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Be responsible for a child and be responsible.

The world is beautiful, and it won't come in the next life.

Because rich people are not afraid of getting old, because they are rich, and those who are not rich are afraid that they can't move when they are old, so they hurry up and have children, which is also the idea that the rich get richer and the poor get poorer

While wanting to take care of the second child, I didn't want to snub the boss, and in the end, I was treated like a nerve by the person next to the pillow. The feeling that you deserve to be tired. This is the majority of second-child mothers. A man's mouth is a deceitful ghost. It is not the same before, during, and postpartum.

The richer you are, the more you care about the quality of life, and the poor raise a few people the same, and they don't care about the quality of life in the first place, so they don't care about the quality of life.

For example, if you can only afford to buy an apple, the eldest child used to eat one, but now the eldest child and the second child have half a child or a child who has no food, but when the elderly are old, it is two children and five hundred per person, and the parents can receive a thousand concepts. Good economic conditions do not affect the quality of life of children, and those with poor conditions should think twice for the sake of children.

Some people are sober and some people are confused.

Hehe, a lot of people want a boy,

Rich people may be more tired, but they just look glamorous on the surface. Ordinary people have ordinary people's ways.

Indeed, those who want to have a second child think that one child is too lonely, and in such a realistic society, having two children with two treasures is so companionable.

The question of whether to have a second child is a private issue that depends mainly on the family's own wishes. At present, the national policy is liberalized, and the people are encouraged to have a second child. This is good news for families looking to have another baby; For families who originally planned to have only one child, there was not much impact.

Some time ago, there was an interesting joke in the circle of friends - a mother who was not young made such a feeling: When I was young, I wanted to give birth but couldn't give birth, and now when I can't live anymore, I am encouraged to have more children, which is embarrassing. Friends have left messages under the news, and the jokers and commentators have moved when they hear the wind, so it's not lively.

The reason why I paid attention to this mother's emotion was also because there happened to be such a situation around her. Stuck at such a node, I have to say that it is a special phenomenon.

To be born or not to be born, I personally believe that it mainly depends on the family's own decision, and others do not need to point fingers. It is also normal for those who can be born not to prepare if there is no regeneration plan. Whether you are tired or not is not the main factor in deciding whether to add more children.

Around me, where we live, having a child at the age of forty has become a hot topic of conversation, and the information in the group that keeps swiping the screen witnesses this excitement. I have also talked to such two groups of people about children, and the reasons are different, and it is best to be satisfied. When the conversation ended, I also sent my sincere wishes.

When one child is tired, two children are also tired, this is the original saying of most people. We can't one-sidedly speculate on the meaning of the person's sentence, let alone comment on the relationship between right and wrong in this sentence, this is his right. Personally, I believe that the birth of a child is just the beginning, and a series of things such as child's rearing and education must keep up in time, and the increase in quantity cannot guarantee the superiority of quality.

The road to cultivation is a long way to go.

I wish all the children of the world a healthy growth!

Qualified people are still very different from economically poor people in terms of money, vision, and thinking.

People who are financially capable will think more about the quality of their children's upbringing. In other words, they will spend more limited time, energy, and money on their children, so that they can receive the best education within their ability and provide the best material conditions within their ability. In addition to having good educational conditions and worry-free material conditions, it is also necessary to consider all aspects such as children's medical care and the future pension of the couple.

In this way, even if you only have one child, the cost is very high.

Therefore, people with conditions do not want to have a second child, and they dare not have a second child. Giving birth means a decline in the existing quality of life.

Not everyone has the same thoughts, though. Some people think that a second or even a third child is more blessed than others. When the children are young, they can have playmates to play with, and when the couple is old, they can have more children to take care of.

Even if there are two or three children, if the parents are particularly partial to one of the children, it will inevitably cause psychological imbalance in the other children. Children who lack parental care and love and nourishment are difficult to pay for when their parents are old and need to be cared for.

