What words seem to fool you, but are actually the truth?

There are a lot of words, and when we first heard it, we thought: It's really nonsense, who would believe it! But when you have experienced the sophistication of human affairs, suffered some hardships, and lost some people and things, you will find that some of the words you have seen and heard are the right ones.

There is a poem "The taste of the world is pure joy", when I read this poem at the beginning of the year, I felt that it was just a feeling of literati and artists, and it can also be said to be a kind of self-comfort after they were degraded. Who doesn't like brocade clothes, who doesn't like jade plate delicacies, I think that literati can really pretend to be forced. But later, the family fell in the middle of the road, the ups and downs of life, and the people around me stopped and walked, only to find that the ancients did not deceive me, and this kind of bland happiness is really long-term and worth recalling forever.

That's what I learned from what I read in the book.

And in my life, my mother often told me not to eat while walking, so that it would be easy to have an upset stomach after eating, and I had never heard of it now as long as I was a little hungry or had a cold stomach problem. When the head teacher held a mobilization meeting in the third year of high school, he said that success is sometimes longer than who persists, and at that time I didn't believe it, and I felt that intelligence and talent were still very important, and finally found that the good test was not those who usually looked smart, but some who studied silently to the end.

So, when you hear any advice, don't be in a hurry to dismiss it, maybe when you hear it, you will take it as the truth, and you will gain more material and knowledge, and your life will be more clear.

Advice is against the ear, sometimes the small emotions of rebellion affect your chances of receiving advice, and it is not until you really experience it that you feel that it is the truth.

When I was a child, the teacher said that you must study hard and listen carefully in class. I think it's really salty and eat radishes, and I don't care about it. When it was time for the exam, I found out that the teacher had taken all the lessons in class, and the score was low and I was dumbfounded.

When I was in high school, my teacher said that at this age, I must memorize more books and read more books. After the age of twenty, there is no comparison between memory and high school.

So, I didn't listen, I thought that I lived to learn all the time, went to college, and every time I memorized the final exam, it was very painful, and it was really very slow. I really can't remember, it's just that I'm too young. <>

When I went to college, the teacher said that I must find a partner in the university, and if I think it is good, I will start. So much so that I didn't find a partner for four years in college, and now I see many couples walking together in groups of sweet, and I can't help but feel very jealous, and I even told my roommate that I wanted to hit them with a stick.

Just kidding, that is, it's a pity that girls don't fall in love in college.

And the elders always told me that I had to be careful when I went out, especially with money. I didn't care, so much so that I lost my money twice, feeling very uncomfortable and guilty. That's my parents' hard-earned money, and I shouldn't have been so careless.

Some people say that you don't have to be nice to everyone, you have to know how to say no. I don't think it's right, I just think it's best to interact with sincerity. So much so that I make friends with sincerity, and unconditionally ask for the same as others. If a person has no bottom line, there will be problems.

Therefore, we must balance the interests of both parties and learn to know how to refuse.

In the workplace, the leader always stands in a high-IQ position, and in order to make the employee able to do a good job for him, he can come up with various means of motivation. They are more just to be able to stabilize the hearts of employees, they will not care about what he will think about you after he cheats you, he will only think about how to cheat you next time. Those are ostensibly praising you, but in fact, there are so many kinds of things that you work for him for the sake of routines.

Sentence 1, you do this project, only you can complete it. Sentence 2. If you work hard for a while, I will try my best to help you increase your salary after this time.

Sentence 3. I don't force you to work overtime, I just want you to do your job as soon as possible.

In the first sentence, this project is only something you can do. Not really. There is certainly no shortage of talent in a company.

There are a lot of graduate graduates. There is no task that only one can doSo what he means by saying this is that I see that others are busier and you are more idle, so you can do it. You also have to be serious, if you don't do it well, he will be disappointed, you have to do it, and she won't reward it.

The second sentence is the sentence that I will try my best to help you increase your salary, try your best to do these two words, that is to say, impossible。This is a common routine used by the boss of the company, and they often motivate you to work in this way, but none of them are implemented. Wages won't be raised for you.

Of course, your efforts are only words of encouragement.

The last sentence is also the same old routine. He says that he doesn't force overtime, but in reality it means that you can only complete these tasks if you work overtime. If you don't work overtime, your boss will criticize you for not taking your tasks seriously.

For new employees who have just joined the company, the boss usually says that you have great potential, as long as you do it well, I will give you a better platform and a chance to rise. At this time, the eyes of the new employees are bright, and all the hard work and complaints are forgotten.

In the workplace, many new employees are too young to know the routine of leadership, so it is easy to be deceived by the leader, when the superior leader always says something similar to you, in fact, everyone should understand in their hearts that the reason why the leader does this is because the company does not want to raise the salary of the employee, they will use their own power to promote the employee, or give the employee a fictitious position that is not in the company at all, and wait for the employee to believe that it is true, then, The company is stabilizing the morale of the military by recruiting new employees!

In addition, there are many employees in the workplace who are highly educated and capable, but the company has not given such employees a salary increase, but talks about salary increasesLeaders will say to employees that you are an indispensable talent in the companyI have to say that this will make the employees feel very relieved in their hearts, but the company will not be able to implement it, which will make the employees a little disappointed.

The company can't live without youIn the workplace, many employees are not deeply involved in the world, and always feel that they have worked in the company for several years and have very rich work experience, so they will see that other employees have higher wages than themselves, and they are very dissatisfied, but when they talk about wages with leaders, the company's boss will forcibly retain them to employees, and do not want employees to leave, because if the old employees resign, then it will have a very big impact on the company, and many new employees are also looking at whether the old employees leave.

