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The bell also needs to be tied to the bell, and the heart is sick.
I also want to be treated, this problem does not appear in my parents-in-law at all, so it is useless to let my parents-in-law come out and suppress them as parents.
There is a saying that the twisted melon is not sweet, even if the husband will take into account the feelings of his parents and make concessions, but in this case, do you think the relationship between the husband and wife is real, it is like a mirror, it is not real at all, the man who does not love you will not fall in love with you again after his parents say two words, and the man who has no feeling for you will not rekindle his enthusiasm for you because of the existence of his parents, The core problem here is that he has lost interest in you, and if the core problem is not solved, you will be in vain in any way.
There are two irreparable things in this world, the first is time, the second is a man who leaves you, when a man decides to leave you, his heart is like steel and like a piece of ice from the extremely cold world, no matter how hard you try, it is impossible to rekindle your enthusiasm, frozen three feet, not a day of cold, when there is a problem in the relationship between husband and wife, don't be naïve to think that you can be able to move a thousand pounds through some external way.
Change the emotional problems between you, there are not many feelings that can be reunited, a man who really loves you is willing to give everything for you, when a man is no longer willing to pay for you, there is no need to insist on this kind of relationship.
What you are waiting for now, even if you are looking for your parents-in-law to help you maintain it, is only an empty shell of marriage, and what is the need for such an empty shell, to be precise, you are like a hermit crab with a shell.
I don't have the courage to come out.
To sum up, when there is an emotional crisis in the relationship between husband and wife, do not ask your parents-in-law for help, this is not only an additional burden for your parents-in-law, but also brings such an empty shell family to another broken abyss.
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No. This is a matter between husband and wife, and asking for help from their parents-in-law will only worry them. And it was useless for them to help.
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Don't. The affairs of the husband and wife still need to be solved by two people, because only the parties know the ins and outs of the matter, and the help of the in-laws will only add to the chaos.
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If you are faced with this situation, don't ask your parents-in-law for help, I think they will only help more and more because they will only help their son.
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I don't think so, the conflict between husband and wife is best solved by two people, sometimes it may just be a disadvantage to find outsiders to help, especially the parents-in-law, they are the previous generation, they may not understand the contradictions of our generation, and asking them for help may sprinkle salt on the wound, so don't look for it.
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I think first of all, it's better to try your best to solve it with your other half, it's best not to go to your parents-in-law, otherwise it may make the crisis more serious, and you can't solve it with two people, so it's okay to go to your in-laws.
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Of course, it was my mother-in-law and father-in-law who helped better, and they were also members of this family. It is a heart to participate, and parents-in-law are especially welcome to solve problems together.
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I think I should ask my parents-in-law for help. Marriage is not only a matter of two people, it involves two families. If the husband and wife have an emotional crisis, the parents-in-law should also give advice, mediation methods, etc.?
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If your husband can put his wife and mother in the right position, reconciling the relationship between the two people will not affect the relationship between the two people.
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In our marriage, we often talk about the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, and the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is also closely related to the relationship between husband and wife. There are many families because of conflicts between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, and the husband and wife do not handle it properly, resulting in greater disputes, which leads to the breakdown of marriage. So we must face up to the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, sometimes it is not a question of who is right and who is wrong, but everyone stands at different angles, and the husband is very embarrassed to stand in the middle, it is not good to help anyone, if the husband helps his mother, then the wife will be left out in the cold, if the husband helps his wife speak, then the mother will think that her children are not filial, so the husband must not be biased towards one of them, do a good job of coordination and pacification in the middle.
1. Conflicts between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law can easily arise.
As the saying goes, two women in one play, mother-in-law and daughter-in-law are originally two people of different eras, they are very different in behavior and moral concepts, some mothers-in-law are very stubborn, will bring some bad habits in the countryside to life, on the other hand, there may be personality incompatibility between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, after all, everyone has their own preferences, under the same roof, it is easy to have conflicts and contradictions, so the mother-in-law must understand the daughter-in-law's difficulty, and the daughter-in-law must also learn that you let the elders carry out more care, so as to maintain a good relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law.
2. Relationship discord will affect the relationship between husband and wife.
The relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, husband and wife is all part of the family relationship. As long as there is a problem in one of the relationships, it will affect the other relationship, and the contradictions between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law will cause more family conflicts and conflicts, if this contradiction continues, it will bring more negative emotions to the whole family, and the wife will also have more complaints about the whole family, and this negative emotion will be released on the husband, which will evolve into more conflicts, so now many families live separately between mothers-in-law and daughters-in-law, so that a lot of unnecessary troubles will be avoided. Sometimes the distance between people is a little longer, and the relationship is better.
