My family insisted that I go on a blind date, and I was helpless20

Believe me, anything else can only aggravate your troubles, and I really recommend that you sit down with your family, calmly and honestly talk about your thoughts, and they will understand you, and only then can you solve the problem fundamentally.

Let's just say that I found it... But the other party is a girl with a child... You like her a lot... Inseparable...

And then the family is trying to persuade you to break up... Break up... Break up... Make a fuss for a while... Then it was said that they were separated...

Then they will be embarrassed to ask you to go on a blind date...

I'm like you, I don't really want to see her. So I became very busy every day, and there were many, many things going on every day. Soon she felt it,。。

Sometimes when I can't push it off, a friend will ask for a drink (arranged by myself), and then accidentally drink too much, and then I can't go to play.

That's right, parents are always worried, just just come out and take a walk, don't embarrass both sides

I feel that it is better to tell my family clearly, after all, this is my own life's business, I don't like it, you tell your family that you should understand you, tell them that you will meet the person you like, don't worry about it, or you will be more and more uncomfortable if you hold it by yourself.

For their own family,In fact, a very important part of the reason why they force themselves to go on a blind date is because they want to be happyThat way they will be reassured.

1. Communicate and discuss with your family.

For our family members, although they are disgusted by doing this, we should also understand their intentions and find a good time to communicate with our family members, so that it is more conducive to persuading our family members not to force us to go on blind dates. Because everyone advocates "free love" for the current relationship, we should not force ourselves on the premise that we don't want to be in love, so that we can better change such a status quo.

2. Make your position clear.

For my own marriage, I think that the vast majority of people should still make their own decisions, rather than listening to the opinions of their families, let alone implementing them according to the route planned by their families, so we must make our position clear to our family members, and make them feel that they are very disgusted with blind dates, so as to stop their such behavior. In the past, I also had such an experience, when I wanted to focus on my career, so I didn't care much about my feelings, which caused my family to be very anxious, but since I made my position clear, even if my parents wanted to let me go on a blind date, they would ask for my advice in advance, and then make a decision.

The family's coercion is only for the sake of our children, and we should understand the family's intentions, so as not to disappoint their kindness. But each of us should also have our own opinions when facing our own feelings, and share them with our family members, so that similar things will not happen again, and I hope everyone can pay attention to them.

If you don't want to deal with the object for the time being, you can find some reasons to refuse, or you can be perfunctory, try not to have conflicts with your family, after all, they also care about you more.

If you really don't want to go on a blind date, make it clear to your parents, you don't want to settle casually, you want to find a suitable person to marry, I believe your parents will understand your thoughts.

Parents will always worry about their children's marriage when they are older, your family often forces you to go on a blind date, probably because you are old, but you have not found the right other half, they are actually very anxious, so they will force you to contact more people, if you are very resistant, you can tell your parents that you can find true love, so that they worry a little less.

I also have this trouble, and I am often forced by my family to go on a blind date, you can go and tell your parents that you have someone you like, and now you should not be forced to go on a blind date when you are in love.

You should go, you must understand the good intentions of your family, even if it is not successful, for them, there is a psychological comfort.

You can talk to your family about why you don't want to go on a blind date, or that you are very busy with work and want to focus on your career, so that your family will not force you to go on a blind date.

You can try to accept the advice of your family to participate in a blind date, and maybe you will really meet the real man. Generally speaking, before the blind date, you can understand the other party's family background and growth experience, and accepting the blind date is also a way to expand the circle of friends.

Blind date is a stage that everyone who should get married must go through, face it indifferently, and it is not something unseemly, forcing you to go on a blind date is also to worry about your lifelong events.

I don't want to! I don't think I would be willing to go on a blind date at home's behest for the most part.

First of all, the purpose of a blind date is to find a suitable partner, which is a very important thing, which is related to the happiness of a person's life. However, if I was just arranged by my family to go on a blind date, then I might not have the opportunity to really understand if that person is really suitable for me and make the best choice for my own happiness. On the contrary, I may feel compelled to accept someone I don't like, and this arrangement may cause problems in my relationship with that person, and may even affect my happiness and love life.

Secondly, if my family members are on a blind date, then this also means that I don't have the right to make my own choice. If I don't like that person or don't feel like a good fit for me, then I may be forced to go because of family relationships, which can make me feel anxious and uneasy. In this case, I might even feel like I'm being seen as a "commodity", which is definitely not what I want.

In addition, the blind date may also make me feel uncomfortable because I may feel that I am being judged or evaluated. Blind dates themselves are a way to assess the suitability of the other person in a very short period of time, and it is easy to feel uncomfortable and scrutinized.

To sum up, I am not willing to follow the family's arrangement to go on a blind date. I think it takes time and the right to make your own choices about building a relationship for me and the other person, and that the process should be based on mutual understanding and respect. If the family must intervene in my love life, then they should give me enough space and time to decide for myself whether to accept or reject.

I am willing to follow the family's arrangement to go on a blind date, because the family is also for my good, and it is the parents' hope that the child can have a home.

So, what can't we say when we face a blind date?

First, what words can not be said on a blind date.

1. How many times have you kissed.

Although blind dates need to be honest with each other, don't talk about everything. Out of curiosity, some people ask each other at the beginning: "How many times have you kissed each other?"

No matter who listens to such a question, it will feel very heartbroken, and it also hurts self-esteem a little, so you must pay attention to proportionality when speaking.

