Why is it dumped by others every time you fall in love

When you fall in love, why are you always the one who gets dumped? There are 3 reasons for this.

I think the reason lies in emotional control.

Compared with male thinking, the emotional component of female thinking will be greater than the ideal component.

The difference between these two types of thinking can be seen in love: men generally do not invest more than 50% in a relationship, while women do the opposite, generally equal to 50% or more.

This is because most boys clearly know the importance of material foundation, even if love is important, it is also necessary to leave a reasonable position for career, family, hobbies, etc. And the girl's perception and dependence on the other half will gradually increase over time, and slowly exceed the original normal sweetness value. This leads to the fact that in the later stage of the relationship, the woman is too dependent, and the man feels more disgusted.

Excessive dependence often brings the suspicion of girls to these negative effects, so that the mood is like a roller coaster ups and downs, and if the emotions are not carefully controlled, it is easy to make the other half feel panicked and bored, and such negative emotions crush the happiness value of two people, so it leads to emotional instability.

Girls' occasional brutality and willfulness, occasional coquettishness, and occasional pretentiousness are all cute in the minds of men, but everything should have a degree, once it is excessive, it is not cute, it is contrived, and men will not be able to stand it.

Every day is like a vinegar jar, a man says a word to other girls, she thinks that the man and this woman may be ambiguous, the relationship is unclear, and then she will be jealous, all kinds of coquettish and cute, all kinds of sad, after the matter, she will ask, is the man beautiful or she is beautiful? Is it me or the game that matters? Is your brother important or am I important?

will always ask some vexatious questions, embarrass men, and even take the initiative to delete men's game accounts.

Girl, you will not only not get the love of a man by doing this, but also make a man hate you more, if you really love this man, go to improve yourself and make yourself more attractive, you must know that men are not used to chase backwards, men are used to attract, you only attract this man, you are the real winner.

Obviously, there is no princess life, but there is a princess disease, so your man will feel that he has married one, a bodhisattva, and he needs to keep offering, and the man will be tired.

The energy of a man in love is also limited, you have to make the man feel relaxed, if you make the man feel tired, then the man will say goodbye to you when he is tired, he will say goodbye to you, and then you will regret it, then it will be too late.

In love: These three types of people are the most likely to be dumped.

Because this kind of boy doesn't trust his girlfriend, he always suspects that she is still involved with other boys, and the girl can't stand it so she dumps him.

Boys who are easy to be dumped in love generally have problems with themselves, must have problems with their personalities, and will not get along with others.

Because some boys don't take their feelings seriously at all and don't cherish their girlfriends, girls will definitely not be able to stand breaking up if they don't get a response for their long-term efforts.

Love is too humble, no matter what is the matter, the girl wants what to give, and does not consider his own ability, such a boy is easy to be dumped.

This kind of boy often has a very high emotional intelligence, they don't understand the real thoughts of girls, and they are very impatient to make their girlfriends happy, and girls feel very tired when they get along, so they are easy to be dumped.

I only know how to pay blindly, and I won't manage a relationship well, I just think it's okay to be good to girls, and I also have to understand the psychological feelings of girls, otherwise girls will only feel bored and finally dump the boys.

Because these boys' emotional intelligence is not very high, they don't get along with girls, and they often make girls unhappy and don't coax people.

Because boys take their feelings very seriously, they have no independence, and they are especially clingy to girls, and girls don't like such boys, so they will dump their boyfriends.

Because some boys are very unserious about love, they are not reliable at all, and they don't know what responsibility they should bear, so they will be dumped.

Because these boys can't understand the girls' thoughts, after getting along for a long time, the girls will feel very tired, so they will choose to break up, and they will be dumped.

Problem solving ideas; A person's life is just to meet such and such people, some people will pass by your emotional world, some people will live in your heart, as for who will pass by, who will live, it depends on fate.

There is not so much right and wrong in the emotional world, there are just inappropriate and disliked. For people who don't like you, no matter how hard you try to fight and try to change yourself, it's just in vain, in the face of the right person, many things don't need to be changed, because in the face of the right, many things are natural, and there is no need to deliberately change and strive for it.

It's easy to fall in love with someone, but it's also a moment not to love. In the final analysis, I still don't like and love enough, the person who easily says that you break up must not be the most suitable person for you, some words can't be often hung on your lips, some words can't be generalized, some words can't be over-understood, and some words can't be blurted out just in your head, because, maybe that inadvertent sentence exposes a person's nature and fundamentals.

ps, the above are all personal opinions, don't spray if you don't like it, thank you! If it helps too, thank you!

Whoever dumped whom, in fact, is normal, this time you were dumped, and next time it will be your turn to dump others, so don't worry about it.

This is just that in the process of getting along, I found that maybe two people get along together, it may not be so suitable, so it is also a good thing to separate, and it will hurt more deeply later.

What is needed between men and women is communication!

In fact, two people should run in bit by bit in daily life!

I think that the relationship has to talk about fate, it's not a matter of who dumps whom, it's just that fate hasn't arrived, and fate can't be shaken off when it arrives.

Feelings are like this, not necessarily the more you invest, the more he feels that he loves you, the other party may think that you are a problem woman, fall in love naturally, you have me, I have you to succeed, this time when the exercise, everything starts anew.

The two chatted online for more than two months, and the senior proposed to meet more than once, but Xiaomei refused, he asked the senior to give her a period of time, and when she wanted to meet, she would naturally meet. So Xiaomei formulated a one-month "beauty plan", skin care, makeup, **, and outfits can not be left behind.

The two were still chatting intimately on the phone, and the seniors were more and more looking forward to seeing the juniors on the screen, Xiaomei was even more impatient, she was more face-to-face with the seniors she had admired for a long time, and then said to him loudly:"Senior, I like you! "But I'm afraid that my seniors will feel that they are not beautiful enough after meeting.