There is no inevitable connection and result in raising children to prevent old age and have more children. No matter how many children are born, children need the love of their parents. As long as you give enough love to your child, even if you only have one child, the whole family will be very happy.

On the contrary, if you don't give enough love to your children, even if your husband and wife are tired of becoming dogs when they are young, they may not get the results they wanted when they are old.

If you like it, remember to like it.

I feel that it has a lot to do with everyone's three views. My friends are polarized about the second child.

One is that no matter whether the conditions are good or bad, they want the second child. I believe that children are the most effective investment, work hard now, and when the children grow up in the future, they can take on some family responsibilities and share worries for the family. And the older people get, the more they live children.

One child is also raised, two children are also raised, and it is only a matter of a few years of hard work, and the mentality is relatively optimistic.

There is also a category of resolutely not to be the second child, regardless of the advantages and disadvantages of the conditions. If the family burden is heavy, naturally they don't dare to have the second child, the life is a drop in the bucket, but the quality of life of the second child has plummeted, and life will be a lifetime, so why bother living like this. If the conditions are good, it is possible to have their own pursuits, and it is good to have experience in life - one child is enough, and there is no need to spend too much time thinking about the second child.

And working hard in your career can also bring you a prosperous life, without investing in anyone or anything. Making any choice is related to everyone's life experience, and the seemingly simple "yes and no" actually involves too many choices and judgments behind it. <>

I used to be a strong supporter of a second child. Later, when I saw a friend who had given birth to a second child, he couldn't even eat in the ward, and lived an extremely hard life, and I realized that any suggestions from others were just suggestions, and could not replace the person concerned to bear the burden of life. From then on, I will not persuade others to have the second child, and bear the consequences of my own choices, be willing, and have no regrets.

Life is not a deck of cards, you can start over if you make a mistake, and any choice, especially having children, has to bear great responsibility and must be cautious. But everything related to parenting needs to be done with all our might, and this is the responsibility that our parents should do.

This situation is quite normal, it is a different choice made by everyone within their own cognitive range, and everyone's views and attitudes towards problems are also different, so this situation will occur.

Although some people have good conditions, but the requirements for the quality of life are much higher than the average person, they are not willing to live a lifetime, and they are not willing to reduce the standard of living after giving birth to a child, so many qualified people do not have a second child, but want to do their best to give their children or families a better quality of life, especially in terms of children's education, but also want to do their best to improve more, which also makes them hesitate to have a second child. <>

And some people although the economic conditions are not very good, but will still insist on a second child, this type of people usually think more about the hope that the child will be able to have a companion to take care of each other in the future, and the child will not be too lonely in the process of growing up, although the economic pressure on the shoulders will be greater, but think about gritting your teeth and persevering for a while, in fact, it will be over, and you should simply give birth.

No matter which of the above situations, I think that as long as everyone chooses according to their own ideas, there is no right or wrong, as long as they can live the life they should live well, as long as they do not regret their current decision in the future, it is a good choice for themselves.

To love someone is to love with all your heart. With two children, it is difficult to have a bowl of water even. Don't trouble yourself, it's enough to love, one is enough.

If you let these people say it themselves, the answer should be because of "love", but if I want to say it, I think the answer should be "stupid". Some people are of very low class, so they have not seen the wider world and cannot see the pressures and crises they face.

In their eyes, they don't see any difference between those children who grow up eating bud rice batter and those who grow up eating imported pollution-free food. I don't see any difference between a child who receives nine-year compulsory education and a private tutor who learns to play the piano and surf.

Therefore, for them, the cost of parenting is very low, and even so low that it is no different from raising a cat or dog, as long as they like it, they will give birth. Those who have the conditions are more likely to be "unqualified", for example, some women may lose their jobs with millions of dollars a year because of pregnancy.

But for those who are tired, it's a big deal to quit their jobs and go home to see their babies, and they don't have to think about whether they will be disliked by their husbands if they don't make money, and whether they will be financially constrained. Anyway, what you can't afford when you're not at work, you still can't afford it when you go to work.

