Is it really that hard to get married on the go?

It's not difficult. It is difficult to run a marriage and not learn English yet. It depends on what you think?

Also, when you can't change him or anyone else, change yourself. Find your favorite sports or hobbies, such as playing basketball, badminton, swimming, dancing, during this period, you can meet a lot of friends, make your life full of active atmosphere, no need to revolve around him all the time.

Love yourself a little more.

And most importantly, you don't think you're a victim, you're not, you're the one who dominates life. So, your marriage. It's about letting yourself live your life first.

There are three things in the world: one is someone else's business, one is yours, and the last one is God's business. If you're trying to find a way to make yourself happy, but life is still the same, it's up to God.

May your marriage be long and long.

Hey, look at you husband and wife!

Isn't marriage in the hands of the two of you?

Open each other's knots Open the skylight and say bright words.

Actually, it's not that hard!

It's women who usually ask such questions, right?

It's best to add questions, it's not clear what your situation is.

When it comes to marriage, I believe many people are very looking forward to having it, after all, marriage is happy, and it is very beautiful, if we can meet a person we like, and two people can do mutual care and care, so that we will find that two people who like each other can be better together.

When two people like each other, they care for and take care of each other better together, which will also allow them to have a happy and wonderful marriage. But I don't see that not all of them are happy and beautiful in their marriage, and there are also some people who find out that the other party is not suitable for them after they get married, or there are a lot of opinions and conflicts between the two people, which eventually leads to their separation. So some people just want to know if marriage is so hard?

Probably for a small number of people. We see that their marriage is not so happy and not so good, and even when they are in love, it is difficult to meet a suitable person for themselves, although sometimes they want to be with each other, but still break up with each other. There are even some girls who see that the boys are not in very good condition.

That's why they don't want to be with boys, and they always feel that it is very difficult to have a happy and beautiful marriage.

But in fact we see. This is actually because some girls are very realistic and will always put too high demands on boys, so they can't find a partner and can't get married. In fact, we also see that there are also some people who know that in marriage, the more important thing is the relationship between two people, so they know that they must be good.

Caring for each other, loving each other, and they have learned to understand and support each other when they are together, it is precisely because of this that they can get along better together, so it will also make their marriage happier.

So we see that there are indeed a small number of people who find marriage very difficult, because they can't find a suitable person for them, and it is difficult for them to have a happy and good marriage.

But we see that for most people, they actually know that if they want to have a happy and good marriage, then they must care for each other with their hearts, take care of each other, and learn to understand and support each other. In this way, two people can get along better together, which can ultimately make their married life happier and better.

As the old saying goes, it's not hard, and the same applies to marriage.

For those who can manage marriage, happiness is simple, and for those who can't manage marriage, happiness is of course difficult.

When you are tired from work all day, and you have to take care of the children and do housework when you get home, and your pig teammates only know how to play with their mobile phones leisurely, what will you say?

You're going to say, "I'm so tired, don't you know how to help me?" Are you blind? ”

Or will say: "Husband, you cook the best, can you cook today?" ”

What would you say?

I believe that most people say the first sentence, you originally wanted the other party to help you, but in the face of such accusations, I don't think anyone will be willing to help you, and the second sentence not only satisfies the vanity of the other party, but also allows the other party to help you willingly, why not?

You hope that the other party can see your hard work and take the initiative to help you, but the other party does not see your difficulty, this is that you have too high expectations for the other party, and the other party does not meet your expectations, you will be very disappointed, so sometimes it is not hurt by this person, but by your high expectations.

What we have to learn is to lower our expectations, not to focus on our partner, to transfer our expectations to ourselves in a timely manner, and to expect ourselves to get better and better.

When you feel like you're getting worse, it's time to stop and think about whether you're expecting too much from your partner.

There will be disappointment, the higher the expectation, the greater the disappointment, when you lower your expectations, you will get more happiness, what kind of response you want to get from the other party, what kind of attitude you want to give the other party, whether you can provide emotional value to the other party in marriage is very important, I think no one wants to live a life full of complaints and accusations.

If you learn to manage a marriage, it's not difficult. Therefore, the important thing is that you learn to communicate, learn to understand, and learn to tolerate, so that the marriage can go on well. Therefore, it is also recommended that you read some books that are good at interpersonal communication, and you may do well.

There are many reasons why modern people's marriage is becoming more and more difficult, the most important of which are two changes in personal consciousness. Modern people, both men and women, have a strong sense of self, and can basically be independent in personality and economy, so the husband and wife are not overly dependent on each other. Moreover, men and women are on equal footing, and no one is wronged for endless reasons.

The economy is developing rapidly, and people's material living standards are getting higher and higher, so after marriage, people are staying away from it.

At your age, our children are seventeen or eighteen years old. ”

Young people of marriageable age are inevitably urged to marry during the New Year or when chatting with their parents, and such an inadvertent comparison is also one of the common marriage urging techniques of parents.

However, judging from the author's recent research in ordinary rural areas in the central and western regions, no matter whether parents are anxious about their children's lifelong events, the marriage age of the younger generation is delayed, and the phenomenon of late marriage is more common.

