What do you learn from failed relationships?

People with different views are really not suitable for being together, even if they love each other very deeply, they are very tormented by each other after being together for a long time, they know that they love him very much, and they are reluctant to leave him, but the life of loving and killing each other is really not suitable for lovers at all.

When you love each other, you can't wait to be together every day, and when you quarrel, you can't wait to kill each other.

The three views are very important, the three views will have a lot of common topics, he will understand what I say, I will understand what he wants to do, and mutual understanding and tolerance will go the long way.

Don't put all your energy and time on one person, we all have a lot of things to do, family and friends are also very important, you can't quarrel with your family because you love him very much, you can't gradually lose contact with your best friend because of him.

Personal space is also very important, living together every day, the novelty disappears quickly, colleagues and friends are also important roles in our lives, they will bring us different happiness.

Don't quarrel over money, everyone has to be financially independent, many couples have all kinds of quarrels because of money, and finally break up because of money.

Feelings are a matter of two people, and we have to consider the problem from the other person's point of view.

In love, we get to know each other and learn more about ourselves. We begin to care for and comfort others, not always to be self-centered, and to listen to each other's opinions. I also began to understand that some feelings are not something that you will be satisfied with if you work hard, and you need to know what the other person wants when you give something to the other person.

When the relationship fails, we begin to re-examine the relationship, there is reluctance and nostalgia, there are regrets and tears, but more let us understand the importance of cherishing. I liked you seriously, you must not have any doubts, even if you are separated now, do not question the fiery love at the beginning.

We grew up in a failed relationship, and we knew what kind of life we wanted and what kind of people we wanted to live with. All these failed relationships make us understand the life we really want and expect, and let us know how to manage a relationship

Girls can't do too much in love, they can't feel that they are the boss, men should revolve around themselves, this kind of thinking is very wrong, the end of the last relationship, I understand this truth, sometimes the relationship can not stand the division and combination, easy to break. <>

My ex-boyfriend and I have gone through countless times of separation and reunion, and I don't feel anything abnormal, but after a long time, I found that he became more and more speechless about my words, and sometimes even walked away directly, I knew that he was starting to get annoyed, he was not in love, just perfunctory.

Sometimes I would rather this perfunctory work can go on forever, but as long as I keep doing it, it is impossible for him to turn back, and he doesn't have a lot of confidence in our relationship, because of the frequent separation and too many male girlfriends around me, even if I know what's going on, but he doesn't know.

I regret it now, I'm not an emotionally intelligent person, I can't tell him how much I loved you before, and I still do, I can only say sorry for the past.

I understand that if a man doesn't love you, he really won't come back to you, and he will be extremely cruel to you.

I understand that feelings really can't be forced.

I also learned that I have to strive to become a better version of myself. Be strict with yourself and be more lenient with others.

If you want to love someone, don't contact someone again if it doesn't get better.

What you want to give is a person who amazes himself and can also amaze him when you meet.

Love is not a blind compromise and forbearance, it is not a unilateral price, love is a matter of two people, and both parties have to pay the price.

If you understand that a person really doesn't love you, you will be so ruthless that you will delete all the traces of the relevant things.

But it just won't delete you.

Because for him.

I'm dispensable.

In the face of no absolute freedom, choosing to earn money is always much happier than choosing love.

Women should be self-reliant, self-reliant, don't compromise, grievances with a person with three wrong views, very tired, work hard to make money, and provide for their own pension.

You must not love someone too much.

Fate is predestined! Not your own, no matter how hard you try, it's not your ......

Poor, the poor are afraid of leaking even one more day.

The woman wants the man to see the other half. The man who says it is underwhelmed.

Hahaha, don't fall in love with a scumbag.

Don't always harm yourself and threaten the other party, don't deliberately get angry with him, don't always quarrel and get angry inexplicably.

Why did you climb to the sky in one step? We started to be popular from street photography. In short, you're not someone I like, I just want to make your money.

Don't love someone too much, and don't be too nice to someone.

The reason why I know that the other party is still deceived is because I hope that the other party can change for me, thinking that love can make him change. But a lot of times, it's just a luxury.

Whether he loves you or not, in fact, you know it very well in your heart. In fact, you know very well in your own heart that you don't need to do some superfluous things to prove it. When he doesn't love you, it's not that you don't know, it's just that sometimes you choose to lie to yourself that he loves you very much.

For a breakup, it's better to be a little more free. It's enough to be sad about breaking up once, don't keep holding on to the memories and be reluctant, the only one who may be reluctant is you, and the other party is living a very chic life. There's no need to spend more time in your memories than your relationship.

It's important to fall in love with someone who has the same three views. If two people can't even agree on the three views, they can't talk together, they quarrel every minute after talking about two sentences, and no one is convinced by anyone in their bones. Over time, it feels like it will be more and more noisy, and no one is really at fault, but it causes both people to be miserable.

The people you spend a lot with will influence you, let alone the people you have an intimate relationship with. Falling in love with someone who is self-motivated can drive you forward. Falling in love with someone who is full of negative energy will only make you more and more sad.

If you are excellent, it is easier to meet excellent people. The same people are more likely to attract each other, when you want your other half to reach a certain height, please make yourself excellent first, and you can naturally meet the degree. While you're dwelling on your last failed relationship, remember that better people are waiting for you.

If you don't come out for a long time, you'll never meet a better person. When you meet him, you will find that you deserve someone better to love you.

When you think of love, everyone thinks it should be sweet, but most people have to go through failed romances and finally find the right person.

