How did your mom and dad interfere with your decisions?

They objected to me being with my boyfriend at the time, so they called the man's parents and told them to stop our contact, which led to the boy's change of school.

When I chose a major in college, my parents always wanted me to choose what they thought was a promising major and interfered with my decision, but in the end, I didn't listen to them and chose the major I wanted to choose.

I've been urged to get married, and when I go home for the New Year, I let someone else introduce the object, I'm not an older leftover girl, I told my parents about my fate, I know that my parents are worried about me, for my good, but I really don't like blind dates, or forced, and I'm afraid that my parents will be sad if I don't go.

When I chose liberal arts and sciences in high school, my parents wanted me to study science, but I still chose liberal arts according to my heart.

In the vast majority of young people in modern times, parents can interfere with their children's situation, generally marriage and work problems, I have also encountered, my lover and I were opposed by my parents, but with our unremitting efforts and my lover's outstanding performance, our marriage was successful, and our parents also gave us beautiful sincerity, we are very happy.

I have wanted to be a doctor since junior high school, and I am very serious about biology in high school, and I want to fill in clinical medicine after the college entrance examination scores, but my mother strongly disagrees. The reason is that being a doctor is too tiring, and this kind of working environment with patients every day is too bad. She wanted me to study finance, which is very popular at the moment.

I am very puzzled, it is my own decision to study medicine, and I know what the consequences are, and I can take responsibility for my own decision.

I was not allowed to go to high school, I was too young to be unhappy in my heart but I didn't have the ability to fight, and my thoughts were not firm. Later, I made my own decisions, and I was blocked from reading in the follow-up, taking the point of view that what a woman is to get married early and have children, I have interfered in love, I have interfered in work, I have interfered with having children, and I want to get me to their side through the surrounding relatives, so she can control me to marry a boy they fancie. Anyway, all kinds of interventions failed, because the most important thing in my life has been ruined, how can they interfere again.

A good girl from childhood to adulthood, what high school she went to, what clothes she bought. Almost all of them were run by their parents, until the end of the college entrance examination and the conflict broke out.

My parents have respected their own ideas since I was a child, and I basically made my own decisions about everything, and I didn't want to go to school when I was in junior high school and high school, but my parents still insisted that I go to school, and now I am very grateful to them.

When I was in high school, I wanted to choose liberal arts, but my parents insisted on letting me choose science, but after a few years of knowledge, I found out that ginger was still old and spicy.

I'm a fast man, my parents always want to help me decide a lot of things, and I've been like this since I was a kid and really desperate! I have resisted for many years, from choosing a major in college to choosing a major for graduate school, choosing a job, looking for a partner, as small as whether I have shaved or cut my hair, I have to express my opinions on everything, even the content I posted in the circle of friends has to be managed, this is good and that is not good, more positive and less cathartic negative emotions.

My father, from what school I went to university, what major I studied, to the recent junior year when I considered going abroad, it was all his vote, to the recent want to go to graduate school, he did not object, but he did not agree with the school I chose, let me choose the school he thought was good, every time he tried to communicate, he said that his decision was based on his social experience and his considerations, but none of them really considered my ideas.

Many times if they don't approve of it, they will persuade me again and again that I must achieve my goal and make me accept what they think is the best way, and ignore my rebuttals, and if I say a word, they will refute me with a hundred sentences. Often on this end of the **, I can't listen and get dizzy.

Now that my junior year is over, I'm in love, my parents haven't even met my boyfriend, and we had a quarrel the day after I knew I was in a relationship, because they weren't satisfied with my boyfriend's place of residence. I think I have a lot to argue about in the future. I'm not going to compromise this time.

Many people have had this experience, growing up, my parents always liked to interfere with my decisions and not let us make our own choices. In the eyes of parents, children are children, and any decision they make is not counted, and as parents, they always think that the decision they make is the right one, and it is a variety of experiences that they have summed up after decades of life. In layman's terms, all the decisions we make are "for your good".

But as an adult, I don't think it's the right thing to do to interfere with my children's decisions.

1. Understand the intention of interference and convince people that the only intention of many parents to interfere with their children's decisions is to use the experience of those who have come before them to make their children take fewer detours. Everyone's life is not smooth sailing, and this is also everyone's biggest insight when they become adults and even after marriage. But people are born to go through all kinds of ups and downs, and experience all kinds of ups and downs.

I understand my parents' intentions, but no one's life will be made better by other people's decisions, and many things can only be experienced by oneself.

2. Use practical actions to convince parents that the reason why parents always interfere in their children's decisions is closely related to the children themselves in addition to the parents' own factors. As a child, you should always think about whether it is really just the control desire of parents to interfere in their decisions. Or there is another possibility, that is, in the eyes of your parents, you are indeed like a child who does not grow up, your speech and behavior, and your behavior reveal a childishness, and your immature you do make your parents worry, causing your parents to urgently want to change your status quo, afraid that you will enter the quagmire.

Therefore, if you want to change the status quo, in addition to chatting calmly with your parents, it is more important to use practical actions to convince your parents that we can do it ourselves!

3. Parents are not necessarily wrong, they must have their own subjective judgmentMany children feel that it is very annoying for their parents to interfere with their own decisions, and blindly refuse. As everyone knows, some decisions can indeed avoid detours. Therefore, as a child, you also need to have your own ability to judge right and wrong, and only if you are strong enough can you control your own life.

Maybe it's because your parents don't think you're assertive. So I think you should make your position clear to your parents. And hold your parents, you can handle what you want to deal with.

Find an opportunity to sit down and talk to your parents and tell them that you have grown up and that you don't need them to make decisions for you.

You can explain to your parents that now that you are an independent individual, there are some things that you should plan for yourself, and you should be in charge of your own destiny.

It's okay not to tell your parents so they don't know what they're going to do.