The topic of the debate on honesty in modern society will suffer .

Integrity in modern society is not necessarily a loss, as long as you interact with others, you must first see the other party as an enemy. What ways and methods the other party uses, you have to consider what his intentions are, you will not suffer a loss if you do this, integrity is not necessarily a loss, integrity also brings you a certain wealth and convenience.

What is it to be a man without integrity? Brute?

It doesn't matter, it's a blessing to suffer.

Fools have fortune!

Integrity itself is a great asset.

Banks won't lend you money without credit.

First of all, in terms of economy, it is a society with rapid economic development, and in order to be able to gain an invincible position in this society, every company has done its best. Looking at those excellent enterprises, which one is not honest to others? One after another honest businessmen, the door is like a market, and the business is prosperous.

Even if the counterfeit enterprise can get a temporary profit, it is difficult to operate for a long time in the end, Wang Chong of the Eastern Han Dynasty said: "Sincerity is added, and gold can be opened; Li Bai, a great poet of the Tang Dynasty, said: Haiyue is still leaning, and his promise will never be moved.

Verses. The other party's defense friend, how can you say that honesty suffers.

A white lie is still a lie after all.

Is it really well-intentioned?! —The purpose is very good, but I didn't think about it further: since it is a lie, then it must be false, and if it is false, there must be flaws, as the saying goes, there is no thatched house that does not leak for three years, and the lie cannot escape the fate of being seen through after all, and at that time, I am afraid that it will hurt even more!

Or is it a kind of excuse for yourself?! — It's a lie, but you have to add a "well-intentioned" embellishment to yourself, which seems a little unkind.

To be honest, I believe in the first interpretation more because I believe in people. But I don't want to talk about that right now, but I want to talk about how we can tell the truth without hurting the other person.

There is no absolute truth, and there is no absolute truth! Many people always like to add "fact" to enhance their persuasiveness, which shows how magical the truth is! So how do we reflect the facts to each other without causing any trouble?

There is a sentence on the reader: The rushing river is not escaping, but advancing. In fact, whether it is escape or enterprising, none of us knows, go ask the river!

But to see all things with my heart, and all things are colored by me, to say that it is to escape, because we stand behind it, away from us; It's aggressive because it's coming at us – both of which are true, and no one can deny it.

Therefore, if you want to tell the facts, if you want to tell the facts that do not cause harm, then you have to have a trade-off from the perspective of looking at the problem, and look at the problem from a perspective that is beneficial to everyone, so that the angle is different, and the answer to the question is different, but it is true, and there is no need for lies, and there is no need for white lies! Because it's always easy for people to believe and accept the facts.

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Hope it helps! Thank you!

A white lie is a lie in itself. Lying, lying is deception, deception is immoral, immoral things are unpopular. But when we add a "good intention" to a lie, it seems that everyone may accept that a lie is a lie, and if the whole society tells these white lies, then don't we live in a hypocritical world?

There is a person who is terminally ill, in order to let him spend the rest of his life peacefully, relatives and friends unanimously hide him, there is no malice in this, and there is no selfish interest, but then the patient knows about it, and his heart is painful, and he is unwilling to cooperate**. The patient has the right to know everything, let him know everything, respect him, and let him make his own decisions, why not?

Both a lie? Where's the kindness?! That is, goodwill! Why lie?!

If you are trustworthy, you will be trustworthy, you will be trustworthy, you will be trustworthy, you will be successful, and if you are trustworthy, the Chinese nation will be eternal.

When a person loses his integrity, is his starting point still good?

Anyone who uses an excuse wants to use it to protect themselves or others. Help us save face so that we can endure setbacks.

Isn't this self-deception? Most excuses are destructive. Unconsciously use excuses, even if you don't fool others, you fool yourself. So I ask the other party to recognize, more integrity, less excuses!

We must reject lies and insist on integrity.

If you refuse at the beginning, you won't be in the embarrassing situation later.

On that day, as soon as I got out of school, my mother came to greet me, and I recognized my mother at a glance as she walked in a sea of people. I threw myself into my mother's arms and said proudly, "Mom, today's math teacher praised me and said that I have improved, and at the parent-teacher meeting, the teacher will definitely mention me and say that I have improved."

My mother looked at me with confidence and said, "Oh, yes, yes, then I have to listen carefully to what the teacher says." With that, my mother walked into the school and waved me home.

Along the way, I kept wondering what the teacher would say about me. Will she really praise me? Could the teacher not have mentioned me at all? I returned home with a nervous heart, eagerly waiting for my mother to come home.

Tick, tick, tick, tick" time is ticking. I sat in a chair and did my homework, but my heart had already flown to the class of the parent-teacher conference.

