What did your parents do when you were a child that you still hold a grudge against?

When I first saw this topic, I thought to myself, what is it that can make people hold grudges for so long. Looking back on myself, my parents really did something that I hated for a long time: <>

1. When I was a child, every night at my doorstep, there would be a group of my dad's friends chatting. At that time, my house was being built opposite the house, and the frame had just been built, and the bricks around it were not laid out, except for a lamp. For me, who was in elementary school, I felt a little scary when I went to the construction site at night.

And that time, my dad told me seriously in front of everyone, saying that I didn't dare to go to the construction site for a night, help watch the construction site, and if I dare, he would give me xx money. At this point, I just sat there and didn't refute. I also know that I am afraid of the dark, and I think that I don't need to expose my son's weakness in front of others.

2. When I was a child, I especially liked to engage in some "small inventions", dismantling some waste electronic parts, and building two toy cars with a few hoses. That day, I had just disassembled the motor of a tape drive. Thinking about it, I suddenly had an idea to make a small electric fan.

Then, find a Jianlibao iron can, cut the can into the shape of a wind page, cut it empty in the middle, and then put it into the motor rotation shaft. Finally, I found the battery that my mother had just bought, and as soon as it was powered on, a cool breeze blew. But I was quite proud, and fell asleep with the cool breeze.

By the time I woke up, I felt pain all over my body. It turned out that my mother, who was angry because I had used up the battery she had just bought, hit me with a small stick. After a lot of these things, I had a very low self-esteem life, where I always felt like I couldn't do anything.

Although I have a strong desire to change, I am powerless. It all made me hate those things at the time, and if I had been given more encouragement and understanding, I might have been more confident and wouldn't have to suffer like that.

Now I'm not what I was then, I'm more confident and capable of doing what I want to do. But when I think back to those things, I don't hate anymore, I just want to find the reason. At that time, many parents in our hometown were bent on earning money to support their families, and they didn't care about their children's feelings.

There are two sides to everything, and I have learned from this experience and encouraged my child more in the future to understand him more.

My mom scolded me for sweeping the streets when I grew up, saying she was going to kill me, my dad hit me with a bench, hehehe, go more, my dad is very good to me now, my mom is the same, don't talk about it, there is still a year to become an adult, go out to work and live in a rented house, never to see me again!!

I hated, and I didn't hate it when I grew up, because I didn't love it. I don't take it to read when I'm sick, and I don't let me read it. Too much hurt to talk about.

I quarreled with my mother, she never looked for me, I took the initiative to hit her **, as soon as I went home, I had a black face, and my brother hit ** every day, I went home two days ago, there was no smile, I cooked food for her, and when I got home, I was busy before and after, and I didn't want to go back.

My dad likes boys, I'm a girl, and since I was a child, I've always said that if you were a boy, I'm twenty years old. I heard my mother say that when I was a child, she saw that I was a girl and wanted to give me away, but she didn't give it away because they already had a son. Now that I want to take the driver's license test during the holidays, I won't let me take the test for anything, and I said that if I were a splash boy, I would have let me take the test a long time ago, and I usually talk about how to repay him after I get married.

When I filled in the application after the college entrance examination in 2018, I didn't want to continue my education, saying that I couldn't compare with my brother, who had graduated from college at that time.

When I was a child, my parents divorced, and at first I moved out with my father, but then my stepmother got married and gave birth to my brother. Stepmom and her mother were mean to me together. In desperation, I quietly moved to my mother's side while there was no one at home.

My mother thought I was a burden, and kept forcing me to ask my dad for my tuition and living expenses, but not only could I not get it, but I was scolded by both sides. I don't know what I'm doing wrong.

The child was found guilty of lying, and he was annoyed and scolded the child angrily. It's disgusting.

I was crying in the car, and my dad ordered me to cry until I reached my destination, which was very far away

Actually, there's nothing to hold grudges about, and when I was an adolescent, I always complained about all kinds of things, and when I grew up, I realized the situation of my parents at that time, and when I became a mother, I realized that they were all for me.

What did you do as a child? Mom saw the beating. I grew up in the countryside, and I did a lot of things because I was naughty.

When I was a child, I couldn't remember how many times I was beaten by my parents, and the children in the village were used to running all over the mountains and being naughty. What our parents don't let us do, we do. So we are often beaten by our parents, but after being beaten, we will still do these forbidden things in the future, and after being caught by our parents, we will still do mixed doubles.

When we were beaten, we would never forget, we would promise our parents not to be naughty anymore and not dare to do it in the future, but once a friend came to us, we continued to do those naughty things. I have long forgotten the advice of my parents.

