Talk about a situation in which you suddenly fear losing your parents?

Every once in a while, she will be very pessimistic, thinking about many things, including the aging of her parents, and even the death of this happy family after a few decades, and the daughter will form a family to live her own life when she grows up, but there is no grandparents and grandparents who love her the most at the beginning. I heard a very sad sentence on TV: Parents and children are half-life.

When I see my parents old, when I see my relatives sick and the elderly leave, I am especially afraid of losing my parents, so I dare not work too far away from home and stay with my parents.

Today, my grandmother passed away, and my father didn't see the last of my grandmother at noon, and I calmly told me that my grandmother was gone, and when I got home, I asked me what I was eating and talked to me with a smile, and I said that my grandmother didn't eat the stove candy and left, and my father was such a strong person who cried and said to me: Dad has no mother.

My family mainly makes money for my father, and my father has always been very generous to us, but he is frugal to himself, and he is reluctant to eat and wear, but he has made me develop a generous habit. Today's Chinese New Year, I sent red envelopes to my classmates for five yuan and ten yuan casually, but my father was happy because he grabbed a few cents and one or two yuan on his mobile phone.

Seeing my parents getting old, dreaming that they left suddenly, I feel like my sky is about to fall, I just hope that they can be safe and happy, and I want to grow old with them.

My dad works in a mahjong parlor, on a construction site. The salary is low, and sometimes the boss doesn't give money. There is still a lawsuit going on both sides of the construction site.

My usual food expenses are saved from his cigarette money. I usually eat at an acquaintance's house, and the meager salary is used to pay off my debts. My mom was working abroad, and I asked my dad why he didn't go with him, and he said silly boy, dad was old.

Mom went to study in Yanliang, and she didn't come home that day when they didn't have a holiday. My sister went to Shandong. I work in Xi'an. Dad was home alone. Make dumplings by yourself. Didn't tell us.

They have wrinkles, but their eyes shine with a gentleness that never grows old. Parents will always get old at a certain age, but their faces will be deeply imprinted in your mind, as long as you close your eyes and think about them, you can surface their old faces, as if our love for them can make time stand still.

Just now, my mother cautiously told me not to be afraid, saying that there was something going on at home, and I suddenly wanted to go back to my hometown.

When a parent is sick, he can't heal himself.

I won't talk about that. People will pass away.

Growing up in a happy family, we grew up, and our father and mother passed away, and it was really sad to mention ......

When I saw my grandfather and grandparents pass away, my life was fragile, and I was afraid of losing my parents.

I want them to stay alive, even if I die first.

Parents are selfless and dedicated to their children.

People who have never been afraid, who have never given me love and responsibility, are not rare at all!

I am afraid at any time, this problem, I don't even dare to imagine.

From the analysis of your situation, there are roughly three points, one is that you have been lonely for a long time, you have little time with relatives and friends, and you spend too much time at home, so you have an emotional dependence on your family, because you feel that in addition to your family, others are hypocritical, and there is a taste of seeing through the red dust, the second is that your family must be very harmonious, giving you security and life to rely on, and you have an inexplicable sense of closeness to your relatives, and the third is that you may be an only child, afraid of losing your parents, your parents are there, you have a home, a backbone, Parents are the motivation and spiritual pillar of your life, once your parents die, your home is gone, the backbone is gone, everything in the future you have to rely on yourself to complete, there is no support, think about it is terrifying.

The above three points are taken together, your worries should be superfluous, as long as the mentality is correct, in the time that your parents accompany you, exercise your ability to live independently, improve your skills, including social skills and earning ability, after all, you have to bear the responsibility of supporting your family, once your parents say goodbye to the world, your dependence on your parents will be greatly reduced, and the psychological gap will not make you collapse. People always have to die, and to accept this reality, although it is very painful, is also the beginning of your life towards real maturity because you are no longer dependent on your parents.

It may be because of the fear of losing a loved one is equivalent to losing dependence, if you are not an adult, you will be afraid of losing material dependence and spiritual dependence, and you are afraid of losing spiritual dependence when you are an adult!

Summary. Because your parents are your dependent, you have a certain dependence on them, and when you think of your own departure, you will naturally think of your parents, and you are afraid that they will leave.

This is a kind of anticipatory anxiety.

It's that I think of my parents first from my own death.

It may be caused by the recent psychological stress.

How can this stress be relieved? I'm scared.

Because your parents are your dependent, you have a certain dependence on them, and when you think of your own departure, you will naturally think of your parents, and you are afraid that they will leave.

You can listen to some cheerful ** to relax a bit.

Or go for a run and exercise to divert your attention.

It's okay to find someone to chat with and play games, so there's no need to think about it.

First of all, this is normal.

The following is my humble opinion, please do not carry it by hand.

One. Because the human brain has an area of "feelings", you pour your feelings into your loved ones, and when they leave, you will feel a lack of emotion, a sense of emptiness. You are overwhelmed and don't know how to put your emotions in **, which is what many people often say, "I feel empty in my heart."

Two. Because it is a loved one, it will come into your life. When you see that bonsai plant, when you are sick, or when a weekend or festival comes, you feel sad and feel sad about what that person has done and he or she can no longer do it.

If the relationship is very close, then the life and rest will also change, and then you can use the phrase "I feel empty in my heart." ”

Three. Personally, I think the most important point is that you feel "lost". Dropping a personal item can be emotional, not to mention losing a loved one.

To sum up, I think that the main thing to do is to reduce the fear, and it is better to tell yourself repeatedly every day:

There are gains and losses. Even if your biological mother dies, there may be sadness, there are changes in your life for better or worse, you will get independence and get unexpected spiritual baptism, spirit is the best gift, as long as you don't want to, no one can snatch it away in your life.

There is no eternity. There is still a day when the sun will be destroyed, but what is eternal? What we have to do is cherish the present moment and leave no regrets when we say goodbye to it. Learn to look down on the separation of gains and losses.

The advice of a person who has turned around 5 times in elementary school alone to get together with many friends and leave many times) has the best, I cherish, and I don't force it without me. Don't be greedy or stupid, you can not care so much when you lose, after all, it is fate and blessing to accompany you through a period of time.

The above content seems to be very cookie-cutter, like the words of an old monk and an old mother who believes in Buddhism, but in fact, I don't believe in Buddhism (and even hate that set a little). Aside from prostration, the act of purifying your heart, some of the spirits taught in Buddhism can actually help you reduce negative emotions very well.

Others can help you for a while, and no matter how much others say, the answers they find out are not effective, which makes you feel convinced and more profound.

Find out the anger behind the anger, find out the fear behind the fear, (e.g., being afraid of ghosts is the fear of being hurt that you can't deal with, you can think that it's the same thing whether this thing exists or not, it won't hurt you at all.) You're going to be able to get the right medicine for you.

Okay, it's still raining in the middle of the night, and I'm afraid that the ghost girl will stay in the room alone and knock you so much is enough, and if you don't sleep, you won't be able to get up tomorrow.

In short, affectionate and chic, probably the most ideal state.

Good night and good dreams.

Because you can't afford to lose, you're afraid of losing.

Everyone is afraid of losing a loved one.