It's normal to encounter such things when you fall in love, and everyone has their own choice.

Not all of you can fall in love, so you want to think about it naturally.

Since ancient times, one thing descends to another, and you can't lower you, you throw off, you can't fall down and be dumped.

Because this kind of girl is generally very humble in love, has no autonomy, and listens to her boyfriend for everything, this kind of is easy to be dumped, too humble like dust, so it is not valued.

It must be their own problem to be dumped easily, these girls may be squeamish and can't be considerate of their boyfriends, so they will be dumped.

Girls are particularly unassertive, they have to ask their boyfriends about everything, they stick to their boyfriends every day, and they are unreasonable, such girls are easy to make men lose patience and be dumped.

Girls are particularly infatuated and want to stick to their boyfriends every day, but boys hate not having freedom, so girls are easy to be dumped.

Some girls will become love brains once they fall in love, and they like to be heaven and earth, their boyfriends are good to him, she doesn't know how to cherish them at all, and she is naturally easy to be dumped.

Because some girls can't understand the mood of boys, they won't learn to tolerate boys, but are aggressive to boys every day, so they will be dumped.

A woman who likes to pester men. Some men do like clingy little birds, but that's under certain circumstances, if it's a woman who sticks to you all day like chewing gum stuck to your hair, then I'm afraid everyone will avoid it.

Because some girls have no brains when they talk about love, they follow their boyfriends in everything, they don't have their own opinions, and they praise their boyfriends, so that their boyfriends won't cherish you.

Because some girls are too obedient to their boyfriends, this will make the boy learn badly, and he will not know how to cherish you, so it is easy to be dumped.

Because they are too insecure in love and let their boyfriends have no freedom, they feel that they are tired, so they propose to break up.

In love: These three types of people are the most likely to be dumped.

It will be heart-wrenching.

Breaking up is originally a kind of abandonment and pain, and suddenly being broken up by the seemingly simple five words is actually like five knives pierced into the heart of each of us. It shatters our sense of self-confidence, security, dependence, trust, and love. It is also a heart-piercing pain and a sudden injury.

Because it seems to be his own, but suddenly it is the other party's long-term plan. We were kept in the dark for a long time, and we were caught off guard when we should have been vaccinated or given a warning.

The saddest thing in this breakup is that the other party is irresponsible, and he blames you for the breakup and says that because you have a low sense of security, a bad temper, and a long temper, he can't stand it and breaks up, which seems to give you a hint: It's all because I'm not good at it, so he will leave me, if I grow up, have a high sense of security, and be gentle, we will get back together. So you work hard to learn how to get along with the sexes, improve yourself, for yourself, but also for the sake of reuniting.

But in a relationship, it is definitely a slap in the face, and the beginning and end of a relationship are two people's affairs, and it is not something you can decide or change alone. Take tantrums as an example, if you lose your temper with different people, some people will feel attacked and hurt, some people will be angry, some people will ignore it, and some people will feel sorry for you, after all, a person's tantrum is the most emotionally vulnerable time, and this time should be cared for the most.

People with clear boundaries know that in fact, anyone's emotions are only related to himself and the past, not to the present, and even less to the people of the time. Therefore, the reason for the breakup is your responsibility, but it can't be attributed to you just because of the other party's shirk. You don't have to suffer the pain of separation, but also accept the self-blame and torture of "I'm not good enough".

First of all, you have to allow yourself to come out slowly, and allow yourself to miss him. I see that you have also put in a lot of effort and trying, and said that you have missed it to the fullest, but if you really allow it, there will be no such doubts.

There are two parts in everyone's interior, namely the inner parent and the inner child, when your emotional, instinctive inner child says that she misses him very much and cries when she thinks about it, as her parent, the way to love her most is definitely not to yell at her, accuse her, and force her not to think. Instead, be gentle with her feelings and tell her that you will be there for her.

Tell her that it doesn't matter how much she misses, after all, she once loved, after all, the separation hurts too much. There is also no rule that if you break up, you must come out quickly, and you can no longer miss each other.

The best way to experience a sudden breakup is to make a farewell breakup ritual for yourself, such as writing a letter, drawing a picture, etc., any ceremony that you feel can represent or symbolize the breakup. Tell yourself before you do it, and keep hinting at yourself. When you're done, tell yourself that your relationship is really over.

Being dumped in love, breaking up, splitting legs, there must be a heart-rending pain! If you give a lot and give your heart in this relationship, then breaking up will be a very painful experience!

Breaking up is inherently a pain of abandonment. Let yourself lose your sense of self-confidence, sense of security and dependence. Let yourself learn to grow, learn self-love, and keep hinting to yourself when you lose him, your relationship is really over.

The feeling of being dumped in a relationship is very uncomfortable, there is no doubt about it. But you also have to know that this is like failing the college entrance examination, on the first day of high school, you may have already established your ambition to go to which university, but after three years, you can't do it, you can only sigh. The feeling at this time is very close to the feeling of being dumped in love.

It's good to look at the opening point, it's always not too cool to be dumped. Just assume that person is not your thing, it's better to separate early! It's like buying **, choosing a loss one, and you should stop the loss and cut the meat in time.

Unwilling, or feel that you can't meet a better one in the future (time can ** everything).

It is the sky that has lost its color, the heart that has lost its place, and the food tasteless.

What is it like to be dumped in love?

I will doubt myself that I have a very serious problem and have been broken up five or six times, and every time I am shown goodwill, it is I who is dumped. When I was a normal friend, I was independent and rich, but once I became a lover, I became a little different. Every time, someone comes out and volunteers.