"The door is open!" Mom finally came back, and it was 6 o'clock in the afternoon. Without waiting for my mother to change her clothes, I couldn't wait to ask my mother:

Mom, how's it going? Did the teacher praise me? Mom looked at my expectant eyes, smiled slightly, and said happily

Of course I praised it. The teacher said that you have made progress in your studies, but you don't like to speak much in class, and it would be better if you spoke actively in class. When I heard this, it was sweeter than honey, and I couldn't have been happier!

Since then, I have been actively speaking in math class, and my math grades have improved a lot over the course of a semester. During class, the teacher often praised me. As a result, I became more interested in learning mathematics.

One semester later, when I was in the fifth grade, my mother suddenly asked me, "Why do you dare to speak in math class, but never raise your hand to speak in Chinese class?" "I said to my mother

My teacher praised me in a parent-teacher conference in Year 4 and gave me the confidence to speak actively. My mother was puzzled and asked, "Which time?"

Did I lie to you that the teacher praised you for that parent ......Oh......Not ......That ......"What? Lie to me? Mom actually lied to me and said that the teacher praised me!

That means the teacher didn't praise me at all! I was taken aback, and my mother hurriedly comforted me and said, "Well......."Kiki, in fact, the teacher did not praise you and say that you improved, but said that you were not active in speaking and did not participate in the class.

Mom just didn't want you to lose interest in math because the teacher didn't praise you, so she lied to you. I'm sorry! Mom didn't mean to lie to you....At this time, I really wanted to cry, and after listening to my mother's words, my tears could no longer be controlled, and they poured out all at once, and I threw myself into my mother's arms and cried ......

"Lies" because they are false, untrue, and deceitful words. But today, when we talk about "lies", there is another definite term - benign ones, and with the addition of this qualifier, the nature of lies has also undergone a fundamental change. Even if a person who hears a white lie knows that it is a lie, he will still try to believe it, and he will not feel the hypocrisy of the liar, and sometimes he will be grateful from the bottom of his heart. The instinct to survive has them fighting for their limited supply of dry food and water. At the critical moment, a passenger who was temporarily on the plane stood up and said, "Don't panic, everyone, I am an aircraft designer, as long as everyone works together to listen to my command, the plane can be repaired".

This is like a shot in the arm to stabilize everyone's mood, and they consciously save water and dry food; Everything was in order, and everyone united to fight against the difficulties of the wind and sand. More than ten days passed, and the plane was not repaired; But a caravan of merchants who were traveling to and from the desert came to their rescue. A few days later, it was discovered that the temporary passenger was not an aircraft designer at all, but an elementary school teacher who knew nothing about airplanes.

A white lie is motivated by good intentions, with the purpose and starting point of defending the interests of others. The lies that a person who is good in itself is "forced" to tell in a certain state are benevolent, and this lie is a kind of kindness, a kind of concern for the subject. Obviously, a white lie does not hinder integrity.

So we think white lies are beneficial.

Honesty is seeking truth from facts, and lies negate facts! Based on the facts, both good and evil are false! Moreover, the result of good intentions is not necessarily the result of good intentions.

And the result is the bastard of lies! Although it is good, it cannot be denied its evil! It is quite right for the doctor to be silent and tell the truth to the patient and his family!

In the spirit of the Fa, the right to know cannot be deprived of "good intentions"!

First of all, a white lie is also a kind of lie, just like a benign malignant tumor in a human disease, no matter how different the results of the disease are, it is a disease and is harmful to human health. The same is true of white lies, although they can be accepted by people emotionally, and even white lies have good intentions, but they still belong to the substantive behavior that violates rational morality, that is, lying (pathology), so no matter what the purpose and result of a white lie is, it is an indisputable fact that it violates the principle of good faith.

When we look at things, we often add a very strong emotional color, which is the emotional stuff of human emotion. Although we know that well-intentioned deception is also deception, we always feel that the original intention is good, and the deceived person will not feel ashamed or even feel a little noble, and the deceived person will not feel indignant and condemn the deceiver even if he knows that it is deception, because of the loss of face and the goodwill of the deceiver's purpose. But that doesn't change the nature of the deception itself.

From a rational point of view, deception is a departure from good faith.

There are many white lies in everyday life, such as:

The people in charge of personnel management, when laying off employees, will find some excuses that do not damage the other party, and will not directly point out the defects and deficiencies of the other party, they will generally say: "You work very hard, the company is very recognized, but the company is more difficult now, so I have to endure the pain and so on" high-sounding words. There is no doubt that this is a kind of white lie.

But we can clearly see that this is also deception, and it does not help the employee to correct his shortcomings and do a better job.