The number of people who marry later is increasing.

According to the data of the four national censuses from 1982 to 2010, the age of first marriage for men and women was aged and aged respectively in 1982, decreased to age and age in 1990, and rose to age and age respectively in 2000, and then increased year by year. Relevant academic studies believe that the decrease in the age of first marriage from 1980 to 1990 was a process of change under the leadership of social system change, and the increase of the age of first marriage from 1990 to 2000 was the result of social and economic development.

01.Doing the right thing at the right time will mostly lead to the best results.

I think the end result of everything that is done for the sake of accomplishing the task is, in my opinion, very unrealistic.

Marriage should be cautious, after all, it is about the second half of life, there is a saying that men are afraid of entering the wrong business, women are afraid of marrying the wrong man, and I think that for marriage, men and women are the same, and they should be treated with a cautious and serious attitude.

Don't jump to conclusions, or be hot-headed, and after a whim, you do something, and it may be really too late to regret it.

02.Marriage must come naturally, and you don't need to help it grow.

What is "natural flow"? I think you should have your own set of understanding, just like cooking a meal, you have to follow the procedures one by one, instead of being aimless and disorganized, which will only make you messed up, and in the end you will definitely not get the results you want.

As the saying goes, "you can't eat hot tofu in a hurry", that's what you say, rather than you follow the blind Qingshu in a hurry, it is better to take advantage of this time to enrich yourself, and when your wings are full, it is not that you go to ask for someone anywhere, and at this time the primary and secondary positions will change.

1. Don't coax, don't apologize, ignore and then pretend that nothing happened, as long as I ignore you, you can turn the page, right? Are you sure I'll always forgive you without a bottom line?

2. Say the offense again and again. If you don't change it repeatedly, everyone is an adult, you can distinguish between right and wrong, if you are wrong, you did it on purpose, what to change? You don't have to change it.

3. If I don't feel sorry for me giving birth to children for you, why should I feel sorry for you that it's not easy to make money. In marriage, I am not afraid of hardship, but I am afraid of being angry and suffering at the same time, and being let down by you while paying.

Fourth, I am afraid that you will be annoyed to say too much, and I am afraid that you will not understand what I am saying, stuck in my throat, and I am in a dilemma, and I will start to disturb and end with my redundancy.

Fifth, I have never spent your money lavishly, nor have I asked you to buy me any valuables, I know that you are difficult, and there is no one behind me, so I think about you everywhere, but you make me feel that I am not as good as anyone around you.

Sixth, you forgot that I didn't dislike you for being poor, the days when I was by your side, forgetting that I didn't want anything and just wanted you to love me well, you only remembered my aggressive and insecure appearance.

7. I understand your hardships, understand your difficulties, and respect your reasons for treating me like this. It's okay, I'm not angry, I'm just disappointed. This road is all supported by themselves, so it is the same for everyone without it.

Fortunately, I am not hypocritical, a man who can't communicate will ruin a home, live with this kind of man, just like a dumb person who eats Coptis chinensis, he also thinks that you are the same as a patient, if you have something to do, you will find something to do, many couples divorce not because of a change of heart, nor because they don't love, but in the process of getting along, all expectations have become disappointment.

Marriage is mainly a test of the husband and wife's hard work and management, and in fact, it is not so difficult to maintain. The older generation of couples are traditional in their thinking and follow the rules. They may seem conservative, but they have a strong sense of morality and a strong sense of responsibility for their partners, children, and family.

Usually start and finish well, as long as there are no principled contradictions, they usually do not abandon each other for trivial and trivial matters. Of course, the current social atmosphere is relatively open, young people are no longer conformist, and everything comes according to their temperament. If you don't agree with each other, or if you have a new love, you will decisively choose to divorce and abandon the chaff.

Maybe this is a difference in concept, of course, as long as you have compassion and a strong sense of family responsibility, you know how to tolerate each other, run in, and sublimate your feelings.

To make the marriage have a long and tenacious vitality, both parties need to be careful + patient + careful management to maintain. When it comes to making it long-lasting, it seems to be quite profound, but once you understand the truth, it is actually very simple, and it can be summed up as: understanding, understanding and trust...

These three factors are indispensable, is the essence of all love secrets, all the secrets that can make love have long-term vitality are contained in it, whether it is love or marriage, as long as both parties have these three necessary conditions for each other, then it will definitely be a wish. There is another trick here: If you want to make it last, you need to keep it fresh often, that is, you need to find some fatal "killers" to deal with each other's impatience, long-term sensory numbness, aesthetic fatigue, etc., and can quickly deepen and thicken the earliest feelings in love at the fastest speed, and transform them into "compound" feelings that are like family affection and depend on each other.

Only love with this kind of affection is the strongest and most long-lasting, and it will become more and more durable and unbreakable with the passage of time. When one day, you suddenly find that you are so happy, after careful consideration, this is to realize that the original understanding, understanding and trust have long come to your side, they have been silently accompanying you, when you found out that they exist, this suddenly realized: it turns out, they are not only the patron saint of love, but also indicate the true meaning of life... Satisfied.