2. How do you feel about me?

It's best not to ask the other person when chatting on a blind date: "How do you feel about me?" "If the other person doesn't like you, it's going to be this issue.

If the other party falls in love with you, but is too shy and embarrassed to say it, you can only laugh it off. At this time, the blind date atmosphere will definitely be awkward, so such a problem is not good.

3. I have also seen many conditions better than yours.

Blind dates must have a sincere heart, and it would be too boring if you kept making comparisons. Don't say on a blind date: "Actually, I've seen a lot of people with better conditions than you."

This is very annoying, because you are here to go on a blind date, not to belittle others. If you don't even give face to the other party, there is no need to continue talking.

4. I don't like blind dates that are forced.

When you go on a blind date, you have to learn to speak, often many people don't like blind dates, so they say directly to the blind date: "Actually, I don't like blind dates, and every time I go out on a blind date, I am forced." The person who said these words may feel nothing, but the person who listens to them is very embarrassed, because such words are too hurtful, and it is recommended not to mention such topics when going on a blind date.

Second, how to avoid embarrassment when going on a blind date.

1.Good image.

If you want to date without embarrassment, it's best to start with a good image. Ladies can dress a little more formally, and it would be perfect if they wore light makeup. Men are mainly clean and comfortable, and the most important thing is to look energetic.

After this step, the blind date is already half the battle.

2.Prepare the topic.

In order to effectively avoid the awkwardness of dating, you should think about the topics you can talk about first. For example, interesting experiences you have had, such as recent hit TV series, can be your talking point. But it's important to note that it's best to pick a light-hearted topic.

You can ask more questions about the basic information given to you by the introducer, and ask more questions about the other party's hobbies and expertise, so that it is easy to generate new topics and arouse the other party's desire to communicate. You can also talk about things that have just happened around you recently, which will make your relationship feel closer.

3.Try to be proactive.

Two relatively strangers sit together, the cold scene will definitely appear, and once the cold field will be very embarrassing, this is normal in the Qing world, but embarrassing 10 seconds is enough, please immediately look for a topic to transfer. Boys should try to take the initiative at this time, and girls should not feel that they have nothing to do with themselves, a good chat atmosphere needs to be created by two people, and someone will pick up the stalk, so that the topic can continue.

I have a few things I want to say about arranging blind dates at home, and I don't reject them, because I know that parents have their own considerations. However, there is also a negative side. First, as a parent, please check the object introduced by relatives and friends first, and the parents at home must understand it first.

Don't throw a ** to you and ask you to call** to ask yourself. What is this operation? On the contrary, when I asked, even my parents didn't know his basic situation.

Second, parents Fan Youxiang think more from the perspective of their children"Blind date"It's not like you don't care about your own business. In most families, children are the treasure in the palm of their hands, and without making harsh requirements, the requirements of parents at home must be higher than their own children, and I think this is at least the attitude of the heart towards this matter. In fact, it must respect the child's own ideas and integrate the reality of the situation.

However, any person can go on a blind date, as a child, one of them I also have a job, I may not have so much time to get to know everyone, and the other is that the non-stop large number of blind dates will really wear out, I'm right"Affectionate"of desire. Therefore, we must make the right choice instead of blindly deciding, and we must think carefully about marriage: 1 Make the first step to think, and we can only make a choice, either to get married or not to get married.

If you want to get married, you have to put in the effort and action, and if you don't want to get married, you have to be strong, and you have to be able to stand up to the voice of society (it is difficult to do this). 2 If you want to get married, consider what the purpose of marriage is, whether it is for the sake of external voices or for yourself. There is a big difference between the two, I didn't know why I wanted to get married, I always felt that I followed the advice of my parents, and the prejudice of the outside world against older singles made me anxious and forced me to get married.

Later, I experienced a boy, although we didn't go to the end, but I realized that two people can be very happy together, can be greater than one person's state, that feeling is too good, I am no longer influenced by the outside world to pursue, but the inner drive to let me do this. 3 Don't want to get married for a while, and don't want to get married for a while. This kind of internal friction is very nerve-wracking and hurtful, and wastes precious time.

Maybe you don't want to get married when you're young, but you want to get married when you're older, and you find that the range of options is less, and so on, and time slips away quietly.

Blind dates are a traditional way of making friends, and many families or elders will suggest or arrange for their children to go on blind dates to help them find a suitable partner. Of course, everyone's view of blind date is different, some people think that blind date can make them understand the opposite sex better and broaden their social circle; Some people feel that the blind date process is more awkward and unfree, which may have a negative impact on their psychology.

If the family arranges a blind date with Kai Youdan, it is recommended to respect your wishes and decisions, and do not force yourself to participate. If you don't want to go on a blind date, you can politely refuse or tell Oak to put forward your ideas. If you are willing to go on a blind date, you should also express your thoughts and attitudes moderately, maintain open and sincere communication, and give both parties a chance to get to know each other.

In the process of blind date, you should pay attention to protecting yourself, do not disclose personal information and privacy too casually, and at the same time respect the rights and privacy of the other party.

In short, blind date is a traditional way of making friends, and you need to think carefully and decide whether you want to participate or not. When dealing with the situation of family members arranging blind dates, it is recommended to respect their own wishes and choices, and communicate with family members in an inclusive, understanding and communicative manner.