kind of disease, so you need to judge yourself well, but the time is more urgent, after all, you only have two months to get married, you must think carefully, you can't make a decision in a daze, so it's not good.

If it's the second case, then there's no way, or you have to self-regulate, or you can only go to the hospital, find a psychologist, or an expert to see if you can solve this problem through what method, don't delay your life's events.

But if you are in the first case, you have to make a decision early, don't wait until everything has been arranged for the wedding, and you suddenly say, you don't want to get married, you want to break up, so it's very embarrassing, you push the two families into the abyss, and it's not just the relationship between the two of you, but also the ugliness of the two families, don't be so immature. But more importantly, you can't ruin the happiness of your life for the so-called face problem between you, it doesn't matter if you're blind, the important thing is not to let yourself be blind all the time. When you know that you have made a wrong decision, you should correct it, and don't make mistakes again and again and make yourself regret it.

Marriage is suspended. I don't know why you brought it up and wanted to break up at this marriage stall, but there must be some opportunities for you to feel that you can't be sure if he is the person you want to go through in your life, and I think it's normal to have such entanglements. So what you have to do is, put on a hold of getting married, remember, it's a stand-off.

You need a calm time to figure out if this man is the person you want to marry, but I think the point may be what is the reason why you want to break up with him, is it because you are not satisfied with the financial conditions? Or is it because of some other reason? Or is your first love coming back to you, there are many reasons why you must think clearly.

First tell your boyfriend about the idea of washing, see if he can support your decision, if he supports, then it will be easy to do, that is, delay marriage, and then say, if he disagrees with the breakup, then you had better invite your parents, and then explain to them the reason why you don't want to get married, and then let them come to each other for a consultation. If your parents don't agree, and then he doesn't agree either, then you may have to eat the result yourself, that is, go to them yourself, and then explain the breakup. In fact, this problem is more difficult to do, because the two families have already decided to get married, maybe, all aspects of the invitation, the person who notified it has been notified, so if you suddenly want to break up now, maybe the adults of the two parties may not be able to hang on their faces, so you have to think a little more about this, but if you really don't want to live with him at all, then you don't have to think about these, if you actually like him in your heart, It's just that if there is something that makes your opinion about marriage shaken, then you should let yourself first, calm your mind first, try first, and don't use the requirement of getting married to catch up with the schedule, so as to calm yourself down.

Personally, I think that you should think about it yourself first, and see if you want to break up because you are afraid of marriage because you are uncertain about marriage, or because you see some problems with your future partner, you feel that you don't want to marry him.

The first choice is the first case, if it's just a state of mind that is scared, then I feel like I can understand you. In fact, many people will have such a situation before marriage. Because the lifestyle and living environment that I have lived in for more than 20 years suddenly have to change, and I suddenly have to leave my parents who have been with me for so many years, of course, there will be many, many unaccustomed and many worries, these are very normal, the so-called premarital phobia, the so-called fear of marriage, is like this.

However, if this is the case, I think the most important thing is that you correct your mentality and adjust your mentality, if your future in-laws are also a good talker, your husband is not bad to you, and your in-laws are not bad, then you have to feel that you have an extra home in the future, rather than leaving your own home.

You are still the most precious child of your parents, you can still go home to visit your parents all day long, everything will not change much, but you will have a small family of your own, there will be two more parents to care for you, maybe, if you think like this, you are less likely to be afraid of marriage.

However, if it is the second case, such as some behaviors of your future husband, or some ways of your future in-laws, make you feel very cold, and make you feel that if you marry in the future, you will be so aggrieved for the rest of your life. Or if your husband did something sorry for you before getting married, then, these words are more principled issues, you don't need to compromise, and you don't need to wronged yourself, if this is really the case, my personal advice is to simply break up.

If it is because the relationship is weak and you feel that it is not suitable to be together, then it is better to end it as soon as possible and not let yourself have an unhappy marriage.

Don't be too impulsive, think about it, and if you really decide, make it clear to the subject.

It is very likely that this relationship is not so important to you, maybe you just want to simply talk about a relationship, but you feel that this relationship has not yet reached the point where you can get married, so this relationship is beyond your imagination.

If you don't reach the range of your prediction, you will want to let go immediately, because for you, if you want to get married, it is a very solemn thing, and you can get married not just casually, which shows that you are a person who respects marriage.

The second reason is because you may have premarital phobia, this kind of person is not because he is unfaithful to the relationship, but because he feels that it is okay for two people to fall in love, and when he gets married, he will start to be nervous, because he is not ready to spend the rest of his life with another person.

Everyone has thought about what they will look like after marriage, but when the real day comes, many people will suddenly start to get nervous and can't accept it, so in fact, this phenomenon of yours can also be said to be quite common.

The third reason is because you are a person who does not want to be responsible, you can simply start a relationship, and then be with this person with sincere feelings, but once you get married, you don't want to be responsible.