Here are a few lessons I've learned from failed relationships and share them with you:

1.Always stick to your bottom line.

Each of us has our own bottom line, which you must stick to, if you give up your bottom line, then you will regress again and again, and it will make you not like yourself, and even become more humble. The last failed relationship made me understand the importance of sticking to the bottom line, of course, every time I think back after that, I feel that it's good that I persevered, otherwise I might regret it, I thought countless times, I shouldn't have retreated and regressed at that time, because in the end it was only me who was uncomfortable, but fortunately I lost it in time, and I didn't lower my requirements because of others.

2.Learn to communicate.

Falling in love means that you are not alone, in addition to sharing your life with each other, it is more important that you have to communicate, what must be said, don't let the other party guess your mind, are not roundworms in the other party's stomach, how can you guess what the other party wants every time, so communication is very necessary, appropriate communication can enhance your feelings, and can solve the problem well, if the other party has something you can't bear, you must communicate in time, Don't feel that talking to the other person will cause the other person to be offended. Otherwise, the more problems accumulate, the more they will be, and when they finally break out, they don't know that they have so much dissatisfaction with each other.

3.Stick to being yourself.

Love is to achieve each other, not to drag each other down, whether you are in love or not, you must insist on being yourself, I see a lot of girls in love, for the object to give up a lot of their own interests and hobbies, don't feel that you sacrifice for love, you are stupid, falling in love is mutual achievement, you are getting better in the process of getting along, there is a point to attract each other to make the relationship longer, not to give up yourself for the other party, then your characteristics are gone, your sacrifice can not be exchanged for the other party's more like.

4.Don't try to save others.

When we are young, we always feel that we can change each other, and feel that we must be the most important person in each other's hearts, but we don't know that your position in his heart can be changed, and the values and character conditions that everyone has established in the process of growing up can not be changed overnight. It's really hard to change the personality, I used to think that I could help my former partner get rid of some habits, but I found that it was just thinking about it, and it was really difficult to change the concept of incompatibility, and finally I gave up, and it was not good to make myself happy.

Here are some lessons learned:

1. As the saying goes, a good horse doesn't eat back grass! With the same person, don't break up or get back together more than twice. Shoes that don't fit, thrown a few times and finally picked up, can only prove that you are in a difficult situation.

2. In the life of two people, no matter how strong the quarrel is, don't put words like "breakup and divorce" on your lips, and no matter how deep your feelings are, they can't withstand repeated tearing. A broken mirror can be put back together, but the cracks will be there.

3. Don't use uncivilized words in life, to blame each other's parents for how to be, what not to show the children, what parents-in-law cook badly, what to take care of the children in the wrong way, such similar examples are common in life, remember, no matter what, parents are each other's parents, and parents who respect each other also respect themselves. It is not natural for the elderly to help you take care of the children, after all, people are getting older, and your body will not be like you in your thirty or forty years of vitality.

4. What you think is not what you think, but most people don't understand, especially women, men tend to be rational and usually like to speak directly, while women often like to be suspicious. A lot of the arguments are because I thought you'd understand. As the days go by, there is a lot less patience and communication with each other.

Self-righteousness and non-communication have become emotional killers.

5. When you are getting more and more stingy and feel that you are paying too much, it may be the embryonic period of breaking up. Feelings cannot be completely equal, I once said that home is not a place of reason, but of love. It's starting to hate it.

6. After a breakup or divorce, I still don't forget it. When love turns to hate, they may choose to give up on themselves or even take revenge. You torture yourself, but others don't understand what you're going through, and the more you do, the more people around you look down on you.

Of course, you don't have to slander each other after a breakup or divorce, but you just made a mistake and chose the wrong person to fall in love or get married.

Failure is the mother of success, put in love.

The road is no exception, those years of missed love.

Love has given many experiences in life:

1.Long-distance relationships.

It's hard. Two people who are in love, no matter what.

There is no emotional foundation, and once it is in a different place, it will change.

It's going to be extra hard. In the era of developed Internet, it is easy to fall in love if you can't meet often.

There is no topic to talk about, and over time, it is more like a netizen.

Online chat, so if you want to make the feelings deeper, yes.

Not good to carry out.

2.Don't pour it all in.

For a love, because each person lives more.

Everyone has their own pursuits. From.

From self-realization to personal enjoyment, it's all life.

Part. Big city people pursue personal goals.

People in small towns tend to value material things, and love is not.

The form is diluted. Once in the process of love just.

When you are simply good for the other person or even lose yourself.

Wait, no one will think that you are a loyal person.

Actually, I think this person is stupid. So it's too leaning.

Note: Feelings are often the end of failure.

3.If you get frequent cold responses, don't be too persistent. Today, with modern social networks so developed, there are very few people who are too shy, and likewise, people who are busy all day and don't have time to connect with each other.

Not absolutely, but for the most part. If a person is trying his best to find a reason to be busy or unwilling to respond, it is probably unwilling, so when encountering a cold response, do not blindly send more messages, consider the other party's attitude, if it is too disturbing, the unbalanced relationship will not last long.

4.Work hard to improve yourself. Regardless of boys and girls, in the rich and complex social network, striving to improve themselves is the key, first provide yourself with a good development opportunity, improve your material level, and then you will have more choices.

Most of the time, the so-called likes are based on the material, and without the corresponding material foundation, it is too difficult to succeed.

Failure can provide us with more experience, although it may not be so absolute, but we are in society, we still have to think with the thinking of society as our own thinking, otherwise, it is simply ignorance divorced from reality. Although the road to love is bumpy, we still hope to harvest pure love.