3. Mother-in-law and daughter-in-law should learn to correctly handle the relationship between the two parties.
For the mother-in-law, you must fully understand your son's wife, for the wife, you must learn to respect your elders, many times the contradictions between the two sides are some trivial things, take a step back, endure the calm for a while, and the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law must also learn to sacrifice themselves to maintain the whole family. There is no deep hatred between the mother-in-law and the daughter-in-law, but the living habits and tempers of the two people are different, as long as the two parties can tolerate each other, the relationship between the mother-in-law and the daughter-in-law will become more stable, and the relationship between husband and wife will become more harmonious.
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In the conflict between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, women feel aggrieved. If their men choose to turn a blind eye and do nothing, the women will become even angrier. The anger in their hearts has nowhere to vent, and when they turn their heads, they become anxious and quarrel with men. This will only affect the relationship between the husband and wife.
If there are too many quarrels, men will be very impatient, and even think that women are not emotionally disturbed. They are brainless people, and the image of women in his mind will be greatly reduced.
This kind of deflection of anger or resentment of the husband's inaction will only put oneself in a situation where you are hostile.
If you are angry or wronged by your mother-in-law, you must know how to seek comfort from the man, instead of being angry and accusing the man, because doing so will push him into the mother-in-law's camp and make him feel that it must be your own fault, not her fault.
At the same time, if the husband quarrels over the conflict between the mother-in-law and the daughter-in-law, the man will feel very innocent. He doesn't think that your anger with him is a sign of inner dissatisfaction, but that you are unreasonable. Even if you are reasonable, after arguing with him, he will think that you are unreasonable, because you do this to him, and you can't convince people with reason.
In the conflict between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, a wise woman will "use" the man to solve the problem, pull the man into her team, let them understand their own emotional infection, so as to consider their own problems.
Don't do anything wrong that will affect the relationship between husband and wife. If you don't say anything that will affect the relationship, it is easy to make your situation worse and avoid divorce, which will outweigh the losses.
If the man does not help him deal with the conflict between his mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, and he can't handle it well, then move out and live with the man, leaving a little space, but it will give the other party a free space.
As the saying goes, the fragrance is far away from the smell, but the interval still produces beauty. On the contrary, this kind of separation will remind each other of each other's kindness, which will help maintain the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law.
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There is a conflict between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, mother-in-law is not used to seeing daughter-in-law, daughter-in-law does not want to see mother-in-law, living under the same roof, but when two people face each other, they present the coldest attitude to each other, who is colder than whom, as if who is more left.
There is a conflict between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, and the atmosphere at home is of course tense, and no one is angry, and a war will break out at the slightest trivial.
Is this kind of life better, not good, the man who is sandwiched between his mother-in-law and his wife is even more unhappy, on the one hand, his mother, and on the other hand, he marries his wife, and the man must be in a dilemma.
Song Yuan is a man sandwiched between his mother and his wife, when he first got married, it was okay, his mother-in-law and his wife would tolerate each other, and then the contradictions accumulated more and more, and they would quarrel if they disagreed.
The contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is really not a trivial matter, a woman is the supporter of the whole atmosphere and life in the family, once a woman's mood changes, the whole family will be shrouded in dark clouds.
Not to mention two women.
Song Yuan and his wife have quarreled many times because of the problem of his mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, he just can't understand that his mother has worked so hard to bring himself up, not extravagant and wasteful, and does not ask them how much money to provide for the elderly, why can't his daughter-in-law get along with her?
Every time his mother-in-law and daughter-in-law finished making a quarrel, Song Yuan would close the bedroom door and quarrel loudly with his wife, angrily accusing his wife of being bad and disrespectful to his mother.
Song Yuan really complained about his wife in his heart, and he also felt that doing so would let his mother know that he was not unfilial, and he was also trying to deal with such a contradiction, hoping that his mother would not be cold or sad.
The mother was coaxed, because after every quarrel, she was protected by her son, because she won the game between her mother-in-law and daughter-in-law.
Many mothers-in-law will secretly rejoice that their son is on their side, feeling that their daughter-in-law has lost, and their son loves him more, but they don't know that no one wins in such a farce, and maybe they will lose their son's marriage.