The boss will use all kinds of words to retain the old employees, but will not give the employees a salary increase, on the contrary, through the end of the year-end bonus to employees, so that employees continue to stay in the company, for the company, but after the end of the year, they find that they are tricked by the boss.

Do a good job, come to me if you have any questions.

When a leader assigns you a new task, the phrase usually says: "Do a good job, come to me if you have a problem".

Don't take seriously what he said from the bottom of his heart, you'd be very wrong.

When the leader recruits you, he asks you to solve the problem, not to create a problem or leave it for him to solve.

Then he won't need you.

Therefore, the leader just wants to be polite to you, and he has a good image of being willing to help his subordinates.

It's not really telling you to come to him if you have a problem, and he will help you solve it.

2.It's hard, after surviving this time, I will try my best to help you apply for a salary When the company's business continues to develop and the workload continues to increase, but the company doesn't want to recruit one more person, the most common routine used by leaders is to stabilize people's hearts, that is, to appease your emotions, let you survive this time, and promise to give you a salary increase later.

In fact, after months of work, the salary increase has not been realized.

It turns out that the salary increase is just that the leader sees that you are honest, so he talks casually, which seems to recognize you, but in fact it is just fooling you.

3.It's something you can only do well.

When the leader wants to give you some special work that others are more resistant to, the most common routine is to give you a high hat and praise you, which seems to recognize you, but in fact thinks that you are more honest and will not shirk.

So, at this time, you must not take it seriously, think that you are really important, amazing, better than other colleagues.

Therefore, it doesn't matter what the leader says, the important thing is to see what he does, if he really thinks that you are hard, thinks you are important, and thinks that you are better than others, then give you a direct salary increase, instead of playing tricks and polite words for you here.

Therefore, as soon as the leader says these words, you must not take them seriously, otherwise, you will only let yourself fall into the abyss of disappointment.

In a company, a leader can be a leaderIn addition to his excellence, there is also an indispensable condition, that is, to be able to speak, especially polite words. In the eyes of honest people, this is regarded as praise and recognition, thinking that this leader is really good to him. But I don't know that the leader thinks you're just fooling.

So, be mindful of your relationship with your leaders.

In the workplace, there will be many employees who are particularly highly educated and capable, but the company has not given such employees a salary increase. On the contrary, when it comes to salary, the leader will say to the employee that you are an indispensable talent in the company, and I have to say that this will make the employee feel particularly gratified. But the company can't implement it, and it will be very frustrating for employees.

If you hear the leader say such things to you in the company, then you should directly raise the matter of raising wages and see how the boss answers. If the leader still keeps procrastinating, then you choose to find another higher is the choice you have to make.

If the leader says to you, "You are the key training object of the unit",I believe that anyone who hears this will be happy and excited, not to mention that this is from the mouth of their own leader, it is even more convincing. So you are excited inside, you work the surface, you think that you have worked so hard, and it is time to get promoted and reused by the company. But in fact, after you have worked hard in the company for many years, even a newcomer has a higher salary than you, and when the position is high, you will understand that what the original leader said "you are the key training object of the unit" is completely a routine.

There are many employees in the company, and they feel that they are not doing a particularly good jobI always feel that I have worked in the company for several years and have a lot of experience. Therefore, you will be very dissatisfied with the higher salary of other employees than yourself, but when you negotiate the salary with the leader, the boss will always emphasize these to the employees to retain them. I want employees to leave because if an old employee leaves, it has a very big impact on the company.

When the leader praises you, it means that you have received his attention, not attention, and if you pay attention to it, you will be given a raise, important work will be entrusted to you, and you will be supported by reasonable opinions and given you certain authority.

The leader said that you are still young and have a strong ability to accept new things, and you should learn more things while you are young. People have to bow their heads under the eaves, and the leader routines you, that is also someone to save face for you.

The benefits that should be given are not given, and occasionally small favors come to gag your mouth.

That is, when you say that some tasks are difficult, the leader will say I believe in you and you can complete it.

I think it's okay to draw a flatbread, and I can accept it. The routine I have received is that the leader asks you for benefits in the name of cultivating you, but I am too stupid to understand, but now I understand it very clearly, but unfortunately because of this leader, I have been delayed for several years.

Leaders often say that you have been doing well lately, do a good job. The leader said that you are doing a better job in this matter, you can deal with these orders, the leader said, Xiao Wang help me bring a fast food, I am too busy to have time, trouble, etc., too much.

Then you still need to look at it, you will know it when you think about it, if you float when you praise you, it is your best way, so as not to respond to all changes, just do your own work.

Leadership, that's what is often said. I commended the work and praised it. If you want to be more productive, let's use that metaphor.

Do leaders ask you if you have any advice for the company? You must not say bad.

When you are young, you need to exercise more and hone yourself, which is the routine of the leader who refuses your promotion and salary increase.

Let's see if you can do your job first, and then give you a raise! As a result, the work has increased several times, and the salary has not increased at all until you leave the company.

Xiao Wang, have you been in our company for a while, are you still used to eating and sleeping? What do you think our company has and what are the bad things that need to be improved, it's okay, let's just talk about it, if you have any suggestions, you might as well talk about it, (don't really say it).

This thing doesn't mean that you can hear it as soon as you hear it, it takes a long time to stay with the leader, you know what the leader does, you know which one of his words is true, and which one is false? It's good for a long time, but do you recognize it as a compliment to you? Or are you in a routine?