First swim. This is what parents prohibit children from doing, rural children swimming, most of them will go to other people's ponds to swim, the ponds are very deep, and there are no adults, so every summer there will be some children who drown because of secretly going to swim, every parent will prohibit their children from swimming in those ponds, and if they know, they will immediately arrest and beat them, but even then I will still go swimming secretly, and I will inevitably be beaten by my mother.

Second, play game consoles. In the past, when we were reading and leaving school, we would go to the game room to play games is the kind of arcade machine that wants to put in coins, every time after school, the game machine room, are all students, want to play games and queue up to play game machines, it was nothing but my mother will beat us after I knew, because the teacher did not let us say that we would be distracted from studying because of playing games, female, and Ziyou, I will often be hit by my parents, but I will still secretly play games, game consoles, which has a natural attraction to children.

Third, stealing other people's fruits. There are a lot of rural areas, their own fruit children often go to steal other people's fruits to eat, generally no one catches no deeds, sometimes to steal fruit is known by others, will be told to parents, at this time parents may be beaten in front of others, we are also a very common thing. When I was a child, most of the time I was beaten by my parents because of these things and because I didn't study hard because of play, and so the last thing our parents wanted us to do was that we secretly went swimming, and they often told us that we should not bully the water, and now I think about it, but when I was a child, I couldn't understand my parents' intentions.

Summary. Hello dear, the child always remembers the things he did when he was a child, and the first thing to remember is that it means that this matter has a great impact on him.

Children always remember what happened when they were young, what should mom do.

Hello dear, the child always remembers the things he did when he was a child, and the first thing to remember is that it means that this matter has a great impact on him.

Hello dear, so I suggest that you can take your child out for a walk, that is, to travel, take him out to play more.

Then during this period, I chatted with him, and talked about that matter after a bad omen, and then Dan Rent said what the reason was at that time, why did this kind of thing happen, and then explained to him the reason for the shirt in a tactful tone, and then apologized.

If he still holds a grudge, then the child will naturally be relieved when he grows up and becomes sensible.

The child is already twenty years old, and now he doesn't let his mother see him.

Hello dear, can you take the liberty of asking what is the matter?

When I was a child, my family was poor, and there were basically few wealthy families at that time, there was no TV, computer and mobile phone to play, so we all wanted to play, boys, the favorite is light, just like today's children's toys are glowing with ringing. So what we love the most is to play with fire.

There is a pigsty at home, a long time ago it was a pig, and then when I stopped raising pigs, my father put a lot of straw in the Lingju ruler, and at that time the family had a stove, and this straw was used for cooking. My aunt's child came to my house to play, and the two brothers didn't know what to think, and then the two of them played, and they made it big without paying attention, and almost burned the pigsty, but fortunately the neighbors saw it and hurriedly came over to answer the dates to help extinguish it.

At that time, I knew that my father was going to be beaten when he came back in the evening, and I was worried about my father getting off work, and when I passed by the neighbor's door, maybe the neighbor had already told him, and my father was expected to go to the pigsty to see it, and as soon as he entered the door, I felt that the air had solidified, and a hot but cold eye stared at me, and I could feel it with my back to it.

When my father walked to the side, he slapped him, and the little stars in the sky hovered overhead, followed by a kick, and I stumbled and fell to the ground, without a word, all the feet high were so tacit, I knew why he hit me, and he also knew why I knew why he hit me.

It was a very quiet night, except for the occasional insect chirp, the sound of skin touching, and of course the loudest sound was my wail.

Let's be honest, my dad never used other tools to beat me, they were all hands and feet, and they were all more hands, so don't look at me screaming so loudly and crying so badly, in fact, it really doesn't hurt that much, but if you don't scream or cry, it's expected to be more serious, so you can only pretend to be pitiful, and praise yourself for your cleverness.

One is to beat and scold children, insult children, and hurt children's self-esteem; The second is not to believe in the child, doubt their own children, parents are the closest people to the child, and parents suspect that the child will make the child have a sense of betrayal.

For myself, the biggest thing I hate until now is that my father has always been a blow to me without encouragement, and every time I encourage myself when I grow up, I still have an inferiority complex in my subconscious. Families like multiple siblings will have favoritism, and the child who doesn't get more love will also hold a grudge against his parents for the rest of his life.

Always busy and nowhere to be seen, unable to be with the child.

Always send the child with money and don't understand the child.

I never did what I promised, and I always broke my trust with my children.