When there is a conflict between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, the most feared thing is that the man caught in the middle stands on the moral high ground and accuses the woman, asking his wife to be filial and polite to her mother-in-law like a daughter-in-law, but she doesn't know how to fight and defend her wife in front of her mother-in-law.
Why does the conflict between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law affect the relationship between husband and wife, because a man who understands very well does not know how to understand his wife and does not defend his wife, then the woman will become more and more cold in marriage.
If the relationship between the husband and wife is good and the man knows how to protect his wife, the conflict between the mother-in-law and the daughter-in-law will not affect the relationship between the husband and wife excessively, on the contrary, the man often feels that the wife is wrong, and never defends his wife in front of the mother-in-law and allows the conflict between the mother-in-law and the daughter-in-law to deteriorate, so that the husband and wife will gradually drift apart, and the conflict between the mother-in-law and the daughter-in-law will rise to the conflict between the husband and wife in the marriage.
It is not that there is a conflict between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, and the relationship between husband and wife will be affected, only if the man does not know how to defend his wife when there is a conflict between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, the conflict between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law will affect the relationship between husband and wife.
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On this issue, I think that the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is not good, it will definitely affect the family relationship, on this issue, I think as a junior, you should respect your parents-in-law, in general, they are when their parents say haze, they must be for our good, not harmful to us, so you can also, talk to your husband, sometimes don't worry too much about the elderly, because they always have to say that they are old, you are likely to have a confused time.
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That's for sure, my mother-in-law is my husband's mother, you go to challenge his mother, can he be in a good mood? Can he give you a good look if he's in a bad mood?
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Definitely, no matter who is right or wrong, the mother and daughter-in-law are the women they love the most, and the two of them are not in a dilemma with their husbands, which makes them feel very annoying and increases the conflict between husband and wife.
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I think it will definitely be, the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is not good, and the mother-in-law's opinion of you will not be so good.
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How to say it, the key still depends on the person, some will not, and some will definitely be. Mainly in the relationship between husband and wife.
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Yes. A good mother-in-law will treat you like a daughter.
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Love is not only wind and snow, but also firewood, rice, oil and salt, if the contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is not resolved at the moment, and it accumulates more, it will become more and more congested, and if it does not explode in silence, it will die in silence. The relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law directly affects the relationship between husband and wife, and many couples have no estrangement between the two, but when they are mixed with the elderly, they will make trouble. Therefore, men must be concoctors and strive to protect their mothers and wives.
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The relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law will affect the relationship between husband and wife, and if the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law get along well, the family will be harmonious, and if the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is not good, it will inevitably affect the relationship between husband and wife. Because of her husband, I met my mother-in-law, I love the house and Wu, since I love my husband, I have to love her mother, so that the family can be happy.
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There is a saying in China: "A daughter-in-law who has been working for many years becomes a mother-in-law". Your problem is not a big deal. It's just that you need wisdom.
You don't see your strengths, you only see your weaknesses. Your advantage is that your husband is in your hands. You're her pillow person.
Use your wisdom more. Of course, there are some issues that you need to pay attention to: First, it is targeted.
Principled issues are not allowed, and non-principled issues are laughed off. The second is to treat your in-laws correctly. At least, don't think that your in-laws are very yin people.
If you say this, it means that you already have a big opinion about your in-laws. Because the Chinese language is broad and profound. There are both positive and negative aspects to any word.
You say it's more yin, but I think it's more subtle. If you think everything badly, your days will be hell. Tomorrow when your in-laws go straight to you, you will think that they finally can't help it and seem to be sweeping you away; The day after tomorrow, your in-laws will greet you with warmth, and you will think that this is nothing to do, and you are either a traitor or ......a thiefIn short, think about the good in everything, not the bad.
The third is to use wisdom and stratagem or means, not out of good intentions, not out of revenge or bad intentions. There are two advantages to this, one is that you are calm in your heart and not easy to expose; The second is that even if you are discovered, you are justifiable, and it is not easy to add fuel to the fire. Fourth, the principle of avoidance.
Is there a saying in China that "if you can't be provoked, you can't hide"? Less contact, less talking, more doing. It's the same as dealing with the boss in the company. Say more things that your in-laws like to hear, and it's good to report good news and not bad news.
You should be content to find a good husband like you. The problem of the in-laws, temporary. When the children are older, you throw them with you and still go to work. Everything will work out.
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