Am I too strong to be like this? So what to do?

In today's society, this spirit of excellence is still appreciated, especially in the field of education, where teachers and students are facing this pressure.

If you have the ability to do it, you can do it. If you feel too tired to cope with it, it is a problem for you and you need to adjust.

Generally speaking, the root cause is the insecurity you felt growing up. If you don't do that to the extreme, you will be left anxious in your heart, afraid of losing a lot. This kind of bad emotional experience is the main culprit that affects your physical and mental health.

In life, we must learn to choose, do something and do nothing, in order to live elegantly.

If your student had an awkward argument with you, would you feel so uncomfortable that you would even want to retaliate? If not, your situation is benign, very reasonable and strong, and there is no need to worry too much. Try to change this situation in the future, and teach students according to their aptitude, depending on the situation, it is still more acceptable to everyone.

By the way, LS's "normal heart" is too negative, and it is right to do the best things as it should be, but if you can't achieve it despite your efforts, there is no need to investigate it deeply.

I think a lot of this is because I don't have confidence in myself, so I need all kinds of firsts to prove, so it is easy to harm students, of course, it also harms myself, learn to identify with myself, in order to better guide students to be a good person, will live a more happy life.

Perfectionism, zero mentality.

I was like this in high school before, but it doesn't mean that Kirinobu likes to listen to other people's teachings, even if he knows that it's right and beneficial to me, but he just doesn't like it, and I'd rather others say some nice slander. The main reason is that the pressure of my life at that time was really great, the college entrance examination was coming, and then I encountered some difficult things to solve in my life at that time, and I was very irritable and listened to some people's bad words, which was really uncomfortable. You said that you won't comfort me, even if you still say these things to me, although they are all right, but they are really true.

However, I was not the only one who had this situation at that time, almost everyone around me had this mentality, is this still a common problem of our post-95 generation? When I was a child, I listened to the teachings of teachers and parents a lot, and I was irritable, but now that I have grown up, I am still in adolescence, and I don't like to listen to the truth with the help of rebellious psychology, after all, most of the truth is hurtful, and I only like to listen to those nice words?

In addition, at our age, we really want to hear the affirmation of others, and we don't want our abilities to be denied or doubted by others. Especially for a very good and strong person like myself, I especially want to be perfect, at least try to show my perfect side in the tears of others, and I will always try to correct any shortcomings. But you've worked so hard to correct it, why do you want to hear someone else's denial?

If you blindly have good luck and strong posture, it will be bad, and it will be difficult to get along with others, and others will also think that you are strong and good at everything, too selfish.

On the other hand, you still suffer less, there is a saying that you will beat the first bird, and you will restrain your temperament when you quietly shout.

Hello classmates! The most important thing for you to solve this problem is to adjust your mindset. It is a good thing that children who are strong are enterprising and have a fighting spirit to learn and do things.

But at the same time, you must also understand that there is a heaven outside the sky, and there are people in the human being. And no one is perfect, you can't be better than everyone else. So can't you compete with others everywhere and take a step back to open the sky?

Of course, it is not that you are not enterprising, you should struggle, you should struggle, you still have to work hard, but at the same time, you should pay attention not to pay too much attention to the results, the process is the most important, even if you fail, don't be sad, victory or defeat is a common thing in soldiers, at least you have worked hard, right! Finally, I sincerely wish you can get out of the misunderstanding as soon as possible and enjoy a relaxed and happy childhood life!

It comes down to being afraid, being afraid of getting hurt. Fear is a normal human reaction, and how to deal with it is really debatable.

Falls hurt. Afraid of falling, you can't learn to walk, you can only climb.

It also hurts to wear out the skin, and we may not even dare to climb for fear that the ground will be uneven and wear out the palms.

In fact, we are facing the possibility of damage all the time, but some of the injuries are already minor for us because our tolerance has improved, and other more long-lasting injuries with sequelae (such as being burned by fire, burned by boiling water, etc.) we have also avoided with our experience and skills. Therefore, the pain is not terrible, the root of the pain is still our skills, lack of experience, what should be avoided is not avoided, what should be discovered is not discovered.