I am not ready to give another person the second half of her life, and I still want to have another period of time that belongs to my own life, and many people say that they should get married later and get married later, not only because my country now advocates late marriage and late childbearing.

A large part of the reason is because life after marriage will be very monotonous, and it will be very hard for money and life.

So it's completely understandable for me to say that you are behaving like this, but please meet good people and be sure to cherish them!

It is nothing more than two kinds of problems, one is the problem of money, and the other is the problem of family, 1. The problem of money.

This is a realistic society, so much so that too many people succumb to money. It's time to talk about marriage, because there are many questions about money, such as: buying a house and a car, marriage, gift money, ......These are all issues that are rarely talked about in a relationship, and for couples who are going to get married, these are the first hurdles that must be faced.

In many places, due to customs issues, the gift money may be too high and the requirements are too high, resulting in the separation of the two in the end.

Facing the problem of money is very realistic, but if two people really plan to go on together, please be calm and face it together. As the saying goes, the problems that can be solved with money are not problems, but only a matter of time.

2. Family problems.

Marriage is not a matter of two people, but of two families. For couples who are about to get married and break up after the most serious setup, the problem of the family is nothing more than that the family disparity is too big and the concept is too different. It may be that the woman's parents do not want their daughter to marry the man, and the problem is that they will suffer and be tired for the rest of their lives.

It may also be that the social status of the family is very different, and the man's family imitates the Zen court and feels that the woman cannot help his son Duan Dajizi, and wants to find a virtuous ...... who can help his son's career

What couples care most about when they get married is definitely the hope of getting the support and blessings of their parents and family. Of course, if this process encounters the problem of family opposition, I hope you can face it together, and the time to test your love will come, and it will be clear who is the winner of love.

Here I want to tell all couples who are about to get married, for family problems, I hope you can accept the test together and solve it together, instead of blindly running away. Especially boys, don't hold back, if this thing can't be solved, how can you give her a good future?

Here are three suggestions for your reference: 1. Take the initiative to contact her, tell you what you think, and promise to love her well in the future.

2. Convey your thoughts through her girlfriend or friend, or mutual friend.

3. Wait slowly for her to come to you. But it may never be possible.

In a relationship, if a guy doesn't like a person, he won't be overly enthusiastic about that person, let alone take the initiative or have other emotions.

And once he is emotional, it will become different, he will become very naïve, very jealous, or very concerned about your affairs, want to see you all the time, and will be very happy every time he sees you, these obvious signals are proof that he likes you.

Some girls are often unsure whether a guy loves her or not, but it's as simple as seeing if he will be different from you, or whether he will react emotionally to you.

If he doesn't like you, he will be very indifferent to you, and he will ignore you, and when he likes you completely, he will feel that you are the most important thing, and he will not see anything else in his eyes.

Guys like you completely, often, there are three obvious signals.

1. Naivety. There is a saying that love will make people become children, which means that the person who is completely in love with you, because he likes you, he will become very naïve, he will become jealous, he will not like you to be with other members of the opposite sex, this is the exclusivity of love.

Second, take the initiative. If he loves you, even if you don't take the initiative, he will take the initiative to find you again and again, because he will be afraid of losing you, afraid that if he doesn't take the initiative to find you, he will never be able to contact you again.

When he doesn't love you, he naturally won't take the initiative, "Isn't it good to play games and chase dramas, why should he take the initiative to contact you", this may be his true thoughts, right?

This is the old saying, you can't wake up a person who is pretending to be asleep, and you can't make someone you don't like to like you, in this case, giving up is the best choice.

If he's not been proactive enough with you, if you've taken ninety-nine steps and he won't take a step forward, forget it, it's not worth it.

3. Be attentive. The strongest expression of someone who is completely in love with you is that they are attentive.

He will put you in the most important position, he will take your business as his own, he will do everything he can to protect you, this is all his love for you.

In a relationship, the best two words are intentions, only with intentions, you can feel his love, and only with intentions can you know that he really loves you.

Lin Yan met a man who put her in his heart, no matter when, he would think about Lin Yan, and he would bring back delicious and fun things to her, even if he was on a business trip, he didn't forget to bring her gifts.

Sometimes the gifts he brings are not what Lin Yan wants, but as long as he has this heart, she is happy enough and will cherish the gifts he gave her.

If you really fall in love with someone, you will naturally be attentive to her, and you will naturally give her all the good, in your heart, she is the most important person.

When a guy completely likes you, he will have these obvious signals: naïve, active, and attentive, and these are also the most basic requirements in love.

If he loves you, it is not difficult to do this, and most of them can be done naturally, and it will not feel reluctant; If he doesn't love you, even if you force it, he will only perfunctory you.

Whether a person is sincere to you is very simple, you can understand it by looking at the details, I hope you can meet such a boy who is attentive to you, and be happy together for a lifetime.