Because now there is a phenomenon more and more formed in China - there are fewer and fewer high-quality and high-educated people. Especially many people's conditions are very good, but he is reluctant to have a second child, because he thinks that one child is enough. If you give birth to more, your attention will be distracted, so you may not be able to cultivate any of them well.

So your focus is only on one child. And many people think that children are just the continuation of their own lives and the crystallization of their love. It's okay to have a child fulfill your wishes. <>

But many people from poor families don't think so, because they can't be sure that only one child will be successful. So he wants to have a few more, so that the probability of success is higher. And now many people still have the idea of preferring sons over daughters, so many people want to have a son by taking advantage of the two-child policy.

When I was very young, every time I thought of the word freedom, I always felt that doing whatever I wanted was freedom, and then as I grew older and experienced more and more, I slowly realized that doing whatever I wanted was only one aspect of freedom, and that there was another side to freedom, that is, you could choose not to do what you didn't want to do, and the latter was significantly more difficult. I think the same is true when it comes to childbearing. Fertility is a natural human right, everyone has the freedom to give birth, and in my opinion, the so-called freedom of childbirth means that everyone can choose to have or not to have children according to their own wishes, and they can also choose to have one or two, and all these standards are their own wishes, not the evaluation of outsiders.

I believe that at the moment, not to mention that many people can obtain this freedom, many people are not aware that they or others have the right to this freedom.

For example, if many young people get married and have no family plans, they will be interfered with by various people around them in the name of "care", and after I gave birth to a child in those years, my son fell ill, and many people reminded me from time to time to have a second child. In their opinion, my son is not in good health, and I should have a second child, not to mention my in-laws, even my colleagues in the unit and the aunt who guards the door downstairs will say that you should hurry up and have another one when they see me!

On the surface, they are completely thinking about me, but they don't realize that I know my situation better than others than they do, and I only think more about the pros and cons than they do, and they think it's for my good, but it's just adding to my troubles.

So, whether to have a second child or not, it is a completely private matter, if you give birth to yourself, then analyze the pros and cons, want to give birth, and if you have the conditions to give birth, then give birth happily! If it's someone else's business, don't point fingers as an outsider, it's someone else's business, whether someone else should be born or not, and what the conditions are, people have their own personal experience. To be a civilized modern person, first of all, figure out not to interfere with the freedom of others.

The first is the economic pressure, more and more people go to the developed areas, more people are more resources, housing prices, prices will naturally rise. In order to stay in the big city, young people have to work hard to earn money and take on mortgages and car loans. At the same time, the cost of having a child is getting higher and higher, and in the past, giving birth to a child was to let the child "grow savagely", but now from pregnancy to childbirth, from breastfeeding to nursing, from early education to school, ......It takes a lot of money and effort to take care of children.

Secondly, now people's education level is getting higher and higher, after finishing college is already 22 years old, and then a few more times to fall in love and toss, to get married when they are all old, if you go further, study a master's degree, a doctorate or something, at least until around the age of 30 can get married, get married late, have children will naturally be late. With the increasing pressure of competition in society, everyone wants to get better resources, live a better life, and are fighting for study and work, and the fertility rate is naturally low. Considering the comprehensive cost of having a child, many people would rather have only one or Dink.

The third reason: why is it a woman's business to have children? This is caused by traditional concepts, many women in the new era feel very unfair, very aggrieved, and want to have their own life and space, if the husband doesn't care, the parents don't care about the collapse of the wheel, all throw it to themselves, then they would rather not have children.

In fact, there are many reasons, this is a complex social problem, after discovering the problem, ** immediately adjusted the direction of fertility. From 2011 began the "double single second child" policy, to 2016 to fully liberalize the second child, on May 31 this year and fully released the third child, the policy has been liberalized, the relevant supporting measures are also following up, the introduction of the most stringent housing price control policy, the introduction of the "double reduction" and so on, it seems that the country is very determined to estimate the birth.