You have to learn all this, you have to go through it in order to improve your experience and skills.

The emotional world is the same. Maybe we should have found out that the other person wasn't really true to us, maybe we should have adjusted our way of coping earlier, maybe we still have a lot of weaknesses in our character.

Pain is to tell us that there are still areas that need to be improved, we can't back down because of the pain, we must learn from the pain, and one day you will be comfortable and find the most suitable person for you.

Life is full of pain, but I feel that it is painful and happy.

If you are really tired, just rest, think about things simply, there is nothing wrong with being strong, you have to see if you can get a return for what you give, or if it will be of great significance to do it.

Open your mind, if you think like this, it will cause a scar in your relationship. Don't be too strong, life is actually very simple, as long as you grasp it in place.

First of all, it is human nature to be strong, so there is no right or wrong! In schools and society, there is competition, as long as there is competition, there will be a strong existence! Perhaps, being strong is sometimes your motivation to move forward! Being strong is not a disadvantage!

I don't think it's wrong to be so strong, so I can be motivated! If you say that you are tired, there must be a process for people to live better! Go for it! Wishing you a happy and happy new year!

Children should have their own childhood.

Strong self-esteem is a good thing, it can push you to improve, urge you to work hard, and force you to improve yourself!

But strong self-esteem should not be reflected in the choice of work! It is very enviable to have a good job, but not everyone who has achieved success has a good job, as you said, a secondary school student next to him, although he is sweeping the road, but he is very able to endure hardships, and he must do a good job. Self-improvement and competitiveness should be reflected in your actual work, not in choosing a job!

There will be excellent personnel in any position, I hope you start from your current position, if you can do a good job, then what large-scale equipment commissioning, engineering work, large-scale foreign enterprises will not be a problem!

I really hope that you will combine your self-compliance with the spirit of love and love to do a line of work, and make your own career plan, and when the plan is carried out to a certain extent, some of your wishes will come true!

No, it's a death to save face. It's not self-esteem, it's not self-improvement, once something passes, it's out of line.

You admire your classmate who sweeps the road, but if you really want to change with him, are you willing? If you don't want to, it's your hypocrisy. You just yearn for him because he seems happier than you are.

But when you really think about this job, you must think about face, salary, etc.

One question should be understood, whether it is to pursue fame or be maverick. Pursuing fame is not a derogatory term, what are you doing here, you want to continue to live, so you have to make money, and more people want to look up to you, this is face. You say that you want to find what you like, which can be understood as pursuing a dream.

But I guess you're not pursuing, you're telling others how confident you are. You already know you're too competitive and strong, but you're still here to pour out your problems. So you don't need to solve the problem of how strong you are now, but find someone to let him listen to your bitterness.

Finally, is it scary to think that my mind is full of honor? You're certainly better than someone who doesn't have any honor in their heads. But it's not good to have a good eye and a low hand, because you sit in front of the computer and play a tantrum.

You define yourself as a strong, self-respecting person, but you don't necessarily have to be that extreme. So it's important to look through your own questions and see the emotions behind your words. No one knows himself, and others always know their side.

Well, having said so much, I can't give you a solution, but I think it's awkward to see what you said, and Enda's expression at night seems to be a little trance......

I don't think there's anything. It's everyone's personality trait, maybe it's a good thing..? What do you think?

In fact. It is a good thing to take advantage of yourself and have the mentality of not admitting defeat. However, my feelings about what you said above are:

Eyes are high and hands are low. I don't know if it's right or not, but I think that being young is an infinite possibility, so take out your refusal to admit defeat and engage in the work you want to do, and be free when you have really met, know, understand, and experience, you will know the grind. Perhaps, then you will know yourself and know what you should do in the future.

Also, isn't your brother amazing? Said that he wanted to live an ordinary life. It is precisely because he has tried and experienced it himself, that there are some things that are not so easy, not so simple, but he has experienced them.

So, I think you need to do what you want to do now, and you can only really know when you experience it.

I proposed to break up, hoping that he would keep me, but he didn't, didn't he care about me?

Don't be too pushy!